Chimodzi mwa ntchito zanga monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mnzanga pazochitika zaumwini ndi za bungwe ndizopeza njira zolankhulirana mauthenga ovuta kupyolera mu mafanizo ndi mafananidwe.. M'malo mwake “Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati”, zomwe ndapereka kale mu post ina iyi, tidapereka zovuta zingapo ndi malingaliro owongolera chitetezo cha ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ku Spain (Ndipo mu dziko lonse).

Mwezi uno ndagwirizana ndi nkhaniyi “Timatsagana ndi munthu amene tili”, yomwe imagwiritsa ntchito mafananidwe pakati pa zomwe tikuchita polimbana ndi mliriwu komanso zomwe tikuyenera kuzisamalira poyenda ndi ana., atsikana ndi achinyamata amene avutika kwambiri. Ndi njira yodziwitsa anthu momwe timakhalira komanso momwe timachitira, zonse payekha komanso mwaukadaulo.

Ndipo inu mudzaziwona izo, mwa nthawi zonse, Ndikuumirira kufunika kwa maphunziro mu zoopsa ndi kukumbukira mtengo wa Kuganizira, Ndimaona kuti ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri tsiku ndi tsiku..

Ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mukuganiza komanso momwe mumakhalira.

F. Javier Romeo

Chilimwechi ndidafunikira kudulira, ndipo ndachipeza. pamlingo wamalingaliro, komanso pakompyuta. Ndipo zakhala makamaka chifukwa cha kuwerenga Digital Minimalism, wa Cal Newport, wolemba yemwe malingaliro ake ndimasilira, Ndimayesetsa kuchita ndipo ndimalimbikitsa.

kudzera mu bukhu ili, yomwe ili ndi mawu ofotokozera “Poteteza chisamaliro m'dziko laphokoso”, Ndapanga mtundu wa ubale womwe ndikufuna kukhala nawo ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti: zigwiritseni ntchito mozindikira, kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wolumikizana ndikulumikizana ndi anthu ena komanso mabungwe osangalatsa, koma osataya nthawi yanga, za chisamaliro changa kapena moyo wanga wamalingaliro. Zalembedwa mu prose zomwe zimaphatikiza kuwunikira kofufuza mozama ndi nkhani zosangalatsa zomwe zimapanga mfundo zazikuluzikulu..

Ndipo chabwino kwambiri ndichakuti sikungochoka pamasamba onse ochezera, koma kuchepetsa kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwake pamlingo wokwanira ku ubongo wathu. Bukuli limayamba ndi malingaliro 30 masiku opanda malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndiyeno pang'onopang'ono kuwafotokozera, m’njira yogwirizana ndi zokonda zathu. Ndakhala mwezi wa August osatsegula akaunti yanga Twitter ndi cha LinkedIn ndi, Ngakhale zinali zovuta poyamba, Ndafika ndikusinthidwa mpaka Seputembala. Tsopano ndimatsegula kawiri kapena katatu pamlungu, ndi cholinga, kuwona mitu yomwe imandisangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ndapeza kale njira zingapo zosangalatsa popanda kuvutitsidwa ndi mauthenga amphamvu a “mitu yomwe ikuyenda”.

Ndipo chabwino ndikuti Cal Newport sakhalamo “kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito mosayenera malo ochezera a pa Intaneti”, koma imapititsanso patsogolo malangizo anayi kuti tigwiritse ntchito mwayi wanthawi yomasulidwa kwa ife:

• Tengani mwayi wokhala nokha, pa nthawi yolumikizana mkati.
• kusiya “amakonda” ngati mawonekedwe a ubale ndikusintha ndi zokambirana zachindunji (mwa munthu, pa foni kapena pavidiyo), muzochita zenizeni zomwe zimasinthidwa malinga ndi momwe timamvera.
• Khalani ndi nthawi yopuma yathanzi, zomwe zimatipatsa mphamvu m'malo mozichotsa.
• Kupereka chisamaliro chanzeru ku chidwi chathu, amene ali ndi malire. M’malo moziwononga pa ntchito zimene sizitibweretsera zambiri, zikhazikike pa zimene zimatipangitsa kukula ndi kusamalirana wina ndi mzake.

