UMarshall B. Rosenberg, isithombe esivela ku-Center for Nonviolent Communication.

UMarshall B. Rosenberg, umdali we Ukuxhumana benamathele, wadlula okwedlule 7 February 2015, njengoba ngiphawule kule post.

Wonke umphakathi wabasebenzi Bezokuxhumana Ezingenalo Udlame uyanyakaza futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uhlonishwe ngokuqhubeka nomsebenzi owawuhlongozwa., dala uhlobo lobudlelwano nesimo sengqondo esithuthukisa izimpilo zabo bonke abantu, Ngaphandle kokuhlukile.

the Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame) uhlele a ukukhumbula inkumbulo kaMarshall Rosenberg futhi kusukela emsebenzini wakho olandelayo i-domingo 29 Mashi 2015. Ukuze kube lula ukubamba iqhaza kwamazwe ngamazwe, kuzosakazwa ku-inthanethi. kulesi sixhumanisi.

Ukunaka: inkokhiso izakwenziwa ku 16:00 isikhathi sendawo, bayoba yini le 00:00 kwe 30 Mashi 2015 (ubusuku kusukela ngeSonto kuze kube nguMsombuluko) Isikhathi se-peninsular yaseSpain, le 23:00 NgeSonto 29 Mashi 2015 Isikhathi sase-Canary Islands.

Ngiyakumema ukuthi ubambe iqhaza ukude kule nkumbulo kaMarshall nempilo yakhe.

Javier

[Entry Original 25 Mashi 2015, olusha 30 Mashi 2015, usuku lokuphela komcimbi e-Spain.]

Buyekeza

Ekugcineni abantu abaningi bakwazile ukulandela bekude ukukhumbula inkumbulo kaMarshall Rosenberg. Basebenza ngaphakathi kwesiko labo, Abantu ababalulekile empilweni yakho bakhulumile, abaye babelane ngolwazi lwabo lukaMarshall. Ngithole ezithinta ikakhulukazi izinkulumo zamadodana akhe uRick noBrett, Ngithande ukwazi imininingwane eyengeziwe yempilo yakhe kuphrofayili yokuqala efundwe urabi owayephethe, futhi ngithande ukwazi okuhlangenwe nakho kwabaqeqeshi abahlukahlukene abaye babamba izikhundla ku- Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame), kuhlanganise noRobert Gonzales (owayengumongameli, futhi engimazi mathupha njengomqeqeshi) y UDominic Barter (umongameli wamanje kanye nomdali Wemibuthano Yokubuyisela. Naphezu kwamahora asebusuku kakhulu lapha eMadrid, Isipiliyoni singicebise kakhulu futhi kube yindlela yokuhlonipha inkumbulo kaMarshall nabantu ababemazi ngokujulile..

Ngokubonga nangokuncoma.

Javier

Kube yizinsuku ezimbalwa ezihamba phambili phakathi kwethu esiwaziyo futhi esiwenza Ukuxhumana benamathele. UMarshall B. Rosenberg, umdali we-Nonviolent Communication, okwedlule kudlulile 7 February 2015 eminyakeni yobudala 80 iminyaka (sigubhe usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule kule post), futhi thina ebesimazi futhi ngokujwayelekile nalabo abafunde imodeli yakhe benza into asifundisa yona: sigubhe izehlakalo ezihlangabezane nezidingo zethu futhi zisivumele ukuthi sililele izehlakalo ezishiye izidingo zethu zingafezeki.

Ngaba nenjabulo yokuqeqeshwa naye phakathi nezinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye Zokuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe, IIT) Switzerland ngoJulayi no-August 2008. Kusukela kulokho kwakheka isithombe enginaso noMarshall nomkakhe uValentina, ngomfanekiso ongeziwe wokuba khona kwabafana ababili abangabonakali nentombazane ngemuva, okuhlobene nesikhuthazo uMarshall anginikeza sona emsebenzini wami nezingane, futhi intsha (funda imininingwane eyengeziwe ekungeneni kokuqala).

