Chilimwechi ndakhala ndi chisangalalo chochita nawo 27Msonkhano wapadziko lonse wa International Focusing Conference wa 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), yolembedwa ndi British Focusing Association, ndi kutsegulidwa kwa mamembala a International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute) a dziko lonse lapansi, chondichitikira chomwe chandizindikiritsa pazifukwa zingapo.

Masomphenya apadziko lonse osonkhanitsira zithunzi za Focusing International Conference 2016. Kawirikawiri, amasonkhanitsa mbali zosewerera kwambiri, koma amawululanso mphindi zakuya. Ndipo chithunzi chokongola chikuwoneka kuti Blanca Ruiz wandijambula, ku Spain, ndi zomwe ndatengera mbiri yanga (¡chisomo, Blanca!).

Kupereka ziwerengero zina: takhala ochuluka kuposa 250 otenga nawo gawo 30 mayiko ku Robinson College, pafupifupi odzipereka kwathunthu ku Msonkhano. Kupatula pamisonkhano yonse, kumene kunali anthu ambiri, pa nthawi ya msonkhano tidagawana (aliyense malinga ndi kusankha kwake) muzochitika zoposa khumi ndi zisanu panthawi imodzi. Ndipo zonse zimayendetsedwa ndi gulu lodzipereka la bungwe (kuchokera British Focusing Association,) chani, Ndisanayambe kuthetsa mavuto anga, poyamba anandimvera, ndi chidwi chokhazikika.

Chifukwa chake chokumana nacho choyamba chakhala kupeza anthu ndikupanga gulu., m'malo Olunjika kwambiri. Ndakumana ndi anthu omwe adatenga nawo gawo koyamba pamwambo wapadziko lonse lapansi ngati uwu, monga ine. Ndapanganso nkhope, kamvekedwe ka mawu, ubale… kwa anthu omwe ndimawadziwa ndi maumboni (mabuku awo, zinthu zanu, masamba anu, mauthenga anu pa Focusing lists, malangizo omwe ndalandira…). Y, ndinadabwa, Ndazindikiridwanso ndi psychotherapist waku Japan Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kuti anawerenga ndi chidwi kwambiri nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication”, Kupeza bwanji! [Ndipo potsiriza apa likumasuliridwa mu Chijapani ndi mutu wosonyeza The mphambano ya moganizira ndi kulankhulana si achiwawa, Zikomo kwambiri, Madoka!].

Komabe, Chomwe chandichititsa chidwi kwambiri chakhala chaubwenzi komanso kusasunthika kwa mankhwalawa, zonse muzochitika zamagulu komanso muzochita zambiri payekha, pa chakudya, m'nthawi yopuma, mu ntchito zina. Ndipo kumverera kopitiliza kupeza anthu atsopano komanso osangalatsa nthawi zonse ndikayamba kumva kuti “tinali titawonana padziko lonse lapansi”. Pamlingo wozama, Tsopano kuti masabata angapo adutsa, Chochitika choyamba chomwe ndikufuna kusunga ndicho malingaliro a anthu ammudzi mkati mwa kusiyana (ndipo panali zosiyana zambiri, Ndikutsimikizira!). Ndiko kumva kuti tikugwira ntchito, kufufuza, kuzunzika ndi kusangalala wina ndi mzake kukulitsa kumvetsetsa kwathu kwa Focusing, ndi momwe mungagawire ndi anthu ena.

chochitika chachiwiri, zogwirizana ndi zakale, wakhala dziwani malumikizano opanga ndi anthu ambiri. Zokonda zathu wamba. Kuti mumvetsetse Kuyang'ana mofanana kapena, m'malo mwake, kuti mumvetse m’njira zosiyanasiyana kuti n’zothandizana. Kwa madera athu zochita. Mwa kugwirizana kosavuta kwaumwini. Tsopano ndi nthawi yoti muchite mawu otchuka a Aristotle, “chilakolako chaubwenzi chimadza msanga, koma ubwenzi umatenga nthawi”. Ndi anthu ena ndimalumikizana nawo kale, Ndili ndi ena pamndandanda wanga wautali wa omwe ndikuyembekezera, koma cholinga chopitiliza kukulitsa njira zatsopano za Kuyikirapo chilipo. Zikhala ngati maubwenzi omwe ndili nawo kale mdera la Focusing ku Spain, koma padziko lonse lapansi.

