The psychotherapy Ili ndi gawo lofunikira pakuphunzitsidwa mozama, ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimapindulitsa kwambiri kuphunzira njira zatsopano, njira zatsopano, njira zatsopano zofikira mitu yomwe ikubwera. Kuwongolera ndi kuphunzitsidwa kosalekeza ndi gawo limodzi la machitidwe abwino a psychotherapy.

Misala Networker Ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri kwa ine kuti ndikhale ndi nthawi psychotherapy. Kupatula pazinthu zina (makanema, malemba, manambala enieni…), bungweli limasindikiza magazini yapadera yomwe imapezeka kawiri pamwezi m'mapepala ndi pakompyuta (mwayi wotsegula kwa zaka ziwiri), ndipo nambala iliyonse ili ndi ulusi wofanana, ndi nkhani za akatswiri amene agwirapo mutu wa mweziwo, komanso ndi maumboni ochititsa chidwi a m'mabuku (kwenikweni ndagula kale mabuku angapo nditawerenga nkhani zina, ndipo ndakhutitsidwa kwambiri).

Webusaitiyi ili ndi zothandizira zambiri, ndipo kuchokera pano ndikufuna kupangira zolemba ndi nkhani zomwe zikuwoneka zatsopano kwa ine.

• Magazini ya November ndi December 2013, ndi mutu “Zizolowezi Zathu, Ife tokha. Kodi Chizungulire Chikhoza Kusweka?” (“zizolowezi zathu, ndi ife eni. Mutha kuswa bwalo?”), nkhani yokhala ndi malingaliro amomwe mungathetsere mabwalo oyipa mu psychotherapy, ndi nkhani yochokera Ann Weiser Cornell, katswiri wa Focusing Orientation Psychotherapy yemwe ndidaphunzira naye, “Chinachake Chatsopano, Pano ndi Tsopano. Kusiya Chizoloŵezi” (“Chinachake chatsopano, pano ndi pano. Momwe mungamasulire zomwe mwachizolowezi”).
• Ntchito ya May ndi June 2014, ndi mutu “Kuchiza Trauma. Kodi Tikusowa Chiyani?” (“Chitani zoopsa. tikusowa chiyani?”), ndi njira zatsopano zothanirana ndi zoopsa monga nkhani ya Janina Fisher “Kuyika Zidutswa Pamodzi. 25 Zaka Zophunzira Chithandizo cha Trauma” (“phatikizani zidutswa zonse pamodzi. Zaka makumi awiri ndi zisanu kuphunzira kuthana ndi zoopsa”).
• Magazini ya September ndi October 2014, ndi mutu “Apo ndipo Osati Apo. Kukula M'zaka Zosokoneza” (“pamenepo ndipo ayi. Momwe mungakulire muzaka zododometsa”), zofunika ndi zinthu monga “Kusakhazikika. Kulumikizana ndi Ana Ovulala Omwe Amakankhira Mabatani Anu” (“Chokani pa mbedza. Momwe mungalumikizire ndi ana opwetekedwa mtima omwe amapangitsa chitetezo chanu kudumpha”) ndi Martha Strauss.

Ndikusiyirani kuwerenga kwabwino ndipo ndikhulupilira musangalala nazo..

Xavier

Kuchokera pazolowera izi ndikufuna kukondwerera Mphotho ya Mtendere wa Nobel 2014 yaperekedwa kwa anthu awiri omwe amateteza ufulu wa ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ochokera ku Non-Violence.

Zakhala zosangalatsa kwa ine kudziwa kuti Kailash Satyarthi adzalandira, munthu wa ku India yemwe amateteza ufulu wa ana, makamaka amene amagwira ntchito, y Malala Yousafzai, wachinyamata wa ku Pakistan yemwe wakhala akumenyera ufulu wa maphunziro kwa ana makamaka atsikana. Kuyambira blog ya Spiral Consulting for Children Tapanga cholowa chachindunji pomwe timapereka zambiri zazinthu zomwe zimatisangalatsa kumeneko: ntchito kwa ana kuchokera nawo. Ndikukupemphani kuti muwerenge polowera, komwe timapereka zambiri ndipo mutha kuwawona onse pavidiyo.

Kuchokera pabulogu iyi, ndikufuna kukambirana momwe onse awiri amachitira ndi Zopanda Chiwawa. Ndipo amazichita bwanji chifukwa cha chifundo, komanso ndi mphamvu yaikulu. Salankhula chifukwa cha kufooka kapena mantha. Gandhi adanena kale “Pakati pa ziwawa ndi mantha, Ndimakonda zachiwawa”, ndipo kenako adawonetsa kuti panali njira yamphamvu kwambiri kuposa zonse ziwiri, kusachita zachiwawa. Ndikuwona izi ku Kailash komanso ku Malala.

