Ecosha intambo yokungenela nge ama-brushstrokes we-International Focusing Conference okwenzeka eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) kwe 20 al 24 July 2016, iqembu lesithakazelo Ukugxila Kwezempilo Yomphakathi (Ukugxila Kwezenhlalakahle Zomphakathi) Kwaba kimi okunye okuvelele. Bekuyisipiliyoni sokudala umphakathi ngendlela eyabiwe ngokusebenzisa i- uyalalela, le translation, imiphakathi yethu yangaphambili futhi isimo sengqondo sokugxila.

Sekuyizinyanga ezimbalwa, futhi bengilokhu ngibhala mayelana nolwazi lwami (konke okufakiwe kuvela kunkomba yokugcina yalokhu kungena), futhi ngiba nomuzwa ofudumele nomnene lapho ngikhumbula leliQembu. Njalo ekuseni ngeNgqungquthela, iqembu labahlanganyeli lijoyina elinye lamaQembu Abathakazelayo ayishumi nanhlanu. Lawa bekungamaqembu abefuna ukuba yindawo evulekile yokwabelana ngemibono yomuntu siqu kanye nephrofeshinali mayelana nokugxila ezindaweni ezithile.. Ngalingwa izihloko eziningi (kwakukhona ngisho a “Iqembu Lenzalo Ngaphandle Kwenzalo Eqondile”, nakuba ihlaya lizwakala kangcono ngesiNgisi). Ngeneliseke kakhulu ngokukhetha kwami, ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuthi ngiyazisola ngokungakwazi ukuzihlukanisa ukuze ngikwazi ukuhambela ezinye eziningi…

Iqembu Eligxile Kwezintshisekelo Zomphakathi Engqungqutheleni Yamazwe Ngamazwe YaseCambridge (I-RU), uJulayi 2016.

Iqembu Lesithakazelo Ukugxila Kwezempilo Yomphakathi (Ukugxila Kwezenhlalakahle Zomphakathi) yahlanganiswa ngu Nina Joy Lawrence, Pat Omidian futhi U-Heidrun Essler, lokho kwadala indawo yesiqukathi ukuze sikwazi ukubamba iqhaza futhi, njengoba bebevele bekulindele, okwe “yethula amakhono okugxila kanye nezimo zengqondo ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke nasemaqenjini omphakathi” -ngisho naseqenjini lethu esithakaselayo-. Thanks!

Isici sokuqala kwaba uyalalela. Sasingabahlanganyeli abayishumi nesithupha abavela emazweni ayisithupha ahlukene (I-Afghanistan, Germany, China, Spain, I-United States ne-United Kingdom), futhi akubona bonke ababesazi kahle isiNgisi, ngakho isinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha umphakathi wethu kwakuwukuqinisekisa ukuthi wonke umuntu uyaziveza futhi aqonde noma yini esiyishoyo: lokho kusho ukuthi sigcine sesisebenzisa izilimi ezintathu ezahlukene zokusebenza (IsiNgisi, isiShayina neSpanishi). Okungase kube umthwalo (humusha, isibonelo lokho okwashiwo umhlanganyeli waseShayina kumaNgisi, futhi ukusuka lapho ukuya eSpanishi, bese uphendula ngesiNgisi, bese uhumushela impendulo olimini lwesiShayina neSpanishi, njll.) yaba isipho esiyigugu: ithuba lokulalela umuntu ngamunye esimweni esijulile sokugxila, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba amagama ahunyushwe. Ngakho sihlakulela indlela yokuba ndawonye nesigqi esikhululekile, indawo lapho umuntu ngamunye elalela abanye abakhuluma ngezilimi zakwamanye amazwe futhi, ngandlela thize, ekupheleni, saqala ukuqonda okuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhulumi ngaphambi kokuhumusha.

isipiliyoni sesibili, okwakungithinta kakhulu, kwaba translation Ngokwakhe. Bengilokhu ngihumusha ezimeni ezahlukene naphakathi kwezilimi ezahlukene iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amabili, futhi ngokuvamile kakhulu kuzilungiselelo professional (isibonelo, ukuhumusha abaqeqeshi be-Forcusing bangaphandle lapha eSpain). Kodwa kimina, ukuhumusha ingxoxo egxilile njalo kuwumzamo okhethekile., ukuqaphela ukuhumusha kokubili amagama kanye nolwazi olutholakala kulawo magama akhethiwe.

Lokho kungibeke kwelinye izinga: iqiniso lokuhumusha (phakathi kwesiNgisi neSpanishi, ngazo zombili izindlela) eqenjini engangizizwa njengomphakathi langikhumbuza izinguqulo zami zentsha yezifiki ukwakha iqembu enhlanganweni engasekho. Ngenkathi ngabelana ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okukabili kwe, Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukwaneliseka kokukwazi ukuhumusha endaweni yomphakathi kanye, komunye, isililo sososeshini olahlekile, amanye amalungu eqembu nawo abelane ngemiphakathi abalahlekelwe kuyona - nokuthi kanjani imiphakathi yethu yangaphambili babekhona futhi benendawo kulokho esasikudala—.

Phakathi nalezo zikhathi ezine saxoxa, sazama ukuvivinya umzimba, siyaphawula… Njengoba ngihlanganyele emzuliswaneni wokugcina wokuvala, Ngangize eqenjini ngenhloso enkulu yokuthola imibono, amasu nokuzivocavoca ukwakha umphakathi osebenzisa i-Focusing. Nokho, Ngithatha into ehluke kakhulu: a isimo sengqondo sokugxila lokho kuthanda ukuba khona, lokho kuvumela iqembu kanye nelungu ngalinye lalo ukuthi linake izinga elihlukile lomzwelo, ukuxhumana okulondoloziwe okuvela emzimbeni.

Lezi ezinye zezifundo ezizohlala nami isikhathi eside (Empeleni, Sengike ngavakashela I-Focusing Initiatives International, inhlangano esiza ukusabalalisa i-Community Wellness Focusing, futhi ngibhalisele i Uhlu Lwezingxoxo Ezigxile Kwezempilo Yomphakathi, uhlu lwama-imeyili olubika kulokhu kusakazwa, isiZulu), kanye nokubonga okujulile kubasingathi bethu kanye nelungu ngalinye leqembu. Manje yisikhathi “qhubekela phambili” konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okudala imiphakathi enalezi zimo zengqondo zokugxila.

Ngifisela nina eningifundele ulwazi oluningi olujulile lokwakhiwa komphakathi kanje.