Chachitatu chachitika kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu. Kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu komwe kumachitika mkati ndi kunja. zotheka ntchito, migwirizano kufufuza, mndandanda watsopano wowerenga, masewera olimbitsa thupi, madera kuti mupeze… Pakadali pano, zinthu zikubwereketsa kusuntha, ndipo ndikuyenda nawo. Ndilankhula za izi ndi zina muma post ena..

Ndi kudzipereka kuti ndikuuzeni zambiri muzolemba zamtsogolo ndikusiyani, ndi malingaliro oti mupite kutsamba lovomerezeka la Msonkhanowo pamene ikugwira ntchito, chifukwa lili ndi zinthu zambiri zoti mufufuze (m'Chingerezi).

Xavier

zosintha (zolemba pambuyo pake zokhudzana ndi izi):

Mkati mwa kuyitana kuchitapo kanthu:

• Kusankhidwa kwanga kukhala membala wa Komiti ya International Institute of Focusing.
• Ndipo kusankhidwa kwanga kukhala membala wa International Relations ku Spain Institute of Focusing.

Zochitika zina:

• zikwapu burashi (2) wa International Focusing Conference: gulu lachidwi la Community Wellness Focusing.
• Gulu Lachidwi la Community Wellness Focusing Group ku Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (UK) 2016.

Mogwirizana ndi kupitiriza kukondwerera kusindikizidwa chaka chapitacho nkhani za Peppa Oven, mnzanga wabwino ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito pazamaphunziro okhudza ubwana), cholembera ichi chikukwaniritsa yapitayo, kutanthauza buku lake Chilankhulo cha mitengo. nkhani iyi, Wamatsenga wamalingaliro, yasindikizidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi mafanizo a Margarita Sada.

Pepa mwiniwake akufotokoza cholinga chake cha bukuli ndi mawu otsatirawa:

Wamatsenga wamalingaliro kulankhula za caresses, ndi momwe kusisita ndi kusisita kumagwirira ntchito pakudziletsa, kuti anyamata ndi atsikana aja omwe akulu amati asakhale chete, Iwo sangakhoze kuyika malingaliro awo mu dongosolo, kapena kuwakhazika mtima pansi kapena kuyang'ana kwambiri ... Kuti anyamata ndi atsikanawa akhale ndi "zamatsenga" kuti athe kukhazikitsa dongosolo mkati mwawo.. M'malingaliro omwe pansi pamtima palibe koma chipatso cha chidwi chake chodabwitsa.

Apa ndikuwonjezera kuti ndi nkhani yomwe ingasinthidwe bwino kuti iphunzitse Kuganizira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana pazifukwa izi:

• Amapereka malingaliro abwino ndi olandirira malingaliro, zomverera, kumverera, maganizo ndi zokumana nazo zomwe ana amakhala nazo (komanso kuti tili ndi akuluakulu): zomwe zili mkati mwathu zimakhala zomveka ngati tipereka njira yokwanira yomvera.
• Anyamata ndi atsikana amatha kuchita zinthu zowona kuti asamalire zomwe akumana nazo mkati, kotero kuti akhazikike mtima pansi (ndi, ngakhale sichinafotokozedwe m’nkhaniyi, komanso kufalitsa), ndipo ife amene tili nawo pafupi titha kuwatsagana nawo.
• Zochitika zamkati zimatsagana ndi zochitika zina zolimbitsa thupi. M'nkhaniyi, Pepa akupereka caresses kumadera omwe akukhudzidwa (mutu wa protagonist, pamenepa), koma fotokozani patsamba lomaliza, “Mawu kwa moyo wa akuluakulu”, kuti pakhoza kukhala njira zina zambiri, malinga ngati thupi likukhudzidwa.

