Kulezi zinsuku zokugcina zaleli Okthoba isihloko ukufa ngakho njalo ngaphezulu ekuphileni kwezingane kuphakama. Kusukela uSuku Lwabafileyo emikhayeni ezithile kuzo zonke izenzakalo lowehlukile Halloween, iqiniso liwukuthi kuyisikhathi lapho izingane ebuza imibuzo mayelana nokufa, futhi kulula ukuba uzilungiselele izimo zengqondo izikhala ukulalela nezimpendulo.

Ngaloba 2011 i-athikili yokutakula lapha, “Izingane nokufa”, ukukhumbula ezinye imikhondo ewusizo. Article, owanyatheliswa ephephabhukwini ekhoneni yethu 0-6 - Accent ziqondiswe Imfundo yezingane, izindawo ezintathu ezibalulekile uhlole:

• Umbono sokufa emazingeni ahlukene (phakathi neminyaka engu-zero kanye eziyisithupha, okuyinto isihloko umagazini).
• Ezinye izinkombandlela eziyisisekelo ukuba ahambe izingane ukufa.
• Ukufundwa letiphakanyisiwe, ukufundwa ehlukile imindeni kanye nezifundiswa nezindaba ukufunda nezingane.

Futhi mina ngiqale nge lesi sihloko nokubiyela isigaba:

Kwaphela isikhathi eside kwakucatshangwa ukuthi izingane akazange ahlupheke inqubo lusizi kwaze kwaba ubudala amadala. Nokho, ucwaningo emkhakheni ingozi yokulutheka baye babonisa idlule sokulila kusukela ubudala bokuqala ukuthi, nakuba awusebenzi sibonakalise Njengabantu abadala kuze kamuva. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuba ukhulume sokufa (hhayi ulifihle ngenxa yokwesaba odalekayo kuwo) lapho kwenzeka (noma uma kuzokwenzeka, esimweni ukufa), ukuqonda 1) ukuthi umuntu ngempela uya futhi 2) ukuthi umuntu akabashiyi ngokuzithandela, futhi ukuze bakwazi ukusho goodbye, ngoba uma imiqondo le ibingakaziwa hhayi yokuvalelisa kwenzeka, Yisililo sokugembula zingavela. Futhi ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi silalela futhi unake ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi lapho ukufa kwenzeka ezimpilweni zabo.
[zilandise njengoba: Romeo BIEDMA, Francisco Javier (2011): "Izingane nokufa kwabantu abaningi" ekhoneni yethu 0-6 - Accent, 60, 17-21.]

Qhubeka ufunda lesi sihloko…

Ngithemba la ukucabanga oluzosiza ezihambisana nalesi sihloko nezingane endaweni yakho. Ukufa kuyingxenye engenakugwenywa yokuphila, abuye ahlanganise kanjani kangcono, Bayophila ngokugcwele, izingane zethu kanye nathi.

Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngiqaphele mkhosi,

Javier

the 4 September 2015 Ngigcina wathola ilungelo ukuba khona kudlalwé documentary “amantombazane entsha 24 amahora”, (@ chicasnuevas24h) iqondiswe nokubambisana ezivezwa Thuli Lozano (@LozanoMabel). kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, zazo ngingumuntu umlingani wokusungula kusukela 2009, Sisebenze ngokuvimbela, bangabonwa futhi ukungenela kuyinto zezingane, amantombazane kanye intsha ngenjongo yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi. Ngakho ngabhala lokhu ibhulogi lapho mina uchaze ukuthi kungani Ngikubheka njengelungelo documentary okuthusayo, ungakhululekile futhi kubalulekile.

WalkFree.org, inhlangano ekulweni zonke izinhlobo zobugqila zesimanje, lesi sithombe usethule namuhla ukuqwashisa 23 USepthemba sesidlala yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi.

Futhi ngaba nomuzwa wokuba asafuna ukukusho, ngandlela-thile. namuhla, 23 Septhemba, iyona “International Day Against Kwezingane ngokocansi neKushushumbiswa Yabesifazane, izingane” (le, kangcono wathi ezingeni lobuchwepheshe, “ngokumelene ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili nokushushumbiswa”). Ngakho manje kungenzeka ukuthi ube nosuku oluhle lokwenza amazwana yesibili.