F. Javier Romeo Biedma

Qaphela: Isithombe sishicilelwe ngemvume yamalungu eqembu. Awekho amagama afanele anikezwayo ngenxa yokuhlonipha ubumfihlo bakho, ngaphandle kwalabo bomengameli bokusingatha abanikeze Iqembu Lentshisekelo esidlangalaleni.

Funda lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi.

I-Community Wellness Focusing Interest Group kimina ibingezinye zezinto ezinhle kakhulu ze-International Focusing Conference eCambridge. (UK) NgoJulayi 20-27 2016. Bekuyisipiliyoni sokwakha ngokubambisana umphakathi ngokusebenzisa ukulalela, ukuhumusha, imiphakathi yethu yangaphambili futhi Isimo sengqondo sokugxila.

Sekudlule izinyanga ezithile, futhi bengilokhu ngibhala ngesipiliyoni sami eNgqungqutheleni (konke okuthunyelwe kukhonjisiwe kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngeSpanishi), futhi umuzwa ofudumele nomnene ufika kimi lapho ngikhumbula leliQembu. Njalo ekuseni ngesikhathi seNgqungquthela bonke abahlanganyeli bajoyina enye ye 15 Amaqembu Ezithakazelo. Lawa bekungamaqembu ahloselwe ukuthi abe yindawo evulekile yokwabelana ngemibono yomuntu siqu kanye nephrofeshinali mayelana nokugxila ezizindeni ezithile. Ngalingwa izihloko eziningi (kwakukhona ngisho a “Iqembu Lenzalo Elingenayo Inzalo”!) futhi ngijabule kakhulu ngokukhetha kwami, kuyilapho ngizisola ngokungakwazi ukuzihlukanisa ukuze nginakekele abanye abaningi…

Iqembu Eligxile Kwezintshisekelo Zomphakathi Engqungqutheleni Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe, Cambridge (I-RU), July 2016.

I-Community Wellness Focusing Group isingathwe ngu Nina Joy Lawrence, Pat Omidian futhi U-Heidrun Essler, owadala indawo yokubamba ukuze sonke sibambe iqhaza futhi, njengoba beqhubeka, “ukuletha amakhono okugxila kanye nezimo zengqondo ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke nasemaqenjini omphakathi” -kuhlanganise neqembu lethu. Ngiyabonga!

Isici sokuqala kwaba ukulalela. Sasingabahlanganyeli abayishumi nesithupha abavela emazweni ayisithupha ahlukene (I-Afghanistan, China, Germany, Spain, UK kanye USA), futhi akuwona wonke umuntu owayesazi kahle isiNgisi, ngakho-ke isinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha umphakathi wethu kwakuwukuqinisekisa ukuthi wonke umuntu uyaziveza futhi aqonde noma yini eshiwoyo: lokho kwakusho ukuthi siqede ukusebenzisa izilimi ezintathu ezihlukene zokusebenza (IsiNgisi, IsiShayina neSpanishi). Okungase kube umthwalo (ukuhumusha, Ngokwesibonelo, lokho okwashiwo umhlanganyeli waseShayina esiNgisini, bese kuba ngeSpanishi, bese ephendula ngesiNgisi, bese ehumushela olimini lwesiShayina naseSpanishi, njalo njalo) yaba isipho esiyigugu: ithuba lokulalela omunye komunye usuka esimweni esijulile sokugxila, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba amagama ahunyushwe. Ngakho sahlakulela indlela ehamba kancane yokuba ndawonye, indawo lapho wonke umuntu wayelalela abantu bekhuluma ngezilimi zakwamanye amazwe futhi, ngandlela thize, ekugcineni, besiqala ukuqonda okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu ngaphambi kokuhumusha.

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwesibili okwangithinta inhliziyo kwaba ukuhumusha uqobo. Bengilokhu ngihumusha ngezilungiselelo ezahlukene futhi kusukela ezilimini ezahlukene ngaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amabili, futhi ngokuvamile kakhulu kuzilungiselelo professional (Ngokwesibonelo, ukuhumusha abaqeqeshi be-Forcusing bangaphandle lapha eSpain). Kodwa kimina ukuhumusha ingxoxo ethi Focusing kuhlale kuletha umzamo okhethekile, ukuhumusha kanjani kokubili amagama kanye nolwazi olungacacile kulawo magama.

Lokho kungibeke kwelinye izinga: iqiniso lokuthi bengihumusha (IsiNgisi neSpanishi, izindlela zombili) eqenjini elalizizwa njengomphakathi langikhumbuza indlela engangivame ukuhumusha ngayo intsha evela kwamanye amazwe ukuze kwakhiwe iqembu enhlanganweni engasekho. Ngenkathi ngabelana ngalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kokubili ukwaneliseka mayelana nokukwazi ukuhumusha endaweni yomphakathi kanye nosizi mayelana nenhlangano enyamalele., amanye amalungu abelane ngemiphakathi elahlekelwe nawo – futhi kanjani imiphakathi yethu yangaphambili besikhona futhi sinendawo kulokhu ebesikudala.

Phakathi nalezo zikhathi ezine saxoxa, wazama umzimba, ubeke amazwana, kuxoxiwe… Njengoba ngihlanganyele ohlwini lokugcina, Ngangifike eqenjini nginomgomo omkhulu wokuthola imibono, amasu nokuzivocavoca ukwakha umphakathi osebenzisa i-Focusing. Nokho, Ngithathe into ehluke kakhulu: a Isimo sengqondo sokugxila lokho kukhuthaza ukuba khona, lokho kuvumela iqembu kanye nelungu ngalinye ukuba banakekele ikhwalithi ehlukile yomuzwa, ukuxhumana okugcinwa emzimbeni.

Lezo ezinye zezifundo ezizohlala kimi (empeleni ngivakashile I-Focusing Initiatives International, inhlangano esiza ukusabalalisa i-Community Wellness Focusing, futhi ngijoyine Uhlu Lwezingxoxo Ezigxile Kwezempilo Yomphakathi), kanye nokubonga okujulile kubasingathi bethu kanye nawo wonke amalungu eqembu. Manje yisikhathi sokuyisa phambili konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho sidala imiphakathi enalesi simo sengqondo sokuGxila.

Ngifisela nina eningifundele ulwazi olujulile lokwakhiwa komphakathi kanje.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Qaphela: Isithombe sithunyelwe ngemvume yamalungu. Awekho amagama abantu anikezwa ngokuhlonipha ubumfihlo babo, ngaphandle kwababungazi abanikeze esidlangalaleni Iqembu Elithakaselayo.

Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi.

Ukubonga, ukutuseka nokuthobeka - le mizwa igqama phakathi kwayo yonke eminye ngemuva kokubamba iqhaza esifundweni sokugcina noGene Gendlin kanye no-Ann Weiser Cornell on Focusing, Ifilosofi yomsebenzi Ongacacile kanye noGendlin jikelele.

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuba nethuba lokuba khona “Izingxoxo ezivela ku-Edge no-Gene kanye no-Ann” (“Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann”) kula masonto okugcina kaSepthemba no-Okthoba 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell usenesikhathi eside ehlela lezi “Izingxoxo ezivela ku-Edge no-Gene kanye no-Ann” izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka ngokusebenzisa ipulatifomu yayo, Izinsiza zokugxila, ngefomethi yesifundo ngocingo (noma ngekhompyutha, kodwa ngezwi kuphela) kaGene Gendlin kanye naye uqobo lapho thina esibambe iqhaza singacela noma yini esiyifunayo: Gene Gendlin uphendula imibuzo yethu, imibono yeziphakamiso zethu, futhi naye lowo Gendlin ngokwakhe wasiphelezela ohlelweni lokuGxila.

Ukubonga, ukutuswa, isizotha… Ngangivele ngizwe uGene Gendlin ekurekhodweni komsindo nevidiyo, futhi ngakuthola kukhuthaza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba sengxoxweni eqondile naye ocingweni kuyinto ehluke kakhulu.. Nakuba ngingazange ngilokothe ​​ngibuze lutho phakathi nezikhathi ezintathu zokuqala, ukumlalela exhumana bukhoma nabanye abantu kunekhwalithi ekhetheke kakhulu. Ubukhona bakho, ukuvuleka kwayo nokucaca kwayo kuyanginyakazisa, futhi uGene uhlanganyela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe ngamaparele amancane futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ngokunaka kwakhe.

Futhi ngingathanda ukwabelana ngeminye yemibono engiyijabulele kakhulu:

• Umqondo we “Isiphambano”, kufinyezwa ngofuzo: “[Inqubo ye] ukuwela kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukusho okuthile futhi kuqondwe ngendlela entsha ngokuyiveza ohlelweni olusha, ethi 'kunjani (noma kungaba njalo) lesi isibonelo salokhu okunye?'”. Singasho njalo into esiyiveza komunye umbono. Izingathekiso zihlanganisa ukusho into eyodwa ngokunye (“a yi, ngandlela thize, B”).
• Ingxoxo ethokozisayo phakathi kukaGene nomuntu mayelana nokuthi ungayichaza kanjani i-Focusing, kanye nokuphikisa kuka-Gendlin ekuchazeni izimo “edingekayo futhi eyanele” ukusho ukuthi kukhona Okugxilile. Omunye wemibono eminingi evele ku “Ukugxila kungukuba 'nokuthi', nalapho kungakenzeki ukukhululeka”.
• Ukugxila njengendlela yokulalela ukunyakaza kwethu kwangaphakathi: “Kuningi okungaphakathi kwethu okufisa kuzwakale okungakezwakali.. Yini lena engifuna ukuyizwa kimina?”.
• Umlayezo ogcwele ithemba: “Ukugxila akudingi ukwethemba inqubo ngaphambili”, ngomqondo wokuthi singakwazi ukuqala inqubo yokugxila ngisho nalapho singathembi okuthile ngaphakathi kwethu, futhi ngale nqubo sizobe sesikwethemba.
• I-Gene yabelana ngalokho okucatshangwayo “ukuchema kakhulu ngokuvuna ukugcina okuhle ezintweni nokushiya ngaphandle okubi”, okusho ukuthi ukhetha ukugxila ezicini ezijabulisayo zenqubo ngayinye futhi angagcizeleli ekuzameni “qonda” (kusukela ekhanda) izici ezibuhlungu uma inqubo isizixazululile: “Awudingi ukungena lapho”, kusho.
• “Ukugxila kuyisu, kodwa akuyona nje indlela”.
• Ukugxila kuhlale kuyinqubo yangaphakathi, ngisho nalapho senza Ukugxila ngezinto zangaphandle (izihlahla, indawo, imidwebo…): kuhlale kukhona ukuzwa komzimba.
• ukwakheka “Ake sichithe umzuzu yi“, ukuvumela izwi “yi” ziqukethe zonke izincazelo, awekho amagama aqondile, ukuze kuthi lapho amazwi evela, ube musha futhi umusha.
• Ukukhuluma ngokuthi isiko lingabumba kanjani isipiliyoni somuntu, kusho ufuzo: “Umuntu ngamunye uhlala edlula isiko lakhe”.
• “Umqondo ozwakalayo uhlale uthembekile kunomzwelo noma umqondo noma isizathu sodwa.”.

Futhi nginenkumbulo ekhethekile yokukhuluma no-Gene mayelana nendlela engisondela ngayo ekutholeni indawo yodlame nge-Focusing., ukuze sikwazi ukukubona futhi sikuvimbele, njengoba ngivamise ukufundisa ochwepheshe bokuvikelwa kwezingane ekuqeqesheni kwami (weSocial Work, Psychology, Imfundo…) nasemindenini. Isikhumbuzo sentshisekelo yakho kanye nokuthola ukwesekwa kwakho nesikhuthazo sokuqhubeka nokuhlola.

Bekukhona nokunye ukusebenzisana okuningi okugcwele imibono nesipiliyoni esithokozisayo., ngokuba khona kukaGene no-Ann. Ngiyazifudumeza, futhi ngasese.

Ngakho ngizwa ukubonga, ukutuswa nokuzithoba ngokuchitha lamahora ngilalele uGendlin bukhoma, nokufudumala kwayo, ekuvuleni, ilukuluku lakho, intshisekelo yakhe enkulu kulokho umhlanganyeli ngamunye ayefuna ukukubuza noma ukwabelana ngakho. isifundo sangempela. Ugqozi. kanye nomgubho.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kuGene ngokutholakala kanye naku-Ann ngokwenza kwaba nokwenzeka kuwo wonke amazinga..

Ngokubonga, ukutuswa nokuthobeka,

F. Javier Romeo

Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi.

Ukubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka - leyo mizwa iphakama phakathi kwayo yonke eminye ngemuva kokuhambela izifundo zakamuva noGene Gendlin kanye no-Ann Weiser Cornell mayelana ne-Focusing., Ifilosofi yomsebenzi Ongacacile kanye noGendlin.

