mwa nthawi zonse, Mu blog iyi ndikugawana zinthu zomwe zimadutsana ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana ndi zokonda zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo. Pachifukwa ichi ndili ndi chikhutiro chogawana bukhuli mawu kusintha. Njira kalozera wofunsira ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ali m'nyumba zogona, zomwe timapanga Peppa Oven ndipo ndimayima UNICEF ku Spain.

Zinali zokhutiritsa kulandira bungweli kuti likonze ndondomekoyi polemba m'njira yotsika mtengo.. Imodzi mwa ntchito yathu potsagana ndi mabungwe aboma ndi azinsinsi achitetezo kuno ku Spain komanso m'maiko ena pakuwongolera kwawo ndikuwonetsetsa omwe akupikisana nawo.: ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe amakhala m'malo otetezedwa. Ndipo iwo ali akatswiri pa miyoyo yawo, ndipo nthawi zambiri mabungwe amaiwala kuwafunsa, mwatsoka.

Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi chisangalalo chachikulu kuti UNICEF ku Spain, mkati mwa ntchito yake yolimbikitsa kutenga nawo mbali kwa ana ndi achinyamata, watipempha kuti tifotokoze njira yosavuta yofunsira ana amenewa, ndi achinyamata. Timakambirana zambiri za izo mu blog ya Spiral Consulting for Children.

Mkati mwake muli kalozera waukadaulo komanso wothandiza, Kwa ine, mawonekedwe a kulankhulana pakati pa anthu: tingalankhule bwanji akulu, momwe tingapangire malo oyenera komanso momwe tingamvetsere ana, ndi achinyamata. Mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito amatha kuyambitsa kulankhulana kapena kutseka, Ndicho chifukwa chake njira zomwe timapereka ndizomveka bwino.: ulemu, kuphatikizidwa ndi protagonism ya ana okha, ndi achinyamata.

Ndipo talimbikiranso kusinthasintha ndi kusintha kwa ana onse, ndi achinyamata, kupereka malangizo othandizira kulowererapo kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya magwiridwe antchito, kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe (makamaka ndi anyamata ndi atsikana osatsagana nawo) ndi omwe ali ndi vuto la thanzi komanso zoopsa. Mawu awo, monga tikunenera mutuwo, wamva bwino, akhoza kusintha moyo wawo kukhala wabwino.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda komanso kuti mukuipeza yosangalatsa.

F. Javier Romeo

Chilimwechi ndidafunikira kudulira, ndipo ndachipeza. pamlingo wamalingaliro, komanso pakompyuta. Ndipo zakhala makamaka chifukwa cha kuwerenga Digital Minimalism, wa Cal Newport, wolemba yemwe malingaliro ake ndimasilira, Ndimayesetsa kuchita ndipo ndimalimbikitsa.

kudzera mu bukhu ili, yomwe ili ndi mawu ofotokozera “Poteteza chisamaliro m'dziko laphokoso”, Ndapanga mtundu wa ubale womwe ndikufuna kukhala nawo ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti: zigwiritseni ntchito mozindikira, kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wolumikizana ndikulumikizana ndi anthu ena komanso mabungwe osangalatsa, koma osataya nthawi yanga, za chisamaliro changa kapena moyo wanga wamalingaliro. Zalembedwa mu prose zomwe zimaphatikiza kuwunikira kofufuza mozama ndi nkhani zosangalatsa zomwe zimapanga mfundo zazikuluzikulu..

Ndipo chabwino kwambiri ndichakuti sikungochoka pamasamba onse ochezera, koma kuchepetsa kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwake pamlingo wokwanira ku ubongo wathu. Bukuli limayamba ndi malingaliro 30 masiku opanda malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndiyeno pang'onopang'ono kuwafotokozera, m’njira yogwirizana ndi zokonda zathu. Ndakhala mwezi wa August osatsegula akaunti yanga Twitter ndi cha LinkedIn ndi, Ngakhale zinali zovuta poyamba, Ndafika ndikusinthidwa mpaka Seputembala. Tsopano ndimatsegula kawiri kapena katatu pamlungu, ndi cholinga, kuwona mitu yomwe imandisangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ndapeza kale njira zingapo zosangalatsa popanda kuvutitsidwa ndi mauthenga amphamvu a “mitu yomwe ikuyenda”.