Ndiye ngati muwona kuti ndimagwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti mocheperapo, mudzadziwa kuti ndikusamalira chisamaliro changa. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kuti tikambirane zinazake, Bwino pa foni kapena pamaso panu kusiyana ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, mukuwoneka kuti?

Kuyamba bwino kwa chaka chasukulu,

F. Javier Romeo

[Dinani apa kuti muwerenge izi mu Chingerezi.]

Chikalata kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo, chani Peppa Oven, Mnzanga mu Spiral Consulting for Children, ndipo ndalembera UNICEF ku Spain ndi UNICEF France, zangosindikizidwa kumene, ndipo likupezeka m'mitundu iwiri:

• Tsitsani Chingelezi choyambirira cha Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo.
• Koperani zomasulira za Chisipanishi, kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo.

Ili ndi buku laukadaulo lomwe likukhudzana ndi Chitetezo cha Ana, kulowererapo kwa anthu komanso ufulu wa anthu. Pamenepo, tili ndi malingaliro ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri pafupifupi zana mu Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse mu December 2019 ku Madrid, zomwe ndidathandizira kuwongolera (timafotokoza zambiri mu wathu CI Spirals blog positi). Komabe, ilinso chikalata chaumwini kwambiri kwa ine.

Mbali inayi, ana, osaperekezedwa ndi olekanitsidwa atsikana osamukira ndi achinyamata ali ndi malo apadera kwambiri mu mtima mwanga. Ndinagwira ntchito ku Morocco kwa zaka zingapo ndi ana, atsikana am'misewu ndi achinyamata ndipo ndikudziwa zovuta zomwe ali nazo kumeneko, ndi zomwe zimawapangitsa kuyika moyo wawo pachiswe kuti athe kukhala ndi tsogolo labwino. Ndagwiranso ntchito kwa zaka zingapo ku Madrid ndi achinyamata omwe ali pachiwopsezo cha anthu, ndipo ambiri aiwo adali anyamata ndi atsikana osamukira m’mayiko ena opanda zonena za mabanja awo, kotero ndatsagana nawo pamavuto omwe adakumana nawo kuti amange tsogolo labwino ku Spain. Ndipo mpaka lero ndikusangalalabe kulankhula nawo m’Chiarabu cha ku Moroccan, chinenero chimene ndimakonda kwambiri. Ndikhulupilira kuti chikalatachi chithandiza akadaulo komanso anthu onse kuti aziwamvera chisoni anawa., ndi achinyamata, ndi kusamala za ubwino wanu. (Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za ntchito yanga pa mbiri yanga ya LinkedIn).

Tsidya, Panopa ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri., chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo. Monga wolemba wamkulu, Ndagwiritsa ntchito mobwerezabwereza do Kuganizira monga njira yopangira malingaliro ndikupeza zolemba zoyenera. Makiyi a nkhani zoteteza kwambiri ayenera kubwera kuchokera ku chidziwitso chokhazikika m'thupi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zikupereka kumveka komanso kuzama kwa mutu wonsewu., makamaka ngati zigawo zovuta kwambiri zitha kukhala zomveka bwino.

Pomaliza, Sikunali vuto la akatswiri okha, komanso ndondomeko yaumwini. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mumasangalala nazo.

F. Javier Romeo

[Werengani izi mu Spanish].

Chikalata Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo, kuti Peppa Oven, mnzanga ku Spirals Childhood Consultancy, ndipo ine ndalembera UNICEF ku Spain ndi UNICEF France, zasindikizidwa kumene, ndipo likupezeka m'mitundu iwiri:

• Koperani Baibulo loyambirira mu Chingerezi la Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo.
• Koperani zomasulirazo m’Chisipanishi, kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo.

Ili ndi buku laukadaulo lomwe likukhudzana ndi Chitetezo cha Ana, kulowererapo kwa anthu komanso ufulu wa anthu. Pamenepo, tinawerengera ndi malingaliro ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri pafupifupi zana pa Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse mu December 2019 ku Madrid, zomwe ndidathandizira (tikufotokoza zambiri za izo mu tsamba lathu labulogu ku Espirales CI). Komabe, ilinso chikalata chaumwini kwambiri kwa ine.