Emasontweni alandela ukubona documentary wahlala naye umuzwa okhethekile. Ngangiya ngiba uyazi zonke amathuba anikezwa Ukugxilisa futhi Ukuxhumana benamathele ukusiza bonke abantu abaye ngovela ngenjongo yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi, ukuthi abesifazane noma amadoda, amantombazane noma abafana, noma izingane. Kusobala, ukukhanda yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi iyinkimbinkimbi futhi idinga imithombo ebanzi nomphakathi, futhi ngeensetjenziswa zokwelapha ngokushisa zenhlalo ezithinta ingqondo, Wena okufuna ukutholakala eliphezulu amathuluzi. Yini ngibapha lapha ingumfanekiso ethile iminikelo yalezi zinhlelo ezimbili Ngiyazi ukuthi ungubani, bangikhonze ukuba ahambe kwabantu abaye bahlupheka nohlobo oluthile lobudlova, udlame locansi ikakhulukazi.

the Ukugxilisa, okuyinto kuyinqubo okulalela uhlobo komzimba emizweni wazizwa, It iyithuluzi elinamandla kakhulu ngenxa umuntu oye wahlupheka yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi angaya recomposing ubuhlobo umzimba wakho. Lokho umzimba uye alimala kakhulu futhi ukuhlazeka kangaka ungaba izindlela ukuze babonise ukudabuka kwabo ukuthi ziyingozi, kokubili izimpendulo engacabanganga nesihluthu yabo kanye nobudlelwane asungula. the Ukugxilisa, ne wakhe “hamba igxathu negxathu, isigqi ukuthi umzimba ufuna ukukhombisa”, Kuvumela imizwa ukuthola indlela enempilo ukuze uziveze uhambe kancane kancane ephulukisa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu angase uyalulama yakhe nakho umzimba “kusuka ngaphakathi”, kancane kancane ekunqobeni izithiyo futhi dissociations umzimba wakho wakha ukuze usinde. Ungafunda okuningi Ukugxila kanjani ukuqonda, nokubona ezinye Ukugxilisa okufakiwe ku ukuthi Ngiye posted kule blog.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, le Ukuxhumana benamathele Ngicabanga ithuluzi kakhulu enamandla umuntu ukuba alulame izwi. umuntu (umama noma ubaba, intombazane noma umfana), ngubani senqatshelwe ilungelo bagomela imibono yabo, ukunquma ngokuphila kwakhe, emizimbeni yabo futhi imizwelo yabo, Ungakwazi uthole ukusekelwa izinqubo ezimbili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Benamathele Ukuxhumana ungakwazi ukuhamba imodi ezixoxwa indaba yakhe yena, ukuze reformulate ukuphila kwakhe. Ngakho ungaya ukuthuthukisa Duels ezidingekayo, nokwenza izinqumo ngendlela bayazi futhi amandla. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Benamathele Ukukhulumisana nakho okuwusizo kakhulu lapho sisebenzelana nabanye, futhi zingaba umuntu ukuxhumana ngaphezulu evumelana futhi assertively, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo inhlonipho eyengeziwe nge uqobo kanye nabanye. Ngakho ungakwazi tiniketwe emandla reweave, nokuqaphela, inethiwekhi yayo uthando. Ungafunda ukwaziswa okwengeziwe mayelana ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana benamathele kanti ezinye okufakiwe ku CNV lokhu ibhulogi.

Kuyinto inkumbulo yami bonke abantu abaphethwe yokuxhashazwa ngokocansi, futhi Nalabo abasebenzela ukungenzela kokukhululwa nokwelashwa.

Futhi ngeke sipho sami ukuba ahambe silungisa lezi izinqubo, kusukela ukwesekwa ngokwengqondo futhi ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe (e Madrid, okwamanje).

Ngethemba futhi ukuqaphela,

Javier

Kuleliviki leliphelile 12 futhi 13 September 2015 Ngiye ngajabulela ilungelo sajabulela ukusebenza futhi Bridget Belgrave. Njengoba ngishilo kule post, ngahlangana Bridget Belgrave futhi Gina Lawrie, Ukwakha Certified Center for Communication benamathele (Center for Communication benamathele, Nceku), e 2009 futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi saqala ukusebenza ndawonye ukuhumusha Dance Floors CNV the Castilian. ekugcineni izinguqulo Kuqediwe wabona ukukhanya 2014, nabathile ama engokomfanekiso ukuthi ingabonwa Ngenza lokhu entry for release. The Association for Communication benamathele Kuye ihlelwe uchungechunge zokuqeqesha in Madrid, Bilbao futhi Barcelona ngesikhathi September 2015, futhi mina-ke Bekulokhu kuyinjabulo enkulu ukusebenza futhi nge Bridget Belgrave yithimba ukuhumusha kusuka esiNgisini Castilia kanye noHezekeli.