Ndipo chabwino ndikuti Cal Newport sakhalamo “kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito mosayenera malo ochezera a pa Intaneti”, koma imapititsanso patsogolo malangizo anayi kuti tigwiritse ntchito mwayi wanthawi yomasulidwa kwa ife:

• Tengani mwayi wokhala nokha, pa nthawi yolumikizana mkati.
• kusiya “amakonda” ngati mawonekedwe a ubale ndikusintha ndi zokambirana zachindunji (mwa munthu, pa foni kapena pavidiyo), muzochita zenizeni zomwe zimasinthidwa malinga ndi momwe timamvera.
• Khalani ndi nthawi yopuma yathanzi, zomwe zimatipatsa mphamvu m'malo mozichotsa.
• Kupereka chisamaliro chanzeru ku chidwi chathu, amene ali ndi malire. M’malo moziwononga pa ntchito zimene sizitibweretsera zambiri, zikhazikike pa zimene zimatipangitsa kukula ndi kusamalirana wina ndi mzake.

Ndiye ngati muwona kuti ndimagwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti mocheperapo, mudzadziwa kuti ndikusamalira chisamaliro changa. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kuti tikambirane zinazake, Bwino pa foni kapena pamaso panu kusiyana ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, mukuwoneka kuti?

Kuyamba bwino kwa chaka chasukulu,

F. Javier Romeo

Moyo wapaintaneti watithandiza kupanga magulu atsopano.

Zoposa chaka chapitacho ndinalandira chiitano cha kukhala m’gulu lolingalira za ana m’dongosolo la chitetezo ku Spain, kugwirizana ndi Alberto Rodriguez ndi Javier Mugica ndi momwe timachitira nawo Antonio Ferrandis, mi Mnzake wa CI Spirals Peppa Oven, Marta Llaurado ndi dzina langa pafupifupi lawiri F. Javier Romeu Soriano. Pambuyo pa miyezi iyi yamisonkhano yapaintaneti ndi maimelo angapo ndi zolemba, sabata yatha tinasindikiza pamodzi chikalata chokhazikitsa, Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati. Mavuto asanu ndi awiri ndi malingaliro opititsa patsogolo chitetezo cha ana ku Spain. Mawuwa amadzilankhula okha, ndipo akhoza dawunilodi kuchokera tsamba la “Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati”.

Pano ine ndikufuna kulankhula za chinachake chosiyana pang'ono: za ndondomeko yokha. Ndipo ndifotokoza mwachidule m'mawu atatu: mudzi, kukula ndi kuzindikira.

Community ndi zomwe takhala tikupanga. Ili ndi gawo la mwayi, kukumana ndi nkhani zoteteza ana m'malo osiyanasiyana. Koma ilinso ndi gawo la cholinga. Pezani malo ochitira misonkhano yapaintaneti. Lembani aliyense mbali yake ya chikalatacho ndi kubwereza malemba ena onse. kugawana malingaliro, nkhawa ndi mayankho omwe angathe. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono takhala tikukulitsa ubale wathu, kukulitsa chilankhulo chodziwika bwino chomwe chimaphatikiza umunthu wathu wosiyanasiyana komanso tcheru. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti mbali zina zakusintha kwachitetezo kumapita ndendende popanga anthu m'malo ena ambiri, ndi ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ndi mabanja awo, m'magulu a akatswiri ndi maukonde olowera.