Mbali inayi, Osawaperekeza Komanso Olekanitsidwa Osamukirako Ana amandikonda kwambiri. Ndinagwira ntchito ku Morocco kwa zaka zingapo ndi ana omwe ali mumsewu ndipo ndikudziwa za zovuta kumeneko, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuyika moyo wawo pachiswe kuti athe kukhala ndi tsogolo labwino. Ndinagwiranso ntchito kwa zaka zingapo ku Madrid ndi achinyamata omwe anali pangozi, ndipo ambiri a iwo anali ana osamukira kwina osatsagana nawo, chotero ndinatsagana ndi mapazi awo m’zovuta zodzipangira tsogolo labwino ku Spain. Ndipo ndimasangalalabe kulankhula nawo m’Chiarabu cha Moroccan, chinenero chimene ndimakonda kwambiri. Ndikukhulupirira kuti chikalatachi chithandiza akatswiri ena komanso anthu onse kuti aziwamvera chisoni anawa, ndi kusamalira ubwino wawo. (Zambiri za ntchito yanga mu LinkedIn Profile yanga).

Mbali inayi, pano ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri, chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo. Monga wolemba wamkulu, Ndagwiritsa ntchito kwambiri Kuganizira ndi ine ndekha ngati njira yopangira malingaliro, ndi kupeza mawu okwanira. Zidziwitso za nkhani zodzitchinjiriza ziyenera kubwera kuchokera ku chidziwitso chodziwika. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zibweretsa kumveka komanso kuzama pamutu wonsewu, ndi zina mwazovuta zake zidapangidwa momveka bwino.

Pomaliza, sikunali vuto la akatswiri okha, komanso ndondomeko yaumwini. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo.

F. Javier Romeo

Chiyambireni mliriwu, mabungwe ambiri a ana ayesetsa kupanga zothandizira. Ku Spirals Consultancy for Children tapanga zida zingapo zosiyanasiyana.

Muzolemba zabuloguzi ndikufuna kugawana makanema omwe ali ogwirizana ndi zomwe ndikugawana pano, pazifukwa zambiri.

1. Amapereka mauthenga omveka bwino komanso otakata mokwanira kuti akambirane ndi ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata za mliri wa COVID-19, kuti adziwe zomwe zikuchitika kwa iwo.
2. Amapanga ntchito yodziwitsa thupi: kuchokera ku chitsanzo cha nzeru zitatu mpaka kukhudzana ndi mpweya, ndi zovuta kapena ndi zomverera zosiyanasiyana. Sizili choncho Kuganizira, koma kuloza ku tcheru kumeneko.
3. Iwo ali mu Spanish, komanso mu French ndi Moroccan Arabic. Ndasangalala kugwiritsa ntchito m’mavidiyowa zinenero ziwirizi zimene zandithandiza kwambiri kuti ndizilankhulana ndili ku Morocco komanso ndi achinyamata osamukira ku Spain..

Ndikusiya makanema pansipa:

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi mkwiyo”.

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi mantha”.

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi kupempha thandizo”.

• Kanema “Nzeru zitatu ndi chisoni”.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti zotsatira za chidwi.

F. Javier Romeo

Masiku angapo apitawo ndinalandira satifiketi monga wodzipereka wa utumiki wafoni wa Official College of Psychology of Madrid. Mu mphindi izi “zatsopano zabwinobwino” Chakhala chikumbutso cha nthawi zovuta za m'ndende, pakati pa Marichi ndi Meyi chaka chino 2020. ndi kuchokera ku bata (kwakanthawi) zenizeni, Ndikuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yabwino yokonza zomwe ndakumana nazo. Ndipo mawu anai amabwera kwa ine kuti afanizire izo: kudzipereka, chipiriro, kudzichepetsa ndi kuzindikira.

