Ingxenye yomsebenzi wami njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nomngane ezinqubweni zomuntu siqu nezenhlangano ukuthola izindlela zokudlulisa imilayezo eyinkimbinkimbi ngokusebenzisa izingathekiso nezifaniso.. Ngokuhamba phambili “Ukuvuselelwa ngaphakathi”, esengizethulile kulokhu okunye ukungena, Siphakamisa izinselelo neziphakamiso ezimbalwa zokuthuthukisa uhlelo lokuvikela izingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha eSpain (Nasemhlabeni wonke).

Kule nyanga ngibe nesandla esihlokweni “Sihamba nomuntu esiyikho”, esebenzisa ama-analogies phakathi kwezinyathelo esizithathayo lapho sibhekene nalolu bhubhane kanye nezici okudingeka sizinakekele lapho siphelezela izingane., amantombazane kanye nentsha eye yahlupheka kakhulu. Kuyindlela yokuqwashisa ngendlela yethu yokwenza nokwenza, kokubili ngokomuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi.

Futhi uzobona lokho, njengenjwayelo, Ngigcizelela ukubaluleka ukuqeqeshwa kokuhlukumezeka futhi ngikhumbula ukubaluleka Ukugxilisa, okuyithuluzi eliwusizo kakhulu kimina usuku nosuku.

Ngingathanda ukwazi ukuthi ucabangani nokuthi uphila kanjani.

F. Javier Romeo

Kuleli hlobo bengidinga ukunqamula, futhi sengikuzuzile. Ezingeni lengqondo, kodwa nange-elekthronikhi. Futhi kube ngokuyinhloko ngenxa yokufunda I-Digital Minimalism, of Cal Newport, umbhali engimthandayo isitimela sakhe somcabango, Ngizama ukukusebenzisa futhi ngincoma.

Ngale ncwadi, onombhalo ongezansi osikiselayo “Ekuvikeleni ukunakekelwa ezweni elinomsindo”, Ngilolonge uhlobo lobudlelwano engifuna ukuba nabo nezinkundla zokuxhumana: zisebenzise ngokuqaphela, ukusizakala ngamathuba okuxhumana nokuxhumana nabanye abantu nezinhlangano ezithakazelisayo, kodwa ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ukulawula isikhathi sami, yokunakekelwa kwami ​​​​noma inhlalakahle yami engokomzwelo. Ibhalwe ngephrozi ehlanganisa ukuchayeka kocwaningo oluqinile nama-anecdotes ajabulisayo enza amaphuzu abalulekile akhombe..

Futhi into engcono kakhulu ukuthi akukhona ukushiya wonke amanethiwekhi omphakathi, kodwa ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwayo emazingeni anele obuchopho bethu. Incwadi iqala ngesiphakamiso sokuthi 30 izinsuku ngaphandle kwamanethiwekhi omphakathi bese ubethula kancane kancane, ngendlela efanele izithakazelo zethu. Ngihlale u-August wonke ngingawavuli ama-akhawunti ami Twitter futhi I-LinkedIn futhi, nakuba ekuqaleni kwangibiza, Ngize ngoSepthemba ngivuselelwe. Manje ngiwavula kabili noma kathathu ngesonto, ngenhloso, ukubona izihloko ezingithakazelisa ngempela, futhi sengithole izindlela ezimbalwa ezithakazelisayo ngaphandle kokuhlupheka imiyalezo eshubile ye “izihloko ezihamba phambili”.