Ekulungiseleleni workshop ngiye ngamukela isikhathi ukuze ubuyekeze zonke izinto nginoMoya Dance Floors CNV futhi Bridget ikakhulukazi. Nasekwaziseni zonke izinto, ngasinye umcebo walo, ukhona ofunayo namanje intandokazi yami. Eqinisweni, Bridget wangimemela ukuze ngibonisane nabo ngombono wami ngesikhathi esithile se-workshop, nami kwenzeka ukudlulisa isincomo sami futhi kule blog.

I embuzweni kuphela ngesiNgisi hhayi nayo imibhalo izinguqulo etholakalayo, kodwa ngithemba ukuthi alimelene asondele kuye. “Xhuma nge Inhlonipho” (“Xhuma ukuhlonipha”, ngokwezwi nezwi ehunyushwa ngokuthi zibe Castilia) is a impahla multimedia nokubhalisa iphrojekthi owenza Bridget Belgrave 2004 nge 21 intsha kanye nabantu abadala abasha nge Isilinganiso sobudala nesikhombisa. Iphrojekthi ehlongozwayo njengenhlangano kokungenela ukuqeqesha abafana namantombazane ezimweni nobunzima nomphakathi Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngaphakathi kohlaka workshop ukwakha isigqi ezisemadolobheni, kwaphela amasonto ayishumi anzima.

Kungani ukuncoma? Nasi isifinyezo izizathu zami:

• DVD ne ifilimu, of 25 iminithi. Ukuqoqa izikhathi ukhiye yephrojekthi, kokubili esalotshwa abaqeqeshi abathathu njengoba abantu abasha ngokwabo, futhi ukuhlelwa ngekubambisana nabo. Eqinisweni, njengoba atshela engxenyeni, yokuthi ufunde amaseshini odlule eyabasiza zonke bati ngaphezulu emfundvweni yabo ukuthola ukuziphatha adecuasen kangcono izidingo wonke umuntu. Kuyinto idokhumenti ingcaca evumela baba ubuso (nemisindo) nezimo ezihlukene, futhi sisivumela ukuthi ukucabanga ukuthi ungakusebenzisa kanjani kwezinye izingqikithi.

• Ividiyo kulekelelwa ne ngxenye yencwadi yesibili, “Umhlahlandlela Film” (“Qondisa befilimu”), lapho ukulandelana by ukulandelana okuxoxwe konke okwenzekayo: isimo ngasinye, wafundisa Ukuxhumana kanjani benamathele, izikhathi Practice, zezimpi yangempela ukuthi kuphakama… Lokhu kuzokwenza uqonde kangcono ngenjongo yomsebenzi ngamunye futhi kobunzima futhi kanjani they ayebhekiswe.

• Futhi okwesithathu incwadi equkethe uhlelo oluphelele, amasonto ayishumi nazo zonke izivivinyo zalo enemininingwane futhi zonke izinto futhi typeset (isiZulu), kanye zokuhlanganisa i-CD-ROM ifayela ye impahla ngayinye PDF ukulungele uzitholele. Ngokusobala ividiyo akusho ukuqoqa wonke umzimba, ngakho-ke kubalulekile kakhulu ukubona umsebenzi inchubekelembili emsebenzini, benethuba ukuzandisa.

• Ukutholakala ukuhunyushwa lokho Dance phansi uqobo ukuze Castilia, ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi “Ukuhlonipha Me, Ukuhlonipha You”, ngaphakathi ephelele iphakheji Dance Floor.
• Futhi isixwayiso Bridget Belgrave hhayi ukuzama iphrojekthi yale isitayela ngaphandle ngesandla esisodwa ingemuva eqinile kanye nesipiliyoni Ukuxhumana benamathele, kanti okwesibili i team zemfundo nabanye ngesisekelo CNV futhi enolwazi olukhulu ukusebenza izingane. Engizenzileyo ezinye zalezi umzimba nge intsha kanye intsha engozini e Madrid futhi kwahamba kahle, ngakho mina am etholakalayo.

kafushane, a impahla engabiza ababonayo, funda, uphindza afundze kanye nokuqalisa. Futhi ungakwazi ukuthenga esitolo inthanethi, Life Resources.

