Kuyamikira, mantha ndi kudzichepetsa - malingaliro amenewo amaimirira pakati pa ena onse atapita ku maphunziro aposachedwa ndi Gene Gendlin ndi Ann Weiser Cornell za Kuyikira Kwambiri, Philosophy of the Implicit and Gendlin's ntchito.

Ndine wothokoza kwambiri chifukwa chokhala ndi mwayi wolowa nawo “Zokambirana ku Edge ndi Gene ndi Ann” m’masabata apitawa a September ndi October 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell wakhala akukonza izi “Zokambirana ku Edge ndi Gene ndi Ann” kangapo pachaka kupyolera mu nsanja yake Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zothandizira monga maphunziro a foni a Gene Gendlin ndi iyemwini momwe otenga nawo mbali atha kufunsa chilichonse chomwe angafune: mafunso a Gene Gendlin, amapempha malingaliro ngakhalenso kutsagana ndi njira yolunjika ndi Gendlin mwiniwake.

Kuyamikira, mantha, kudzichepetsa… Ndinali nditamvetsera kale mafayilo amawu ndi mavidiyo a Gene Gendlin, ndipo ndawapeza olimbikitsa kwambiri. Koma kukambirana naye pafoni ndi chinthu chosiyana kwambiri. Ngakhale sindinayerekeze kufunsa kalikonse m'magawo atatu oyamba, kumvera iye kucheza ndi anthu ena ali ndi khalidwe lapadera. Kukhalapo kwake, kumasuka kwake, kumveka kwake kumakhudza kwambiri, ndipo amagawana nzeru zake ndi ngale za chidziwitso chake ndi chidwi chake.

Ndipo ndikufuna kugawana nawo malingaliro omwe ndimakonda kwambiri:

• Lingaliro la kuwoloka, mwachidule ndi Gene: “Kuwoloka kumapangitsa kukhala kotheka kunena chilichonse ndikumveka mwanjira ina yatsopano pochinena mu dongosolo latsopano, kuti ‘Ziri bwanji izi (kapena akhoza kukhala) chitsanzo cha izo?'” Nthawi zonse tikhoza kunena chilichonse pochifotokoza kuchokera kumbali ina. Fanizo limatheka mwa kunena chinthu chimodzi mogwira chinzake: “A ndi, m’lingaliro lina, B.”
• Kukambitsirana kochititsa chidwi pakati pa Gene ndi wophunzira momwe angatanthauzire Focusing, ndi kutsutsa kwake pofotokoza zofunikira ndi zokwanira kuti chinthu chikhale Chokhazikika. Limodzi mwa malingaliro ambiri ndiloti “Kuyikirapo ndikukhala ndi 'izo', ngakhale palibe mpumulo panobe.”
• Kuyang'ana ngati njira yomvera mayendedwe athu amkati: “Pali zambiri mwa ife zomwe zimafuna kumveka ndipo sizinamveke. Zomwe zili mwa ine zomwe zimafuna kumveka?”
• Uthenga wowala wa chiyembekezo: “Kuyang'ana sikufuna kudalira [munjira] mopangiratu,” kutanthauza kuti titha kuyambitsa ndondomeko ya Focusing ngakhale kusakhulupirira china chake mwa ife, ndipo kupyolera mu ndondomekoyi tidzafika pokhulupirira.
• Gene kugawana zomwe amadziona ngati “wokondera kwambiri mokomera kusunga zinthu zabwino ndi kusiya zoipazo,” kutanthauza kuti amakonda kukhala ndi mbali zosangalatsa za ndondomeko iliyonse osati kuumirira ndi kuyesera “kumvetsa” (mmutu) zowawa mbali, ndondomeko ikatha: “Simuyenera kupita kumeneko,” adatero.
• “Kuyang'ana ndi njira, koma osati luso chabe.”
• Kuyikirapo mtima nthawi zonse ndi njira yamkati, ngakhale pamene tikulunjika pa zinthu zakunja (mitengo, malo, zojambula…): nthawi zonse pamakhala kumverera kwa thupi.
• Kapangidwe “Tiyeni tikhale miniti ndi kuti,” kulola mawu “kuti” zili ndi matanthauzo onse, popanda mawu enieni, kotero pamene mawu afika, adzakhala atsopano ndi atsopano.
• Kulankhula za momwe chikhalidwe chingakhazikitsire zochitika za munthu, Gene anatero: “Munthu aliyense nthawi zonse amakhala woposa chikhalidwe chawo.”
• “Kumverera kumakhala kodalirika nthawi zonse kuposa kutengeka kapena kulingalira / kulingalira kokha.”

Ndipo ndili ndi chikumbukiro chapadera cholankhula ndi Gene za njira yanga yopezera chogwirira nkhanza ndi Focusing, kotero tonse titha kuzizindikira ndikuziletsa, monga nthawi zambiri ndimaphunzitsa m'maphunziro anga a akatswiri a Chitetezo cha Ana (ogwira ntchito zamagulu, akatswiri a zamaganizo, aphunzitsi, aphunzitsi…) ndi mabanja, ndikumva chidwi chake ndikulandira chithandizo ndi chilimbikitso chake.

Panali zokambirana zina zambiri zambiri zosangalatsa komanso zokumana nazo, ndi kukhalapo kwa Gene ndi Ann. Ndimawasunga mosamala, ndi zachinsinsi.

Kotero ndikumva kuyamikira, mantha ndi kudzichepetsa pokhala maola awa kumvetsera Gene Gendlin live, ndi kutentha kwake, kumasuka kwake, chidwi chake, chidwi chake chachikulu pa zomwe wophunzira aliyense ayenera kufunsa kapena kugawana. Phunziro loona. Kudzoza. Ndi chikondwerero.

Ndikutumiza kuchokera pano kuthokoza kwanga kwa Gene chifukwa chokhalapo komanso kwa Ann chifukwa chopangitsa kuti zitheke pamagulu onse.

Ndi chiyamiko, mantha ndi kudzichepetsa,

F. Javier Romeo

Dinani apa kuti muwerenge izi mu Spanish.