Chifukwa chake ndikupangira bukuli ngati njira yowonetsera Kuyikira Kwambiri m'njira yabwino kwa ana..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzazikonda monga momwe ndimachitira,

Xavier

Mary Hendricks-Gendlin, chithunzi cha The Focusing Institute.

Pomaliza 28 March 2015 Marion anamwalira (odziwika bwino ngati “Mary”) N. Hendricks-Gendlin, kufotokoza kofunikira kwa Kuganizira. Ine ndiri m’gulu la anthuwo, popanda kukumana naye mwachindunji, timalandira cholowa cha ntchito yake ndi mzimu wake.

Mary Hendricks-Gendlin fue, pakati pa mbali zina za moyo wake, katswiri wa zamaganizo, Psychotherapist wokhala ndi Kuyikira Kwambiri, membala woyambitsa wa The Focusing Institute (New York Focusing Institute) ndi wotsogolera yemweyo kwa zaka zambiri. Adakhalanso mnzake wa Gene Gendlin, amene anaumba Njira Yolunjika ndi yemwe akadali ndi moyo, ndi amake Elissa, mwana wamkazi anali naye limodzi.

Kwa ine kutchulidwa kwa Mary Hendricks-Gendlin kumabwera makamaka kudzera Isabel Gascon, Spanish Focusing Coordinator ndi mphunzitsi wanga (pambuyo pochita certification, Ndimaphunzirabe kuchokera kwa iye nthawi iliyonse yomwe timalumikizana nayo, payekha kapena akatswiri). Isabel Gascon, chifukwa cha ntchito yake yayitali mu Focusing komanso kuyimira kwake ku Spain Institute of Focusing for international issues (makamaka ngati wachiwiri kwa pulezidenti), adalumikizana kwambiri ndi Mary, ngakhale m’zaka zaposachedwapa, pamene Gene ndi Mary asiya adilesi ya The Focusing Institute (New York Focusing Institute). Ndendende, patatsala sabata kuti Mariya amwalire, mu Masiku a National Focusing Day 2015 mu Miraflores de A La Sierra, Loweruka 21, Isabel Gascón anali kuyankhapo kwa angapo omwe adatenga nawo gawo pazomwe adakumana nazo pa Mary ndi Gene, ndi chikondi ndi kukoma mtima kwakukulu, ndipo chifukwa cha kusilira zonse adazichita, kuthandizana wina ndi mzake. Ndikupangira kuwerenga msonkho wochokera pansi pamtima kwa Isabel Gascón patsamba lake.

Cholowa chomwe timalandira kuchokera kwa ife omwe sitinachidziwe mwachindunji chili ndi mitundu yambiri.:

• Ndipo Focusing Institute cholimba, kuti Mary ndi Gene adatsogolera kukusintha kupita ku bungwe latsopano losinthidwa ku zenizeni zapadziko lonse lapansi komanso zamitundu yambiri za Focusing..
• Kufalikira kwapadziko lonse kwa Focusing, zomwe zakhala zofunikira kwa iye panthawi yomwe anali director. Ndaona kuti nkhani yanu ndi yofunika. “Felt Sense Literacy” (Ikupezekanso mu Spanish ngati “anamva nzeru kuwerenga”), masomphenya osuntha a Kukhazikika ngati mphamvu yosinthira anthu.
• Thandizo pakupanga zinthu zofunika ngati magulu “Zosintha” (“Zosintha”), Kuyang'ana magulu osinthanitsa pakati pa akatswiri.
• Kafukufuku wake m'magawo osiyanasiyana apano a Focusing, monga Focusing Oriented Psychotherapy ndi “Kuganiza Pamphepete -TAE” (“Kuganiza kuchokera Kumphepete – PDB”).
• Lingaliro lake la “Kusintha Imani”, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kudzipatsa nthawi tisanayambe kuchita, asanayankhe, kuyima ndikuwona momwe thupi lathu limakhalira pazochitika zilizonse. Mwanjira imeneyi tingathe kukwaniritsa zisankho zenizeni. Mutha kuwerenga nkhani yake yodabwitsa “Kuyang'ana Monga Mphamvu Yamtendere: The Revolution Pause” (m'Chingerezi chokha pakadali pano), momwe mizere yoyamba ikukhudza chifukwa cha kuphweka ndi kuya kwake, ndi kumene malemba ena onse amachokera ku mfundo zosiyana “Kusintha Imani”.