Futhi uma ufuna ukucaciseleka okwengeziwe, ungabiza kimi efonini yami contact futhi nixoxe okufunayo.

Ngithemba ukuthi ngokushesha sizoba amaphrojekthi ngaphezulu lolu hlobo lana!

Javier

I babe nodumo injabulo ukwesekwa ekuhumusheni ngesikhathi workshop olandelayo we Dance Floors CNV lapho kuhloswe ukuba ukungadluliseli Bridget Belgrave e Madrid, ukuhlela Association for Communication benamathele.

Ngahlangana Bridget Belgrave futhi Gina Lawrie, Ukwakha Certified Center for Communication benamathele (Center for Communication benamathele, Nceku), e 2009 futhi ngemva kwalokho siqala ukusebenza ndawonye ukuhumusha Dance Floors CNV the Castilian. Ukuhumusha ekugcineni wabona ukukhanya 2014, nabathile ama engokomfanekiso ukuthi ingabonwa Ngenza lokhu entry for release. Manje Association for Communication benamathele Kuye ihlelwe uchungechunge zokuqeqesha in Madrid, Bilbao futhi Barcelona ngesikhathi September 2015, futhi ngijabulela ukuba ngisebenze nazo Bridget Belgrave team nokusekelwa translation esusela esiNgisini esa olimini isiCastilian noHezekeli in the kwetinhlavu Madrid, esizogxila ngale ndaba “Ukukhuluma ngaphandle express noma ukuzwa basola noma ukugxekwa (Autoempatía Dance kanye Dance of the 13 izinyathelo for inkhulumomphendvulwano)”.

Izinsuku: Saturday 12 September 2015 of 10:00 a 14:00 futhi 16:00 a 20:00 nangeSonto 13 September 2015 of 10:00 a 14:00.

Indawo: Sala Neuronilla
C / Doctor Cortezo 17, 2º
Madrid

Ngini ulwazi Amanani (evamile kubantu Association amalungu kanye nokubhaliswa ekhethekile Isaphulelo off baze baqeda 5 September 2015), xhumana imininingwane nendlela of Bilbao kanye Barcelona kwi website ye Association for Communication benamathele.

[Entry Original 2 September 2015, olusha 13 September 2015, usuku kokuqeqeshwa.]

“Ngokusho umuzwa wami, Umkhuba wokusebenzelana benamathele Ukuxhumana abantwana ngaphezulu Kuxhomeke ekutheni yini okwenzekayo ngaphakathi kimi wokuHlinzekwa kanjani ngikhuluma ngokwami ​​ngalokho okwenzekayo nge mina kanye lendodana yami ukuxoxisana. Nokho, Futhi ngifuna ukubuchaza ngamazwi ukuqonda kwami ​​okwenzekayo kokubili, okungenani ingxenye isikhathi, ngisho uma ngicabanga ingane yami akaqondi ulimi, ngoba uyangisiza ukuxhumana imizwa nezidingo kokubili. ukuthi, ithuba, kusiza kwehlisa umoya wami futhi uthole amasu ukuthi ezingase ziphumelele kokubili. Futhi ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngoba ngicabanga lokhu kuyindlela bafundze lulwimi kanye nekukwati kufundza nekubhala ngokomzwelo.” (Inbal Kashtan, Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni, ikhasi 38)

Lapho abantu abathintekayo ekuchumana workshop yami zokuxhumana babe namadodana noma amadodakazi enisezweni ebuntwaneni noma usakhula, noma basebenze ndawonye nalabo ubudala, ngokuvamile kuphakama “yebo, Lokhu indlela zokuxhumana kahle phakathi abadala, kodwa ukuze ubone ukuthi ngithi yami ingane / nomshana / umfundi / goddaughter…”. Uma isikhathi sivuma, thina zifundiseni bekhulumisana nezingane ekuqeqesheni, kodwa ngokuvamile Angikwazi kuphela kubonise iziphakamiso kungenzeka futhi ukuhlola. Thina manje sesinesisetshenziswa entsha, esikuvumela ukuxhumana nomndeni kwenye ezingeni. Lena akuyona kuphela yokuxazulula izingxabano (futhi), kodwa ukudala eyiqiniso ngaphezulu uhlobo loxhumano, ezijulile nonamandla, ukuthi ilungiselela izingane ezingaphezu resiliently ukuphila.