Ngalezi zinsuku, lapho ngifunde khona imilayezo ehlukene kanye nezikhumbuzo ezenzeke emphakathini wezokuXhumana Okungenalo Udlame., Ngiphinde ngathatha ithuba lokuphinda ngifunde amanothi engangihlala naye ngalezo zinsuku (kanye nenkampani yabanye abaqeqeshi kanye nabanye ababambiqhaza). Futhi kamuva kuyoba yisikhathi sokufunda kabusha yonke imisebenzi yakhe, njengendlela yokuvuselela nokuhlonipha umsebenzi wabo.

UMarshall Rosenberg wasebenzela ukudala umhlaba onobuntu, ukuthola izici zokuphila nokukhula ngisho nasezenzweni ezingaqondakali kakhulu. Inkulumo yakhe eyisisekelo ithi “Udlame luwukubonakaliswa okudabukisayo kwezidingo ezingafezeki”, nendlela yakhe, Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame, indlela yokulalela nokwenza kabusha izinkulumo kuze kutholakale izixazululo lapho zonke izinhlangothi ziwina khona.

Ukugcizelela kukaMarshall izinguquko kwezenhlalo kuyangicebisa ngokukhethekile., wayengafuni Ukukhulumisana Okungenalo Ubudlova ukusiza abantu bahlale bezolile ngempilo yabo. Umsebenzi uqala ngaphakathi komuntu ngamunye, kodwa ayikwazi ukuhlala lapho, kufanele ifinyelele ezakhiweni ezahlukene (ezomnotho, social, ezombusazwe, ezemfundo…) futhi uziguqule ngokuzenza zibe ngumuntu. Njengoba yena ngokwakhe esitshela eSwitzerland: “Isenzo sethu sifana nesomuntu obona ingane iwe empophomeni ayisindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise… Kwesinye isikhathi kuzoba lula kulowo muntu ukuthi acabangele ukuthi ngubani ojikijela izingane futhi agibele impophoma ukuze ayigweme.”.

Ngaphandle komsebenzi wakhe obhaliwe (engaphezu kweshumi izincwadi, phakathi kwazo Ukuxhumana benamathele. Ukuphila ulimi) namavidiyo nokuqoshwa workshop yabo nezingoma zawo, Amaqabunga Marshall zazakha Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele), ngomlando wamashumi eminyaka wokusebenza, nokuthi ibisebenza ngaphandle kwakhe kule minyaka edlule. Ubuye ashiye amakhulu abaqeqeshi abaqinisekisiwe ukuze imodeli yakhe iqhubeke isakazwa ngokwethembeka kanye namashumi ezinkulungwane zabasebenzi abazama ukukhanyisa izingxabano zethu zansuku zonke.. Kuyinto yokugubha.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukudlula kwakhe kushiya isikhala. Ukwazi ukuthi ushone emzini wakhe ephelezelwa umkakhe uValentina nezingane zabo kuyinduduzo encane. Siyazi ukuthi ngeke sisakubona umele izimo zokungqubuzana ezintsha, ukuthi ngeke sizwe ingoma entsha, lokho ngeke kubhale izincwadi ezintsha. Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho, kusele kuphela ukwamukela ngozwela ubuhlungu nokudabuka okuvelayo.

Ngokuhlanganisa kuphela ukuzizwisa okuphelele lapho singaqhubekela khona ngokugcwele, ukuhlanganisa lokho okwamukelwe kuMarshall nokufuna, umzuzu nomzuzu, ungayibuyekeza kanjani ngendlela enothisa wonke umuntu.

Emkhosini nasekulileni,

Javier

Okokugcina 6 Okthoba UMarshall Rosenberg, umdali we Ukuxhumana benamathele, usehlanganise iminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalombili kanti thina esizibonele izinzuzo zomsebenzi wakhe siyawubungaza.