Kailash Satyarthi, amene ndinali ndi mwayi wokumana naye zaka zingapo zapitazo pamsonkhano wokhudza ufulu wa ana, ali ndi ubale wapamtima, ndi chidwi chachikulu ndi zomwe akatswiri ena amachita. Amadziona kuti ndi wolowa m'malo mwa Gandhi's Non-Violence., ndipo wakhala wogwirizira zochitika zingapo mdziko lake komanso padziko lonse lapansi, chifukwa cha luso lake lomvetsera komanso kuphatikiza magulu onse okhudzidwa. Ndipo zimenezo sizinachotse mphamvu zake zopulumutsa antchito a ana ku mikhalidwe yowadyera masuku pamutu., kudalira apolisi aku India ndikuyika pachiwopsezo kukhulupirika kwake (wavulala mobwerezabwereza ndi imfa ya anzake opulumutsa).

Malala Yousafzai adadziwika chifukwa choyambitsa blog kuteteza ufulu wamaphunziro, makamaka ku maphunziro a atsikana onga iye, m'dera la Pakistan lolamulidwa ndi a Taliban. Zotsatira zake, a Taliban anayesa kumupha., koma mwamwayi idapulumuka ndipo ikupitiliza kupanga, koma ku UK kale. Malala akupitiriza kuyankhula, monga akunena, “za maphunziro a anyamata ndi atsikana onse, kuphatikizapo ana aamuna ndi aakazi a Taliban”. Ndipo ndemanga pa kanema mmene panthawiyo, pamene anaopsezedwa kuti adzaphedwa, ndinaganiza zoyankha, ndi momwe adasankhira kuti sakufuna kutenga mzere waukali chifukwa ndiye adzakhala ngati yemwe adamuukira..

Chotero kuzindikirika kwa anthu aŵiri ndi njira ziwiri zosiyana zokhalira kwandidzaza ndi chikhutiro. (mwamunayo, Iye mkazi; iye wamkulu, iye wachinyamata; Mmwenye, iye pakistani; iye hindu, iye Muslim), zomwe, komabe, zimachokera pakuyang'ana kwachifundo ndi mwamphamvu pazochitika zenizeni zaumunthu, ndipo zomwe zimabweretsa kudzipereka ndi zotsatira zenizeni, Pang'onopang'ono. Ndipotu asonyeza kale chidwi chogwira ntchito limodzi., ngakhale kuti sanali kudziwika kale.

Ndikusiya cholowa ichi ngati chikondwerero, komanso monga kudzoza. Zowona kuchokera kwa anthu omwe ndife titha kupeza njira yopita ku Kulumikizana Kowona Kwambiri, ndi kutengapo njira zothetsera mavuto enieni komanso enieni.

Ndikukupemphani kuti mufufuze zambiri za Kailash ndi Malala, ndi kuti mumasangalala ndi chilimbikitso chimene angatipatse.

Xavier

Zindikirani: Ndizosangalatsa kudziwa kuti pali mzere wa ntchito mkati Kuyang'ana kwa anthu ammudzi ku Afghanistan ndi Pakistan, m'madera omwe alangidwa kwambiri ndi a Taliban, kubwezeretsa chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi kugwirizana kudzera mu miyambo ya Sufi, ndi gawo lowonjezera loperekedwa ndi Focusing. Ndikuganiza kuti Malala sakudziwa ntchito imeneyi, koma pali kudzoza kwina.

Masiku angapo apitawo ndinayankhapo mu blog positi ndi Spiral Consulting for Children, komwe ndimagwira ntchito pazokambirana za mabanja ndi akatswiri omwe amagwira ntchito ndi ana, ndi achinyamata, kuti nthaŵi zina msonkhano wowongolera kulankhulana m’banja kapena m’kalasi umakhala wodzutsa chidwi, komanso pambali pa zidziwitso zomwe zapezedwa ndi zida zomwe adaphunzira, anthu ambiri amapempha zinthu zambiri zoti atsamirepo. Ndimakonda kupangira buku Adele Faber ndi Elaine Mazlish (ophunzitsa ndi amayi) ndi mutu wolimbikitsa Momwe mungalankhulire kuti ana anu azimvetsera ndi kumvetsera kuti ana anu azilankhula nanu, njira yolumikizirana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe adawonekera 1980. Kwa zaka zambiri wakhala chizindikiro cha makolo abwino: kumvetsera mwachifundo ndi kutsimikizira pamene mukuika malire ndikufikira mapangano okhutiritsa kwa onse okhudzidwa.