Kuphatikiza Apo, tapita patsogolo ndi kawonedwe ka wonjezani. Munthu aliyense m'gulu lathu wakhala akugwira ntchito limodzi ndikutsata njira zachitetezo kwazaka zambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake tikhoza kulankhula za zofooka, za zofooka zomwe zimavulaza ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ndi mabanja omwe cholinga chake ndi kuwateteza. Koma timakumbukiranso kupita patsogolo, zosintha, nthawi zina zazing'ono kwambiri, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mbali zina zikhale bwino. Ichi ndichifukwa chake chikalatachi chikufuna kusonkhanitsa zovuta zomwe timawona ku Spain ndi malingaliro omwe tikudziwa, ndi zochitika zaumwini kapena zaukadaulo, zomwe zinagwirapo ntchito kale. Ndipo ndondomekoyi imapangitsanso ife omwe timawonetsera m'magulu kukula.

Chifukwa chiyani?, al omaliza, Ndi za kukulitsa kuzindikira. pamene tili ndi a “kuyang'ana mwachidwi”, monga mnzanga wabwino amanenera ndi ku CI Spirals Peppa Oven, timaona zenizeni mwakuya. Timazindikira zomwe zimachitika mwa ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ndi mabanja awo, komanso m'magulu a akatswiri komanso m'machitidwe omwe angawapatse chitetezo ndi chithandizo. Ndipo timazindikira zomwe zimachitika mkati mwathu, kuwongolera malingaliro ndi zomverera pazolinga zenizeni zomwe zimasintha miyoyo ya anthu ambiri. Sitingathe kuchita izi tokha, timafunikira malo otetezeka, mudzi, tithandizeni kupita patsogolo, kudzifunsa mafunso atsopano ndikupeza mayankho atsopano.

Kuchokera pano ndikutumiza kuthokoza kwanga ku timu yabwinoyi, ndi ku moyo kuti zitheke.

Ndipo ndikukupemphani kuti muwerenge chikalatacho ndikumvetsera zotsatirazi (Tikhala tikusindikiza zolemba za mwezi uliwonse za blog kuti tipitilize kusanthula malingaliro osiyanasiyana). Ndikukuwonani pa webusayiti “Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati”.

mu chikondwerero,

F. Javier Romeo

[Dinani apa kuti muwerenge izi mu Chingerezi.]

Chikalata kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo, chani Peppa Oven, Mnzanga mu Spiral Consulting for Children, ndipo ndalembera UNICEF ku Spain ndi UNICEF France, zangosindikizidwa kumene, ndipo likupezeka m'mitundu iwiri:

• Tsitsani Chingelezi choyambirira cha Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo.
• Koperani zomasulira za Chisipanishi, kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo.

Ili ndi buku laukadaulo lomwe likukhudzana ndi Chitetezo cha Ana, kulowererapo kwa anthu komanso ufulu wa anthu. Pamenepo, tili ndi malingaliro ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri pafupifupi zana mu Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse mu December 2019 ku Madrid, zomwe ndidathandizira kuwongolera (timafotokoza zambiri mu wathu CI Spirals blog positi). Komabe, ilinso chikalata chaumwini kwambiri kwa ine.

Mbali inayi, ana, osaperekezedwa ndi olekanitsidwa atsikana osamukira ndi achinyamata ali ndi malo apadera kwambiri mu mtima mwanga. Ndinagwira ntchito ku Morocco kwa zaka zingapo ndi ana, atsikana am'misewu ndi achinyamata ndipo ndikudziwa zovuta zomwe ali nazo kumeneko, ndi zomwe zimawapangitsa kuyika moyo wawo pachiswe kuti athe kukhala ndi tsogolo labwino. Ndagwiranso ntchito kwa zaka zingapo ku Madrid ndi achinyamata omwe ali pachiwopsezo cha anthu, ndipo ambiri aiwo adali anyamata ndi atsikana osamukira m’mayiko ena opanda zonena za mabanja awo, kotero ndatsagana nawo pamavuto omwe adakumana nawo kuti amange tsogolo labwino ku Spain. Ndipo mpaka lero ndikusangalalabe kulankhula nawo m’Chiarabu cha ku Moroccan, chinenero chimene ndimakonda kwambiri. Ndikhulupilira kuti chikalatachi chithandiza akadaulo komanso anthu onse kuti aziwamvera chisoni anawa., ndi achinyamata, ndi kusamala za ubwino wanu. (Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za ntchito yanga pa mbiri yanga ya LinkedIn).