Nale ukuzwela Inbal Kashtan abhala ngaso incwadi yakhe Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Yaba izipho kobubele, uxhumano kanye nokuzikhethela, eshicilelwe ngonyaka odlule Castilian ngu Acanto Editorial. Inbal Kashtan, ukwakha Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kumma, led iminyaka umsebenzi benamathele Ukuxhumana emkhayeni, ikakhulukazi nabazali maqondana nezingane zabo. Inbal eshona ngo-September 2014, kodwa igalelo lakhe uyaqhubeka baynvc (inhlangano disseminates benamathele Ukuxhumana kusukela San Francisco Bay, California, okuyinto azibonela yona omunye wabasunguli) nemibhalo (Ngaphezu le ncwadi, Ungafunda ezinye izihloko zakhe mayelana zokuxhumana umndeni ngesiNgisi baynvc). Le blog futhi noma ubani ofuna ukuba yokubonga wena intela ukuze asindise ukuphila kwakhe futhi umsebenzi.

I batusa le ncwadi kokubili labo abeza okokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kulabo abafuna ukuba sijulise umkhuba wabo nezingane. Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier

izingxabano Iningi zingalungiswa ngendlela egculisayo futhi inzuzo yabo bonke abathintekayo, enikeziwe izinsiza futhi isikhathi esingakanani okufanele usichithe. Yilokho okwenzeka yami yemisindvo zeminyaka ukufunda, kutilolonga okuxhunyanwa Ukuxhumana benamathele. Kuyinto eziyisisekelo ngakho (akulula) njengoba izimo ezidingekile ukuthi isinqumo kwenzeka. Kimi kukhona izakhi eziningana ezibalulekile, okungase ngokufingqiwe okulandelayo:

• An indlela efanele, ukuvumela bonke labo abathintekayo uzizwe silondekile futhi sihloniphana njengomkhaya amalungelo abo.
• ochwepheshe Experiential nge ukuqeqeshwa e Ukulamula ukulalela ezijulile amakhono kanye “translation” imiyalezo ukuze kube lula ukuzwa wonke umuntu.
• Umphakathi esekela izinqubo okubuyisela, isikhathi ukunikelwa, izikhala, Manpower, ukuqeqeshwa…
• Abantu uzimisele ukuxazulula izingxabano ngendlela ekugcineni wonke amaqembu bazizwe wezwa nokuthi wonke amaqembu ushiye aneliseke isixazululo.

Ngakho mina kuyathokozisa ukwabelana izinsiza akhiwa nomphakathi omkhulu nakubantu basendaweni esihlala kuyo kuthiwa Gotleu Palma de Mallorca (Mallorca), ngoba ukuqoqa indlela basebenza ngasinye salezi zici.

Kule video ungabona indlela eziye abathintekayo, i-nalomsebenzi Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye Impumelelo School (the Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye School Impumelelo Castilian) Uhulumeni we-Balearic Islands, kusuka othisha ezikoleni Imfundo yezingane, Primary kanye yesibili, abafundi babo bonke ubudala, imindeni, Nezenhlalakahle, amaphoyisa, University kanye namanye amaqembu abalulekile nomphakathi. Ngo ingxube amazwi, Senza kithi umqondo nakho yokudala ukuthi ukuphepha inethiwekhi endaweni emphakathini sengozini, futhi sibona imiphumela.

Ukuze uthole umbono ehlelekile ngaphezulu, Kuyinto ukushicilelwa eqoqa eziyisisekelo. Kushicilelwe ku-Catalan, Castilia nesiNgisi ngaphakathi kohlaka iphrojekthi European ngale ndaba, le Umhlahlandlela ngcono nokuhlalisana kanye Imikhuba bokubuyisana / Guide Mejoramos nokuhlalisana kanye nemikhuba okubuyisela Kutfutfukisa izici ezincwadini Imikhuba bokubuyisana, idatha eqondile inikeza izibonelo ukhonkolo kanye iziphakamiso Ngokufuna okuzayo ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi.