Futhi ingxenye engcono kakhulu ukuthi iCal Newport ayihlali “yeka ukusetshenziswa okungafanele kwezinkundla zokuxhumana”, kodwa futhi ithuthukisa izindlela ezine zokusebenzisa isikhathi esisishiyelwe sona:

• Thatha ithuba lokuba wedwa, ngesikhathi sokuxhumana kwangaphakathi.
• Shiya i “okuthandayo” njengendlela yobudlelwano futhi esikhundleni sabo ufake izingxoxo eziqondile (Funda kuphela, ngefoni noma ngekholi yevidiyo), ekusebenzelaneni kwangempela okujwayelane namandla ethu emizwelo.
• Hlakulela ukuzijabulisa okunempilo, lokho kusinika amandla esikhundleni sokuwasusa.
• Sinakekele ngokucophelela, okuyinto elinganiselwe. Esikhundleni sokuyimosha ngemisebenzi engasiniki okuningi, sigxile kulokho okusenza sikhule futhi sinakekelane.

Ngakho-ke uma ubona ukuthi ngisebenzisa amanethiwekhi omphakathi amancane, Uzokwazi ukuthi nginakekela ukunaka kwami. Futhi uma ufuna siphawule okuthile, kangcono ngocingo noma mathupha kunokusebenzisa izinkundla zokuxhumana, kubukeka sengathi?

Isiqalo esihle sonyaka wesikole,

F. Javier Romeo

[Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi.]

Idokhumenti Ngaphandle kokusinda. Ungakuthuthukisa kanjani ukungenelela nezingane ezifudukayo ezingaphelezelwa futhi ezihlukene ezishiywe ngaphandle kohlelo lokuvikela, lokho Pepa Horno, umlingani wami ku-Childhood Consulting Spirals, futhi ngibhalele I-UNICEF yaseSpain futhi I-UNICEF eFrance, isanda kuthunyelwa, futhi itholakala ngezinguqulo ezimbili:

• Landa inguqulo yokuqala yesiNgisi ye Ngalé Kokusinda. Ukuthuthukisa ukungenelela e-Europe Ngezingane Ezifudukayo Ezingaphelezeli Futhi Ezihlukanisiwe eziwela ohlelweni lokuvikela.
• Dawuniloda ukuhumusha kweSpanishi, Ngaphandle kokusinda. Ungakuthuthukisa kanjani ukungenelela nezingane ezifudukayo ezingaphelezelwa futhi ezihlukene ezishiywe ngaphandle kohlelo lokuvikela.

Lokhu ukushicilelwa kwezobuchwepheshe okuphathelene nokuvikelwa kwezingane, ukungenelela komphakathi kanye namalungelo abantu. Eqinisweni, Sinemibono kanye nonembeza wochwepheshe abangaba yikhulu ku-International Workshop ngoDisemba 2019 e Madrid, ukuthi ngisize ukwenza lula (sichaza kabanzi ku yethu okuthunyelwe kwebhulogi ye-CI Spirals). Nokho, futhi idokhumenti yomuntu siqu kakhulu kimi.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane, Amantombazane afudukayo angaphelezelwa futhi ahlukanisiwe anendawo ekhetheke kakhulu enhliziyweni yami. Ngasebenza eMorocco iminyaka eminingana nezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha ehlala emigwaqweni futhi ngiyabazi ubunzima abanayo lapho, nokuthi yini ebenza babeke izimpilo zabo engozini ukuze babe nekusasa elingcono. Ngiphinde ngasebenza iminyaka eminingana eMadrid nentsha esengozini yomphakathi, futhi abaningi babo kwakungabafana namantombazane abafudukayo abangenazo izinkomba zomndeni, ngakho ngihambisane nezinyathelo zabo ebunzimeni abahlangabezane nabo ukuze bakhe ikusasa elihle eSpain. Futhi kuze kube namuhla ngisajabulela ukukwazi ukukhuluma nabo ngesi-Moroccan Arabic., ulimi engiluthanda kakhulu. Ngiyethemba ukuthi lo mbhalo usiza ochwepheshe kanye nomphakathi wonkana ukuthi ube nozwelo kulaba bantwana., futhi intsha, kanye nokukhathazeka ngenhlalakahle yabo. (Ungafunda kabanzi mayelana indlela yami yomsebenzi kuphrofayela yami ye-LinkedIn).