Tsidya, Panopa ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri., chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo. Monga wolemba wamkulu, Ndagwiritsa ntchito mobwerezabwereza do Kuganizira monga njira yopangira malingaliro ndikupeza zolemba zoyenera. Makiyi a nkhani zoteteza kwambiri ayenera kubwera kuchokera ku chidziwitso chokhazikika m'thupi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zikupereka kumveka komanso kuzama kwa mutu wonsewu., makamaka ngati zigawo zovuta kwambiri zitha kukhala zomveka bwino.

Pomaliza, Sikunali vuto la akatswiri okha, komanso ndondomeko yaumwini. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mumasangalala nazo.

F. Javier Romeo

[Werengani izi mu Spanish].

Chikalata Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo, kuti Peppa Oven, mnzanga ku Spirals Childhood Consultancy, ndipo ine ndalembera UNICEF ku Spain ndi UNICEF France, zasindikizidwa kumene, ndipo likupezeka m'mitundu iwiri:

• Koperani Baibulo loyambirira mu Chingerezi la Kupitirira Kupulumuka. Kupititsa patsogolo kulowererapo ku Europe ndi Ana Osatsatizana Ndi Olekanitsidwa Osamuka omwe amagwa kudzera muchitetezo.
• Koperani zomasulirazo m’Chisipanishi, kupitirira kupulumuka. Momwe mungasinthire kulowererapo ndi ana osatsatizana komanso opatukana osamukira kwawo omwe amasiyidwa muchitetezo.

Ili ndi buku laukadaulo lomwe likukhudzana ndi Chitetezo cha Ana, kulowererapo kwa anthu komanso ufulu wa anthu. Pamenepo, tinawerengera ndi malingaliro ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri pafupifupi zana pa Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse mu December 2019 ku Madrid, zomwe ndidathandizira (tikufotokoza zambiri za izo mu tsamba lathu labulogu ku Espirales CI). Komabe, ilinso chikalata chaumwini kwambiri kwa ine.

Mbali inayi, Osawaperekeza Komanso Olekanitsidwa Osamukirako Ana amandikonda kwambiri. Ndinagwira ntchito ku Morocco kwa zaka zingapo ndi ana omwe ali mumsewu ndipo ndikudziwa za zovuta kumeneko, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuyika moyo wawo pachiswe kuti athe kukhala ndi tsogolo labwino. Ndinagwiranso ntchito kwa zaka zingapo ku Madrid ndi achinyamata omwe anali pangozi, ndipo ambiri a iwo anali ana osamukira kwina osatsagana nawo, chotero ndinatsagana ndi mapazi awo m’zovuta zodzipangira tsogolo labwino ku Spain. Ndipo ndimasangalalabe kulankhula nawo m’Chiarabu cha Moroccan, chinenero chimene ndimakonda kwambiri. Ndikukhulupirira kuti chikalatachi chithandiza akatswiri ena komanso anthu onse kuti aziwamvera chisoni anawa, ndi kusamalira ubwino wawo. (Zambiri za ntchito yanga mu LinkedIn Profile yanga).

Mbali inayi, pano ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri, chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo. Monga wolemba wamkulu, Ndagwiritsa ntchito kwambiri Kuganizira ndi ine ndekha ngati njira yopangira malingaliro, ndi kupeza mawu okwanira. Zidziwitso za nkhani zodzitchinjiriza ziyenera kubwera kuchokera ku chidziwitso chodziwika. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zibweretsa kumveka komanso kuzama pamutu wonsewu, ndi zina mwazovuta zake zidapangidwa momveka bwino.

Pomaliza, sikunali vuto la akatswiri okha, komanso ndondomeko yaumwini. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo.