Pamene lockdown idayamba funso langa loyambirira linali “Kodi ndingathandizire bwanji??”. Kuchokera ku Espirales Consulting for Children talandira zopempha zambiri zomwe takwanitsa kupezekapo, Koma izi zidzakhala mutu wa positi ina ya blog.. Koma, nthawi yomweyo, panali gawo lina, kuchokera pakudzipereka, Mukufuna kupereka chiyani?. Pakati pa ntchito zambiri ndi zothandizira amene anapereka Official College of Psychology of Madrid, kupezeka pafoni ndi anthu omwe amafunikira kumandikwanira bwino. Kuchokera pamenepo, Ndaona kuti ndi wamtengo wapatali kukhala m’gulu limeneli lomwe lakhala pafupi ndi nzika zake malinga ndi mmene chuma chake chandilolezera.. Izi kwa ine zikugwirizana ndi psychology, kupatula kukhala ntchito yanga, komanso amaganiza a kudzipereka za umoyo wa anthu ndi madera. Tawona kudzipereka kwa anthu ambiri ndi magulu ambiri akatswiri, ndipo ichi chakhala chathu: perekani kumvetsera ndi chithandizo kwa omwe akuchifuna.

Chiyambi cha utumiki wa telefoni chinali chachikulu kwa ine. Mafoni sanali ambiri, koma inde yaitali ndi zovuta. Kuchokera pachisoni pa imfa ya anthu kupita ku zovuta zamaganizo. Ndipo kusirira kwanga pakutha chipiriro wa munthu aliyense amene ndinamutumikira. Ndimakonda kunena “kupirira”, mawu omwe timakonda kwambiri mu psychology. Koma “kupirira” zikutanthauza “kutsutsa” ndi “konzanso”, ndipo pakuyimba foni kumodzi pa munthu aliyense ndidangowona gawo lake “kutsutsa”. Ndikaona mpumulo umene ulipo chifukwa cha ukhondo, ndimakumbukira munthu aliyense amene ndinapitako, ndi kuchuluka kwa masautso anu, ndipo ndikudabwa kuti adzakhala bwanji. Kodi akumva kukhumudwa kuti sizinachitike bwino panthawiyo?? Kodi adzakhala akusangalala ndi kupuma ndi kukhudzana? Chikumbukiro changa chili ndi anthu omwe adakumana ndi zovuta zotere, ndi kuti adzayenera kupeza mphamvu kuti apitirize kukana ndi, Ndikulakalaka, kuti athe kupirira komanso kumanganso.

Zochitika zonsezi zandidzutsa kwambiri kudzichepetsa. Coronavirus nthawi zambiri imakhala kuyitanira ku chikumbumtima, kuti monga anthu timaganizira momwe tikuchitira padziko lapansi ndikuyang'ana njira zowongolera. Za ine, monga katswiri wa zamaganizo, zokumana nazo zonsezi zikulingalira machiritso a kudzichepetsa. Pali mavuto ambiri amene sindingathe kuwasamalira, koma kwa iye amene afika, adafika. Pali anthu omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri m'maganizo mwawo kuti sindikudziwa kutsagana nawo, ndipo ndiyenera kupitiriza maphunziro. Ndipo pali zinthu zambiri zoti ndisinthe moti nthawi zina ndimaona kuti n’zopanda chiyembekezo, koma kudzipereka kwanga ndikupitiriza kukulitsa chiyembekezo.

Y, kamodzinso kena, zomwe zandichitikira zandiyitanira kuzindikira. Poyang'anizana ndi kuzunzika kwaumunthu, m'pofunika kukhala osati akatswiri okha, komanso ngati munthu. kukhudzana ndi anthu, zomwe taphonya kwambiri panthawi yomwe tinali m'ndende, ndi gwero la moyo wabwino (zikachitika muubwenzi wabwino). Chisamaliro chamalingaliro chakhala kuti ndikhalepo, ndi chisoni komanso ndi kusatetezeka kwanga (koma kutenga ulamuliro wa moyo wanga).

Ndipo zokumana nazo zonsezi tsopano zimandibweretsera chiyamikiro, onse ku COP Madrid, makamaka amene atsogolera ntchitoyi, monga iwo amene analimba mtima kuitana ndi kudalira ife amene tinapezeka nawo. Ndikuthokoza anthu onsewa chifukwa cha kulimba mtima kwawo.