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuba nethuba lokujoyina “Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann” kula masonto adlule kaSepthemba no-Okthoba 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell ubezihlela lezi “Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann” izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka ngokusebenzisa ipulatifomu yakhe Izinsiza zokugxila njengesifundo socingo sikaGene Gendlin kanye naye uqobo lapho ababambiqhaza bengabuza noma yini abayifunayo: imibuzo kaGene Gendlin, izicelo zemibono ngisho nokuphelezelwa ngenqubo yokuGxila nguGendlin ngokwakhe.

Ukubonga, ukwesaba, ukuthobeka… Ngangivele ngilalele amafayela alalelwayo nawevidiyo kaGene Gendlin, futhi ngibathole bekhuthaza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba naye engxoxweni ngocingo kuyinto ehluke kakhulu. Ngisho noma ngingazange ngilokothe ​​ngibuze lutho phakathi nezikhathi ezintathu zokuqala, ukumlalela exoxa bukhoma nabanye abantu kunekhwalithi ekhethekile. Ubukhona Bakhe, ukuvuleka kwakhe, ukucaca kwakhe kuthinta kakhulu, futhi uhlanganyela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe namanye amaparele olwazi lwakhe nokunaka kwakhe.

Futhi ngifuna ukwabelana ngeminye yemibono engiyijabulele kakhulu:

• Umqondo we ukuwela, kufinyezwa nguGene: “Ukuwela kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukusho noma yini futhi kuqondwe ngendlela entsha ngokukusho ohlelweni olusha, ethi ‘Kunjani lokhu (noma kungaba) isibonelo salokho?'” Singasho noma yini ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokuyiveza komunye umbono. Isingathekiso singenzeka ngokusho into eyodwa ngokusebenza kokunye: “A kunjalo, ngomqondo othile, B.”
• Ingxoxo ethokozisayo phakathi kukaGene kanye nombambiqhaza mayelana nendlela yokuchaza Ukugxila, kanye nokuphikisa kwakhe mayelana nokuchaza okudingekayo nokwanele kokuthi okuthile kube Okugxilile. Omunye wemibono eminingi ukuthi “Ukugxila kuhlala nalokho 'lokho', nalapho kungakabi khona ukukhululeka.”
• Ukugxila njengendlela yokulalela ukunyakaza kwethu kwangaphakathi: “Kuningi kithina esifuna kuzwakale nokungakezwakali. Yini engaphakathi kimi efuna ukuzwakala?”
• Umlayezo ogqamile wethemba: “Ukugxila akudingi ukwethenjwa [ohlelweni] ngaphambili,” okusho ukuthi singakwazi ukuqala inqubo ye-Focusing ngisho nokungathembi okuthile kithi, futhi ngenqubo sizofika ukuyethemba.
• Gene ukwabelana ukuthi uzicabangela yena “ukuchema kakhulu ngokuvuna ukugcina izinto ezinhle nokushiya izinto ezimbi ngokwehlukana,” okusho ukuthi ukhetha ukuhlala nezici ezijabulisayo zenqubo ngayinye futhi angagcizeleli futhi azame “qonda” (ekhanda) izici ezibuhlungu, uma inqubo isizixazululile: “Awudingi ukuya lapho,” uthe.
• “Ukugxila kuyisu, kodwa hhayi indlela kuphela.”
• Ukugxila kuhlale kuyinqubo yangaphakathi, ngisho nalapho sigxile ezintweni zangaphandle (izihlahla, izindawo zomhlaba, imidwebo…): kuhlale kukhona umuzwa womzimba.
• Ukwakhiwa “Ake sihlale umzuzu lokho,” ukuvumela izwi “lokho” ziqukethe zonke izincazelo, ngaphandle kwamagama athile, ngakho lapho amazwi efika, zizoba zintsha futhi zizintsha.
• Ukukhuluma ngokuthi isiko lingamisa kanjani isipiliyoni somuntu, Kusho uGene: “Wonke umuntu uhlezi edlula amasiko abo.”
• “Umuzwa wokuzwa uhlala uthembekile kunomzwelo noma umqondo/isizathu sodwa.”

Futhi nginenkumbulo ekhethekile yokukhuluma no-Gene mayelana nendlela yami yokuthola isibambo sodlame nge-Focusing, ukuze sonke sikwazi ukukubona futhi sikuvimbele, njengoba ngivame ukufundisa ekuqeqesheni kwami ​​ochwepheshe bokuvikela izingane (osonhlalakahle, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, abafundisi, othisha…) kanye nemindeni, nokuzwa intshisekelo yakhe nokuthola ukwesekwa nesikhuthazo sakhe.

Bekukhona okunye ukusebenzelana okuningi kwemibono eminingi nesipiliyoni esithokozisayo, ngokuba khona kukaGene no-Ann. Ngibagcina ngokucophelela, nangasese.

Ngakho ngizwa ukubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka ngokuthi uchithe lawa mahora ngilalele uGene Gendlin bukhoma, ngemfudumalo yakhe, ukuvuleka kwakhe, ilukuluku lakhe, intshisekelo yakhe ejulile kulokho umhlanganyeli ngamunye okufanele akubuze noma abelane ngakho. Isifundo sangempela. Ugqozi. Futhi umgubho.

Ngithumela kusuka lapha ukubonga kwami ​​kuGene ngokutholakala kanye naku-Ann ngokwenza kwenzeke kuwo wonke amazinga.

Ngokubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka,

F. Javier Romeo

Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi.

Iqhubeka emgqeni we okufakiwe kwangaphambilini, futhi uhlobene kakhulu naye, ukuqashwa kwami ​​njengelungu le-International Relations ngaphakathi kwebhodi labaqondisi le-Spanish Institute of Focusing, enye ingxenye yokubizela esenzweni okuvele kuyo ukubamba iqhaza kwami ​​eNgqungqutheleni Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi odlule 2016.

njengoba kuphawuliwe kuleyo posi, ku Ukugxila Institute Spanish siyakuqonda lokho, kanye nesenzo sokufundisa kanye nokuhambisana ne-Focusing ikakhulukazi umuntu ngamunye, ngamunye unesitayela sakhe nokuzwela, futhi njalo ngaphakathi kwenqubo okuvunyelenwe ngayo esidlangalaleni kanye namakhono, Nokho, zonke izenzo zenhlangano kanye nokubamba iqhaza kufanele zivele ezinhlakeni zamaqoqo.