F. Javier Romeo

Mogwirizana ndi kupitiriza kukondwerera kusindikizidwa chaka chapitacho nkhani za Peppa Oven, mnzanga wabwino ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito pazamaphunziro okhudza ubwana), cholembera ichi chikukwaniritsa yapitayo, kutanthauza buku lake Chilankhulo cha mitengo. nkhani iyi, Wamatsenga wamalingaliro, yasindikizidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi mafanizo a Margarita Sada.

Pepa mwiniwake akufotokoza cholinga chake cha bukuli ndi mawu otsatirawa:

Wamatsenga wamalingaliro kulankhula za caresses, ndi momwe kusisita ndi kusisita kumagwirira ntchito pakudziletsa, kuti anyamata ndi atsikana aja omwe akulu amati asakhale chete, Iwo sangakhoze kuyika malingaliro awo mu dongosolo, kapena kuwakhazika mtima pansi kapena kuyang'ana kwambiri ... Kuti anyamata ndi atsikanawa akhale ndi "zamatsenga" kuti athe kukhazikitsa dongosolo mkati mwawo.. M'malingaliro omwe pansi pamtima palibe koma chipatso cha chidwi chake chodabwitsa.

Apa ndikuwonjezera kuti ndi nkhani yomwe ingasinthidwe bwino kuti iphunzitse Kuganizira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana pazifukwa izi:

• Amapereka malingaliro abwino ndi olandirira malingaliro, zomverera, kumverera, maganizo ndi zokumana nazo zomwe ana amakhala nazo (komanso kuti tili ndi akuluakulu): zomwe zili mkati mwathu zimakhala zomveka ngati tipereka njira yokwanira yomvera.
• Anyamata ndi atsikana amatha kuchita zinthu zowona kuti asamalire zomwe akumana nazo mkati, kotero kuti akhazikike mtima pansi (ndi, ngakhale sichinafotokozedwe m’nkhaniyi, komanso kufalitsa), ndipo ife amene tili nawo pafupi titha kuwatsagana nawo.
• Zochitika zamkati zimatsagana ndi zochitika zina zolimbitsa thupi. M'nkhaniyi, Pepa akupereka caresses kumadera omwe akukhudzidwa (mutu wa protagonist, pamenepa), koma fotokozani patsamba lomaliza, “Mawu kwa moyo wa akuluakulu”, kuti pakhoza kukhala njira zina zambiri, malinga ngati thupi likukhudzidwa.

Chifukwa chake ndikupangira bukuli ngati njira yowonetsera Kuyikira Kwambiri m'njira yabwino kwa ana..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzazikonda monga momwe ndimachitira,

Xavier

Chaka choyamba cha kufalitsidwa kwa nkhaniyi posachedwapa chinali chikondwerero. Chilankhulo cha mitengo wa Peppa Oven, mnzanga wokondedwa ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito zoteteza ana). nkhani iyi, lofalitsidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi kufotokozedwa ndi Martina Vanda, anali ndi maulaliki angapo, ndipo woyamba anali m'menemo Madrid Book Fair 2015 za masiku awa, kotero zidawoneka zoyenera kukumbukira ndi cholembera ichi.

Pepa akupereka bukuli motere:

Chilankhulo cha mitengo ndi za imfa. Kapenanso za ulusi wa chikondi umene umagwirizanitsa mbali zonse za moyo. Lankhulani za anthu amene ali ndi mtima wosagawanika, “hafu pa dziko lapansi ndi theka kumwamba”, ndipo linalembedwa kwa anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri (amene ali ana tsopano ndi anyamata ena ndi atsikana obisika pansi pa khungu la akuluakulu) amene ali ndi mitima yonga iyi.