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, okwamanje lolu udaba olubucayi kakhulu, ngenxa yezici eziningi. Njengomhleli oholayo, Ngisebenzise kaningi ukwenza Ukugxilisa njengenqubo yokuhlela imibono kanye nokuthola ukubunjwa okufanele. Izihluthulelo zezindaba ezimnandi ezivikelayo zidinga ukuvela ekwazini okugxilile emzimbeni.. Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu kunikeza ukucaca kanye nombono ojulile kuso sonke isihloko., ikakhulukazi uma izingxenye eziyinkimbinkimbi zikwazi ukucacisa kancane.

Ekuphetheni, akubanga yinselele yobungcweti kuphela, kodwa futhi inqubo yomuntu siqu kakhulu. Ngethemba ukuthi uyakuthokozela.

F. Javier Romeo

[Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi].

Idokhumenti Ngalé Kokusinda. Ukuthuthukisa ukungenelela e-Europe Ngezingane Ezifudukayo Ezingaphelezeli Futhi Ezihlukanisiwe eziwela ohlelweni lokuvikela, lokho Pepa Horno, engisebenza naye kwa-Espirales Consultoría de Infancia, nami ngibhalele I-UNICEF yaseSpain futhi I-UNICEF eFrance, isanda kushicilelwa, futhi itholakala ngezinguqulo ezimbili:

• Landa inguqulo yokuqala ngesiNgisi ye Ngalé Kokusinda. Ukuthuthukisa ukungenelela e-Europe Ngezingane Ezifudukayo Ezingaphelezeli Futhi Ezihlukanisiwe eziwela ohlelweni lokuvikela.
• Dawuniloda okuhunyushelwe kusiSpanishi, Ngaphandle kokusinda. Ungakuthuthukisa kanjani ukungenelela nezingane ezifudukayo ezingaphelezelwa futhi ezihlukene ezishiywe ngaphandle kohlelo lokuvikela.

Lokhu ukushicilelwa kwezobuchwepheshe okuphathelene nokuvikelwa kwezingane, ukungenelela komphakathi kanye namalungelo abantu. Empeleni, sibale kanye nemibono kanye nokuqwashisa kochwepheshe abacishe babe yikhulu e-International Workshop ngoZibandlela 2019 eMadrid, ukuthi ngihlanganyele (sichaza kabanzi ngakho ku okuthunyelwe kwethu kwebhulogi ku-Espirales CI). Nokho, futhi idokhumenti yomuntu siqu kakhulu kimi.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Abafuduki Abangaphelezelwa Nabahlukanisiwe Ngizithanda kakhulu. Ngisebenze eMorocco iminyaka eminingana nezingane ezisemgwaqweni futhi ngiyabazi ubunzima obukhona, okubenza babeke izimpilo zabo engozini ukuze babe nekusasa elingcono. Ngasebenza iminyaka eminingana eMadrid nentsha eyayisengozini, futhi abaningi babo kwakungabantwana abafudukayo abangaphelezelwa muntu, ngakho ngaphelezela izinyathelo zabo ebunzimeni bokuzakhela ikusasa elihle eSpain. Futhi ngisakujabulela ukukwazi ukukhuluma nabo ngesi-Moroccan Arabic, ulimi engiluthanda kakhulu. Ngiyethemba ukuthi lo mbhalo uzosiza abanye ochwepheshe kanye nomphakathi jikelele ukuthi uzizwele lezi zingane, kanye nokunakekela inhlalakahle yabo. (Okuningi mayelana indlela yami yomsebenzi kuphrofayela yami ye-LinkedIn).

Ngokwesinye isandla, lolu udaba okwamanje olubucayi kakhulu, ngenxa yezici eziningana. Njengombhali omkhulu, Ngisebenzise kakhulu Ukugxilisa nami njengenqubo yokuhlela imibono, kanye nokuthola amagama afanele. Imikhondo yezindaba ezimnandi ezivikelayo zidinga ukuvela ekuqwashiseni okuhlanganisiwe. Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu kuzoletha ukucaca kanye nombono ojulile kuso sonke lesi sihloko, ngobunkimbinkimbi bayo obenziwe kwacaca kakhudlwana.