Kulimbikitsidwa ndi zokambirana zomwe olemba onse awiri adachita, Bukuli limapangidwa motsatira zomwe zili m'munsimu: Mutu 1. Momwe mungathandizire ana kuthana ndi malingaliro awo. Mutu 2. Momwe mungalimbikitsire mgwirizano. Mutu 3. M'malo mwa chilango. Mutu 4. Momwe mungayambitsire kudzilamulira. Mutu 5. matamando. Mutu 6. Momwe mungapulumutsire typecasting. Mutu 7. Tiyeni tibwereze. Kuphatikiza Apo, m'magazini atsopano a 2013 kuchokera Mkonzi Medici kumaphatikizapo kuyang'ana mmbuyo kuchokera kwa olemba ku kuphunzira ndi zochitika pazaka zopitirira makumi atatu ndi mawu okhudza mtima a Joanna Faber, ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ngati mwana wamkazi wa wolemba Adele Faber komanso kukumana kwake ndi umayi wake.

Kuchokera pamalingaliro abwino amunthu komanso ubale wamunthu, lembalo lazikidwa pa zifukwa zoyambira ndi zitsanzo zambiri, zina zojambulidwa ndi ma vignettes omwe ali ngati moyo wokha, ndipo nthawi zonse amapereka malingaliro oti agwiritse ntchito ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe ali pafupi nafe. Ngakhale poyamba akukonzekera mabanja, Itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito m'munda wamaphunziro ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu (ngakhale olembawo ali ndi mabuku ena enieni okhudza maphunziro).

Ndipo ngati ana anu aamuna ndi aakazi (kapena ophunzira omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito) iwo ndi akulu, mutha kuyang'ananso bukuli ndi olemba omwewo Momwe mungalankhulire kuti achinyamata azimvetsera komanso kumvetsera kuti achinyamata azilankhula nanu, kupereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana (zoyenera akadzakula) ndi malangizo othandiza nthawi zonse, zimenezo mwina zingakupangitseni kumwetulira.

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kosangalatsa, komanso kuti mumakonda kufufuza njira zatsopano zolankhulirana.

Xavier

Chifukwa cha kufunikira kwake pakukula kwa malingaliro achifundo pa zomwe anthu onse ali nazo, posatengera zaka zathu komanso maluso omwe tapanga, Ndikutengera apa zomwe zili cholembera chomwe ndasindikiza mu Spirals Consultancy for Children, chifukwa chikuwonetsa masomphenya opatsa chiyembekezo amunthu.

Popeza ndinawerenga za chiphunzitso cha multiple intelligences, zoperekedwa ndi kupangidwa ndi psychologist Howard Gardner, Ndinakopeka kwambiri. Katswiri wa zamaganizo waku America uyu adapanga 1983 luntha limenelo silinali lapadera (zomwe muyeso wanthawi zonse ndi nzeru zamasamu ndi zilankhulo), koma zinali zambiri (chiwerengero chakhala chikuwonjezeka pazaka ndi kafukufuku), komanso kuti aliyense wa nzeru akhoza kupangidwa. Kuyambira pamenepo, yaphatikiza kafukufuku ndi chitukuko cha zida zapadera zophunzitsira zamaphunziro athunthu., ndipo ntchito yake yadziwika ndi mabungwe ambiri, kuphatikiza Mphotho ya Prince of Asturias for Social Sciences mu 2011.

Begoña Ibarrola, katswiri wa zamaganizo wokhazikika pakukula kwamalingaliro ali mwana, akutifikitsa ife kufupi ndi nzeru zosiyanasiyana za m’buku lake Nkhani zopezera nzeru, lofalitsidwa ndi Gulu la SM ndi zithunzi zokongola za Anne Decis. Nkhani ya ulendo wa gulu la Earth anyamata ndi atsikana ku Pegasus, kumene amakumana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana achilendo, zimagwira ntchito ngati chowiringula chofufuza nzeru zamalankhulidwe (luso ndi mawu ndi chinenero), logic - masamu (zokhudzana ndi manambala ndi ntchito zomveka), visuo-malo (kuthekera kogwiritsa ntchito deta yapakati komanso yowonera, monga muzojambula ndi uinjiniya), zanyimbo (zikukhudzana bwanji ndi nyimbo), thupi-kinesthetic (chirichonse chokhudzana ndi thupi ndi kuyenda), wamunthu (zokhudzana ndi kuthekera kwa chidziwitso chamkati), wa anthu (zomwe zimagwirizana ndi maubwenzi amagulu ndi magulu), katswiri wa zachilengedwe (tcheru ku chilengedwe) ndi kukhalapo (kutha kulingalira za kukhalapo ndi nkhani zina zamafilosofi). Chigawo chilichonse cha gulu la Earth chikuphatikizidwa ndi china kuchokera ku Pegasus ndipo palimodzi amafufuza nzeru zomwe amaimira m'nkhani zosiyanasiyana za bukhuli..

