Ukubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka - leyo mizwa iphakama phakathi kwayo yonke eminye ngemuva kokuhambela izifundo zakamuva noGene Gendlin kanye no-Ann Weiser Cornell mayelana ne-Focusing., Ifilosofi yomsebenzi Ongacacile kanye noGendlin.

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuba nethuba lokujoyina “Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann” kula masonto adlule kaSepthemba no-Okthoba 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell ubezihlela lezi “Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann” izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka ngokusebenzisa ipulatifomu yakhe Izinsiza zokugxila njengesifundo socingo sikaGene Gendlin kanye naye uqobo lapho ababambiqhaza bengabuza noma yini abayifunayo: imibuzo kaGene Gendlin, izicelo zemibono ngisho nokuphelezelwa ngenqubo yokuGxila nguGendlin ngokwakhe.

Ukubonga, ukwesaba, ukuthobeka… Ngangivele ngilalele amafayela alalelwayo nawevidiyo kaGene Gendlin, futhi ngibathole bekhuthaza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba naye engxoxweni ngocingo kuyinto ehluke kakhulu. Ngisho noma ngingazange ngilokothe ​​ngibuze lutho phakathi nezikhathi ezintathu zokuqala, ukumlalela exoxa bukhoma nabanye abantu kunekhwalithi ekhethekile. Ubukhona Bakhe, ukuvuleka kwakhe, ukucaca kwakhe kuthinta kakhulu, futhi uhlanganyela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe namanye amaparele olwazi lwakhe nokunaka kwakhe.

Futhi ngifuna ukwabelana ngeminye yemibono engiyijabulele kakhulu:

• Umqondo we ukuwela, kufinyezwa nguGene: “Ukuwela kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukusho noma yini futhi kuqondwe ngendlela entsha ngokukusho ohlelweni olusha, ethi ‘Kunjani lokhu (noma kungaba) isibonelo salokho?'” Singasho noma yini ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokuyiveza komunye umbono. Isingathekiso singenzeka ngokusho into eyodwa ngokusebenza kokunye: “A kunjalo, ngomqondo othile, B.”
• Ingxoxo ethokozisayo phakathi kukaGene kanye nombambiqhaza mayelana nendlela yokuchaza Ukugxila, kanye nokuphikisa kwakhe mayelana nokuchaza okudingekayo nokwanele kokuthi okuthile kube Okugxilile. Omunye wemibono eminingi ukuthi “Ukugxila kuhlala nalokho 'lokho', nalapho kungakabi khona ukukhululeka.”
• Ukugxila njengendlela yokulalela ukunyakaza kwethu kwangaphakathi: “Kuningi kithina esifuna kuzwakale nokungakezwakali. Yini engaphakathi kimi efuna ukuzwakala?”
• Umlayezo ogqamile wethemba: “Ukugxila akudingi ukwethenjwa [ohlelweni] ngaphambili,” okusho ukuthi singakwazi ukuqala inqubo ye-Focusing ngisho nokungathembi okuthile kithi, futhi ngenqubo sizofika ukuyethemba.
• Gene ukwabelana ukuthi uzicabangela yena “ukuchema kakhulu ngokuvuna ukugcina izinto ezinhle nokushiya izinto ezimbi ngokwehlukana,” okusho ukuthi ukhetha ukuhlala nezici ezijabulisayo zenqubo ngayinye futhi angagcizeleli futhi azame “qonda” (ekhanda) izici ezibuhlungu, uma inqubo isizixazululile: “Awudingi ukuya lapho,” uthe.
• “Ukugxila kuyisu, kodwa hhayi indlela kuphela.”
• Ukugxila kuhlale kuyinqubo yangaphakathi, ngisho nalapho sigxile ezintweni zangaphandle (izihlahla, izindawo zomhlaba, imidwebo…): kuhlale kukhona umuzwa womzimba.
• Ukwakhiwa “Ake sihlale umzuzu lokho,” ukuvumela izwi “lokho” ziqukethe zonke izincazelo, ngaphandle kwamagama athile, ngakho lapho amazwi efika, zizoba zintsha futhi zizintsha.
• Ukukhuluma ngokuthi isiko lingamisa kanjani isipiliyoni somuntu, Kusho uGene: “Wonke umuntu uhlezi edlula amasiko abo.”
• “Umuzwa wokuzwa uhlala uthembekile kunomzwelo noma umqondo/isizathu sodwa.”

Futhi nginenkumbulo ekhethekile yokukhuluma no-Gene mayelana nendlela yami yokuthola isibambo sodlame nge-Focusing, ukuze sonke sikwazi ukukubona futhi sikuvimbele, njengoba ngivame ukufundisa ekuqeqesheni kwami ​​ochwepheshe bokuvikela izingane (osonhlalakahle, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, abafundisi, othisha…) kanye nemindeni, nokuzwa intshisekelo yakhe nokuthola ukwesekwa nesikhuthazo sakhe.

Bekukhona okunye ukusebenzelana okuningi kwemibono eminingi nesipiliyoni esithokozisayo, ngokuba khona kukaGene no-Ann. Ngibagcina ngokucophelela, nangasese.

Ngakho ngizwa ukubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka ngokuthi uchithe lawa mahora ngilalele uGene Gendlin bukhoma, ngemfudumalo yakhe, ukuvuleka kwakhe, ilukuluku lakhe, intshisekelo yakhe ejulile kulokho umhlanganyeli ngamunye okufanele akubuze noma abelane ngakho. Isifundo sangempela. Ugqozi. Futhi umgubho.

Ngithumela kusuka lapha ukubonga kwami ​​kuGene ngokutholakala kanye naku-Ann ngokwenza kwenzeke kuwo wonke amazinga.

Ngokubonga, ukwesaba nokuthobeka,

F. Javier Romeo

Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi.