Masiku angapo apitawo ndinayankhapo mu blog positi ndi Spiral Consulting for Children, komwe ndimagwira ntchito pazokambirana za mabanja ndi akatswiri omwe amagwira ntchito ndi ana, ndi achinyamata, kuti nthaŵi zina msonkhano wowongolera kulankhulana m’banja kapena m’kalasi umakhala wodzutsa chidwi, komanso pambali pa zidziwitso zomwe zapezedwa ndi zida zomwe adaphunzira, anthu ambiri amapempha zinthu zambiri zoti atsamirepo. Ndimakonda kupangira buku Adele Faber ndi Elaine Mazlish (ophunzitsa ndi amayi) ndi mutu wolimbikitsa Momwe mungalankhulire kuti ana anu azimvetsera ndi kumvetsera kuti ana anu azilankhula nanu, njira yolumikizirana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe adawonekera 1980. Kwa zaka zambiri wakhala chizindikiro cha makolo abwino: kumvetsera mwachifundo ndi kutsimikizira pamene mukuika malire ndikufikira mapangano okhutiritsa kwa onse okhudzidwa.

Kulimbikitsidwa ndi zokambirana zomwe olemba onse awiri adachita, Bukuli limapangidwa motsatira zomwe zili m'munsimu: Mutu 1. Momwe mungathandizire ana kuthana ndi malingaliro awo. Mutu 2. Momwe mungalimbikitsire mgwirizano. Mutu 3. M'malo mwa chilango. Mutu 4. Momwe mungayambitsire kudzilamulira. Mutu 5. matamando. Mutu 6. Momwe mungapulumutsire typecasting. Mutu 7. Tiyeni tibwereze. Kuphatikiza Apo, m'magazini atsopano a 2013 kuchokera Mkonzi Medici kumaphatikizapo kuyang'ana mmbuyo kuchokera kwa olemba ku kuphunzira ndi zochitika pazaka zopitirira makumi atatu ndi mawu okhudza mtima a Joanna Faber, ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ngati mwana wamkazi wa wolemba Adele Faber komanso kukumana kwake ndi umayi wake.

Kuchokera pamalingaliro abwino amunthu komanso ubale wamunthu, lembalo lazikidwa pa zifukwa zoyambira ndi zitsanzo zambiri, zina zojambulidwa ndi ma vignettes omwe ali ngati moyo wokha, ndipo nthawi zonse amapereka malingaliro oti agwiritse ntchito ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe ali pafupi nafe. Ngakhale poyamba akukonzekera mabanja, Itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito m'munda wamaphunziro ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu (ngakhale olembawo ali ndi mabuku ena enieni okhudza maphunziro).

Ndipo ngati ana anu aamuna ndi aakazi (kapena ophunzira omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito) iwo ndi akulu, mutha kuyang'ananso bukuli ndi olemba omwewo Momwe mungalankhulire kuti achinyamata azimvetsera komanso kumvetsera kuti achinyamata azilankhula nanu, kupereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana (zoyenera akadzakula) ndi malangizo othandiza nthawi zonse, zimenezo mwina zingakupangitseni kumwetulira.

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kosangalatsa, komanso kuti mumakonda kufufuza njira zatsopano zolankhulirana.

Xavier