Kuyamikira, kusilira ndi kudzichepetsa - malingaliro awa amaonekera pakati pa ena onse atatha kutenga nawo mbali mu maphunziro omaliza ndi Gene Gendlin ndi Ann Weiser Cornell pa Focusing, Philosophy of the Implicit and Gendlin's work in general.

Ndine woyamikira kwambiri kukhala ndi mwayi wopezekapo “Zokambirana zochokera ku Edge ndi Gene ndi Ann” (“Zokambirana ku Edge ndi Gene ndi Ann”) m’masabata otsiriza a September ndi October 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell wakhala akukonza izi kwa nthawi yayitali “Zokambirana zochokera ku Edge ndi Gene ndi Ann” kangapo pachaka kupyolera mu nsanja yake, Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zothandizira, m'njira ya maphunziro pa foni (kapena pa kompyuta, koma ndi mawu okha) a Gene Gendlin ndi iye mwini momwe ife omwe tidatenga nawo mbali titha kufunsa chilichonse chomwe tikufuna: Gene Gendlin amayankha mafunso athu, malingaliro amalingaliro athu, ndipo ngakhale Gendlin mwiniwake amatsagana nafe munjira ya Focusing.

Kuyamikira, kusilira, kudzichepetsa… Ndinali nditamva kale Gene Gendlin pazojambula ndi makanema, ndipo ndinazipeza zolimbikitsa kwambiri. Koma kukambirana naye pafoni ndi chinthu chosiyana kwambiri.. Ngakhale kuti sindinayese kufunsa kalikonse m'magawo atatu oyambirira, kumvera iye kucheza ndi anthu ena ali ndi khalidwe lapadera kwambiri. Kukhalapo kwanu, kutseguka kwake ndi kumveka kwake kumandisuntha ine, ndipo Gene amagawana nzeru zake m’ngale zazing’ono ndipo koposa zonse ndi chisamaliro chake.

Ndipo ndikufuna kugawana nawo malingaliro omwe ndawakonda kwambiri:

• Lingaliro la “Mtanda”, mwachidule ndi jini: “[Ndondomeko ya] kuwoloka kumapangitsa kukhala kotheka kunena chinachake ndikumvetsetsa mwanjira yatsopano pochifotokoza kuchokera ku dongosolo latsopano, kuti 'zili bwanji (kapena zikhoza kukhala) ichi ndi chitsanzo cha ena?'”. Nthawi zonse tikhoza kunena chinachake kufotokoza mbali ina. Mafanizo amaphatikizapo kunena chinthu chimodzi motengera chinzake (“a ndi, mwanjira ina, B”).
• Kukambirana kosangalatsa pakati pa Gene ndi munthu momwe angatanthauzire Focusing, ndi kutsutsa kwa Gendlin kuti afotokoze motsimikizika zikhalidwe “zofunika ndi zokwanira” kunena kuti chinachake ndi Kulunjika. Chimodzi mwa malingaliro ambiri omwe adawonekera “Kuyikirapo mtima ndikukhala ndi 'izo', ngakhale palibe chithandizo chomwe chachitika”.
• Kuyang'ana ngati njira yomvera kumayendedwe athu amkati: “Pali zambiri mkati mwathu zomwe zimafuna kumveka koma sizinamveke.. Ndi chiyani mwa ine chomwe chimafuna kumveka?”.
• Uthenga wodzala ndi chiyembekezo: “Kuyang'ana sikufuna kuti mukhulupirire kale”, m'lingaliro lakuti tikhoza kuyambitsa ndondomeko Yoyang'ana ngakhale pamene sitikhulupirira chinachake mkati mwathu, ndipo kupyolera mu ndondomekoyi tidzakhulupirira.
• Gene kugawana zomwe zikuganiziridwa “kukondera kwambiri mokomera kusunga zabwino mu zinthu ndi kusiya zoipa”, kutanthauza kuti amakonda kuyang'ana mbali zokondweretsa za ndondomeko iliyonse osati kuumirira kuyesera “kumvetsa” (kuchokera kumutu) mbali zowawa pamene ndondomeko yathetsa iwo: “Simukuyenera kulowa mmenemo”, adatero.
• “Kuyang'ana ndi njira, koma si luso chabe”.
• Kuyikirapo mtima nthawi zonse ndi njira yamkati, ngakhale titachita Kukhazikika ndi zinthu zakunja (mitengo, zokongola, zojambula…): nthawi zonse pamakhala kukhudzika kwa thupi.
• kupanga “Tiyeni tikhale ndi miniti imodzi ndi“, kulola mawu “ndi” zili ndi matanthauzo onse, palibe mawu enieni, kotero kuti pamene mawu akuwonekera, khalani atsopano ndi atsopano.
• Kulankhula za momwe chikhalidwe chingapangire zomwe munthu wakumana nazo, gene anatero: “Munthu aliyense nthawi zonse amakhala wochuluka kuposa chikhalidwe chawo”.
• “Kumveka kumakhala kodalirika nthawi zonse kuposa kutengeka kapena kulingalira kapena kulingalira kokha.”.

Ndipo ndili ndi chikumbukiro chapadera cholankhula ndi Gene za momwe ndimafikira kuti ndipeze chiwawa ndi Focusing., kuti tithe kuzizindikira ndikuziletsa, monga nthawi zambiri ndimaphunzitsa m'maphunziro anga kwa akatswiri a Chitetezo cha Ana (za Social Work, Psychology, Education…) ndi kwa mabanja. Chikumbutso cha chidwi chanu ndi kulandira chithandizo chanu ndi chilimbikitso kuti mupitirize kufufuza.

Panalinso zochitika zina zambiri zodzaza ndi malingaliro okondweretsa ndi zochitika., ndi kukhalapo kwa Gene ndi Ann. Ndimawafunda, ndi mseri.

Kotero ndikumva kuyamikira, kusilira ndi kudzichepetsa popeza ndakhala maola awa ndikumvera Gene Gendlin akukhala, ndi kutentha kwake, kutsegula kwake, chidwi chanu, chidwi chake pa zomwe wophunzira aliyense amafuna kufunsa kapena kugawana. phunziro lenileni. Kudzoza. ndi chikondwerero.

Kuchokera apa ndimatumiza chiyamiko changa kwa Gene chifukwa chokhalapo komanso kwa Ann chifukwa chopangitsa kuti zitheke pamagulu onse..

Ndi chiyamiko, kusilira ndi kudzichepetsa,

F. Javier Romeo

Dinani apa kuti muwerenge izi mu Chingerezi.