Yingakho ke, ngesikhathi ngimenywa ukuba ngibambe iqhaza IKomidi Lobulungu Le-International Institute of Focusing ezinze eNew York (I-International Focusing Institute), Ngibeke leso sikhundla esandleni se-Spanish Institute of Focusing, ukuze lithathwe yinoma yimuphi umuntu njengommeleli ovela eSpain. Yini engingayimangaza uma ngimenywa ukuba ngibambe iqhaza elixhumene ne-International Relations ngaphakathi kwe ibhodi labaqondisi kanye nokwamukela leso sikhundla samazwe ngamazwe. Ngasamukela isicelo, izinyathelo ezifanele ezihlongozwe emithethweni sezithathiwe futhi ngisanda kuqokwa njengelungu.

Ngijabule kakhulu ukukwazi ukufaka isandla emphakathini we-Focusing eSpain, engithole kuyo okuningi. Kusukela ekuqaleni kokuqeqeshwa kwami ​​ku 2009, Izinsuku Zezwe, isikole sasehlobo, ukugadwa, iDiploma kanye neziqu zomqeqeshi oqinisekisiwe kanye ne-Certified Focusing Counselling Psychotherapist kanye nabo bonke abathintwayo nezimo zokukhula, Impela ngicushwe njengochwepheshe be-Focusing (futhi njengomuntu).

Futhi kulolu chungechunge lwezimemo zesenzo (njengoba lisho Elizabeth Gascón, umxhumanisi wami wokudlulisela, the “isinyathelo sesikhombisa” de Ukugxila: “Futhi konke lokhu kukumemela ini?”), Kimina sengathi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ngifake isandla nakulesi sikhundla, inqobo nje uma umsebenzi wami usewusizo futhi wakha. Kuyinselelo ukusebenza kanye nasekusebenzeleni abantu abaningi engibaziyo, nengcebo ngaphakathi lokho kungibeka esimweni sokuthobeka nokufunda.

Ngakho futhi kulesi sikhundla esisha ngisenkonzweni yakho, ngethemba lokufaka isandla olwazini lwamazwe ngamazwe lwengcebo ye-Focusing esiyenzayo lapha, kanye nokunikela ngemibono neziphakamiso ezivela kwezinye izindawo ezivela kulesi simo sobudlelwano bamazwe ngamazwe.

F. Javier Romeo

Njengoba ngike ngaphawula kwenye iposi, babambe iqhaza ku I-International Focusing Conference eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi odlule 2016 kusho ukuvuleka okuningi okusha, izindlela ezintsha, izindlela ezintsha zokufaka i-Focusing empilweni yami nokwabelana ngayo. ukwazi, futhi ubizela esenzweni.

Kungimangaze kakhulu ukumenywa ukuba ngibe yingxenye yeKomidi Lobulungu (IKomidi Lobulungu) kwe Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke ezinze eNew York (I-International Focusing Institute). Leli komiti liwumgwamanda nje owelulekayo. (ayenzi izinqumo) futhi ngokuyisisekelo yakhiwe amavolontiya, oweluleka izigungu ezilawulayo ngazo zonke izindaba eziphathelene nokuba yilungu leSikhungo: indlela yokuthuthukisa ubulungu, ulenza kanjani inani lakho libonakale, kanjani ukwenza lula ukubamba iqhaza phakathi kwamalungu. Umsebenzi wakho ukubheka amalungu futhi uthole izidingo ezivelayo nezikhala zokusebenzisana. Liyikomidi lamazwe ngamazwe, nemihlangano yenkomfa yevidiyo kanye namathimba omsebenzi athile. Yiqembu elisha kangangokuthi alikabi naso isigaba salo Iwebhusayithi yesikhungo. Futhi mina, ukuthi ngiye ngajabulela izinzuzo zokuba yilungu kusukela ngaleso sikhathi 2010, okokuqala njengoMqeqeshi Ekuqeqesheni, futhi kamuva njengomqeqeshi Oqinisekisiwe (2012) futhi Njengochwepheshe Oqinisekisiwe Wokugxila Ekugxileni Kubo (2014), Ngithola njengelungelo ukukwazi ukufaka isandla kwabanye abantu kanye nesakhiwo seSikhungo.

Kimina kubalulekile ukulandela umugqa womsebenzi we Ukugxila Institute Spanish, lapho sisebenza khona ekuqeqesheni, ukuphelezela noma eminye imikhakha yokuGxila ezingeni ngalinye, kodwa lapho ubudlelwano namanye amaqembu nezinhlangano kunqunywa ngokuhlanganyela. Ngakho-ke, Ngithumele isimemo kuBhodi Labaqondisi be-Spanish Institute of Focusing futhi muva nje ngiphinde ngaqokwa ilungu lobudlelwano bamazwe ngamazwe, ukuze akwazi ukuthatha isikhundla eKomidini Lobulungu.

Ukuze, Sengiqalile ukufunda izincwadi (kuningi okwenziwe esikhathini esingaphezudlwana nje konyaka sokusebenza) futhi ngahlanganyela emhlanganweni. Ngethemba ukuthi ngizoqhubeka nokufaka isandla emhlabeni we-Focusing ngale ndlela. Futhi uma unezincomo noma iziphakamiso mayelana nobulungu be-International Institute of Focusing, ngiyojabula ukubezwa.

Enkonzweni yakho ngendlela entsha,

F. Javier Romeo

Kuleli hlobo ngiye ngaba nenjabulo yokubamba iqhaza 27Ingqungquthela Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe ka 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), ihlelwe yi I-British Focusing Association, futhi ivulekele amalungu e Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute) emhlabeni wonke, okuhlangenwe nakho okungiphawule ngezizathu eziningana.

Umbono womhlaba wonke weqoqo lezithombe ze-Focusing International Conference 2016. Ngokuvamile, baqoqa izici ezidlala kakhulu, kodwa futhi zembula izikhathi zokujula. Futhi kuvela isithombe esihle engithathwe nguBlanca Ruiz, evela eSpain, nokuthi ngikuthathele iphrofayili yami (¡umusa, UBlanca!).

Ukuze unikeze izibalo ezithile: sibe ngaphezu 250 ababambiqhaza be 30 amazwe aseRobinson College, cishe uzinikele ngokuphelele eNgqungqutheleni. Ngaphandle kwemihlangano yohlu, babekuphi abantu abaningi, ngesikhathi seworkshop sahlukana (yilowo nalowo ngokukhetha kwakhe) emisebenzini engaphezu kweshumi nanhlanu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Futhi konke kuhlelwe ithimba lenhlangano elizinikele (kusuka I-British Focusing Association,) lokho, Ngaphambi kokuthi ngizame ukuxazulula izinkinga zami, baqale bangilalela, ngokunaka okuvamile.

