mwa nthawi zonse, Mu blog iyi ndikugawana zinthu zomwe zimadutsana ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana ndi zokonda zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo. Pachifukwa ichi ndili ndi chikhutiro chogawana bukhuli mawu kusintha. Njira kalozera wofunsira ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ali m'nyumba zogona, zomwe timapanga Peppa Oven ndipo ndimayima UNICEF ku Spain.

Zinali zokhutiritsa kulandira bungweli kuti likonze ndondomekoyi polemba m'njira yotsika mtengo.. Imodzi mwa ntchito yathu potsagana ndi mabungwe aboma ndi azinsinsi achitetezo kuno ku Spain komanso m'maiko ena pakuwongolera kwawo ndikuwonetsetsa omwe akupikisana nawo.: ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe amakhala m'malo otetezedwa. Ndipo iwo ali akatswiri pa miyoyo yawo, ndipo nthawi zambiri mabungwe amaiwala kuwafunsa, mwatsoka.

Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi chisangalalo chachikulu kuti UNICEF ku Spain, mkati mwa ntchito yake yolimbikitsa kutenga nawo mbali kwa ana ndi achinyamata, watipempha kuti tifotokoze njira yosavuta yofunsira ana amenewa, ndi achinyamata. Timakambirana zambiri za izo mu blog ya Spiral Consulting for Children.

Mkati mwake muli kalozera waukadaulo komanso wothandiza, Kwa ine, mawonekedwe a kulankhulana pakati pa anthu: tingalankhule bwanji akulu, momwe tingapangire malo oyenera komanso momwe tingamvetsere ana, ndi achinyamata. Mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito amatha kuyambitsa kulankhulana kapena kutseka, Ndicho chifukwa chake njira zomwe timapereka ndizomveka bwino.: ulemu, kuphatikizidwa ndi protagonism ya ana okha, ndi achinyamata.

Ndipo talimbikiranso kusinthasintha ndi kusintha kwa ana onse, ndi achinyamata, kupereka malangizo othandizira kulowererapo kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya magwiridwe antchito, kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe (makamaka ndi anyamata ndi atsikana osatsagana nawo) ndi omwe ali ndi vuto la thanzi komanso zoopsa. Mawu awo, monga tikunenera mutuwo, wamva bwino, akhoza kusintha moyo wawo kukhala wabwino.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda komanso kuti mukuipeza yosangalatsa.

F. Javier Romeo

Chimodzi mwa ntchito zanga monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mnzanga pazochitika zaumwini ndi za bungwe ndizopeza njira zolankhulirana mauthenga ovuta kupyolera mu mafanizo ndi mafananidwe.. M'malo mwake “Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati”, zomwe ndapereka kale mu post ina iyi, tidapereka zovuta zingapo ndi malingaliro owongolera chitetezo cha ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ku Spain (Ndipo mu dziko lonse).

Mwezi uno ndagwirizana ndi nkhaniyi “Timatsagana ndi munthu amene tili”, yomwe imagwiritsa ntchito mafananidwe pakati pa zomwe tikuchita polimbana ndi mliriwu komanso zomwe tikuyenera kuzisamalira poyenda ndi ana., atsikana ndi achinyamata amene avutika kwambiri. Ndi njira yodziwitsa anthu momwe timakhalira komanso momwe timachitira, zonse payekha komanso mwaukadaulo.

Ndipo inu mudzaziwona izo, mwa nthawi zonse, Ndikuumirira kufunika kwa maphunziro mu zoopsa ndi kukumbukira mtengo wa Kuganizira, Ndimaona kuti ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri tsiku ndi tsiku..

Ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mukuganiza komanso momwe mumakhalira.

F. Javier Romeo

Masiku angapo apitawo ndinalandira satifiketi monga wodzipereka wa utumiki wafoni wa Official College of Psychology of Madrid. Mu mphindi izi “zatsopano zabwinobwino” Chakhala chikumbutso cha nthawi zovuta za m'ndende, pakati pa Marichi ndi Meyi chaka chino 2020. ndi kuchokera ku bata (kwakanthawi) zenizeni, Ndikuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yabwino yokonza zomwe ndakumana nazo. Ndipo mawu anai amabwera kwa ine kuti afanizire izo: kudzipereka, chipiriro, kudzichepetsa ndi kuzindikira.