Kuchokera apa ndikupita kwa Mary Hendricks-Gendlin ndi msonkho wanga ku moyo wake ndi ntchito yake, zomwe zakhudzanso moyo wanga. Ndipo chikondi changa ndi chisamaliro changa kwa Gene Gendlin ndi kwa anthu onse omwe amakonda Mary, ndi kuti ataya osati katswiri wofunikira, komanso kwa mphunzitsi, bwenzi ndi bwenzi lapamtima, Monga ndemanga za tsamba la msonkho wa The Focusing Institute.

ndi ulemu ndi chisamaliro,

Xavier

Wolemba bwino waku Britain, White Jasper, aganiza ali ndi zaka makumi anayi kuti asalembenso mabuku. Mudzatani ndi chosowa chanu kuti mupitirize kulemba “chinachake”? Pakufunikabe kutchula dzina, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu kuti apereke mawonekedwe kuzinthu zomwe ziyenera kufotokozedwa. Choncho anaganiza zokhala “wolemba”. Adzapanga zithunzi za anthu amoyo. Ndipo iye sapanga kulongosola kulikonse. Kodi mungagwire bwanji chikhalidwe cha munthu m'mawu?

Umu ndi momwe buku labwino kwambiri limayambira Mr White wa wolemba mabuku wotchuka wa ku Italy Alessandro Baricco (1958). Kupatula pa zolemba zake zosatsutsika, omwe ali ndi chidwi Kuganizira Bukuli limatipatsa masomphenya atsopano ophiphiritsira zochitikazo, nuclear for Focusing process. Mr White, wolemba wamkulu, zopezeka patsamba loyamba mwamwayi pachiwonetsero chazithunzi, ndipo powerenga kalozera wazithunzi amadabwa kudziwa momwe wojambula zithunzi amagwirira ntchito. A Gwyn apeza china chapadera:

Jasper Gwyn adaganiza kuti zidatenga nthawi yayitali., kuthamangitsidwa kwina, komanso kutha kwa zotsutsa zambiri. Sanaganize za ukadaulo uliwonse komanso luso la wojambulayo silinawoneke kukhala lofunikira kwa iye, zinangobwera m’maganizo mwake kuti zimene anachita moleza mtima zinali ndi cholinga, ndipo pamapeto pake zomwe adakwanitsa kuzipeza zinali kubwerera kunyumba kwa munthu amene ali ndi ndevu. Iye ankaona kuti ndi kachitidwe kabwino kwambiri.. (Tsamba 36)

Ndipo kuyambira pamenepo akuyamba ulendo womwe amakonzekera malo osamalira mbali zonse zamalingaliro ndikupanga mlengalenga momwe angatengere zithunzi.. Kujambula umunthu wa munthu m'njira yoteroyo, como akuti Baricco, kumutengera munthuyo kunyumba. Ndizosapeŵeka kuganiza za ndondomeko ya Focusing, ndi momwe kudzera mwa kulandiridwa ndi kukhalapo kwaubwenzi kumathandizira kuwonetsera zochitikazo, kuti ndondomeko imapitirizidwa patsogolo (pafupi ndi kwathu, monga Baricco anganene). Ndipo ponena za njira yophiphiritsira, imapereka kutsegulira kodabwitsa (kuti sindidzaulula apa, chifukwa izi ndi za chitukuko cha buku lenilenilo).

