The Ukuxhumana benamathele It is a ithuluzi ejulile, kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthuthukisa ngayo yonke abezindaba futhi wangiqinisa kuzo zonke iziteshi kungenzeka. Workshop ungibeke eziye sabona ukwanda imithombo ukusetshenziswa (ezibukwayo, isikhala…), phakathi kwezinye izincwadi enginakho ngesandla Yakhiwe, futhi ngisebenzisa eminyakeni eminingana.

Ngajabula kakhulu nge ukubukeka yamuva izinhlamvu “konekta Fácil”, umthombo ewusizo kakhulu ukuba ahambe izinqubo zabantu abathembele kuyi-ezibukwayo, ikakhulukazi izingane. e Simple Cat, ibhizinisi elincane ukuthi abalwela ukuvumelanisa futhi udale zokundisa nokuyala benamathele Ukuxhumana eSpain, Bakhethe ukuqalisa lamakhadi ukuklama ngokwayo.

Ngisanda wathola izincwadi “konekta Fácil” futhi ngiye bathandile izici eziningi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, the design, ngemigwalo alula enza amakhadi ezingabizi kakhulu, ngesizinda pink imizwa kanye kungemuva eliluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka izidingo (ikhodi bese universalized emphakathini benamathele Ukuxhumana nge Dance Floors CNV).

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, indlela bona amazwi abakhathalelayo: Imizwa enjalo owesilisa nowesifazane, ukuze wonke umuntu angakwazi nomuzwa kithi kuhlanganisiwe kalula; futhi ngokuvamile zidingo ziyafakwa obonakaliswe ngezindlela ezimbili aphelele, ukuze umuntu akwazi ukuyihlola ukuthi yizwi esifanelana kangcono.

futhi, Ukwengeza inombolo ukusetshenziswa ezihlongozwayo (iziphakamiso game), ingashintshwa evela kweminye imithombo enemvume, kuhlanganise edumile “Poker CNV”, okuyinto ngisebenzisa ngokujulile workshop.

Kusuka lapha siyakuhalalisela yami ethimbeni Simple Cat lo mthombo entsha. Sengijahe ukuzilinga ku workshop sami esilandelayo bese ubona ukuthi bacabanga labo abathintekayo. Khonamanjalo ungakwazi ukuhlola okwengeziwe amakhadi ku iwebhusayithi futhi ungakwazi ukuthenga kubo inthanethi uma unentshisekelo.

Ngethemba ukuthi mihle kakhulu futhi kulula ukuba sijulise Ukuxhumana benamathele.

Javier

Okokugcina 6 Okthoba UMarshall Rosenberg, umdali we Ukuxhumana benamathele, usehlanganise iminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalombili kanti thina esizibonele izinzuzo zomsebenzi wakhe siyawubungaza.

UMarshall B. Rosenberg wazalwa ngo 6 October 1934 e-Guangzhou, E-Ohio (USA), nomndeni wangena 1943 kanye neDetroit, EMichigan, ngaphambi nje kodlame lomjaho ngalowo nyaka. UMarshall ulandisa ukuthi isipiliyoni sodlame sammaka kanjani. Wabhekana nodlame esikoleni, ngokubizwa ngokuthi ungumJuda ngesibongo sakhe. njengoba esho yena, wathola ukuthi kunabantu abangajabulela ukulimaza. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, wakwazi ukubona indlela abanye abantu ababekwazi ngayo ukunyakaza ngozwela ezimeni ezinzima ngokwedlulele (ugogo wakhe, okwathi ngesikhathi sobunzima bakwazi ukuphakela abantu emgwaqweni; noma umalume wakhe, owakwazi ukuphakela nokwelapha ugogo osemdala).

Kamuva wafunda i-psychology futhi wathola i-Ph.D. ku-Carl Rogers in 1961, ofaneleka ngokuphelele njengodokotela wezengqondo emtholampilo ku 1966. Nokho, indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yomtholampilo ayizange imenelise, ngalokho kugcizelela kumalebula nokuxilongwa. Waqhubeka nokucwaninga nokuqeqesha (futhi waqeqeshwa ku-Focusing, futhi empeleni uyincoma ekuqeqeshweni kwayo okuthuthukile), futhi ekugcineni wadala inqubo ye Ukuxhumana benamathele njengoba sisazi njengamanje.