Ndipo zofuna zanga zabwino za gawo latsopanoli.

F. Javier Romeo

“anapeza, Community ndi kukula. Awa ndi mawu omwe thupi langa limasankha kuti liwonetsere zochitika zonse za Msonkhano Woyamba Wadziko Lonse Woyang'anira.. Yopangidwa ndi Spanish Institute of Focusing ndikuyendetsedwa ndi gulu la Sevillian la Espacio Vivencial, Msonkhano unachitika kuyambira 12 Al 15 October mumzinda wokongola wa Andalusi wa Seville, kum'mwera kwa Spain”.

Umu ndi momwe nkhani yanga imayambira momwe ndimafotokozera zomwe ndakumana nazo pa Mu-Focus, nyuzipepala ya International Focusing Institute ya November 2017. M'malo omwe ndapatsidwa, ndayesera kuwunikira gulu la International Focusing zomwe tachita nawo Msonkhano Woyamba Wadziko Lonse Woyang'ana, nthawi yomweyo ndimafuna kusinkhasinkha, mu mwambo wa Kuganizira ndi filosofi yachidziwitso, chakhala chondichitikira changa. Kuchokera apa ndikufuna kuthokoza kwanga Spanish Focusing Institute kuyitanitsa chochitika chosangalatsa ichi, Al Gulu la Espacio Vivencial motsogozedwa ndi Francisco Sivianes pakuwongolera ndi kwa wokamba nkhani aliyense ndi wophunzira aliyense amene wakwanitsa, chakhala chokumana nacho chosaiŵalika.

• werengani nkhaniyo “Kutulukira, Community ndi Kukula. Msonkhano woyamba wa Open National Focusing ku Seville” mu Chingelezi choyambirira.
• Werengani nkhani yomwe yamasuliridwa m'Chisipanishi yokhala ndi mutu wake “anapeza, Community ndi kukula: Nditsegula Msonkhano Wadziko Lonse Woyang'ana ku Seville, Spain”.

Kuyambitsa Catherine Torpey, TIFI Executive Director. Chithunzi ndi Francisco Sivianes.

Ndasiya blog iyi zambiri zanga, monga ulemu womwe ndidapeza kuti ndidziwitse Catherine Torpey, omwe adabwera ku Seville kudzawonetsa gawo lonse lapadziko lonse lapansi la International Institute of Focusing (TIFI) monga Wotsogolera wamkulu za zomwezo. Za ine, kuti ndigwirizane naye Komiti Yamamembala kuposa chaka chapitacho, Ndizosangalatsa kuti gulu la Focusing ku Spain (nawonso ophunzira ochokera m'mayiko ena) mutha kumudziwa Catherine ndi zonse zomwe International Institute of Focusing imachita.

Msonkhano wanga “Kuganizira kuti kupewa chiwawa”. Chithunzi ndi Francisco Sivianes.

Unalinso mwayi wotsogolera zokambirana zanga “Kuganizira ndi ntchito experiential ndi chiwawa”, momwe ndinatha kugawana ndi anthu amitundu isanu yosiyana makiyi ena ogwiritsira ntchito zomverera za thupi ndi ndondomeko ya Kuyikirapo kuti tizindikire chiwawa m'njira yokwanira ndikupanga chitetezo m'miyoyo yathu., mtundu woyambira wa msonkhano wanga “Kuganizira, thupi ndi chitetezo: Kuganizira kuti kupewa chiwawa”.

Palinso zambiri zokumbukira, monga za misonkhano iliyonse yomwe ndidapitako, kapena misonkhano yayikulu, kapena anthu omwe ndinakumana nawo (zatsopano kapena zakuya)… Mutha kuwona zambiri zanyengo yanthawi zosiyanasiyana pazithunzi zojambulidwa ndi Francisco Sivianes (Wophunzitsa komanso wotsogolera wa Espacio Vivencial): a Lachinayi 12 October, a Lachisanu 13 October ndi cha Loweruka 14 October wa 2017.