Kwa zonsezi, ndizofunikira kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi ndondomeko ya Focusing.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti zidzakuthandizani kudzifunsa mafunso ambiri atsopano. Ndipo ngati mukudziwa mabuku ena (kapena mafilimu) zomwe zimatilimbikitsa ku Focusing, Nonviolent Communication kapena psychotherapy, ndiuzeni za iwo ndipo ndipanga matikiti anu.

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kosangalatsa,

Xavier

Zambiri zamabuku: Baricco, Alessandro (2011): Mr White. Milan: Giangiacomo Feltrinelli Editore. Kumasulira m'Chisipanishi ndi Xavier González Rovira (2012): Mr White. Barcelona: Anagram. Pitani ku tsamba la Anagram yosindikiza nyumba, komwe mungawerenge masamba oyamba a bukuli.

Chimodzi mwazofunikira kwa iwo omwe amadziwa kale Kuganizira ndipo kufuna kupitirizabe kupita patsogolo m'machitidwe awo ndi Practical Manual Kuganizira Gendlin, lofalitsidwa ndi Mkonzi Desclée mu 2007. Carlos Alemany, Woyambitsa wa Focusing ku Spain, adathandizira kusindikiza kwa bukhuli ngati mgwirizano wa akatswiri khumi ndi asanu ndi limodzi olankhula Chisipanishi aku Focusing polemekeza Eugene Gendlin., mlengi wa kulunjika, kwa zaka zake makumi asanu ndi atatu.

Bukhuli ndi ulendo wamakono wa machitidwe ndi kuphunzitsa kwa Kuyikirako kugawidwa m'magawo atatu. Gawo “Ine. Zolemba: Maziko omvetsetsa mtundu wa Gendlin” ikupereka mbiri yakale ya njira yopangira Focusing, poyerekeza ndi zitsanzo zina za khothi laumunthu, zosangalatsa kwambiri kumvetsetsa mfundozo m'njira yobisika komanso yolondola.

Gawo “II. Maphunziro othandiza ndi ntchito” imapereka zitsanzo zambiri za momwe Focusing imagwiritsidwira ntchito muzochitika zosiyanasiyana (ndi zabwino, ndi maloto, ndi duels, ndi nkhawa, ndi nyimbo, ndi kuyenda…), zomwe zimathandizira kukulitsa malingaliro pakukula kwakukulu ndi kuthekera kopanga komanso kwatsopano muzochita za Focusing.

Pomaliza, gawo “III: Zowonjezera” amasonkhanitsa kufananitsa maupangiri oyambira, mabuku ndi malo ofotokozera padziko lonse lapansi.

Ndikupangira bukuli kwa anthu omwe akudziwa kale kanthu za Focusing (Mwachitsanzo, omwe adawerenga buku la Gendlin Kuganizira. Thupi Loyang'ana Njira ndi Njira kapena omwe amaliza Level II kapena Level III mkati mwa maphunziro ovomerezedwa ndi Spanish Institute of Focusing), chifukwa imalola kusanthula malingaliro m'njira yosangalatsa ndikupeza zatsopano zogwiritsa ntchito m'njira yopatsa chidwi, zomwe zimawathandiza kupanga mapulogalamu awo. Kapangidwe kake m'mitu yodziyimira pawokha kumapangitsa kuti anthu adumphe, malinga ndi zokonda ndi zoika patsogolo, m'njira yopepuka komanso yoyenda.

Mutha kuwerenga zomwe zili mkati ndi mawu oyamba mu Webusaiti ya bukuli pa Desclée Publisher (palinso kope Pano).

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kopindulitsa,

Xavier

Komanso The Focusing Institute (New York Focusing Institute) ali ndi udindo waukulu wa certification zapadziko lonse lapansi, ndi Spanish Focusing Institute, amadziwikanso kuti Spanish Association of Focusing Carlos Alemany, imagwirizanitsa ndi kuyang'anira ntchito zophunzitsira mu Kuyikira Kwambiri ku Spain ndi kulimbikitsa kufalikira kwake.