Ngakho-ke isipiliyoni sokuqala bekuwukuthola abantu nokudala umphakathi., endaweni Egxile kakhulu. Ngihlangane nabantu ababambe iqhaza okokuqala emcimbini wamazwe omhlaba ofana nalona, njengami. Ngiphinde ngenze ubuso, iphimbo lezwi, ubuhlobo… kubantu engangibazi ngezinkomba (izincwadi zabo, izinto zakho, amakhasi akho ewebhu, imiyalezo yakho ohlwini lokugxila, izincomo engangizitholile…). Y, ngamangala, Ngiphinde ngabona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseJapan uMadoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ukuthi wayesifunde ngesithakazelo esikhulu isihloko sami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele”, Yeka ukutholakala! [Futhi ekugcineni lapha ihunyushwa ngesiJapane ngesihloko esisikiselayo Empambana we ngokugxila kanye nokuxhumana engenalo udlame, Ngibonga kakhulu, Madoka!].

Noma kunjalo, Okungihlabe umxhwele kakhulu ubungane nokushesha kokwelashwa, kokubili emisebenzini yeqembu nasekuxhumaneni okwengeziwe komuntu ngamunye, ekudleni, emakhefini, kweminye imisebenzi. Futhi umuzwa wokuqhubeka nokuthola abantu abasha nabathakazelayo ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ngiqala ukuthola umuzwa wokuthi “sasibonane emhlabeni wonke”. Ezingeni elijulile, Manje njengoba sekudlule amasonto ambalwa, Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala engifuna ukukulonda umuzwa womphakathi phakathi kokungafani (futhi kwakukhona ukuhluka okuningi, Ngiyaqinisekisa!). Kuwukuzwa ukuthi siyasebenza, ukuphenya, ukuhlupheka kanye nokujabulelana ukuthuthukisa ukuqonda kwethu Ukugxila, nendlela yokwabelana ngayo nabanye abantu.

isipiliyoni sesibili, kuxhunyaniswe nokwangaphambilini, kade thola ukuxhumana okuhlakaniphile nabantu abaningi. Ngezintshisekelo zethu ezifanayo. Ukuze uqonde Ukugxila ngendlela efanayo noma, Ngokungafani, ukuze uyiqonde ngezindlela ezihlukene kangangokuthi ziyaphelelisana. Ngezindawo zethu zokusebenza. Ngoxhumano lomuntu siqu olulula. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokwenza isisho esidumile sika-Aristotle, “isifiso sobungane sivuka ngokushesha, kodwa ubungane ngokwabo buthatha isikhathi”. Ngabathile abantu esengixhumene nabo, Nginabanye ohlwini lwami olude loxhumana nabo abalindile, kodwa inhloso yokuqhubeka nokuhlakulela izindlela ezintsha zokugxila ikhona. Kuzofana nobudlelwano engivele nginabo emphakathini we-Focusing e-Spain, kodwa emazweni ngamazwe.

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwesithathu kube isimemo sesenzo. Isimemo sesenzo esivela kokubili ngaphakathi nangaphandle. amaphrojekthi angenzeka, ukusebenzisana ukuhlola, uhlu olusha lokufunda, umzimba ukuze ujule, izindawo ongazithola… Okwamanje, izinto ziboleka ukunyakaza, futhi ngigeleza nabo. Ngizokhuluma ngalezi nezinye izinto kwezinye izikhala..

Ngokuzibophezela ukukutshela okuningi kokufakiwe okuzayo ngiyakushiya, ngesincomo sokuthi uvakashele iwebhusayithi esemthethweni Yenkomfa ngenkathi isebenza, ngoba inezinsiza eziningi ongazihlola (isiZulu).

Javier

izibuyekezo (okuthunyelwe kamuva okuhlobene nalokhu):

Ngaphakathi kokubizelwa esenzweni:

• Ukuqokwa kwami ​​eKomidini Lobulungu le-International Institute of Focusing.
• Nokuqokwa kwami ​​njengelungu le-International Relations e-Spanish Institute of Focusing.

Okunye okuhlangenwe nakho:

• brushstrokes (2) Conference International Ukugxilisa: isithakazelo iqembu Community Wellness Ukugxilisa.
• Iqembu Eligxile Kwezintshisekelo Zomphakathi Engqungqutheleni Yokugxila eCambridge (UK) 2016.

Ngiyathanda ukuncoma imisebenzi ehloselwe umphakathi jikelele ukuqeqeshwa emikhakheni esondelene futhi ejulile Ukugxilisa futhi Ukuxhumana benamathele. Le trilogy iwela kuleso sigaba..

“Human: the film” iyi-documentary esesimweni se-trilogy esibonisa izingcezu zezingxoxo ezenziwa nabantu abangaphezu kwezinkulungwane ezimbili (nakuba enguqulweni yokugcina kubonakala abantu abangaba ngamakhulu amabili) sikhuluma ngazo zonke izinto ezisenza sibe yikho “abantu”. Abantu babo bonke ubudala (nakuba zimbalwa kakhulu izingane ezivelayo, amantombazane kanye nentsha ngokulingana, kanye nezindaba ezinzima kakhulu zonke), yazo zonke izinhlobo, kusukela kuwo wonke amazwekazi. Kuyinto ephusile, ngqo kakhulu: akukho mibuzo evela kwababuza imibuzo, akukho ukukopishwa (konke ukungenelela kuvela nemibhalo engezansi, ukuze izwi lokuqala lizwakale), ngaphandle kwedatha yemvelaphi yomuntu ngamunye (kuphela kwezinye izimo lapho bekhuluma ngezwe labo, kodwa ezimweni eziningi ungakwazi kuphela ukuqagela izwekazi layo, ngaphandle uma imibhalo engezansi ivuliwe), engenasiphelo (zonke izingxoxo zenziwa ngesizinda esimnyama esifanayo, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi imisindo evela endaweni yethulwa). Ngabantu abalalele futhi babheke ikhamera ngenkathi abanye bekhuluma, futhi akukho okunye. futhi ngezikhathi ezithile, ukubukwa kwasemoyeni kwezindawo ezimangalisayo, izindawo zemvelo kanye nezindawo zabantu, ngomculo womhlaba (ezivusa amadlingozi ikakhulukazi uma zisetshenziswa ngaphandle kokuhlobana nesithombe: indawo yase-Afrika enomculo wase-Asia ocacile, isibonelo, okuphinde kugcizelele ukuba semhlabeni wonke komuntu).