Pamene lockdown idayamba funso langa loyambirira linali “Kodi ndingathandizire bwanji??”. Kuchokera ku Espirales Consulting for Children talandira zopempha zambiri zomwe takwanitsa kupezekapo, Koma izi zidzakhala mutu wa positi ina ya blog.. Koma, nthawi yomweyo, panali gawo lina, kuchokera pakudzipereka, Mukufuna kupereka chiyani?. Pakati pa ntchito zambiri ndi zothandizira amene anapereka Official College of Psychology of Madrid, kupezeka pafoni ndi anthu omwe amafunikira kumandikwanira bwino. Kuchokera pamenepo, Ndaona kuti ndi wamtengo wapatali kukhala m’gulu limeneli lomwe lakhala pafupi ndi nzika zake malinga ndi mmene chuma chake chandilolezera.. Izi kwa ine zikugwirizana ndi psychology, kupatula kukhala ntchito yanga, komanso amaganiza a kudzipereka za umoyo wa anthu ndi madera. Tawona kudzipereka kwa anthu ambiri ndi magulu ambiri akatswiri, ndipo ichi chakhala chathu: perekani kumvetsera ndi chithandizo kwa omwe akuchifuna.

Chiyambi cha utumiki wa telefoni chinali chachikulu kwa ine. Mafoni sanali ambiri, koma inde yaitali ndi zovuta. Kuchokera pachisoni pa imfa ya anthu kupita ku zovuta zamaganizo. Ndipo kusirira kwanga pakutha chipiriro wa munthu aliyense amene ndinamutumikira. Ndimakonda kunena “kupirira”, mawu omwe timakonda kwambiri mu psychology. Koma “kupirira” zikutanthauza “kutsutsa” ndi “konzanso”, ndipo pakuyimba foni kumodzi pa munthu aliyense ndidangowona gawo lake “kutsutsa”. Ndikaona mpumulo umene ulipo chifukwa cha ukhondo, ndimakumbukira munthu aliyense amene ndinapitako, ndi kuchuluka kwa masautso anu, ndipo ndikudabwa kuti adzakhala bwanji. Kodi akumva kukhumudwa kuti sizinachitike bwino panthawiyo?? Kodi adzakhala akusangalala ndi kupuma ndi kukhudzana? Chikumbukiro changa chili ndi anthu omwe adakumana ndi zovuta zotere, ndi kuti adzayenera kupeza mphamvu kuti apitirize kukana ndi, Ndikulakalaka, kuti athe kupirira komanso kumanganso.

Zochitika zonsezi zandidzutsa kwambiri kudzichepetsa. Coronavirus nthawi zambiri imakhala kuyitanira ku chikumbumtima, kuti monga anthu timaganizira momwe tikuchitira padziko lapansi ndikuyang'ana njira zowongolera. Za ine, monga katswiri wa zamaganizo, zokumana nazo zonsezi zikulingalira machiritso a kudzichepetsa. Pali mavuto ambiri amene sindingathe kuwasamalira, koma kwa iye amene afika, adafika. Pali anthu omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri m'maganizo mwawo kuti sindikudziwa kutsagana nawo, ndipo ndiyenera kupitiriza maphunziro. Ndipo pali zinthu zambiri zoti ndisinthe moti nthawi zina ndimaona kuti n’zopanda chiyembekezo, koma kudzipereka kwanga ndikupitiriza kukulitsa chiyembekezo.

Y, kamodzinso kena, zomwe zandichitikira zandiyitanira kuzindikira. Poyang'anizana ndi kuzunzika kwaumunthu, m'pofunika kukhala osati akatswiri okha, komanso ngati munthu. kukhudzana ndi anthu, zomwe taphonya kwambiri panthawi yomwe tinali m'ndende, ndi gwero la moyo wabwino (zikachitika muubwenzi wabwino). Chisamaliro chamalingaliro chakhala kuti ndikhalepo, ndi chisoni komanso ndi kusatetezeka kwanga (koma kutenga ulamuliro wa moyo wanga).

Ndipo zokumana nazo zonsezi tsopano zimandibweretsera chiyamikiro, onse ku COP Madrid, makamaka amene atsogolera ntchitoyi, monga iwo amene analimba mtima kuitana ndi kudalira ife amene tinapezeka nawo. Ndikuthokoza anthu onsewa chifukwa cha kulimba mtima kwawo.

