Malingaliro akuya aulemu ndi malingaliro apadera a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amadza kwa ine pamene ndigawana nawo zokambiranazi. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”, monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera. Ndi phunziro lofunika kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito zambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, kampani yolangizira yapadziko lonse yomwe imagwira ntchito pa Child Protection I yomwe inayambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro ake onse nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta.

Bungwe la International Focusing Institute (bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa ntchito zapadziko lonse lapansi Zoyang'ana zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalikira) amalimbikitsa kawiri pamwezi “Zokambirana” ndi Focusing akatswiri padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ku Cambridge (UK), amachita ngati wolandira, ndipo amatero molunjika kwambiri -kulingalira, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuwonekera ndikukula mu nthawi yawo.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mudzapeza nkhani zokambidwa monga zotsatirazi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadachitika kuti zinthu zipitirire patsogolo, ndipo sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo chovulaza chimachokera m'thupi.
• Kupeza chogwirira chiwawa (kuzizindikiritsa izo) ndi sitepe yoyamba kutulukamo: kudziwa miyambo yathu yomwe imapangitsa kuti chiwawa chizichitika.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu ziwawa.
• Chikondi cholumikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera ziwawa - komanso momwe thupi limakhudzidwira kudzera mu Focusing.
• Kuzindikira zachiwawa ndi kulowererapo mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudza machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chodabwitsa chochitira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mupeza lingaliro kapena ziwiri zomwe zingalimbikitse ntchito yanu yokhudzana ndi zachiwawa, ndipo ndimakonda kumva kuchokera kwa inu za izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani izi mu Spanish (ngakhale kuyankhulana komwe kuli mu Chingerezi).