The Yofatsa Kulankhulana Zimakhala kwambiri chida, ndi zofunika kukhala Mulimonse ndi kudzera n'kotheka njira. Amene adachita zokambirana ndi ine aona profusion chuma ntchito (zithunzi, danga…), mwa zina makalata I-zachinyengo, ndi ntchito pa zaka zingapo.

Ine kunamukomera kwambiri ndi posachedwapa zikamera mwa makalata “ZOPHWEKA Konekta”, ndi gwero zothandiza limodzi ndi njira ya anthu amene amadalira zithunzi, makamaka ana. Mu Zambiri mphaka, yaing'ono kampani ndi kuyesetsa kubweretsa ndi kulenga chiphunzitso zipangizo yophunzitsa mu yofatsa Kulankhulana ku Spain, Anasankha kumasula makalata amenewa kupanga wokha.

Ndalandira makalata “ZOPHWEKA Konekta” ndi kuwakonda mbali zambiri. Mbali inayi, ndi kamangidwe, ndi losavuta zojambula kuti apange makadi kwambiri angakwanitse, pinki maziko kwa maganizo ndi buluu maziko zosowa (kachidindo ndi universalized m'dera la yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi NVC Dance apansi).

Tsidya, mmene wachikondi mawu: maganizo ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi, kuti aliyense amaona zinaphatikizapo ifeyo mosavuta; ndi zosowa amaonetsa mu awiri njira, kotero kuti munthu angathe kufufuza zinthu mawu n'zogwirizana inu zabwino.

Kuphatikiza Apo, kuonjezera chiwerengero cha akufuna kugwiritsa (Game malingaliro), Anasintha kuchokera zina ndi chilolezo, kuphatikizapo wotchuka “Poker CNV”, Ine ndimagwiritsa ntchito mozama zokambirana.

Kuyambira pano wanga Zabwino zonse kwa timu Zambiri mphaka latsopanoli gwero. Ndikuyembekezera wanga wotsatira msonkhano kuyesa kuona chimene iwo amaganiza anthu amene amachita. Panthawiyi mukhoza kufufuza zambiri zokhudza makadi mu tsamba la webu ndipo inu mukhoza kuwagula iwo Intaneti ngati muli ndi chidwi.

Ine ndikudalira kuti ndinu othandiza ndi zovuta kuzamitsa yofatsa Kulankhulana.

Xavier

Pomaliza 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, Mlengi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana, wakwanitsa zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu ndipo ife amene tawonapo ubwino wa ntchito yake tikukondwerera.

Marshall B. Rosenberg anabadwa pa 6 October 1934 ku Guangzhou, Ohio (U.S), ndipo banja lidalowa 1943 ndi Detroit, Michigan, kutatsala pang'ono kuchita zipolowe za mpikisano chaka chimenecho. Marshall akufotokoza momwe zochitika zachiwawa zidamuzindikiritsira. Anakumananso ndi chiwawa kusukulu, podziwika kuti ndi Myuda ndi dzina lake lachibale. monga anenera mwini, anapeza kuti pali anthu amene angasangalale kuwawa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, adatha kuwona momwe anthu ena amatha kuyenda mwachifundo m'mikhalidwe yovuta kwambiri (agogo ake, amene panthawi yamavuto adatha kudyetsa anthu mumsewu; kapena amalume ake, amene anatha kudyetsa ndi kuchiritsa agogo okalamba kale).

Pambuyo pake adaphunzira za psychology ndipo adalandira Ph.D. kuchokera kwa Carl Rogers in 1961, woyenereradi kukhala katswiri wazamisala mu 1966. Komabe, njira ya psychology yachipatala sinamukhutiritse, ndi kutsindika kumeneko pa zilembo ndi matenda. Anapitiriza kufufuza ndi kuphunzitsa (amaphunzitsidwanso Focusing, ndipo amavomereza mu maphunziro ake apamwamba), ndipo pamapeto adapanga njira ya Yofatsa Kulankhulana monga tikudziwira panopa.