Kusukela ngeminyaka yamashumi ayisishiyagalombili usebenze emhlabeni wonke ekuxazululeni izingxabano ezinkulu kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amancane okuxazulula izingxabano ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke., izingxabano nabanye abantu kanye nezingxabano zangaphakathi. Uthathe umhlalaphansi eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngemva kokwenza amakhulukhulu ezinhlaka emhlabeni futhi esesungule Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele) ukusabalalisa le nqubo yokuguqula. Ungafunda kabanzi ngempilo yakhe nalapho asebenze khona Isizindalwazi se-International Centre for Nonviolent Communication (Center for Communication benamathele).

Ngikujabulele ukuzilolonga naye, nomkakhe u-Valentina kanye nabanye abahleli ku-International Intensive Formation (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe) izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye eSwitzerland ngo-August 2008, futhi ngakwazi ukwamukela imfudumalo yakhe nendlela aye wangikhuthaza ngayo ukuba ngizame ukudlulisela ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana Okungenabudlova ezinganeni nakubantu abaxhumana nabo. Umsebenzi wami omningi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ugqugquzelwe yilokho engikufunde kuye., kokubili ukudala a Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic ezimpilweni zabo bonke abantu (kuhlanganise neyami), njengasezimpilweni zezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha engihlangana nayo, nabantu abakuzungezile (ikakhulukazi ngokusebenzisa Spiral Consulting Izingane, ngaphakathi komugqa Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu). Kulokho kuqeqeshwa besikhuluma ngeSitifiketi, futhi nakuba ekugcineni kuyindlela engingazange ngiyilandele, Ngizizwa ngiyingxenye yenhlangano ye-Nonviolent Communication futhi ngiyaqhubeka nokuhlanganyela ne Association for Communication benamathele lapha eSpain kanye namanye ama-internship kanye namaqembu okufunda.

Ngaleso sikhathi sathatha lesi sithombe ukuthi, ukuqondana kwesiphetho, UMarshall uyasibonisa, Mina noValentina sinabafana ababili abangaziwa nentombazane, njengokufanekisa ngendlela ekhethekile umsebenzi nezingane engiwenza ngogqozi lwe-Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kanye nesipho sami. ¡Gracias, Marshall!

Ngokubonga okujulile ngithumela ukuhlonipha kwami ​​kokugubha. Ngiyabonga, Marshall!

Javier

CNV dancefloors kakade uvele version Castilian, lapho engisebenza, futhi iyatholakala kumavidiyo Spanish ezansi.

Bridget Belgrave futhi Gina Lawrie, Ukwakha Certified Center for Communication benamathele (Center for Communication benamathele, Nceku), Kwase kuyiminyaka eminingi wadala ithuluzi omkhulu futhi zikwenze Ukuxhumana benamathele (CNV). Njengoba bona ngokwabo babe e Ukuhanjiswa, le Dance Floors CNV (NVC Dance Phansi) Bona sekukhona ngokusebenzisa uchungechunge izinyathelo lula umkhuba wokusebenzisa benamathele Ukuxhumana nge amabalazwe ngekwendzawo ezikuvumela ukuba usebenzise ubukhulu umzimba ukusebenza nobukhulu ngokomzwelo, indlela ozibona le vidiyo:

ehlobo 2009 Mina sajabulela formarme nge Gina futhi ukuhlangabezana Bridget, futhi ukusuka lapho umsebenzi wokuhumusha futhi lithathelwe waphindiselwa Castilia, umzamo lapho siye sasiza abantu abaningi futhi ngiye esihlelwe isikhashana. Ngakho-ke kuyinjabulo ukusakaza ithuluzi elula kodwa ngakho ngokujulile, ekugcineni in Spanish, lapho siyabakhathalela ukufaka inani elikhulu kunawo kungenzeka version-Spanish.

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​ukuthi Dance Floors CNV abantu bangazijayeza nje ulwazi ambalwa kokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele (Eqinisweni ngiyisebenzisa ngezinye izikhathi workshop ezethula). Ngisho nabantu abangamazi inqubo ngokwalo Ukuxhumana benamathele (izingane, futhi intsha, amaklayenti therapy) Abakwazi kalula ukuwela ngayo usizo kothile abanolwazi kakhudlwana.

Dancefloors CNV hlanganisa ezibukwayo, ukhoporali nezezilimi, ukuze nakho kwenzeka ngokusebenzisa ezinye iziteshi nesipiliyoni lishonile. Futhi kukhona eziyisishiyagalolunye “nemidanso” ezahlukene, anamagama ezifana “Dance of 13 izinyathelo”, “Dance Kuhlanganiswa nekusetjentiswa Uxhumano”, “Dance Lolaka / Rage, Shame Nokucindezeleka”, “Dance of uyebo kanye noqhabo”, le “Guqula yobuhlungu izidingo unmet e Nobuhle Izidingo”.

futhi, e 2013 bakhipha abanye amavidiyo achaza ezintathu zalezi nemidanso, iwuhlelo ngokucophelela ukuthi kuhlanganisa imibhalo engezansi Spanish.