UMarshall B. Rosenberg wazalwa ngo 6 October 1934 e-Guangzhou, E-Ohio (USA), nomndeni wangena 1943 kanye neDetroit, EMichigan, ngaphambi nje kodlame lomjaho ngalowo nyaka. UMarshall ulandisa ukuthi isipiliyoni sodlame sammaka kanjani. Wabhekana nodlame esikoleni, ngokubizwa ngokuthi ungumJuda ngesibongo sakhe. njengoba esho yena, wathola ukuthi kunabantu abangajabulela ukulimaza. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, wakwazi ukubona indlela abanye abantu ababekwazi ngayo ukunyakaza ngozwela ezimeni ezinzima ngokwedlulele (ugogo wakhe, okwathi ngesikhathi sobunzima bakwazi ukuphakela abantu emgwaqweni; noma umalume wakhe, owakwazi ukuphakela nokwelapha ugogo osemdala).

Kamuva wafunda i-psychology futhi wathola i-Ph.D. ku-Carl Rogers in 1961, ofaneleka ngokuphelele njengodokotela wezengqondo emtholampilo ku 1966. Nokho, indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yomtholampilo ayizange imenelise, ngalokho kugcizelela kumalebula nokuxilongwa. Waqhubeka nokucwaninga nokuqeqesha (futhi waqeqeshwa ku-Focusing, futhi empeleni uyincoma ekuqeqeshweni kwayo okuthuthukile), futhi ekugcineni wadala inqubo ye Ukuxhumana benamathele njengoba sisazi njengamanje.

Kusukela ngeminyaka yamashumi ayisishiyagalombili usebenze emhlabeni wonke ekuxazululeni izingxabano ezinkulu kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amancane okuxazulula izingxabano ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke., izingxabano nabanye abantu kanye nezingxabano zangaphakathi. Uthathe umhlalaphansi eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngemva kokwenza amakhulukhulu ezinhlaka emhlabeni futhi esesungule Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele) ukusabalalisa le nqubo yokuguqula. Ungafunda kabanzi ngempilo yakhe nalapho asebenze khona Isizindalwazi se-International Centre for Nonviolent Communication (Center for Communication benamathele).

Ngikujabulele ukuzilolonga naye, nomkakhe u-Valentina kanye nabanye abahleli ku-International Intensive Formation (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe) izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye eSwitzerland ngo-August 2008, futhi ngakwazi ukwamukela imfudumalo yakhe nendlela aye wangikhuthaza ngayo ukuba ngizame ukudlulisela ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana Okungenabudlova ezinganeni nakubantu abaxhumana nabo. Umsebenzi wami omningi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ugqugquzelwe yilokho engikufunde kuye., kokubili ukudala a Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic ezimpilweni zabo bonke abantu (kuhlanganise neyami), njengasezimpilweni zezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha engihlangana nayo, nabantu abakuzungezile (ikakhulukazi ngokusebenzisa Spiral Consulting Izingane, ngaphakathi komugqa Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu). Kulokho kuqeqeshwa besikhuluma ngeSitifiketi, futhi nakuba ekugcineni kuyindlela engingazange ngiyilandele, Ngizizwa ngiyingxenye yenhlangano ye-Nonviolent Communication futhi ngiyaqhubeka nokuhlanganyela ne Association for Communication benamathele lapha eSpain kanye namanye ama-internship kanye namaqembu okufunda.

Ngaleso sikhathi sathatha lesi sithombe ukuthi, ukuqondana kwesiphetho, UMarshall uyasibonisa, Mina noValentina sinabafana ababili abangaziwa nentombazane, njengokufanekisa ngendlela ekhethekile umsebenzi nezingane engiwenza ngogqozi lwe-Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kanye nesipho sami. ¡Gracias, Marshall!

Ngokubonga okujulile ngithumela ukuhlonipha kwami ​​kokugubha. Ngiyabonga, Marshall!

Javier

Ukuqala konyaka yisikhathi sezinhloso ezinhle, amaphrojekthi amasha kanye nemibono emisha evuselelwe. Zonke lezo ziqalo zizodinga izinyathelo, mhlawumbe izinyathelo ezincane kakhulu ekuqaleni. Le vidiyo ithwebula umqondo wokushintsha ukuthinta komhlaba ngokuthinta.