Ekuphetheni, bekungeyona nje inselele yobungcweti, kodwa futhi inqubo yomuntu siqu kakhulu. Ngethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela.

F. Javier Romeo

Kusukela ekuqaleni kwalolu bhubhane, izinhlangano eziningi zezingane zenze imizamo yokwakha izinsiza. Kwa-Spirals Consultancy for Children sikhiqize izinto ezihlukahlukene ezihlukahlukene.

Kulo mbhalo webhulogi ngifuna ukwabelana ngamavidiyo athile ahlobene nalokho engikwabelana ngakho lapha, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi.

1. Bethula imiyalezo ecacile nebanzi ngokwanele ukuthi baxoxe ngayo nezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha mayelana nobhubhane lwe-COVID-19, ukuze babe nolwazi lokuthi kwenzekani kubo.
2. Baphakamisa umsebenzi wokuqwashisa umzimba: kusukela kumodeli yobuhlakani obuthathu kuya ekuthinteni umoya, ngokushuba noma ngemizwa eyahlukene. Akuyona Ukugxilisa, kodwa khomba lokho kuzwela.
3. BangeSpanishi, kodwa nangesiFulentshi nesiMoroccan Arabic. Ngiye ngajabulela ukusebenzisa lezi zilimi ezimbili kula mavidiyo, okungisize kakhulu ukuthi ngikwazi ukuxhumana nabanye ngesikhathi ngihlala eMorocco kanye nentsha efudukayo eSpain..

Ngishiya amavidiyo angezansi:

• Ividiyo “I-intelligences emithathu nentukuthelo”.

• Ividiyo “Ama-intelligences amathathu nokwesaba”.

• Ividiyo “Abahlakaniphile abathathu futhi becela usizo”.

• Ividiyo “I-intelligences emithathu nokudabuka”.

Ngithemba ukuthi imiphumela of interest.

F. Javier Romeo

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngithole isitifiketi njengevolontiya le isevisi yocingo yeKholeji Esemthethweni Yengqondo Yengqondo yaseMadrid. Kulezi zikhathi ze “okusha evamile” Kube yisikhumbuzo sezikhathi eziyinkimbinkimbi zokuvalelwa, phakathi kukaMashi noMeyi kulo nyaka 2020. futhi kusukela ezolile (okwesikhashana) okwangempela, Ngicabanga ukuthi yisikhathi esihle sokucubungula engihlangabezane nakho. Futhi amagama amane eza kimi ukukufanekisa: ukuzibophezela, ukukhuthazela, ukuthobeka nokuqaphela.

Lapho i-lockdown iqala umbuzo wami oyisisekelo wawuthi “Nginganikela kanjani??”. Ku-Espirales Consulting for Children sithole izicelo eziningi esikwazile ukuya kuzo, kodwa lokho kuzoba yisihloko somunye ukufakwa kwebhulogi. Kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, kwakukhona esinye isici, kusukela ekuvolontiyeni, Ubufuna ukunikela ngani?. Phakathi kwe izinsiza eziningi nezinsiza owanikela nge Ikolishi Elisemthethweni LePsychology yaseMadrid, ukuya ngocingo kubantu abakudingayo kungilingana kahle kakhulu. Kusukela lapho, Ngizizwe ngihloniphekile ukuba yingxenye yale nhlangano esondelene nezakhamizi njengoba izinsiza zayo ibivuma.. Lokhu kimi kuhlobene ne-psychology, ngaphandle kokuba ngumsebenzi wami, futhi ucabanga a ukuzibophezela enhlalakahleni yabantu ngabanye kanye nemiphakathi. Sikubonile ukuzinikela kwabantu abaningi namaqembu amaningi ochwepheshe, futhi lokhu kube okwethu: nikeza ukulalela nokusekelwa kulabo abakudingayo.