Zomwe ziliponso ndi ulaliki wopangidwa ndi Rosa Galiano wokhala ndi zithunzi zake, ndi Francisco Sivianes ndi anthu ena ndikusindikizidwa mu Njira ya YouTube ya International Institute of Focusing:

Zakhala zolimbikitsa kwambiri ndipo ndikhulupilira zidzakulimbikitsaninso.

F. Javier Romeo

Eugene Gendlin, chithunzi chovomerezeka cha International Institute of Focusing.

Eugene (“Gene”) Gendlin anamwalira dzulo 1 Mulole 2017 pa zaka makumi asanu ndi anayi, ndi ine, monga gulu lonse la Focusing, Ndimakhudzidwa ndi kupita kwake, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha zopereka zanu zonse.

Eugene Gendlin anabadwa pa 25 kuyambira December mpaka 1926 ku Vienna, Austria, ndipo anathawa chizunzo cha Nazi popita ku United States 1939. American naturalized, Anapitiliza kupeza BA mu Philosophy ndi Ph.D. atagwira ntchito kwa zaka zoposa khumi mogwirizana ndi Carl Rogers ku yunivesite ya Chicago.. Chipatso cha maphunziro ake awiri monga filosofi komanso ngati psychotherapist, chopereka chanu ndi chachikulu kwambiri.

Gendlin nthawi zonse ankaumirira kuti palibe “adalengedwa” ndi Kuganizira, njira yodzidziwitsa komanso machiritso amalingaliro ndi malingaliro kudzera muzomverera za thupi, koma chete “anali atalingalirapo masitepe angapo kuti njirayo ipezeke mosavuta”. Pakalipano ndi chida chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito mu psychotherapy komanso m'madera ena ambiri.. Ndipo zonse zomwe adazipeza zimatsagana ndi luntha lolimba laluntha, filosofi ya osadziwika.

Mu 1985 adapanga zomwe tsopano ndi International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute) kupereka kupitiriza kwa mizere yonseyi ya ntchito, zomwe zimabweretsa pamodzi kuposa 2000 akatswiri ndi othandizira ochokera padziko lonse lapansi, ndi komwe wapereka laibulale yake yonse yomwe ingapezeke pa intaneti (ndi Gendlin Online Library).

Ngakhale kuti anali wokalamba, za matenda ndi imfa ya mkazi wake Mary Hendricks-Gendlin zaka ziwiri zapitazo, Gendlin adakhalabe wokangalika mkati mwa kuthekera kwake, kulemba zolemba ndi kutenga nawo mbali pa maphunziro pafoni.

Pankhani yanga, kupatula kuwerenga mabuku ake ndi zolemba zake, Ndakhala ndi chisangalalo ndi ulemu kutenga nawo mbali zingapo “Zokambirana kuchokera m'mphepete ndi Gene [Gendlin] Y Ann [Weiser Cornell]”, opangidwa ndi omaliza (ver maganizo anga kuchokera mu Kukambirana kwa September–October pa 2016). Kwa ine wakhala mwayi wolankhula naye mwachindunji, ndi chikondi chake ndi luntha lake ngakhale zowawa ndi zovuta zake, pozindikira chidwi chake mwa munthu aliyense komanso dziko lapansi, ndi chidwi kwambiri kudziwa momwe cholowa chake chinapitilira. Ndipo ndidachita chidwi ndi kupezeka kwake pomwe adandiperekeza munjira ya Focusing mu imodzi mwazokambirana zomaliza.

International Institute of Focusing yathandiza tsamba lapadera kulemekeza kukumbukira Gene Gendlin (www.EugeneGendlin.com), ndipo kuchokera pano ndikukuitanani kutenga nawo mbali, kuwerenga ndemanga za anthu ena kapena kuwonjezera zochitika zanu. Ndithudi ndikumva chisoni kwambiri ndi imfa imeneyi., ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndimakondwerera kudziwa ntchito ya Gene Gendlin pazaka zambiri ndipo ndatha kulankhula naye nthawi zingapo.. Ndikumva mbali ya cholowa chake, ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuzifotokoza mwachikondi, kuwuziridwa ndi iye.

