Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ohlukile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni kuza kimi lapho ngihlanganyela le ngxoxo. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenzayo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”, njengokusho kwesihloko sengxoxo. Yindaba ebalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, inkampani yamazwe omhlaba eyelulekayo egxile ekuvikelekeni kwezingane I eyasungulwa ngokubambisana), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances akhona kuhlale kuyinselele.

I-International Focusing Institute (inhlangano exhumanisa imisebenzi egxile emhlabeni jikelele ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa) ikhuthaza kabili ngenyanga “Izingxoxo” nge-Focusing professionals emhlabeni wonke. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (UK), usebenza njengosokhaya, futhi ukwenza lokho ngendlela Egxilile kakhulu -ekhombisa, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ivele futhi ithuthuke ngesikhathi sayo.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola izindaba okuxoxwe ngazo njengalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Kukhona okufanele ngabe kwenzekile ukuqhubekisela phambili isimo, futhi akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi ukulimala kuphila emzimbeni.
• Ukuthola isibambo sodlame (ewukhomba) yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ukwazi amaphethini ethu amasiko ajwayelekile udlame.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluxhunyaniswe nokunakekelwa njengendlela yokugwema udlame - kanye nobukhulu bomzimba okungafinyelelwa kukho ngokugxila.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela kodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana nokuphulukisa kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elimangalisayo lokukwenza.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzothola umbono noma emibili engakhuthaza umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho mayelana nodlame, futhi ngizothanda ukuzwa kuwe ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi (nakuba inhlolokhono ngokwayo ingeyesiNgisi).