Ukuqala kwenkonzo yocingo kwakushubile kimi. Izingcingo bezingeziningi, kodwa yebo eside futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ukusuka osizini ngokufa kwabantu kuya ebunzimeni obukhulu bezempilo yengqondo. Nokuthakasela kwami ​​ukukwazi ukukhuthazela womuntu ngamunye engangimkhonza. Ngiyathanda ukusho “ukuqina”, lelo gama esilithanda kakhulu kuPsychology. Kodwa “ukuqina” kusho “ukumelana” futhi “lungisa kabusha”, futhi ocingweni olulodwa ngomuntu ngamunye ngathola kuphela ingxenye yakhe “ukumelana”. Lapho ngibona ukuphumula okukhona manje lapho sibhekene nezinyathelo zokuhlanzeka, ngikhumbula umuntu ngamunye engangiya kuye, ngezinga lakho lokuhlupheka, futhi ngiyazibuza ukuthi bazophila kanjani. Ingabe banomuzwa wokukhungatheka ngokuthi akuzange kwenziwe kangcono ngaleso sikhathi?? Ingabe bayojabulela ukuphumula nokuxhumana? Inkumbulo yami ikulabo bantu abaye baba nesikhathi esibi kangaka, nokuthi kuyodingeka bathole amandla okuqhubeka nokumelana futhi, Ngiyafisa, ukuze ufinyelele ukukhuthazela nokwakha kabusha.

Konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuye kwangivusa kakhulu isizotha. I-coronavirus ngokuvamile iwubizo kunembeza, ukuthi njengabantu sibheke ukuthi siphila kanjani emhlabeni futhi sibheke izindlela zokuthuthuka. Kwami, njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kucatshangwa ukuthi kuyikhambi lokuthobeka. Kuningi ukuhlupheka engingeke ngikwazi ukukubheka, kodwa kofikayo, wafika. Kunabantu abanobunzima obuningi emqondweni angazi ukuthi ngibaphelekezela kanjani, futhi kufanele ngiqhubeke nokuqeqeshwa. Futhi kunezinto eziningi okufanele ngithuthuke kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngikuthola kungenathemba, kodwa ukuzibophezela kwami ​​ukuqhubeka nokuhlakulela ithemba.

Y, Phinda futhi, isipiliyoni kube kimi ucingo unembeza. Ubhekene nokuhlupheka kwabantu, kuyadingeka ukuthi ungabi nje uchwepheshe, kodwa futhi njengomuntu. ukuxhumana kwabantu, esikugejile kakhulu ngesikhathi siboshiwe, ungumthombo wenhlalakahle (uma kwenzeka ebudlelwaneni obunempilo). Ukunakekelwa kwengqondo kube kimina ukuba khona, ngozwela kanye nokuba sengozini kwami (kodwa ukuphatha engiphila ngakho).

Futhi konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho manje kungilethela ukubonga, bobabili baya eCOP Madrid, ikakhulukazi labo asebehole uhlelo, njengalabo abaye baba nesibindi sokufona futhi bathembe thina esibahambele. Ukubonga kwami ​​kubo bonke labo bantu ngesibindi sabo.

Futhi izilokotho zami ezinhle ngalesi sigaba esisha.

F. Javier Romeo

“ukutholakala, Umphakathi nokukhula. Lawo amazwi umzimba wami owakhethayo ukuze afanekise ulwazi oluphelele loMhlangano Wokuqala Kazwelonke Ovulekile Wokugxila.. Ihlelwe yi-Spanish Institute of Focusing futhi ididiyelwe ithimba le-Sevillian le-Espacio Vivencial, Umhlangano wenzeka kusukela 12 al 15 Okthoba edolobheni elihle lase-Andalusian laseSeville, eningizimu yeSpain”.