Kunezikhathi zokunyakaza okukhulu, ngoguquko olukhulu, ngamaqhubu amakhulu.

Futhi kukhona izikhathi zokushintsha okuncane, ukuze uthole ukuguqulwa kwemininingwane, okwe “yenza okufanayo kodwa ngendlela ehlukile”.

Indaba yale vidiyo ukuthi inhlangano yaseCzech I-Crossroads Olomouc ihlela kabusha uchungechunge lwezikhangiso I-Liberty Mutual, inkampani yomshwalense eye yenza uchungechunge lwemikhankaso yokukhangisa phakathi neminyaka edlule ukuze iqinise isibopho sezakhamizi. Kulokhu kujwayela imininingwane emincane esingayenza nsuku zonke ukwenza umhlaba ube ngcono kancane iyaqoqwa, kungakhathalekile izikhundla ezingokwengqondo nanoma yiluphi uhlobo. Nokwazi ukuthi singase singamukeli kubantu esibasizayo (nakuba ukubuyisana kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuyisisekelo), njengakuvidiyo, kodwa isenzo sethu singabakhuthaza abanye abantu, futhi singase singazazi izithelo zawo.

Ngikufisela futhi ujabule 2014, ngokuqwashisa kanye negalelo elikhulu emhlabeni.

Javier

Alex Rovira, umeluleki webhizinisi, umfundisi nombhali wazo zombili izindatshana namanoveli, inombono omuhle womuntu osondelene kakhulu nalowo esinawo ovela Ezokuxhumana Ezingenalo Udlame kanye Nokugxila.

Kule vidiyo emfushane unikeza izihluthulelo eziyisisekelo zokusebenza nabantu, kokubili kusukela ekuphathweni kwebhizinisi kanye nakulabo bethu abangenelela ngokomuntu siqu nangokomphakathi. isisho esiyinhloko “umnotho we-caress” iqoqa omunye wemiqondo eyisisekelo engizama ukuyidlulisela ekuqeqeshweni kwami ​​nasekuphelezeleni umsebenzi wami: abantu bafuna ukubukwa, aqashelwe, futhi uma singakutholi ngephozithivu siyakufuna ngezinye izincingo zokuvuka ezingajabulisi. Okubalulekile wukuqaphela lokhu futhi ufunde ukufunda phakathi kwemigqa.. Lokhu kuyangisiza emsebenzini wami nentsha kanye nemindeni yabo., futhi iyithuluzi eliyinhloko lokwakha amabhuloho phakathi kwabantu.

Ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi ubukele ividiyo (ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngisho, ukubamba ubuqili) kanye nokuzindla ngokuthi singawusungula kanjani lowo mnotho we-caress ezimpilweni zethu zangasese, futhi nakuchwepheshe.

Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier

Njengoba ngasho le “Siyakwamukela ku-blog”, umbono wukuthi lokhu blog ufuna ukukhonza njengephayona onalo izinsiza, ukuze zonke izinto neziphakamiso bakhonza ukwakha Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic nabanye kanye nezwe lethu elingaphakathi. Njengoba kuzoba ezihlukahlukene ngokwanele, Ngifuna ukuchaza lapha amalebula ezahlukene ukuthi Ngizosebenzisa zokuhlukanisa okufakiwe.