The tsamba la Spanish Institute of Focusing, posachedwapa, ili ndi zofunikira zingapo zoti muphunzire za Focusing wamba komanso kufalitsa kwake ku Spain:

• Kufotokozera zomwe Focusing ndizovuta, popeza ndi njira yodziwiratu, Izi zimamveka bwino mukakhala moyo. Komabe, mu gawo “Kuyang'ana es” matanthauzo ena osangalatsa ndi malangizo amaperekedwa.
• Kuti mumvetse bwino Kukhazikika, mu gawo “Zida” mafotokozedwe a mabuku amaperekedwa, mavidiyo ndi zomvetsera, zipangizo zonse mu Spanish.
• Kwa iwo omwe akufuna kudziwa momwe angaphunzitsire ku Focusing ku Spain, mu gawo la “Maphunziro” zitha kupezeka kuchokera ku pulogalamu yathunthu yophunzitsidwa ndi Spanish Institute of Focusing (ndi kuzindikiridwa ndi Focusing Institute of New York) ku maphunziro ndi misonkhano yokonzedwa motengera malo ndi mitu yawo, kusinthidwa mosalekeza.
• Mu “Zambiri zaife” kapangidwe ka Spanish Institute of Focusing amasonkhanitsidwa, pa nthawi yomweyo kuti mukhoza kufufuza amene ali mbali yake (kwa omwe akufuna kundipeza, am patsamba lino monga mphunzitsi wovomerezeka).
• Pomaliza, ndi “Nkhani” perekani zambiri pazochitika zomwe zingawononge dziko, makamaka mapangidwe apadera ndi nkhani za zofalitsa ndi zochitika.

Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti musakatule ndikupeza zinthu zosiyanasiyana zoperekedwa patsambali.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuwona kuti ndizothandiza komanso zothandiza monga momwe zinalili kwa ine..

Xavier

Chida chofunikira kuti muphunzire za Focusing ndi Webusaiti ya New York Focusing Institute, The Focusing Institute. Institute ndi bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa kufalitsa kwa Focusing ndi ziphaso zapadziko lonse za akatswiri a Focusing.. Ndi cholinga ichi, tsamba la webusayiti lili ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri.

Ili ndi gawo mkati español, kumene malemba oyambilira angapo okhudza Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi zina zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito zimawonekera, kuphatikizapo nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication: Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

tsamba lalikulu, zomwe ziri mu Chingerezi, ili ndi magawo osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo:

• Momwe mungaphunzire Kukhazikika (Phunzirani Kuyikira Kwambiri).
• Zomwe zikuchitika mdera la Focusing (Felt Community), ndi kalata (Kakalata) zomwe zimawonekera kangapo pachaka ndi The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yovomerezeka yamaphunziro.
• Kugwiritsa ntchito ndi kuphatikiza kwa Kuyang'ana m'malo osiyanasiyana komanso kwa anthu osiyanasiyana (Kuyang'ana ndi…).
• sitolo yapaintaneti (Sitolo Yoyang'ana), kumene mungathe kuwona kugula kuchokera m'mabuku akuluakulu, makanema ndi zomvera, ngakhale kuti malemba ambiri mu Spanish akupezeka bwino pa webusaiti ya Spanish Focusing Institute.

Laibulale ya Eugene Gendlin Online ndiyosangalatsa kwambiri (Gendlin Online Library), komwe mungatsegule mwayi wopeza mtundu woyambirira (mu Chingerezi kapena Chijeremani) m’nkhani zambirimbiri zimene wasindikiza mlembi wamkulu wa Focusing, ndi komwe mungawerengenso zambiri za mbali yanzeru kwambiri ya chida ichi, ndi Philosophy ya Implicit (Philosophy ya Zosamveka).

Ndikukupemphani kuti mufufuze ndikupeza zothandizira patsamba lino, kumupatsa nthawi yoyenera.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zizikhala zolemeretsa ngati zanga.