Ndipo zofuna zanga zabwino za gawo latsopanoli.

F. Javier Romeo

Zambiri za Roundtable on Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) bungwe la International Focusing Institute kudzera mu Komiti Yake Yaumembala. Monga ndi chochitika cham'mbuyo chidziwitsochi sichikupezekanso patsamba la TIFI ndipo chasinthidwa moyenerera.

Mawu mu Spanish – Chijapani – Dinani apa kuti muwerenge mu Chingerezi

The International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) mu Julayi 2016 akupitiriza kubala zipatso.

Lero ndili ndi mwayi wopereka kumasulira kwa nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Lingalirani zozama zakuya” (adawonekera mkati 2014 mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy) ku japanese, ndi mutu wolimbikitsa “Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana Kwachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-“.

Con Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

Ku Cambridge ndinasangalala kukumana ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), psychotherapist wophunzitsidwa mu Focusing yemwe adayamba kumasulira nkhaniyi nthawi yayitali, Kale Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Woyang'anira Wodziwika bwino, amene analowa nawo ntchito yomasulira m’gawo lake lomaliza. Zokambirana zathu zapamsonkhanowu zidapangitsa kuti ntchitoyi ipite patsogolo, ndipo tsopano pali kumasulira kosamala komwe kulipo pa webusayiti ya Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), ndi zomwe ndikuzitulutsa apa ndi chilolezo chake.

Kuchokera pano ndikufuna kuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha khama lawo komanso kudzipereka kwawo (pakhala pali maimelo ambiri mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo kuti afotokoze malingaliro ndi mawu) kotero kuti gawo ili la Focusing lidziwike pakati pa akatswiri ambiri ndi akatswiri a Focusing ku Japan..

mu kuyamika kwakukulu,

Xavier

Chijapani

Msonkhano wa 27 wa International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (UK)mano、Kubweretsa zotsatira zolemetsa。

tsopano、Ine、pepala"Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusachita Zachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-"("Academic Journal for Focusing and Experience Process Therapy"The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential TherapyVol. 25, No. 1、2014Ndine wolemekezeka kuti (lofalitsidwa m'chaka) linamasuliridwa ku Japan.。

Bambo Kawahara

Ku Cambridge、Counselor En Kawahara yemwe akuphunzitsidwa Focusing、Ndinakumana mosangalala ndi Mayi Mako Hikasa, Wotsogolera Woyang'anira Wodziwika bwino wa Certified Focusing Coordinator.。Chifukwa、A Kawahara akugwira kale ntchito yomasulira、Ndipo pa gawo lomaliza la polojekitiyi、Mako HikasaWajowina。Pambuyo pa msonkhano wapadziko lonse、Timalumikizana kuti timalize kumasulira、Ndipo tsopano、Kumasulira kwenikweni kwa Chijapanizi kwamalizidwa。izi ndi、Tsamba la Japan Focusing AssociationMukhoza kuwerenga pa。Kuchokera ku mgwirizano、Ndalandira chilolezo choyika ulalo。

Ndimachita chidwi ndi chidwi chawo komanso chidwi chawo、Ndine woyamikira kwambiri。Kufotokozera malingaliro ndi ma nuances、Kusinthitsa maimelo pafupipafupi。Kwa akatswiri ambiri ovomerezeka a Focusing ndi akatswiri ku Japan、Chifukwa ndi mwayi wodziwa mbali iyi ya Focusing.。

Ndi chiyamiko

Javier

Mawu achingerezi

Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse Woganizira Kwambiri 2016 ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) akupitiriza kubweretsa zipatso zambiri.

Tsopano ndili ndi mwayi wopereka nkhani yanga “Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication: Kuganizira Zozama Zake”, zomwe zidawoneka mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy mu 2014, kumasuliridwa m'Chijapani ndi mutu “Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana Kwachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-“.

Ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

Ku Cambridge ndinasangalala kukumana ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), katswiri wa zamaganizo wophunzitsidwa mu Focusing yemwe anali atayamba kale kumasulira nthawi ina yapitayo, ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), wodziwika bwino wa Focusing Coordinator yemwe adalowa nawo ntchitoyi pomaliza. Zokambirana zomwe tidakambirana pambuyo pa msonkhanowu zapangitsa kuti ntchitoyi ithe, ndipo tsopano tili ndi kumasulira kolondola kumeneku, zomwe zikupezeka pa webusayiti ya Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), kupangidwanso apa ndi chilolezo.