Futhi ukuba sijulise emibuthanweni okubuyisela, umkhuba nengxabano ludabuka ezindaweni ubukhulu nomphakathi Ukuxhumana benamathele, Ungafunda wokulandisa ezithakazelisayo Bokubuyisana Imikhuba Justice. Imibuthano bokubuyisana nendlela osebenza ngayo emikhakheni ehlukahlukene, elotshwe yiKhomishani UVenç Rul·lan, nomqeqeshi ngubani ngijabulela lokuhlangana, kuvidiyo kanye Umhlahlandlela, futhi nguye ilungu Association of Justice futhi bokubuyisana Imikhuba Islands (nekhasi Castilia futhi Catalan, ngezisetshenziswa eziningana). A isingeniso esihle, ukuze kuqhutshekwe sijulise nalolu hlobo locingo. Futhi ungakwazi futhi ubuke amavidiyo (isiZulu) kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni umdali imibuthano okubuyisela, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Ngubani okwenzile ukuqeqeshwa okuthile ekuchumana nami oyibonile Ngivame ukusho le nkinga ye Imikhuba bokubuyisana. Ngithemba kulezi kancane kangcono ukufanekisa ukuthi yini abezwile nami ithemba ukuthi ukuvusa lokusungula wakho nomcabango yakho ukuze uqhubeke ukuthola izindlela ikhiqize kakhudlwana ezijulile yokuxazulula izingxabano imvelo zemfundo, futhi iyiphi enye indawo.

Javier

Ukusebenzisa iqiniso lokuthi intwasahlobo iqala namuhla, Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic usenayo kakade Twitter, ConexMasAutent, lapho okufakiwe okuhlukile kuzovela kushicilelwe, ngaphezu kwezincomo nezinye izindaba ezinentshisekelo kuzo Ukugxilisa, ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu okusekelwe Ukuxhumana benamathele, ukuthuthukiswa komuntu jikelele kanye ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzowathola ewusizo.

Javier

Chaza noma ubani ukuthi yini ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, futhi ikakhulukazi lokho engikuqonda ngokuthi ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, kuhlale kuyinselelo. Futhi uma sengeza kulokhu ukuthi sifuna ukukuchazela izingane, amantombazane noma intsha, kubonakala sengathi kunzima kakhulu. futhi nokho, I-psychotherapy iyinto engokwemvelo ngokuphelele: ukubuyisela ibhalansi elahlekile (kanjalo ubuyise izintambo zempilo yakho).

Njengabantu ngokwesisekelo sikulungele ukukhula ngendlela enempilo. Into engokwemvelo kungaba ukuthi sonke sidlule ezigabeni ezihlukahlukene zobuntwana, esobusha kanye nokuba mdala isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Kungaba yimvelo, kahle, Ngakolunye uhlangothi, faka izakhi zomsoco ezingeni lezengqondo. (icorporal, ngokomzwelo, ingqondo, ngokwenqubo, isimo sengqondo…) futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi banqobe izakhi ezibuhlungu ngisho neziyingozi ngokufunda okusha (yohlobo “Lesi simo sami sengqondo asisangisiza” le “Angifuni ukubhekana nomuntu ongasangihloniphi futhi”). Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi izinto azihambi kahle (okuncane noma okuningi), futhi kuyadingeka ukwenza okuthile ukuze kuqhubekele phambili nempilo. I-Psychotherapy iyindlela enhle yokuhlanganisa nokuphulukisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo, ukubuyisela inkohliso yempilo yethu.

Ividiyo “U-Garra uvaliwe (UDokotela Fish)”, yenziwe yiqembu labafundi be-animation abavela ku- Sheridan College ngaphansi kwegama leFrozen Mammoth Productions, phakathi kwabanye Timothy Chan futhi Eunice Hwang, futhi ingasebenza njengesiqalo sokuqala ukuzindla.