Kuyambira zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu wakhala akugwira ntchito padziko lonse lapansi poyimira pakati pa mikangano yayikulu komanso kukulitsa luso laling'ono lothetsera mikangano pamoyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku., mikangano ndi anthu ena komanso mikangano yamkati. Anapuma pantchito zaka zingapo zapitazo, atatha kupanga mazana a mapangidwe padziko lapansi ndikukhazikitsa International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent) kufalitsa njira yosinthira iyi. Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za moyo wake komanso komwe adagwirako ntchito Webusaiti ya International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent).

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye, ndi mkazi wake Valentina komanso ndi opanga ena mu International Intensive Formation (International Intensive Training) masiku asanu ndi anayi ku Switzerland mu Ogasiti 2008, ndipo ndinatha kulandira chikondi chake ndi momwe adandilimbikitsira kuti ndiyese kupereka kumvetsetsa kwanga kwa Nonviolent Communication kwa ana ndi anthu omwe amakumana nawo.. Zambiri mwa ntchito zanga kuyambira pamenepo zalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe ndaphunzira kwa iye., zonse kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka m’miyoyo ya anthu onse (kuphatikizapo wanga), monga m’miyoyo ya ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ndimakumana nawo, ndi anthu ozungulira inu (makamaka kudzera Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, mkati mwa mzere Kulankhulana pakati pa anthu). M'maphunzirowa tinkakamba za Certification, ndipo ngakhale kuti pamapeto pake ndi njira yomwe sindinayitsatire, Ndikumva mbali ya gulu la Nonviolent Communication ndipo ndikupitiriza kugwirizana ndi Association for Nonviolent Communication kuno ku Spain komanso ndi magulu ena a internship ndi maphunziro.

Pa nthawi imeneyo tinajambula chithunzi ichi, kugwirizana kwa tsogolo, Marshall amatifotokozera, Valentina ndi ine tili ndi anyamata awiri osadziwika bwino ndi mtsikana, monga kuyimira mwapadera ntchito ndi ana yomwe ndimachita ndi kudzoza kwa Marshall ndi Nonviolent Communication.

Kuchokera pano nditumiza zikomo zanga ndi msonkho wanga. ¡Gracias pa, Marshall!

Ndi chiyamiko chakuya ndimatumiza ulemu wanga wokondwerera. Zikomo, Marshall!

Xavier

CNV dancefloors kale anaonekera mu Baibulo mu Chikasitilia, imene Ndagwira ntchito, komanso zilipo Spanish ndi mawu mavidiyo.

Bridget Belgrave ndi Gina Lawrie, Formadoras mbiri yabwino ndi Center kwa Communication Nonviolent (Center kwa Communication NonViolent, CNVC), Kwa zaka analenga chida chachikulu kuphunzitsa ndi kuchita Nonviolent Communication (CNV). Monga iwowo mu kugonjera, ndi NVC Dance apansi (NVC Dance apansi) Iwo anatuluka kupyola mu mndandanda wa njira kuti atsogolere mwambo wa Nonviolent Communication ndi mapu okhudza malo kuti amakulolani kugwiritsa ntchito gawo thupi kugwira ntchito gawo maganizo, njira mukuona kanema:

m'chilimwe 2009 Ine tasangalala formarme ndi Gina ndi kukumana Bridget, kuyambira pamenepo ntchito yomasulira ndi anatengera anali anabwerera Chikasitilia, Poyesayesa imene tathandiza anthu ambiri ndipo ine kaamba kanthawi. Choncho timasangalala kufalitsa Chida chophweka ndipo komabe kwambiri, potsiriza mu Spanish, imene ife kusamalira kuphatikizapo yaikulu zotheka angapo Spanish Baibulo.

zimene ndinaona kuti NVC Dance apansi anthu akhoza kuchita chabe kudziwa ochepa koyamba Communication Nonviolent (Ndipotu I ntchito zina zokambirana ndi malonje). Ngakhale anthu amene sadziwa njira yokha Nonviolent Communication (ana, ndi achinyamata, makasitomala mankhwala) Mosavuta kuwoloka mothandizidwa ndi winawake amene amadziwa zambiri.