Mu chikondwerero ndi maliro,

F. Javier Romeo

kukweza ku 14 Ogasiti 2017: Ndalembapo za ziphaso zitatu kwa Gene Gendlin momwe ndakhala ndikuchita nawo, zomwe zimamaliza gawo logawana pagulu la Community.

Lingaliro lakuya la ulemu ndi malingaliro omveka bwino a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amatuluka mwa ine pamene ndikugawana nawo zokambiranazi.. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwaukadaulo ndi nkhani zachiwawa” (“Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”), monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera mu chingerezi. Ndi mutu wofunikira kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito kwambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, upangiri wodziwa za Chitetezo cha Ana omwe ine ndidali woyambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza ma nuances onse kumakhala kovuta nthawi zonse.

Pulogalamu ya International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute, bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa pamlingo wapadziko lonse lapansi ntchito zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalitsa kwa Focusing) amalimbikitsa “zokambirana” (m'Chingerezi) ndi akatswiri Okhazikika ochokera padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), wolandira, ndipo zimatero m'njira yofananira ndi Kuyikirapo - ndi kusinkhasinkha kwachifundo, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuti awonekere ndikuwululidwa pa liwiro lawo-.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mupeza kuti timathirira ndemanga pamitu ngati iyi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadayenera kuchitika kuti zinthu zitheke, koma sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo kuwonongeka kumachitika m'thupi.
• Pezani a “chogwirira” (“chogwirira”) chifukwa cha ziwawa (muzindikiritse iye) ndi sitepe yoyamba kuti mutulukemo: chifukwa cha izi ndikofunikira kudziwa za chikhalidwe chomwe chimatipangitsa kuti tizikonda chiwawa.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu chiwawa.
• Chikondi chophatikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera chiwawa - komanso mawonekedwe athupi omwe angapezeke kudzera mu Focusing-.
• Kuzindikira ndi kuchitapo kanthu pazochitika zachiwawa mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudzana ndi kuthekera kwa machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chabwino kwambiri chochitira.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungasinthire zochitika zachiwawa kuchokera m'thupi kudzera mu Focusing, Ndikupezeka magawo osunga nthawi kuyimitsa Psychotherapy ku Madrid.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kupeza malingaliro olimbikitsa ntchito zanu zachiwawa., ndipo ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mumachita pa izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi

Malingaliro akuya aulemu ndi malingaliro apadera a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amadza kwa ine pamene ndigawana nawo zokambiranazi. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”, monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera. Ndi phunziro lofunika kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito zambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, kampani yolangizira yapadziko lonse yomwe imagwira ntchito pa Child Protection I yomwe inayambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro ake onse nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta.

Bungwe la International Focusing Institute (bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa ntchito zapadziko lonse lapansi Zoyang'ana zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalikira) amalimbikitsa kawiri pamwezi “Zokambirana” ndi Focusing akatswiri padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ku Cambridge (UK), amachita ngati wolandira, ndipo amatero molunjika kwambiri -kulingalira, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuwonekera ndikukula mu nthawi yawo.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mudzapeza nkhani zokambidwa monga zotsatirazi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadachitika kuti zinthu zipitirire patsogolo, ndipo sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo chovulaza chimachokera m'thupi.
• Kupeza chogwirira chiwawa (kuzizindikiritsa izo) ndi sitepe yoyamba kutulukamo: kudziwa miyambo yathu yomwe imapangitsa kuti chiwawa chizichitika.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu ziwawa.
• Chikondi cholumikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera ziwawa - komanso momwe thupi limakhudzidwira kudzera mu Focusing.
• Kuzindikira zachiwawa ndi kulowererapo mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudza machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chodabwitsa chochitira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mupeza lingaliro kapena ziwiri zomwe zingalimbikitse ntchito yanu yokhudzana ndi zachiwawa, ndipo ndimakonda kumva kuchokera kwa inu za izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani izi mu Spanish (ngakhale kuyankhulana komwe kuli mu Chingerezi).