Le vidiyo kimi ibonakala iyisibonelo esihle sokuchaza amaphuzu amaningana ayisisekelo engithanda ukuwenza acace ezinganeni nasebancane., futhi nakubantu abadala abacabanga ukwenza a ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe:

1) Umsebenzi walabo bethu abasebenza njengabelaphi uqukethe alulame enempilo futhi ephila Yini ngaphakathi esinabo ngokubonisana. Sonke sinokuthile okubalulekile ngeqiniso nje elikhona, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi izimo eziyingozi kakhulu ziye zenzeka, ngaphandle noma ngaphakathi.

2) Ukuze sibuyisele lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, sinakho anhlobonhlobo abezindaba, abafanele esinabo ngaphambili (nangeminyaka yakhe, abakuthandayo, isitayela sakhe, lokho asekuphile…). silalela njalo, sivame ukubuza, futhi ngezinye izikhathi siphakamisa imisebenzi (ukudweba kanjani, noma enze imisebenzi ebonakalayo, noma zama amasu ahlukene). Umgomo wethu uwukubuyisela kumuntu lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, kodwa kuhlanzekile futhi kunamandla ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho.

3) Siyakwazi lokho inqubo ithatha isikhathi. Uma sithatha amasonto, izinyanga, iminyaka, ukuhlala nento ebuhlungu, sizodinga futhi isikhathi sokuzinikela ukuze silephe. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kungase kube khona okutholiwe okushintsha kakhulu umuzwa wethu ngomzuzwana, njengoba ivela kuvidiyo, kodwa lokho kwenzeka kuphela uma sesiphenye ngokwanele ingaphakathi lethu. Futhi kuthatha isikhathi ukuthi lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kusungulwe emhlabeni wonke ezimpilweni zethu..

4) Futhi siyakwazi lokho inqubo idinga umzamo. Kufana nokuhlanza isilonda esingenwe yilesi sifo, kungase kuhlanganise ubuhlungu besikhashana, kodwa ukuthuthukiswa kubonakala esikhathini eside. Umzamo uthinta abantu abaseduze nomuntu ofika ukuze kuboniswane. Endabeni yezingane, futhi intsha, ukucindezeleka kuthinta umndeni, futhi ngombono wami we-psychotherapy ngingenelela kuphela uma kukhona ukuzibophezela okucacile nokuqinile engxenyeni yomndeni (ikakhulukazi abanakekeli bokuqala).

5) njengoba kwenzeka kuvidiyo, njengabelaphi siyazi kahle isipiliyoni ngoba siphile eyethu i-psychotherapy nezinselelo zethu. Yebo sinokuqeqeshwa okuqondile, ebanzi futhi ejulile, kodwa asizibheki njengabantu abahlukile. Simane singabantu abake babuka ubuhlungu bethu futhi abafunde ukubheka ubuhlungu babanye abantu ngendlela eyakhayo nangemibono emisha..

Ngethemba ukuthi ividiyo izokusiza ukuthi ube nemibono ecacile mayelana nalokhu ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuchazela izingane zakho, futhi intsha.

Javier

zinde “Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame Nokugxila. Lalela izidingo ngomzimba wonke” ngaphakathi kwe IV Umhlangano Wabasebenzi Bezokuxhumana Abangenalo Udlame ihlelwe yi- Association for Communication benamathele.

Izinsuku: NgoLwesihlanu 20 kuze kube yiSonto 22 February 2015.

Indawo: Ihhostela laseSan Servando
I-Cuesta de San Servando s/n
I-Toledo

Ukuze ufunde ulwazi oluphelele, cela ukucaciselwa kanye nerejista, Iya ku iwebhusayithi ethize yomcimbi.

Ukufunda kancane mayelana nezisekelo zetiyori ze-workshop, Ungakwazi uthintane sihloko yami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”, lapho yanyatheliswa inani 2014 of The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, ijenali yezemfundo esemthethweni ye The Institute Ukugxilisa (i-New York Focusing Institute).

[Entry Original 30 Januwari 2015, olusha 22 February 2015, usuku lokuphela komhlangano.]

Kube yizinsuku ezimbalwa ezihamba phambili phakathi kwethu esiwaziyo futhi esiwenza Ukuxhumana benamathele. UMarshall B. Rosenberg, umdali we-Nonviolent Communication, okwedlule kudlulile 7 February 2015 eminyakeni yobudala 80 iminyaka (sigubhe usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule kule post), futhi thina ebesimazi futhi ngokujwayelekile nalabo abafunde imodeli yakhe benza into asifundisa yona: sigubhe izehlakalo ezihlangabezane nezidingo zethu futhi zisivumele ukuthi sililele izehlakalo ezishiye izidingo zethu zingafezeki.