Umthwebuli wezithombe kanye nomenzi wefilimu U-Yann Artus-Bertrand, waziwa ngomsebenzi wakhe omude wobungcweti evikela izizathu zemvelo nezenhlalo, iqale le trilogy emangalisayo, okuhloswe ngayo ukuba negalelo elilodwa kusithombe somuntu ngezilinganiso zawo ezihlukene. nezibani zayo, futhi futhi ngezithunzi ezibalulekile. Ukubukeka kwefilimu kuhlanganisa yonke into: kusukela kokuhle kakhulu kuya kokubi kakhulu, okukhululayo nalokho okugqilazayo, lokho okunikeza incazelo kanye nombhedo wempilo yamanje…

Kukhona uhlaka oluthile lwetimu, okungabalulwa njengomhlahlandlela:

“Human: the film (umthamo 1)”: uthando (ngezindlela zayo ezahlukene), umsebenzi nobumpofu. Okukhulu kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala, ukucabanga ngalezi zici ezintathu zempilo yomuntu.

“Human: the film (umthamo 2)”: impi, I-Homophobia, ukufa kanye nobunzima bomndeni. Ibekwe ngokusobala kakhulu ekuvuneni isithunzi somuntu kuzo zonke izimo, nakuba kunzima ukukubona.

“Human: the film (umthamo 3)”: injabulo, Imfundo, ukukhubazeka, ubudlelwano nomhlaba, Inhloso yokuphila, ubulungisa kanye nesenzo somphakathi. Ukubheka izici ezithile ezidinga ukuma kwethu (okungcono kakhulu esintwini, siqonde ukukhethwa kwemiyalezo).

Kungumsebenzi okufanele ubonwe ngokuzola, ngezingcezu zemizuzu engamashumi amabili noma engamashumi amathathu, ukuyigaya ijule. Idala imibuzo eminingi futhi isimema ukuthi siyiphendule ngaphakathi. Ungakwazi futhi ukubona amazwibela amade abanye abantu, ezingakhethwa ngendikimba noma umlayezo wazo, futhi lokho kuhlanganisa abantu ngezinye izikhathi abangabonakali efilimini.

Futhi labo bethu ababuka imuvi ngayinye bangakhetha: Ngabe sizohlukanisa umuntu ngamunye ngokwesiqephu esivela kuso? Noma sizokwazi ukulalela ngokukhululekile, uzama ukumbona ngemizwa yakhe nezidingo zakhe, ngemizwa okufanele abe nayo empilweni yakhe ukuze akhulume kanjalo, ngobuntu bakhe kanye nemfihlakalo yakhe?

Ngiyakumema ukuthi ubukele amafilimu futhi uthole okwengeziwe mayelana nobuntu bethu esabelana ngaso, kanye nezomuntu ngamunye ikakhulukazi.

Javier

the 4 September 2015 Ngigcina wathola ilungelo ukuba khona kudlalwé documentary “amantombazane entsha 24 amahora”, (@ chicasnuevas24h) iqondiswe nokubambisana ezivezwa Thuli Lozano (@LozanoMabel). kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, zazo ngingumuntu umlingani wokusungula kusukela 2009, Sisebenze ngokuvimbela, bangabonwa futhi ukungenela kuyinto zezingane, amantombazane kanye intsha ngenjongo yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi. Ngakho ngabhala lokhu ibhulogi lapho mina uchaze ukuthi kungani Ngikubheka njengelungelo documentary okuthusayo, ungakhululekile futhi kubalulekile.

WalkFree.org, inhlangano ekulweni zonke izinhlobo zobugqila zesimanje, lesi sithombe usethule namuhla ukuqwashisa 23 USepthemba sesidlala yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi.

Futhi ngaba nomuzwa wokuba asafuna ukukusho, ngandlela-thile. namuhla, 23 Septhemba, iyona “International Day Against Kwezingane ngokocansi neKushushumbiswa Yabesifazane, izingane” (le, kangcono wathi ezingeni lobuchwepheshe, “ngokumelene ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili nokushushumbiswa”). Ngakho manje kungenzeka ukuthi ube nosuku oluhle lokwenza amazwana yesibili.

Emasontweni alandela ukubona documentary wahlala naye umuzwa okhethekile. Ngangiya ngiba uyazi zonke amathuba anikezwa Ukugxilisa futhi Ukuxhumana benamathele ukusiza bonke abantu abaye ngovela ngenjongo yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi, ukuthi abesifazane noma amadoda, amantombazane noma abafana, noma izingane. Kusobala, ukukhanda yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi iyinkimbinkimbi futhi idinga imithombo ebanzi nomphakathi, futhi ngeensetjenziswa zokwelapha ngokushisa zenhlalo ezithinta ingqondo, Wena okufuna ukutholakala eliphezulu amathuluzi. Yini ngibapha lapha ingumfanekiso ethile iminikelo yalezi zinhlelo ezimbili Ngiyazi ukuthi ungubani, bangikhonze ukuba ahambe kwabantu abaye bahlupheka nohlobo oluthile lobudlova, udlame locansi ikakhulukazi.