Ndikufuna kuwunikira mbali zitatu zomwe ndikupangira nkhaniyi (ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ndapereka kale ngati mphatso maulendo angapo):

• Kufunika kopeza chiyanjano chophiphiritsa ndi munthu wakufayo, zomwe zingathe kukulitsidwa m'moyo kapena imfa ikachitika. Sipanachedwe kupanga mwambo womwe umapatsa ife omwe tidakali ndi moyo kumverera kwa kulumikizana.
• Chisoni cha thupi, zomwe zimawoneka zoloza mwaluso. Kuwona malo, yenda mozungulira munda, kupanga manja a thupi… zimatithandiza bwino ndondomeko zotayika, mosasamala za msinkhu.
• Kukoma mtima komwe kumalowa m'ntchitoyo kumatipempha kuti tisamalire ubale pazochitika zilizonse zachisoni ndi anyamata ndi atsikana onse.: amene ali ndi zaka, ndi omwe timanyamula nawo anyamata ndi atsikana athu mkati (ndipo amafunikiranso chisamaliro chanu).

Kwa zonsezi ndi zina zambiri, ndi buku lomwe ndimawona kuti ndilofunika kuliwerenga., komanso makamaka kukhala nazo pamene zotayika zikuchitika m'chilengedwe.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Xavier

M'masiku otsiriza ano a Okutobala, nkhani ya imfa imabuka pafupipafupi m'miyoyo ya ana. Kuyambira pachikondwerero cha Tsiku la Akufa m'mabanja ena kupita ku zochitika zamitundu yosiyanasiyana za Halowini, zoona zake n’zakuti ndi nthawi imene ana amatha kufunsa mafunso okhudza imfa, ndipo ndi bwino kukhala ndi maganizo ndi malo oti mumvetsere ndi kuyankha.

Ndinalemba mkati 2011 nkhani yomwe ndimachira apa, “Anyamata ndi atsikana ndi imfa”, kukumbukira makiyi ena othandiza. M'nkhani, lofalitsidwa ndi magaziniyo Ngodya yathu ya 0-6 - ACCENT yoperekedwa ku Maphunziro a Ubwana Wachichepere, madera atatu ofunika akufufuzidwa:

• Lingaliro la imfa pa mibadwo yosiyana (pakati pa ziro ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, Kodi mutu wa magaziniyi ndi wotani?).
• Malangizo ena ofunika kutsagana ndi ana asanamwalire.
• Kuwerenga kovomerezeka, ogawidwa m'magulu owerengera mabanja ndi akatswiri komanso nkhani zowerenga ndi ana.

Ndipo ndimayamba nkhaniyo ndikuyipanga ndi ndime iyi:

Kwa nthawi yaitali anthu ankaganiza kuti anyamata ndi atsikana samamva chisoni mpaka atakalamba. Komabe, kafukufuku m'munda wa attachment wasonyeza kuti amadutsa m'njira zamaliro kuyambira zaka zoyambirira, ngakhale kuti saziwonetsera mofanana ndi akuluakulu mpaka pambuyo pake. N’chifukwa chake m’pofunika kulankhula nawo za imfa (ndipo musawabise kuopa kuwaononga) zikachitika (kapena zidzachitika liti, pa nkhani ya matenda osachiritsika), kotero kuti amvetse 1) kuti munthuyo akuchokadi ndipo 2) kuti munthuyo sachoka mwakufuna kwake, komanso kuti athe kusanzika, popeza ngati malingalirowa sakumveka bwino ndipo palibe kutsanzikana, Matenda a pathological angawonekere. Ndipo ndicho chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kuti tidziŵe kumvetsera ndi kulabadira zimene zimachitika mkati mwawo imfa ikawonekera m’miyoyo yawo..
[mawu ngati: ROMEO BIEDMA, Francisco Javier (2011): "Anyamata ndi atsikana ndi imfa" mu Ngodya yathu ya 0-6 - ACCENT, 60, 17-21.]

Pitirizani kuwerenga nkhaniyi…

Ndikukhulupirira kuti kusinkhasinkhaku kukuthandizani kuti muthe kutsagana ndi ana omwe akuzungulirani pankhaniyi.. Imfa ndi gawo losapeŵeka la moyo, ndipo bwino timaphatikiza, mochuluka adzakhala ndi moyo, anyamata ndi atsikana komanso ife.