Ngaba nenjabulo yokuqeqeshwa naye phakathi nezinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye Zokuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe, IIT) Switzerland ngoJulayi no-August 2008. Kusukela kulokho kwakheka isithombe enginaso noMarshall nomkakhe uValentina, ngomfanekiso ongeziwe wokuba khona kwabafana ababili abangabonakali nentombazane ngemuva, okuhlobene nesikhuthazo uMarshall anginikeza sona emsebenzini wami nezingane, futhi intsha (funda imininingwane eyengeziwe ekungeneni kokuqala).

Ngalezi zinsuku, lapho ngifunde khona imilayezo ehlukene kanye nezikhumbuzo ezenzeke emphakathini wezokuXhumana Okungenalo Udlame., Ngiphinde ngathatha ithuba lokuphinda ngifunde amanothi engangihlala naye ngalezo zinsuku (kanye nenkampani yabanye abaqeqeshi kanye nabanye ababambiqhaza). Futhi kamuva kuyoba yisikhathi sokufunda kabusha yonke imisebenzi yakhe, njengendlela yokuvuselela nokuhlonipha umsebenzi wabo.

UMarshall Rosenberg wasebenzela ukudala umhlaba onobuntu, ukuthola izici zokuphila nokukhula ngisho nasezenzweni ezingaqondakali kakhulu. Inkulumo yakhe eyisisekelo ithi “Udlame luwukubonakaliswa okudabukisayo kwezidingo ezingafezeki”, nendlela yakhe, Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame, indlela yokulalela nokwenza kabusha izinkulumo kuze kutholakale izixazululo lapho zonke izinhlangothi ziwina khona.

Ukugcizelela kukaMarshall izinguquko kwezenhlalo kuyangicebisa ngokukhethekile., wayengafuni Ukukhulumisana Okungenalo Ubudlova ukusiza abantu bahlale bezolile ngempilo yabo. Umsebenzi uqala ngaphakathi komuntu ngamunye, kodwa ayikwazi ukuhlala lapho, kufanele ifinyelele ezakhiweni ezahlukene (ezomnotho, social, ezombusazwe, ezemfundo…) futhi uziguqule ngokuzenza zibe ngumuntu. Njengoba yena ngokwakhe esitshela eSwitzerland: “Isenzo sethu sifana nesomuntu obona ingane iwe empophomeni ayisindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise… Kwesinye isikhathi kuzoba lula kulowo muntu ukuthi acabangele ukuthi ngubani ojikijela izingane futhi agibele impophoma ukuze ayigweme.”.

Ngaphandle komsebenzi wakhe obhaliwe (engaphezu kweshumi izincwadi, phakathi kwazo Ukuxhumana benamathele. Ukuphila ulimi) namavidiyo nokuqoshwa workshop yabo nezingoma zawo, Amaqabunga Marshall zazakha Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele), ngomlando wamashumi eminyaka wokusebenza, nokuthi ibisebenza ngaphandle kwakhe kule minyaka edlule. Ubuye ashiye amakhulu abaqeqeshi abaqinisekisiwe ukuze imodeli yakhe iqhubeke isakazwa ngokwethembeka kanye namashumi ezinkulungwane zabasebenzi abazama ukukhanyisa izingxabano zethu zansuku zonke.. Kuyinto yokugubha.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukudlula kwakhe kushiya isikhala. Ukwazi ukuthi ushone emzini wakhe ephelezelwa umkakhe uValentina nezingane zabo kuyinduduzo encane. Siyazi ukuthi ngeke sisakubona umele izimo zokungqubuzana ezintsha, ukuthi ngeke sizwe ingoma entsha, lokho ngeke kubhale izincwadi ezintsha. Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho, kusele kuphela ukwamukela ngozwela ubuhlungu nokudabuka okuvelayo.

Ngokuhlanganisa kuphela ukuzizwisa okuphelele lapho singaqhubekela khona ngokugcwele, ukuhlanganisa lokho okwamukelwe kuMarshall nokufuna, umzuzu nomzuzu, ungayibuyekeza kanjani ngendlela enothisa wonke umuntu.

Emkhosini nasekulileni,

Javier