Uma ufuna ukuthenga CNV Dancefloor ngetakhiwo letehlukene (njengoba thwebula-PDF, iphepha, okufushane plasticized…) nama-DVD ukuze ufunde nabo ekhaya noma eqenjini umkhuba, ungavakashela esitolo inthanethi, Life Resources.

Futhi uma ufuna ukubala baragele phambili kimi ukuzama Dancefloor esidakayo zilandelana noma workshop ethize, Ngiyojabula ukuba ahambe.

Ithemba oyithandayo.

Javier

Ngiyajabula ukuhlanganyela lesi sihloko lokho The Institute Ukugxilisa ushicilele ku The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, iphephabhuku layo lezemfundo, ngevolumu yayo 25 ye 2014. Iphepha lami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ yavela ekuqaleni kwe 2014 futhi isanda kushicilelwa ngokwedijithali ngokufinyelela kwamahhala kanye nefomethi ye-PDF kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni ye The Ikhasi.

Dawuniloda isihloko ngesiNgisi, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Landa inguqulo ye-Spanish yesihloko, “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Buyekeza ngoFebhuwari 9 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese yesihloko, “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile”, futhi ufunde i indaba yokuhumusha kwayo (ngeSpanishi) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu!

Ngishiya lapha i-abstract:

ABSTRACT

Kokubili Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele (NVC) zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu bathola ukuqonda kanye nezinqubo zabo zangaphakathi ziqhubekela phambili lapho amanye amazwi abo ebonakaliswa.. Ukuzindla kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho kanye nomngane wakho. Futhi ukuzindla kuletha imiphumela ejulile, njengoba izici ezicatshangelwayo ziba khona futhi ziyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele beka ingcindezi ekuboniseni izici ezihlukene zokuxhumana kokuqala. Ukugxila kuyalandela wazizwa emzimbeni njengendlela entsha yokudala incazelo entsha. Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola universal izidingo okuwumongo wazo zonke izenzo zomuntu. Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele kade wawela ngezindlela ezahlukene (ukubuyekezwa okufushane kokuphambana okuthile kuhlolisiswa kuleli phepha). Ukugxila kungathuthukiswa ngokwethula ukuqwashisa okusha ngezidingo, ikakhulukazi uma Ukubuza. Futhi Communication benamathele ingathuthukiswa ukuzwela okusha ezimisweni zokuqala zomuntu -hhayi nje ukuzama "ukuhumusha" yonke into, kodwa futhi nokwazisa ulimi olujwayelekile njengezingathekiso.

Uma zombili izinqubo zihlanganisiwe futhi umngane/umelaphi ubonisa izici zawo womabili amazinga okuqwashisa, umuntu uthola imiphumela efanele njengoba kuvela imiphumela ejulile.

Amagama angukhiye: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC), Uzwela, Bonisa, Crossing.

Kwabakhuluma iSpanishi, ngena kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngeSpanishi.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela futhi ngizokuthanda ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

With injabulo enkulu engimtshela lesi sihloko I eshicilelwe The Institute Ukugxilisa (International Ukugxilisa Institute ezinze eNew York) umthamo 25 elihambisana 2014 of The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, Iphephabhuku official academic. Uvele version iphepha phambilini 2014, Isihloko yami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ It usanda eyanyatheliswa ngesiNgisi ngo ukufinyelela free PDF on the website esemthethweni The Ikhasi.

Download isihloko sokuqala in English, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Version Spanish of Article Thwebula “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Isibuyekezo se- 9 February 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese ye-athikili “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile” futhi ubone umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.

Futhi Ngiphinde ukushiya summary sokuqala:

NGOKUFINGQIWE

Ukugxilisa njengoba bobabili Communication benamathele (CNV) Bathi zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu nokuqonda futhi izinqubo zethu abazenzi phambili lapho sicabanga amanye amazwi. Uxhumano Amandla reflection of the umuntu ngokwakhe nangokuthi angakuthuthukisa ohambisa. Futhi reflection ithwala nemithelela ezijulile kanti izici ngokuphelele evulekile khona zabo siqu futhi waqaphela uyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Bathi ukugcizelela kubonise yizici ezihlukene zokuxhumana original. Ukugxilisa kanje imizwa ngokusuka enhliziyweni emzimbeni njengendlela entsha ukudala nencazelo entsha. The Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola izidingo ecashile human jikelele zonke izenzo zabantu. Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Baye kuhlangene (sawela) ngezindlela ezahlukene (kokubukeza kafushane ezinye inhlanganisela zibhekiwe kulesi sihloko). Ukugxila kungenziwa ahlanganiswe ngokwethula ngiqaphele entsha mayelana nezidingo, ikakhulukazi ngokudlula Buza. Futhi Communication benamathele Ungazi ukukhuthaza uzwela entsha ukuze imigomo original umuntu-hhayi nje uzama "ukuhumusha" yonke, kodwa futhi ekwaziseni ulimi common njengoba isethi izingathekiso.