Iqala kanjena indaba yami lapho ngichaza isipiliyoni sami se I-In-Focus, iphephandaba le-International Focusing Institute kaNovemba 2017. Esikhaleni engisihlinzekiwe, ngizamile ukubonisana ne-international Focusing community imisebenzi esihlanganyele kuyo Umhlangano Wokuqala Kazwelonke Ovulekile Wokugxila, ngesikhathi esifanayo engangifuna ukukhombisa futhi, ngokwesiko la Ukugxilisa kanye nefilosofi yokuhlangenwe nakho, bekuyini isipiliyoni sami. Kusukela lapha ngifuna ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kwami ​​ku Ukugxila Institute Spanish ngokubiza lo mcimbi omuhle kangaka, al Iqembu le-Espacio Vivencial eliholwa nguFrancisco Sivianes yokuwuxhumanisa kanye nesikhulumi ngasinye kanye nomhlanganyeli ngamunye owenze ukuba kwenzeke, kube yinto engingasoze yalibaleka.

• funda isihloko “Ukutholwa, Umphakathi kanye Nokukhula. Ingqungquthela Yoku-1 Evulekile Kazwelonke Yokugxila e-Seville” enguqulweni yokuqala yesingisi.
• Funda isihloko esihunyushelwe esiSpanishi esinesihloko “ukutholakala, Umphakathi nokukhula: I Open National Meeting of Focusing in Seville, Spain”.

Sethula u-Catherine Torpey, Umqondisi Omkhulu we-TIFI. Isithombe ngu-Francisco Sivianes.

Ngishiyele le bhulogi izici zomuntu siqu ezengeziwe, njengodumo engaba nalo lokukwazi ukwethula uCatherine Torpey, abeza eSeville ukuzokwethula lonke uhlobo lwamazwe ngamazwe lwe Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (TIFI) njenge Umqondisi ophakeme okufanayo. Kwami, ukuthi ngisebenzisana naye IKomidi Lobulungu isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka odlule, Kuyinto ukwaneliseka ukuthi umphakathi Focusing in Spain (nabahlanganyeli bakwamanye amazwe) angakwazi ukumazi mathupha u-Catherine nakho konke okwenziwa yi-International Institute of Focusing.

Indawo yami yokusebenzela “Ukugxilisa nokuvimbela udlame”. Isithombe ngu-Francisco Sivianes.

Kube yilungelo futhi ukusingatha i-workshop yami “Ukugxilisa kanye nomsebenzi ngokwenza ubudlova”, lapho ngakwazi khona ukwabelana nabantu bezizwe ezinhlanu ezihlukene ezinye zezihluthulelo zokusebenzisa imizwa yomzimba kanye nenqubo yokugxila ekuhlonzeni udlame ngendlela ephelele futhi kukhiqize ukuphepha ezimpilweni zethu., inguqulo yesingeniso seshabhu yami “Ukugxilisa, umzimba kanye nokuphepha: Ukugxilisa nokuvimbela udlame”.

Ziningi ezinye izinkumbulo, njengalezo zemihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi engaya kuyo, noma izinkomfa jikelele, noma abantu engahlangana nabo (entsha noma ejulile)… Ungabona okuningi mayelana nomkhathi wezikhathi ezahlukahlukene ezithombeni ezithathwe nguFrancisco Sivianes (Umqeqeshi ogxile kanye nomqondisi we-Espacio Vivencial): kwe ULwesine 12 Okthoba, kwe ULwesihlanu 13 Okthoba futhi kwe Saturday 14 Okthoba of 2017.

Okunye okutholakalayo yile phrezentheshini eyenziwe nguRosa Galiano enezithombe zakhe, nguFrancisco Sivianes nabanye abantu futhi yashicilelwa ku Isiteshi se-YouTube se-International Institute of Focusing:

Kube wumthombo wogqozi futhi ngiyethemba ukuthi izokukhuthaza nawe.