Ndikufunirani chikumbutso ndi chikumbumtima,

Xavier

Mikangano yambiri itha kuthetsedwa m’njira yokhutiritsa ndi yopindulitsa kwa mbali zonse., Kupereka zofunikira ndi nthawi zimaperekedwa. Izi ndizochitika zanga komanso zaukadaulo zomwe ndaphunzira zaka zambiri, kuchita ndi kufalitsa Yofatsa Kulankhulana. ndizofunika kwambiri (osati zophweka) ndi kuti zofunikira zikukwaniritsidwa kuti chigamulochi chichitike. Kwa ine pali zinthu zingapo zofunika, zomwe tingazifotokoze mwachidule zotsatirazi:

• Njira yokwanira, zomwe zimalola onse omwe akukhudzidwa kuti azikhala otetezeka komanso olemekezedwa paufulu wawo.
• Akatswiri omwe ali ndi maphunziro odziwa kuyimira pakati komanso kumvetsera mozama komanso “kumasulira” za mauthenga kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti munthu aliyense amve.
• Dera lomwe limathandizira njira zobwezeretsa, kugawa nthawi, mipata, anthu ogwira ntchito, maphunziro…
• Anthu okonzeka kuthetsa mikangano m'njira yoti pamapeto pake onse azimva kuti akumva komanso kuti mbali zonse zikhutitsidwe ndi yankho.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndizosangalatsa kwa ine kugawana nawo zothandizira zomwe gulu lalikulu la anthu a m'dera la Son Gotleu ku Palma de Mallorca adachita. (Mallorca), popeza amasonkhanitsa momwe chilichonse mwazinthuzi chagwirira ntchito.

Muvidiyoyi mukuwona momwe adathandizira, ndi revitalization ya Institute for Coexistence and School Success (ndi Institute for Coexistence and School Success in Spanish) ya Boma la Zilumba za Balearic, kuchokera kwa aphunzitsi a malo ophunzirira a Early Childhood Education, Pulayimale ndi Sekondale, ophunzira amisinkhu yonse, mabanja, komanso Social Services, apolisi, yunivesite ndi magulu ena odziwika bwino. Mu mosaic wa mawu, timapeza lingaliro lazomwe zidachitika pakukhazikitsidwa kwa ukonde wachitetezo pamalo omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndikuwona zina mwazotsatira.

Kuti muwone mwadongosolo, pali chofalitsidwa chimene chimasonkhanitsa mbali zofunika kwambiri. Adasinthidwa mu Catalan, Chisipanishi ndi Chingerezi mkati mwa projekiti yaku Europe yokhala ndi mutuwu, ndi Upangiri Timakulitsa kukhalirana ndi Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa / Kalozera Timathandizira kukhazikika ndi machitidwe obwezeretsa imapanga mbali zongopeka za Restorative Practices, amafunikira deta yochulukirapo ndipo amapereka zitsanzo zenizeni ndi malingaliro owerengera kuti awonjezere zambiri.

Ndipo kukulitsa Mabwalo Obwezeretsa, mchitidwe kuthetsa mikangano ndi chikhalidwe dimension anachokera Yofatsa Kulankhulana, mukhoza kuwerenga monograph chidwi Chilungamo ndi Zochita Zobwezeretsa. Mabwalo Obwezeretsa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kwawo m'magawo osiyanasiyana, yolembedwa ndi Vicenç Rulan, mphunzitsi amene ndili wokondwa kumudziwa, zomwe zikuwoneka mu kanema ndi mu Bukhuli, ndi kuti iye ndi membala wa Association of Justice and Restorative Practices of the Balearics (ndi tsamba castellano ndi mu chikatalani, ndi zinthu zina zambiri). chiyambi chabwino, kuti tipitirize kuyang'ana mu chitsanzo ichi. Komanso mukhoza kuonera mavidiyo (m'Chingerezi) patsamba lovomerezeka la mlengi wa Restorative Circles, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Inu amene mwandiphunzitsako kulankhulana ndi anthu ena mwawona kuti nthawi zambiri ndimatchula mutu uwu wa Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa.. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zinthuzi zikuwonetsa bwino zomwe mwamva kuchokera kwa ine ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti ziyambitsa luso lanu komanso malingaliro anu kuti mupitilize kupeza njira zozama komanso zozama zothetsera mikangano m'malo ophunzirira., ndi kudera lina lililonse.