the Ukugxilisa, okuyinto kuyinqubo okulalela uhlobo komzimba emizweni wazizwa, It iyithuluzi elinamandla kakhulu ngenxa umuntu oye wahlupheka yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi angaya recomposing ubuhlobo umzimba wakho. Lokho umzimba uye alimala kakhulu futhi ukuhlazeka kangaka ungaba izindlela ukuze babonise ukudabuka kwabo ukuthi ziyingozi, kokubili izimpendulo engacabanganga nesihluthu yabo kanye nobudlelwane asungula. the Ukugxilisa, ne wakhe “hamba igxathu negxathu, isigqi ukuthi umzimba ufuna ukukhombisa”, Kuvumela imizwa ukuthola indlela enempilo ukuze uziveze uhambe kancane kancane ephulukisa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu angase uyalulama yakhe nakho umzimba “kusuka ngaphakathi”, kancane kancane ekunqobeni izithiyo futhi dissociations umzimba wakho wakha ukuze usinde. Ungafunda okuningi Ukugxila kanjani ukuqonda, nokubona ezinye Ukugxilisa okufakiwe ku ukuthi Ngiye posted kule blog.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, le Ukuxhumana benamathele Ngicabanga ithuluzi kakhulu enamandla umuntu ukuba alulame izwi. umuntu (umama noma ubaba, intombazane noma umfana), ngubani senqatshelwe ilungelo bagomela imibono yabo, ukunquma ngokuphila kwakhe, emizimbeni yabo futhi imizwelo yabo, Ungakwazi uthole ukusekelwa izinqubo ezimbili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Benamathele Ukuxhumana ungakwazi ukuhamba imodi ezixoxwa indaba yakhe yena, ukuze reformulate ukuphila kwakhe. Ngakho ungaya ukuthuthukisa Duels ezidingekayo, nokwenza izinqumo ngendlela bayazi futhi amandla. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Benamathele Ukukhulumisana nakho okuwusizo kakhulu lapho sisebenzelana nabanye, futhi zingaba umuntu ukuxhumana ngaphezulu evumelana futhi assertively, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo inhlonipho eyengeziwe nge uqobo kanye nabanye. Ngakho ungakwazi tiniketwe emandla reweave, nokuqaphela, inethiwekhi yayo uthando. Ungafunda ukwaziswa okwengeziwe mayelana ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana benamathele kanti ezinye okufakiwe ku CNV lokhu ibhulogi.

Kuyinto inkumbulo yami bonke abantu abaphethwe yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi, futhi Nalabo abasebenzela ukungenzela kokukhululwa nokwelashwa.

Futhi ngeke sipho sami ukuba ahambe silungisa lezi izinqubo, kusukela ukwesekwa ngokwengqondo futhi ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe (e Madrid, okwamanje).

Ngethemba futhi ukuqaphela,

Javier

UMary Hendricks-Gendlin, isithombe se The Institute Ukugxilisa.

Okokugcina 28 Mashi 2015 UMarion washona (eyaziwa kangcono ngokuthi “UMary”) N. Hendricks-Gendlin, ireferensi ebalulekile ye Ukugxilisa. Ngiphakathi kwalabo, ngaphandle kokuhlangana naye ngqo, sithola ifa lomsebenzi wakhe nomoya wakhe.

UMary Hendricks-Gendlin fue, phakathi kwezinye izici zokuphila kwakhe, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, I-Psychotherapist ene-Focusing Orientation, ilungu lomsunguli we The Institute Ukugxilisa (i-New York Focusing Institute) kanye nomqondisi ofanayo iminyaka eminingi. Ubuye waba ngumlingani weGene Gendlin, owabumba inqubo ye-Focusing futhi ngubani osaphila, kanye nomama ka-Elissa, indodakazi ababefana ngayo.

Kimina ireferensi kaMary Hendricks-Gendlin iza ngokuyinhloko Elizabeth Gascón, Umxhumanisi we-Spanish Focusing kanye nomqeqeshi wami wereferensi (ngemuva kokuqinisekisa, Ngilokhu ngifunda kuye kukho konke ukuxhumana esinakho, siqu noma professional). Elizabeth Gascón, ngomsebenzi wakhe omude ku-Focusing kanye nokumelela kwakhe i-Spanish Institute of Focusing ezindabeni zamazwe ngamazwe (ikakhulukazi njengesekela likamongameli), uye waxhumana kakhulu noMariya, ngisho naseminyakeni yamuva, lapho uGene noMary sebelishiyile ikheli lika The Institute Ukugxilisa (i-New York Focusing Institute). Impela, isonto ngaphambi kokudlula kukaMariya, kwe Izinsuku Zokugxila Zikazwelonke ze 2015 Miraflores de la Sierra, NgoMgqibelo 21, U-Isabel Gascón ubephawula kubahlanganyeli abambalwa ngolwazi lwakhe lukaMary noGene, ngothando olukhulu nobubele, nasekubabazeni konke abakwenzile bobabili, besekelana. Ngincoma ukufunda ukubonga okusuka enhliziyweni ku-Isabel Gascón kuwebhusayithi yakhe.

Ifa esilithola kithina esingalazi ngqo linezinhlobo eziningi.:

• Futhi I-Focusing Institute okuqinile, ukuthi uMary noGene baye baholela ekuguqukeleni enhlanganweni entsha elungiselwe iqiniso lamazwe ngamazwe kanye nemikhakha eminingi ye-Focusing.
• Ukusabalala kwamazwe ngamazwe kwe-Focusing, obekubalulekile kuyena ngesikhathi engumqondisi. Ngithola isihloko sakho sibalulekile. “I-Felt Sense Literacy” (Iyatholakala futhi ngeSpanishi njenge “Ukufunda nokubhala komqondo ozwakalayo”), umbono onyakazayo wokuGxila njengamandla okuguqula umphakathi.
• Ukusekela ukwakhiwa kwezici ezibalulekile zokuGxila njengamaqembu “Izinguquko” (“Izinguquko”), Ukugxilisa amaqembu okushintshana phakathi kwabasebenzi.
• Ucwaningo lwakhe ezindaweni ezahlukene zamanje ze-Focusing, njenge-Focusing Oriented Psychotherapy kanye “Ukucabanga Emaphethelweni -TAE” (“Ecabanga esemaphethelweni – I-PDB”).
• Umqondo wakhe we “Ukumisa okwesikhashana”, okuhlanganisa ukuzinika isikhathi ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo, ngaphambi kokuphendula, ukuma futhi sibone ukuthi umzimba wethu uphila kanjani esimweni ngasinye. Ngale ndlela singathola ubuqiniso obukhulu bezinqumo. Ungafunda isihloko sakhe esimangalisayo “Ukugxila Njengamandla Okuthula: I-Revolutionary Pause” (ngesiNgisi kuphela okwamanje), lapho imigqa yokuqala ithinta khona ubulula nokujula kwayo, nalapho umbhalo wonke uthuthuka ngokwemibono ehlukene umqondo we “Ukumisa okwesikhashana”.

Kusukela lapha kuya ku-Mary Hendricks-Gendlin kanye nokubonga kwami ​​​​ngempilo nomsebenzi wakhe, lokho kuye kwathinta ukuphila kwami. Futhi uthando nokunakekela kwami ​​​​kuGene Gendlin nakubo bonke abantu abathanda uMary, nokuthi abalahlekelwanga nje uchwepheshe obalulekile, kodwa nakumfundisi, umngane nomngane othandekayo, Njengoba ukuphawula kwe ikhasi lokukhokhela le The Institute Ukugxilisa.

ngenhlonipho nangokunakekela,

Javier