F. Javier Romeo

Eugene Gendlin, isithombe esisemthethweni se-International Institute of Focusing.

Eugene (“Gene”) UGendlin udlule emhlabeni izolo 1 May 2017 eminyakeni engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ubudala, futhi mina, njengawo wonke umphakathi we-Focusing, Kungithinta ukudlula kwakhe emhlabeni, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngibonga ngayo yonke iminikelo yenu.

U-Eugene Gendlin wazalwa ngo 25 kusukela ngoDisemba kuya 1926 eVienna, E-Austria, futhi waphunyuka ekushushisweni kwamaNazi ngokufika e-United States 1939. ngokwemvelo yaseMelika, Uqhubekile wazuza i-BA kuFilosofi kanye ne-Ph.D. ngemuva kokusebenza iminyaka engaphezu kweshumi ngokubambisana no-Carl Rogers eNyuvesi yaseChicago.. Isithelo sokuqeqeshwa kwakhe kabili njengesazi sefilosofi nanjengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umnikelo wakho ubanzi kakhulu.

UGendlin wayehlale egcizelela ukuthi akukho “idaliwe” the Ukugxilisa, inqubo yokuzazi nokuphulukisa ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo ngokusebenzisa imizwa yomzimba, kodwa kuphela “ithole izinyathelo ezimbalwa zokwenza inqubo ifinyeleleke kakhudlwana”. Njengamanje iyithuluzi elisetshenziswa ku-psychotherapy nakwezinye izindawo eziningi.. Futhi konke akutholile kuhambisana nokuhlakazeka okuqinile kobuhlakani, ifilosofi yento engacacile.

e 1985 yakha lokho manje Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute) ukunikeza ukuqhubeka kuyo yonke le migqa yomsebenzi, okuhlanganisa okungaphezu kwalokho 2000 ochwepheshe nabasekeli abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba, nalapho eshiye khona wonke umtapo wakhe wezincwadi ongatholakala ku-inthanethi (le I-Gendlin Online Library).

Naphezu kokukhula kwakhe, ngezinkinga zempilo kanye nokushona komkakhe UMary Hendricks-Gendlin eminyakeni emibili edlule, UGendlin wayehlale ekhuthele ngaphakathi kwamakhono akhe, ukubhala izihloko kanye nokubamba iqhaza ekuqeqesheni ngocingo.

Endabeni yami, ngaphandle kokufunda izincwadi zakhe nemibhalo yakhe, Ngiye ngaba nenjabulo nodumo lokubamba iqhaza eziningana “Izingxoxo ezivela onqenqemeni noGene [Gendlin] Y Ann [Weiser Cornell]”, ihlelwe yilaba bakamuva (ver imicabango yami evela engxoxweni kaSepthemba–Okthoba ka 2016). Kimina kube yilungelo ukukwazi ukukhuluma naye ngokuqondile, ngemfudumalo yakhe nobuhlakani bakhe naphezu kwezinhlungu nobunzima bakhe, ukubona intshisekelo yakhe kumuntu ngamunye nasemhlabeni, futhi unentshisekelo enkulu yokwazi ukuthi ifa lakhe laqhubeka kanjani. Futhi ngahlabeka umxhwele ngokuba khona kwakhe ngesikhathi engiphelezela ohlelweni lwe-Focusing kwenye yezingxoxo zokugcina.

I-International Institute of Focusing inikeze amandla ikhasi elikhethekile lokuhlonipha inkumbulo ka-Gendlin (www.EugeneGendlin.com), futhi ukusuka lapha ngikumema ukuthi ubambe iqhaza, ukufunda imibono yabanye abantu noma ukwengeza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Impela ngizizwa ngidabukile kakhulu ngalokhu kulahlekelwa., futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngigubha ukwazi umsebenzi kaGene Gendlin phakathi neminyaka edlule futhi ngikwazile ukukhuluma naye bukhoma izikhathi eziningana.. Ngizizwa ngiyingxenye yefa lakhe, futhi ngethemba ukuthi ngizoyidlulisela ngemfudumalo, ephefumulelwe nguye.