Xavier

Wolemba bwino waku Britain, White Jasper, aganiza ali ndi zaka makumi anayi kuti asalembenso mabuku. Mudzatani ndi chosowa chanu kuti mupitirize kulemba “chinachake”? Pakufunikabe kutchula dzina, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu kuti apereke mawonekedwe kuzinthu zomwe ziyenera kufotokozedwa. Choncho anaganiza zokhala “wolemba”. Adzapanga zithunzi za anthu amoyo. Ndipo iye sapanga kulongosola kulikonse. Kodi mungagwire bwanji chikhalidwe cha munthu m'mawu?

Umu ndi momwe buku labwino kwambiri limayambira Mr White wa wolemba mabuku wotchuka wa ku Italy Alessandro Baricco (1958). Kupatula pa zolemba zake zosatsutsika, omwe ali ndi chidwi Kuganizira Bukuli limatipatsa masomphenya atsopano ophiphiritsira zochitikazo, nuclear for Focusing process. Mr White, wolemba wamkulu, zopezeka patsamba loyamba mwamwayi pachiwonetsero chazithunzi, ndipo powerenga kalozera wazithunzi amadabwa kudziwa momwe wojambula zithunzi amagwirira ntchito. A Gwyn apeza china chapadera:

Jasper Gwyn adaganiza kuti zidatenga nthawi yayitali., kuthamangitsidwa kwina, komanso kutha kwa zotsutsa zambiri. Sanaganize za ukadaulo uliwonse komanso luso la wojambulayo silinawoneke kukhala lofunikira kwa iye, zinangobwera m’maganizo mwake kuti zimene anachita moleza mtima zinali ndi cholinga, ndipo pamapeto pake zomwe adakwanitsa kuzipeza zinali kubwerera kunyumba kwa munthu amene ali ndi ndevu. Iye ankaona kuti ndi kachitidwe kabwino kwambiri.. (Tsamba 36)

Ndipo kuyambira pamenepo akuyamba ulendo womwe amakonzekera malo osamalira mbali zonse zamalingaliro ndikupanga mlengalenga momwe angatengere zithunzi.. Kujambula umunthu wa munthu m'njira yoteroyo, como akuti Baricco, kumutengera munthuyo kunyumba. Ndizosapeŵeka kuganiza za ndondomeko ya Focusing, ndi momwe kudzera mwa kulandiridwa ndi kukhalapo kwaubwenzi kumathandizira kuwonetsera zochitikazo, kuti ndondomeko imapitirizidwa patsogolo (pafupi ndi kwathu, monga Baricco anganene). Ndipo ponena za njira yophiphiritsira, imapereka kutsegulira kodabwitsa (kuti sindidzaulula apa, chifukwa izi ndi za chitukuko cha buku lenilenilo).

Kwa zonsezi, ndizofunikira kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi ndondomeko ya Focusing.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti zidzakuthandizani kudzifunsa mafunso ambiri atsopano. Ndipo ngati mukudziwa mabuku ena (kapena mafilimu) zomwe zimatilimbikitsa ku Focusing, Nonviolent Communication kapena psychotherapy, ndiuzeni za iwo ndipo ndipanga matikiti anu.

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kosangalatsa,

Xavier

Zambiri zamabuku: Baricco, Alessandro (2011): Mr White. Milan: Giangiacomo Feltrinelli Editore. Kumasulira m'Chisipanishi ndi Xavier González Rovira (2012): Mr White. Barcelona: Anagram. Pitani ku tsamba la Anagram yosindikiza nyumba, komwe mungawerenge masamba oyamba a bukuli.