Dancefloors CNV kuphatikiza ndi zithunzi, ogwirika ndi zinenero, choncho zomwe kumachitika mwa njira ndi zinachitikira chozama. Ndipo pali naini “zovina” chosiyana, ndi mayina monga “Masewero 13 masitepe”, “Dance Kusakanikirana ndi mgwirizano”, “Dance la Mkwiyo / Ukali, Manyazi ndi Depression”, “Gule wa Inde ndi No”, ndi “Kusintha ululu wa zofuna unmet mu Kukongola Zosowa”.

Kuphatikiza Apo, mu 2013 iwo anamasulidwa makanema kuti afotokoze atatu ya madansi ameneŵa, mu kope mosamala monga omasulira Chisipanishi.

Ngati mukufuna kugula dancefloor CNV mu akamagwiritsa osiyana (monga Koperani, pepala, plasticized Baibulo…) ndi ma DVD kuphunzira nawo kunyumba kapena kuchita gulu, mukhoza kukaona sitolo Intaneti, moyo Resources.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kundidalira kuyesa dancefloor mu gawo limodzi kapena zokambirana zenizeni, Ine ndidzakhala osangalala kuti apite.

Ndikuyembekeza inu mukufuna.

Xavier

Ndine wokondwa kugawana nawo nkhaniyi The Focusing Institute yasindikizidwa mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yamaphunziro, mu volume yake 25 za 2014. Pepala langa “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ adawonekera pa chiyambi cha 2014 ndipo yangosindikizidwa pa digito ndi mwayi waulere komanso mtundu wa PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi, “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha pa February 9th 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi, “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama”, ndi kuwerenga nkhani ya kumasulira kwake (mu Spanish) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri!

Ndikusiyirani apa mwatsatanetsatane:

ABSTRACT

Onse Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (NVC) zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza chidziwitso ndipo machitidwe awo amkati amapita patsogolo pamene mawu awo ena akuwonekera.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwanu nokha komanso ndi mnzanu. Ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumabweretsa zozama, momwe zinthu zomwe zimaganiziridwa zimakhazikika ndikuzindikirika.

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication ikani kupsinjika pakuwonetsa mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulumikizana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. Nonviolent Communication amayesa kupeza chilengedwe chonse zosowa zomwe zili pachimake cha zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication akhala kuwoloka m'njira zosiyanasiyana (kubwereza kwachidule kwa zodutsa zina zikufufuzidwa mu pepala ili). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa chidziwitso chatsopano cha zosowa, makamaka pofunsa. Ndipo Nonviolent Communication zitha kulimbikitsidwa ndi chidwi chatsopano ku mawu oyamba a munthuyo -osati kungoyesa "kumasulira" chilichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa ndipo mnzake / wothandizira akuwonetsa mbali zonse ziwiri za chidziwitso, munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zotsatira zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka.

Kwa olankhula Chisipanishi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Spanish.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo ndipo ndimakonda kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

Ndi chisangalalo chachikulu ndikugawana nkhaniyi yomwe mwasindikiza The Focusing Institute (New York-based International Focusing Institute) mu volume 25 zogwirizana ndi 2014 wa The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yovomerezeka yamaphunziro. Anawonekera mu pepala Baibulo pa chiyambi cha 2014, nkhani yanga “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ yangosindikizidwa mu Chingerezi mwaulere komanso yotseguka mu PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhani yoyambirira mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha kwa 9 February 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama” ndi kuwona mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Ndipo ndikusiyiraninso chidule choyambirira:

PITILIZANI

Onse kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (CNV) Zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza zidziwitso ndi kuti njira zathu zimapitirizidwa patsogolo pamene mawu athu ena awonetsedwa kwa ife.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwa munthu ndi iyeyo komanso ndi aliyense amene amamutsatira. Ndipo kuwonetserako kumakhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya pamene mbali zobisika zimatseguka kumoyo wawo ndipo zimadziwika bwino..

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication kutsindika kuwonetsera mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulankhulana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. The Nonviolent Communication yesetsani kupeza zosowa chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe chimatsogolera zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication zaphatikizidwa (kuwoloka) m'njira zosiyanasiyana (Ndemanga yachidule ya zosakaniza zina ikufufuzidwa m'nkhaniyi). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa kuzindikira kwatsopano kwa zosowa, makamaka mu Funsani sitepe. Ndipo the Nonviolent Communication zingawonjezeke ndi kukhudzika kwatsopano kwa mawu oyamba a munthuyo—osati kungoyesa “kumasulira” chirichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa komanso pamene womvera ngati mnzake kapena wothandizira amasonyeza mbali zonse za chidziwitso., munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zozama zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) / Nonviolent Communication (CNV), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka/Cross/Gwirizanitsani.