Lapho izinqubo ezimbili ehlangana futhi lapho isilaleli njengoba umqeqeshi noma owelapha libonakalisa izici omabili emazinga ukwazi, umuntu ufinyelela imiphumela efanele ukuvela anencazelo ejulile.

Keywords: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC) / Communication benamathele (CNV), Uzwela, Reflect, Crossing/Cross / Hlanganisa.

For izikhulumi English, iya le post in English.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela futhi sijabule ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

Ukuthuthukela 26 September 2014:

Ngiye ngajabulela ilungelo version Castilian sihloko yami esisesigabeni page in Spanish Ukugxila Institute of New York (The Institute Ukugxilisa). Thanks! ngibona kakhulu!

Ukuthuthukela 9 February 2017:

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuhumusha kwesiJapane kuka-Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu! Aquí está la umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngiphawule kokuthunyelwe kwebhulogi ngu-Spiral Consulting for Children, lapho ngisebenza khona ezindabeni zokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu bemindeni kanye nezingcweti ezisebenza nezingane, futhi intsha, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi iworkshop yokuthuthukisa ukukhulumisana emkhayeni noma ekilasini isebenze ekuvuseni isithakazelo, futhi ngaphandle kwemininingwane ezuziwe namathuluzi afundiwe, abantu abaningi bacela izinto ezengeziwe abangancika kuzo. Ngithanda ukuncoma incwadi U-Adele Faber no-Elaine Mazlish (abaqeqeshi nomama) ngesihloko esiyela ngasocansini Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze izingane zakho zilalele futhi zilalele ukuze izingane zakho zikhulume nawe, i-classic yokuxhumana nabafana namantombazane evele kuyo 1980. Sekuyiminyaka eminingi iwuphawu lokuba umzali omuhle: ukulalela okunozwela nokuqinisekisa ngenkathi ubeka imingcele futhi ufinyelela izivumelwano ezanelisayo zabo bonke abathintekayo.

Igqugquzelwe yimihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi eyenziwa ngababhali bobabili, Incwadi yakhiwe ngokuhambisana nokuqukethwe okulandelayo: Isahluko 1. Indlela yokusiza izingane ukubhekana nemizwa yazo. Isahluko 2. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukubambisana. Isahluko 3. Ezinye izindlela zokujezisa. Isahluko 4. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukuzimela. Isahluko 5. indumiso. Isahluko 6. Ungakubalekela kanjani ukusakaza ngomshini. Isahluko 7. Ake siphinde. futhi, kuhlelo lwakamuva lwe 2013 kusuka Umhleli Medici kuhlanganisa ukubheka emuva kusuka kubabhali kuya ekufundeni nasekuhlangabezaneni nakho eminyakeni engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu kanye nezwi elithinta inhliziyo likaJoanna Faber., ngolwazi lwakhe njengendodakazi yombhali u-Adele Faber nokuhlangana kwakhe nokuba ngumama wakhe.

Ngombono omuhle womuntu kanye nobudlelwano babantu, umbhalo usekelwe ekucabangeni okuyisisekelo nezibonelo eziningi, amanye aboniswa ngamavignette afana nempilo uqobo, futhi ngokuqhubekayo inikeza imibono okufanele isetshenziswe nabafana namantombazane abasizungezile. Nakuba ekuqaleni kuhloselwe imindeni, Ingasetshenziswa futhi emkhakheni wezemfundo nezenhlalo (nakuba ababhali benezinye izincwadi ezithile zesifundo sezifundo).

Futhi uma amadodana namadodakazi akho (noma abafundi osebenza nabo) sebekhulile, ungabheka futhi incwadi ngababhali abafanayo Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze intsha ilalele nokuthi ilalela kanjani ukuze intsha ikhulume nawe, enikeza imibono ehlukene (ezifanele uma sezikhulile) kanye neziphakamiso zihlala ziwusizo, lokho cishe kuzokwenza ukuthi umomotheke.

Ngikufisela ukufunda okuhle, nokuthi uyakujabulela ukuhlola izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana.

Javier