Xavier

Ndine wokondwa kugawana nawo nkhaniyi The Focusing Institute yasindikizidwa mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yamaphunziro, mu volume yake 25 za 2014. Pepala langa “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ adawonekera pa chiyambi cha 2014 ndipo yangosindikizidwa pa digito ndi mwayi waulere komanso mtundu wa PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi, “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha pa February 9th 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi, “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama”, ndi kuwerenga nkhani ya kumasulira kwake (mu Spanish) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri!

Ndikusiyirani apa mwatsatanetsatane:

ABSTRACT

Onse Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (NVC) zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza chidziwitso ndipo machitidwe awo amkati amapita patsogolo pamene mawu awo ena akuwonekera.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwanu nokha komanso ndi mnzanu. Ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumabweretsa zozama, momwe zinthu zomwe zimaganiziridwa zimakhazikika ndikuzindikirika.

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication ikani kupsinjika pakuwonetsa mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulumikizana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. Nonviolent Communication amayesa kupeza chilengedwe chonse zosowa zomwe zili pachimake cha zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication akhala kuwoloka m'njira zosiyanasiyana (kubwereza kwachidule kwa zodutsa zina zikufufuzidwa mu pepala ili). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa chidziwitso chatsopano cha zosowa, makamaka pofunsa. Ndipo Nonviolent Communication zitha kulimbikitsidwa ndi chidwi chatsopano ku mawu oyamba a munthuyo -osati kungoyesa "kumasulira" chilichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa ndipo mnzake / wothandizira akuwonetsa mbali zonse ziwiri za chidziwitso, munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zotsatira zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka.

Kwa olankhula Chisipanishi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Spanish.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo ndipo ndimakonda kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

Ndi chisangalalo chachikulu ndikugawana nkhaniyi yomwe mwasindikiza The Focusing Institute (New York-based International Focusing Institute) mu volume 25 zogwirizana ndi 2014 wa The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yovomerezeka yamaphunziro. Anawonekera mu pepala Baibulo pa chiyambi cha 2014, nkhani yanga “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ yangosindikizidwa mu Chingerezi mwaulere komanso yotseguka mu PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhani yoyambirira mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha kwa 9 February 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama” ndi kuwona mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Ndipo ndikusiyiraninso chidule choyambirira:

PITILIZANI

Onse kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (CNV) Zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza zidziwitso ndi kuti njira zathu zimapitirizidwa patsogolo pamene mawu athu ena awonetsedwa kwa ife.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwa munthu ndi iyeyo komanso ndi aliyense amene amamutsatira. Ndipo kuwonetserako kumakhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya pamene mbali zobisika zimatseguka kumoyo wawo ndipo zimadziwika bwino..

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication kutsindika kuwonetsera mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulankhulana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. The Nonviolent Communication yesetsani kupeza zosowa chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe chimatsogolera zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication zaphatikizidwa (kuwoloka) m'njira zosiyanasiyana (Ndemanga yachidule ya zosakaniza zina ikufufuzidwa m'nkhaniyi). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa kuzindikira kwatsopano kwa zosowa, makamaka mu Funsani sitepe. Ndipo the Nonviolent Communication zingawonjezeke ndi kukhudzika kwatsopano kwa mawu oyamba a munthuyo—osati kungoyesa “kumasulira” chirichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa komanso pamene womvera ngati mnzake kapena wothandizira amasonyeza mbali zonse za chidziwitso., munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zozama zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) / Nonviolent Communication (CNV), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka/Cross/Gwirizanitsani.

Kwa olankhula Chingerezi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Chingerezi.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwaikonda ndipo ndidzakhala wokondwa kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

kukweza ku 26 September 2014:

Ndakhala ndi mwayi kuti nkhani yanga ya Chisipanishi imapezeka mu Tsamba la Spanish la Focusing Institute of New York (The Focusing Institute). Zikomo kwambiri! Zikomo kwambiri!

kukweza ku 9 February 2017:

Ndikuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha kumasulira kwachi Japan kwa Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri! Aquí está la mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

momwe ndimawerengera positi yabulogu ya Spiral Consulting for Children, amene ine ndiri chiwalo chake, pakati pa zigamulo za chaka chatsopano, kuchokera Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana tapangana kupanga zida zodziwikiratu zopewera komanso zothandizira pakukhudzidwa, chitetezo ndi kulankhulana pakati pa anthu zomwe tikugwiritsa ntchito kale ndi ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ndipo timalimbikitsa mabanja ndi akatswiri. Nthawi zina timalimbikitsa zida zomwe zasindikizidwa pang'ono m'Chisipanishi, kapena amene malemba awo amalozera ndi ovuta kuwapeza. Kenako tidzapereka zidziwitso zomwe tikuyembekeza kuti ziziwonetsa.

Si choncho Kuganizira, ndondomeko ndi njira ya thupi kuganizira, amene ali ndi mabuku ochuluka mu Spanish. Kuyikirapo ndi njira yopangidwa ndi Eugene Gendlin, filosofi wodziwa zambiri komanso psychotherapist waumunthu, kukulitsa mwachidwi luso logwirizana ndi malingaliro athu mwanjira ina. Zimaphatikizapo (kufotokozedwa m'mawu ochepa) pogwiritsira ntchito maumboni a zomverera za thupi kuti zigwire ntchito pamalingaliro ndi dziko lonse lamkati (zikhulupiriro, mauthenga amkati, maganizo obwerezabwereza…). Ndikudziwa kuti kufotokozedwa motere sikunena zambiri, ndi kuti Focusing ndi, kwenikweni, wodziwa zambiri, ndipo ndichifukwa chake zitha kumveka pokumana nazo. Inde ndithu, kamodzi anayesedwa, anthu ambiri amachizindikira kukhala chinthu chachilengedwe, chinachake kuti “zachitika kwa iwo nthawi ina”, ndipo ndi njira ya Focusing timaphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito pamene tikufuna, ndipo kotero kuti sizidalira ife kukhala ndi chidwi chapadera kapena mphamvu.

Monga ndi njira zina zomwe ndikudziwa, Ndinayandikira Focusing mkati 2009 kuganiza za ntchito zomwe zingakhale nazo pochitapo kanthu ndi anyamata ndi atsikana, ndipo komabe ndidakopeka ndi kuthekera komwe zidandithandiza kuzindikira mwa ine monga munthu komanso ngati katswiri.. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa za mzere wa ntchito iyi, Ndakonza njira ziwiri zatsopano, “Kuyikirapo maganizo ndi maphunziro maganizo ana, ndi achinyamata” ndi “Kuyang'ana ndi kupewa nkhanza kwa ana, ndi achinyamata” (onse akuvomerezedwa ndi maphunziro a Focusing, popeza ndimadziwika kuti Mphunzitsi Wotsimikizika (Mphunzitsi Wotsimikizika) mwa The Focusing Institute ndi kwa iye Spanish Focusing Institute).

Chifukwa chake kukulitsa chidwi chanu ndikupangira buku labwino kwambiri lolemba Marta Stapert ndi Erik Verliefde Kuyang'ana ndi ana. Luso lolankhulana ndi ana ndi achinyamata kusukulu komanso kunyumba, lofalitsidwa ndi Mkonzi Desclée m'gulu la Ama, ndi kuyang'aniridwa kwa kope la Chisipanishi la Isabel Gascon ndi Lucia Emma, Ophunzitsa okhazikika komanso anzanga abwino. Yolembedwa ndi Marta Stapert, mwana psychotherapist ndi Focusing coordinator, y Erik Love, mphunzitsi, bukuli ndi chiyambi chachikulu cha Kuganizira akuluakulu, pamene mukupereka ntchito za manja ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa anthu omwe ali ndi ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata pafupi, osati akatswiri okha m'magawo achire ndi maphunziro, komanso kwa mabanja. Makolo amene analiŵerenga aona kuti n’njothandiza kwambiri, ngakhale pali masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mwachiwonekere amapita patsogolo kwambiri m'malo ochizira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda (Mutha yang'anani zina mwazomwe zili patsamba la osindikiza).

Xavier