Ndikufuna kuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha chidwi chawo komanso khama lawo –pakhala pali maimelo ambiri kuti afotokoze malingaliro ndi ma nuances– kuti zitheke kuti gawo ili la Kukhazikika lidziwike pakati pa akatswiri ambiri Okhazikika komanso akatswiri ku Japan..

Mu chiyamiko,

Xavier

Lero ndikufuna kugawana vidiyoyi yofalitsidwa ndi a International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute) ndi Gene Gendlin, bambo wa Kuganizira, momwe amalankhulira momwe “timasiyana tikamacheza ndi anthu osiyanasiyana”. Mwachidule chojambulirachi koma chodzaza ndi zinthu, Gendlin explica (ndi ma subtitles achi Spanish, zomwe zimatha kuyatsa ndi kuzimitsa) kuti izi zili ndi chotsatira kuti pogawana china chake ndi munthu wina, Kukhala ndi munthu wina kumathandizira kusintha.

Kanema wopatsa chidwi komanso wolimbikitsa. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda.

Xavier

Chithunzi cha ANSEMBOURG, Tomasi. siyani kukhala wabwino; Khalani owona! kope lojambulidwa. Courier yotumizira, 2015.

Thomas d'Ansembourg Ndilo umboni wapadziko lonse lapansi ku Yofatsa Kulankhulana (ndi umboni waumwini kwa ine, popeza maphunziro anga mu NVC adayamba ndi iye ndikuzama ndikutsagana naye). Tsopano akugawana chidziŵitso chake chakuya cha chibadwa cha munthu ndi kawonedwe kake kachifundo ka mikangano m’chifanizo chazithunzithunzi. (kwenikweni mu mawonekedwe a comic) m'buku lake loyamba, siyani kukhala wabwino; Khalani owona!, wogulitsa kwambiri komanso gwero losatha la kulingalira.

m'kabukhu kakang'ono aka, ndi mafanizo ake Alexis Nouailhat, zosavuta komanso zolimbikitsa, Thomas d'Ansembourg akufotokoza nkhani yake (Mutu 1, “Munthu uyu ndi ndani?”), imasanthula mwanthabwala komanso momveka bwino mavuto ena omwe timakumana nawo monga anthu (Mutu 2, “Kodi mukufuna kutuluka mumisampha?”) ndipo akufunsira “Malingaliro ena a Nonviolent Communication” (Mutu 3) kuti tiyambe kusintha maganizo athu (ndipo potero amasintha ubale wathu ndi miyoyo yathu), ndi kutseka ndi wopambana “Mapeto”.

Ndi nthabwala komanso mopepuka, bukuli limatithandiza kutchera khutu pa moyo wathu, ndi kukhalapo kwakukulu komanso kuthekera kosintha. Ndizosangalatsa kuti Mkonzi wa Mensajero wasindikiza, ndipo ndizotheka onani zitsanzo za zomwe zili mkati ndi zithunzi zina patsamba lawo.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Xavier

Chaka chinanso, Ndi chisangalalo ndi ulemu kwa ine kutenganso nawo gawo mu V Msonkhano wa Ogwira Ntchito Zosagwirizana ndi Zachiwawa yolembedwa ndi Association for Nonviolent Communication, kutsogolera msonkhano wanga chaka chino “Kulankhulana Kopanda Zachiwawa ndi Kuyikira Kwambiri. Mulingo wathupi wa zosowa”.

Madeti athunthu: cha friday 11 ku Sunday 13 March 2016.

Malo: Hostel ya San Servando
Cuesta de San Servando s/n
Toledo

Kuti muwerenge zambiri, pemphani kumveketsa ndi kulembetsa, kupita ku tsamba lodziwika bwino la zochitika.

Kuti tiphunzire pang'ono za zoyambira zongopeka za zomwe tigwiritse ntchito, popeza Marshall Rosenberg mwiniwake anali mbali ya ndondomeko ya Kuganizira m’magawo ena omvetsera ndikulimbikitsa, mutha kuwona nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”, lofalitsidwa mu chiwerengero cha 2014 wa The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yovomerezeka yamaphunziro a The Focusing Institute (New York Focusing Institute).

Ndikhulupilira tingakumane kumeneko.

Xavier

[kulowa koyamba kwa 1 March 2016, kusinthidwa ku 13 March 2016, tsiku lomaliza la chochitika].