Zoperekedwa kwa anyamata ndi atsikana aku Primary (ngakhale angagwiritsidwe ntchito kuyambira zaka zinayi), nkhani iliyonse imayambitsidwa ndi mndandanda wa malangizo ndi malingaliro a ntchito kwa mabanja ndi akatswiri. Ndikuganiza kuti ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kufufuza ndi ana maluso awo osiyanasiyana ndikudziwitsa anthu powakulitsa., pamene akulimbikitsa kudzidziwa komanso kudzidalira. Tsidya, Ndi buku lomwe limathandiza kuyamikira zosiyanasiyana mwa kuchitira umboni zonse zomwe luntha lililonse limathandizira (Ndipo atha kulongosola zomwe Abwenzi awo akuwabweretsera kuchokera ku kuthekera kwa aliyense).

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Monga ndanenera kale mu “Takulandilani kubulogu”, lingaliro ndilakuti blog iyi ikufuna kukhala ngati malo osungiramo zinthu, kotero kuti mitundu yonse ya zida ndi malingaliro apezeke omwe amathandizira kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka ndi anthu ena komanso dziko lathu lamkati. Monga padzakhala zosiyanasiyana zosiyanasiyana, Ndikufuna kufotokoza apa malemba osiyanasiyana omwe nditi ndigwiritse ntchito kuyika zolembazo.

• CNV: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Yofatsa Kulankhulana, momveka bwino kapena zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ali nazo “Chidziwitso cha CNV”.
• Malemba CNV: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Yofatsa Kulankhulana.
• Kuganizira: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Kuganizira kapena chinthu chofanana kwambiri.
• Kuganizira ku Madrid: adzasonkhanitsa maphunziro a Focusing ku Madrid ndi madera ozungulira (Mwachitsanzo, mu Miraflores de A La Sierra, ola limodzi kuchokera ku Madrid).
• Textos Kuganizira: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Kuganizira.
• Spirals CI: pali zolemba zomwe zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana pa nkhani zamaganizo, chitetezo ndi kulumikizana pakati pa anthu, ndipo ndikufuna kunenanso mu blog iyi.
• Other Texts: Pali mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata, popanda kufotokozedwa momveka bwino kuchokera ku maphunziro aliwonse omwe akuperekedwa, ali ndi mgwirizano wamba komanso mtengo womwe umanditsogolera kuti ndiwatchule mubulogu iyi.
• Websites: masamba, blog ndi intaneti zothandizira.
• Videos: makanema ambiri, kuphatikiza ndi zolemba zina zomwe zimafotokoza zomwe zili.
• Movies: zolemba ndi mafilimu, zonse zozikidwa pa zenizeni ndi zopeka, zomwe zikuwoneka zogwirizana ndi chidwi chomwe ndikufuna kupanga ndi blog iyi.
• Nkhani: masewera a sopo (komanso nkhani ndi mabuku a ana ndi achinyamata) zomwe zimatipangitsa kusangalala ndi chifundo chomwe timakhala nacho Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi iye Kuganizira.
• Zokumana Nazo: nthawi zina moyo umatibweretsera zodabwitsa, zokumana nazo zomwe zimatipangitsa kulingaliranso zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kapena kutsimikizira zomwe timapanga, ndi zochitika zomwe ndisonkhanitsa ndi epigraph iyi.
• Ana: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mosalunjika ndi ana.
• Pakuti Achinyamata: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina ndi achinyamata.
• Charo enieni ndi Adasungidwa charo: Ndimapereka maphunziro ambiri kumagulu otsekedwa omwe adapangidwa kale, koma pakanthawi kochepa ndikapereka maphunziro otseguka kwa anthu wamba kapena anthu ena, ndimawapachika ndi zilembo izi., “Charo enieni” bola ngati sichinakondweretsedwe ndi “Adasungidwa charo” pamene tsiku la chochitika chadutsa, koma kwa mbiri ndipo mutha kuwona magawo a maphunziro omwe ndimapereka.

Monga mukuwonera, magulu ambiri amalumikizana. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti aliyense amafufuza ndikupeza zomwe zili zothandiza komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo padzakhala ena amene adzawonjezedwa.

Pezani mwayi!