Kwa olankhula Chingerezi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Chingerezi.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwaikonda ndipo ndidzakhala wokondwa kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

kukweza ku 26 September 2014:

Ndakhala ndi mwayi kuti nkhani yanga ya Chisipanishi imapezeka mu Tsamba la Spanish la Focusing Institute of New York (The Focusing Institute). Zikomo kwambiri! Zikomo kwambiri!

kukweza ku 9 February 2017:

Ndikuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha kumasulira kwachi Japan kwa Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri! Aquí está la mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Masiku angapo apitawo ndinayankhapo mu blog positi ndi Spiral Consulting for Children, komwe ndimagwira ntchito pazokambirana za mabanja ndi akatswiri omwe amagwira ntchito ndi ana, ndi achinyamata, kuti nthaŵi zina msonkhano wowongolera kulankhulana m’banja kapena m’kalasi umakhala wodzutsa chidwi, komanso pambali pa zidziwitso zomwe zapezedwa ndi zida zomwe adaphunzira, anthu ambiri amapempha zinthu zambiri zoti atsamirepo. Ndimakonda kupangira buku Adele Faber ndi Elaine Mazlish (ophunzitsa ndi amayi) ndi mutu wolimbikitsa Momwe mungalankhulire kuti ana anu azimvetsera ndi kumvetsera kuti ana anu azilankhula nanu, njira yolumikizirana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe adawonekera 1980. Kwa zaka zambiri wakhala chizindikiro cha makolo abwino: kumvetsera mwachifundo ndi kutsimikizira pamene mukuika malire ndikufikira mapangano okhutiritsa kwa onse okhudzidwa.

Kulimbikitsidwa ndi zokambirana zomwe olemba onse awiri adachita, Bukuli limapangidwa motsatira zomwe zili m'munsimu: Mutu 1. Momwe mungathandizire ana kuthana ndi malingaliro awo. Mutu 2. Momwe mungalimbikitsire mgwirizano. Mutu 3. M'malo mwa chilango. Mutu 4. Momwe mungayambitsire kudzilamulira. Mutu 5. matamando. Mutu 6. Momwe mungapulumutsire typecasting. Mutu 7. Tiyeni tibwereze. Kuphatikiza Apo, m'magazini atsopano a 2013 kuchokera Mkonzi Medici kumaphatikizapo kuyang'ana mmbuyo kuchokera kwa olemba ku kuphunzira ndi zochitika pazaka zopitirira makumi atatu ndi mawu okhudza mtima a Joanna Faber, ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ngati mwana wamkazi wa wolemba Adele Faber komanso kukumana kwake ndi umayi wake.

Kuchokera pamalingaliro abwino amunthu komanso ubale wamunthu, lembalo lazikidwa pa zifukwa zoyambira ndi zitsanzo zambiri, zina zojambulidwa ndi ma vignettes omwe ali ngati moyo wokha, ndipo nthawi zonse amapereka malingaliro oti agwiritse ntchito ndi anyamata ndi atsikana omwe ali pafupi nafe. Ngakhale poyamba akukonzekera mabanja, Itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito m'munda wamaphunziro ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu (ngakhale olembawo ali ndi mabuku ena enieni okhudza maphunziro).

Ndipo ngati ana anu aamuna ndi aakazi (kapena ophunzira omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito) iwo ndi akulu, mutha kuyang'ananso bukuli ndi olemba omwewo Momwe mungalankhulire kuti achinyamata azimvetsera komanso kumvetsera kuti achinyamata azilankhula nanu, kupereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana (zoyenera akadzakula) ndi malangizo othandiza nthawi zonse, zimenezo mwina zingakupangitseni kumwetulira.

Ndikufunirani kuwerenga kosangalatsa, komanso kuti mumakonda kufufuza njira zatsopano zolankhulirana.

Xavier