Ndimakonda kulangiza ntchito zomwe poyambilira zimangoyang'ana anthu wamba kuti aphunzitse maphunziro apamtima komanso ozama monga Kuganizira ndi Yofatsa Kulankhulana. Trilogy iyi imagwera m'gulu limenelo..

“Munthu: Kanemayo” ndi zolemba zamtundu wa trilogy zomwe zimatiwonetsa zidutswa za zoyankhulana ndi anthu opitilira zikwi ziwiri. (ngakhale m'mawu omaliza kusankha kwa anthu mazana awiri kumawonekera) kulankhula za zinthu zonse zimene zimatipanga ife kukhala “anthu”. Anthu amisinkhu yonse (ngakhale ana ochepa kwambiri amawonekera, atsikana ndi achinyamata molingana, ndi nkhani zovuta kwambiri onse a iwo), zamitundu yonse, kuchokera ku makontinenti onse. Ndi chokumana nacho chanzeru, molunjika kwambiri: palibe mafunso kuchokera kwa ofunsa, palibe dubbing (njira zonse zimawonekera ndi mawu am'munsi, kotero kuti liwu loyambirira limveke), popanda deta yochokera kwa munthu aliyense (kokha nthawi zina amatchula dziko lawo, koma nthawi zambiri mutha kungolingalira za kontinenti yake, pokhapokha ngati mawu ang'onoang'ono atsegulidwa), opanda malire (zoyankhulana zonse zimachitika ndi maziko amdima omwewo, ngakhale nthawi zina phokoso lochokera ku chilengedwe limayambitsidwa). Ndi anthu akumvetsera ndi kuyang'ana pa kamera pamene ena akulankhula, ndipo palibenso china. ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi, mawonedwe amlengalenga a malo odabwitsa, malo achilengedwe ndi mawonekedwe a anthu, ndi nyimbo zapadziko lonse lapansi (zomwe zimakhala zokopa makamaka zikagwiritsidwa ntchito popanda kugwirizana ndi chithunzicho: malo aku Africa okhala ndi nyimbo zaku Asia, Mwachitsanzo, zomwe zimatsimikiziranso za chilengedwe chonse cha munthu).

Wojambula ndi wopanga mafilimu Yann Artus-Bertrand, wodziwika chifukwa cha ntchito yake yayitali yoteteza zachilengedwe komanso chikhalidwe cha anthu, wayamba pa trilogy yochititsa chidwiyi, zomwe cholinga chake ndi kukhala chothandizira chimodzi chowonjezera pa chithunzi cha munthu m'miyeso yake yosiyana. ndi nyali zake, komanso ndi mithunzi yofunika. Mawonekedwe a filimuyo amakhudza chilichonse: kuyambira zabwino mpaka zoyipa, zomwe zimamasula ndi zomwe zimakhala akapolo, zomwe zimapereka tanthauzo ndi zopanda pake za moyo wamakono…

Pali dongosolo linalake la mitu, zomwe zingatchulidwe ngati kalozera:

“Munthu: Kanemayo (kuchuluka 1)”: chikondi (m'njira zosiyanasiyana), ntchito ndi umphawi. Kwambiri kuyambira mphindi yoyamba, kusinkhasinkha pa zinthu zitatu izi za moyo wa munthu.

“Munthu: Kanemayo (kuchuluka 2)”: nkhondo, kuopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, imfa ndi mavuto a m’banja. Odziwika bwino kwambiri mokomera ulemu waumunthu muzochitika zonse, ngakhale ndizovuta kuzindikira.

“Munthu: Kanemayo (kuchuluka 3)”: chisangalalo, Maphunziro, kulumala, mgwirizano ndi dziko lapansi, Tanthauzo la moyo, chilungamo ndi zochita za anthu. Kuyang'ana mbali zina zomwe zimafuna kuti tiyime (zabwino kwa anthu, timamvetsetsa masankhidwe a mauthenga).

Ndi ntchito yoyenera kuwonedwa ndi bata, mu zidutswa za mphindi makumi awiri kapena makumi atatu, kuchigaya mozama. Imayankha mafunso ambiri ndipo imatipempha kuti tiyankhe kuchokera mkati. Mutha kuwonanso zidule zazitali za anthu ena, zomwe zingasankhidwe ndi mutu kapena uthenga wawo, ndipo amaphatikizapo anthu amene nthawi zina saoneka m’filimuyo.

Ndipo ife amene timaonera filimu iliyonse tikhoza kusankha: Kodi tigawane munthu aliyense molingana ndi kachidutswa komwe kakuchokeramo? Kapena tidzatha kumvetsera momasuka, kuyesera kumuwona ndi malingaliro ake ndi zosowa zake, ndi zomverera zomwe iye ayenera kukhala nazo mu moyo wake kuti aziyankhula monga choncho, ndi umunthu wake ndi chinsinsi chake?

Ndikukupemphani kuti muwonere makanema ndikupeza zambiri za umunthu wathu womwe timagawana nawo, ndi za munthu aliyense makamaka.

Xavier

Sabata ino ndakhala ndi mwayi wochita nawo masewerawa Ndi Congress of Emotional Education ya Navarra, opangidwa ndi Makolo Ophunzitsidwa. Yakhala msonkhano wokonzedwa ndi chidwi chachikulu, ndi chisamaliro chachikulu ndi mlingo wabwino wa kulimbika mtima. Ulaliki wanga unakhudza mwachindunji “Maphunziro okhudzidwa omwe amateteza ku nkhanza zogonana”, imodzi mwamitu yomwe ndimagwirako Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, amene ine ndiri membala woyambitsa. Koma pamapeto pake panali tebulo lozungulira lomwe linali ndi mafunso kwa gulu la okamba nkhani, zomwe timagawana ndi kuwongolera kwa Sonsoles Echevarren, Mtolankhani wa Diario de Navarra. Inali nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale mafunso anayankhidwa kwa wokamba nkhani aliyense, pamapeto pake panali ambiri omwe ambiri adatenga nawo mbali. M’nkhaniyi panabuka funso lochititsa chidwi kwambiri, “Momwe mungamvere mwana yemwe akukana kuchoka paki?”. Mayankho ochititsa chidwi ndi ofunika anaperekedwa, ndipo ndinapereka chopereka changa: “Kumva 'inde'’ mu 'ayi'”.

Ine chotero kupulumutsa nkhani yanga mu blog Mvetserani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘, yomwe idasindikizidwa mu nambala 52 (ya Januware ya 2011) Magazini Ngodya yathu ya 0-6, lofalitsidwa ndi ACCENT (pakadali pano sikupitilirabe kutulutsa manambala atsopano, ngakhale zilipo). M'nkhaniyi ndikufotokozera mozama zomwe ndidatsutsana nazo: Pamene munthu (ndipo mnyamata kapena mtsikana alinso munthu) dayisi “ayi”, akuti “Inde” ku zinthu zambiri, ndipo ngati timvera uthenga wonse, tidzatha kupanga mgwirizano wozama ndikupeza njira yokhutiritsa kwa maphwando onse. Nkhaniyi ikuyamba motere:

Ana, zaka ziwiri ndi theka, sakufuna kuvala malaya ake kuti atuluke panja. José, zaka zinayi, sakufuna kutsika panjira kupita kunyumba. Irene, wa zaka zisanu, safuna kukagona. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani safuna kucita zinthu zooneka ngati zoyenela kwa ife monga akulu??

Ndipo tidzatani kenako? Kodi tingagonje ndi kuwalola kuchita zimene akufuna?? Choncho timakhumudwa chifukwa sitikugwirizana ndi maphunziro awo., ndipo zimatipatsanso malingaliro osiya pambali zomwe ifenso tikufuna monga anthu. Kodi timawakakamiza kuchita zimene tikufuna?? Kotero ndife otsimikizika kukambirana ndi chikhalidwe choipa kwa nthawi yaitali., ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi timawaphunzitsa kuti pamapeto pake chofunika ndicho kukhala ndi mphamvu kapena mphamvu, ndipo kukambirana kumeneko kumangogwira ntchito pamene muli ofooka. Muzochitika zanga zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo pali njira yachitatu, kutengera kulumikizana mwakuya muzochitika zonsezi. Ndipo luso limodzi lomwe timakulitsa m'misonkhano yomwe ndimathandizira ndikutha kumvetsera zomwe akunena “Inde” anyamata ndi atsikana athu akamati “ayi”.

Tsitsani nkhani yonse “mverani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘

Ndikukhulupirira mukuwapeza osangalatsa.

Xavier