Emkhosini nasekulileni,

F. Javier Romeo

Ukuthuthukela 14 Agasti 2017: Ngibhale entry mayelana izinkokhelo ezintathu kuGene Gendlin engibambe iqhaza kukho, lokho kuqeda isici esabiwe ezingeni Lomphakathi.

Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ocacile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni uphakama kimi njengoba ngabelana ngale ngxoxo.. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenza kuwo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngezinkinga zobudlova” (“Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”), njengoba isihloko sengxoxo sisho ngesingisi. Kuyisihloko esibalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, i-consultancy egxile ekuvikelweni kwezingane enginguzakwethu wokuqala wayo), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances kuhlale kuyinselele.

the Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute, inhlangano exhumanisa ezingeni lamazwe ngamazwe imisebenzi ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa kwe-Focusing) ikhuthaza “izingxoxo” (isiZulu) nge-Focusing professionals abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), umsingathi, futhi ikwenza ngendlela ejwayeleke kakhulu ye-Focusing -ngokuboniswa kozwela, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ukuthi iqhamuke futhi yembuleke ngejubane layo-.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola ukuthi siphawula ngezihloko ezifana nalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Bekuzomele kwenzeke okuthile ukuletha lesi simo phambili, kodwa akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi umonakalo uvela emzimbeni.
• Thola a “isibambo” (“isibambo”) ngodlame (khomba yena) kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ngalokhu kuyadingeka ukwazi amaphethini amasiko asenza sijwayele ubudlova.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluhambisana nokunakekela njengendlela yokugwema udlame—kanye nobukhulu bomzimba obungazuzwa ngokugxila—.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela ezimeni zodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana namathuba okwelapha kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elihle kakhulu lokukwenza.

Futhi uma ufuna ukuzwa ukuthi ungawuguqula kanjani umuzwa wodlame emzimbeni ngokuFocusing, Ngiyatholakala amaseshini afika ngesikhathi isitobhi i-psychotherapy eMadrid.

Ngethemba ukuthi ungathola eminye imibono ukuze ukhuthaze umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho ngodlame., futhi ngingathanda ukwazi ukusabela kwakho ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi

Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ohlukile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni kuza kimi lapho ngihlanganyela le ngxoxo. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenzayo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”, njengokusho kwesihloko sengxoxo. Yindaba ebalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, inkampani yamazwe omhlaba eyelulekayo egxile ekuvikelekeni kwezingane I eyasungulwa ngokubambisana), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances akhona kuhlale kuyinselele.

I-International Focusing Institute (inhlangano exhumanisa imisebenzi egxile emhlabeni jikelele ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa) ikhuthaza kabili ngenyanga “Izingxoxo” nge-Focusing professionals emhlabeni wonke. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (UK), usebenza njengosokhaya, futhi ukwenza lokho ngendlela Egxilile kakhulu -ekhombisa, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ivele futhi ithuthuke ngesikhathi sayo.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola izindaba okuxoxwe ngazo njengalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Kukhona okufanele ngabe kwenzekile ukuqhubekisela phambili isimo, futhi akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi ukulimala kuphila emzimbeni.
• Ukuthola isibambo sodlame (ewukhomba) yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ukwazi amaphethini ethu amasiko ajwayelekile udlame.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluxhunyaniswe nokunakekelwa njengendlela yokugwema udlame - kanye nobukhulu bomzimba okungafinyelelwa kukho ngokugxila.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela kodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana nokuphulukisa kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elimangalisayo lokukwenza.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzothola umbono noma emibili engakhuthaza umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho mayelana nodlame, futhi ngizothanda ukuzwa kuwe ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi (nakuba inhlolokhono ngokwayo ingeyesiNgisi).