• CNV: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngokucacile noma lokho okubonakala sengathi kuyilo kimi ukuthi Nginayo “CNV consciencia”.
• Textos CNV: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukuxhumana benamathele.
• Ukugxilisa: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukugxilisa noma into efana nalokho kakhulu.
• Ukugxilisa en Madrid: ziqoqe nemiklamo Madrid ku Ukugxilisa Area (isibonelo, Miraflores de la Sierra, ihora kusuka Madrid).
• Textos Ukugxilisa: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukugxilisa.
• CI ohlobo lwe: okufakiwe ezihlobene eduze umsebenzi wami Spiral Consulting Izingane ezindabeni affectivity, Ukuvikelwa kanye ekuchumana, futhi ngifuna futhi ubheke kule blog.
• Ezenye imibhalo: zikhona izincwadi, izihloko kanye imibhalo, ngaphandle kokuba ngokucacile kunoma yiziphi eyala ezihlongozwayo, Sinenkosi ziyezwana jikelele kanye value okuholela kimi ukukhuluma ngabo kule blog.
• Webs: amakhasi ewebhu, ibhulogi nezisetshenziswa inthanethi.
• Imiqophi: amavidiyo jikelele, kuhlangene nezinye amalebula ezidinga ekuqukethe.
• Movies: emadokhumenthari namafilimu, kokubili ezisekelwe emaqinisweni real nasezindabeni eziqanjiwe, I kubonakala olufanele ukuzwela ukuthi ngifuna ukuthuthukisa le blog.
• Indaba: inoveli (futhi izindaba nezincwadi zezingane) sisinikeze ithuba lokusho unambithe uzwela nge Ukuxhumana benamathele kanye Ukugxilisa.
• Okuhlangenwe Nakho: Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kusilethela lezimanga, nakho ezenza kithi uhlaziye izinto eziza kuqala kithi noma uqinisekise intuitions yethu, futhi lezo zenzakalo bazohlangana ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko.
• Ukuze izingane: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nezingane.
• For Teens: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nge intsha.
• Agenda langempela futhi Alondoloziwe Agenda: lidlulisele zokwakheka avaliwe kakhulu namaqembu ihlelwe, kodwa ezimweni ezingandile lapho ngivula i zokwakheka kuzithameli ezijwayelekile noma ethize hang nabo lezi amalebula, “Agenda langempela” ngenkathi iye aluphelanga futhi “Alondoloziwe Agenda” lapho sekuvele sekudlule usuku lomcimbi, kodwa irekhodi futhi ungabona kwemigomo zokwakheka ukuthi engikufundisayo.

Njengoba ubona, izigaba eziningi Ziyathandelana. Into ezithakazelisayo wukuthi wonke umuntu angakwazi uhlole, uthole ukuthi kube nosizo nehuha. Futhi kuyoba nabanye niyozenezelelwa.

Bon appétit!

inhloso yami yokuqala 2012 isiqalile le bhulogi. Ngemuva kokuthi udale iwebhusayithi ye-More Authentic Connection ivuliwe 2009, ingxenye yezinsiza ibincishisiwe. Ngokwengxenye ngoba kunezinto eziningi zokwakha ezingesiNgisi noma ngesiFulentshi kuphela, futhi ngokwengxenye ngokubhekisela ngokukhethekile emibhalweni ethile Yokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame, kwabonakala kungasadingeki.

Nokho, ubungqabavu engibubonile ku Blog of Spiral Consulting Izingane, engiyigcinile kanye no-Pepa Horno kanye no-Ana Sánchez-Mera kusukela ekupheleni 2009, Kungibonise ukuthi ibhulogi iyithuluzi elithakazelisa kakhulu ukuthi ngiqoqe zonke lezo zincomo ukuthi ekuqeqeshweni zinginike isikhathi sokucaphuna.: izihloko, izincwadi, amakhasi, amavidiyo, amafilimu kanye nemithombo ehlukahlukene engasisiza sijulise ukuqeqeshwa kwethu. Eqinisweni, Ngifuna kube njalo isincomo sami sokuqala: funda ibhulogi yethu yesikhungo. Futhi empeleni okunye okufakiwe ngizokubuyisela kule bhulogi.

Futhi kungigqugquzele futhi ibhulogi yomuntu siqu yomlingani wami nomngane wami uPepa Horno. Kunezinto ezisebenza kahle kakhulu ezingeni eliqinile lochwepheshe, bese kuba nezinye izinto ezifanelana kangcono nezomuntu siqu, ngendlela yokuba munye, futhi lokho kudinga ububanzi bayo.

Ngakho qala le bhulogi, lokho kuzokwandiswa kalula. Ngethemba ukuthi uzokuthola kuthakazelisa, nokuphawula kwamukelekile.