Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngiphawule kokuthunyelwe kwebhulogi ngu-Spiral Consulting for Children, lapho ngisebenza khona ezindabeni zokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu bemindeni kanye nezingcweti ezisebenza nezingane, futhi intsha, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi iworkshop yokuthuthukisa ukukhulumisana emkhayeni noma ekilasini isebenze ekuvuseni isithakazelo, futhi ngaphandle kwemininingwane ezuziwe namathuluzi afundiwe, abantu abaningi bacela izinto ezengeziwe abangancika kuzo. Ngithanda ukuncoma incwadi U-Adele Faber no-Elaine Mazlish (abaqeqeshi nomama) ngesihloko esiyela ngasocansini Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze izingane zakho zilalele futhi zilalele ukuze izingane zakho zikhulume nawe, i-classic yokuxhumana nabafana namantombazane evele kuyo 1980. Sekuyiminyaka eminingi iwuphawu lokuba umzali omuhle: ukulalela okunozwela nokuqinisekisa ngenkathi ubeka imingcele futhi ufinyelela izivumelwano ezanelisayo zabo bonke abathintekayo.

Igqugquzelwe yimihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi eyenziwa ngababhali bobabili, Incwadi yakhiwe ngokuhambisana nokuqukethwe okulandelayo: Isahluko 1. Indlela yokusiza izingane ukubhekana nemizwa yazo. Isahluko 2. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukubambisana. Isahluko 3. Ezinye izindlela zokujezisa. Isahluko 4. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukuzimela. Isahluko 5. indumiso. Isahluko 6. Ungakubalekela kanjani ukusakaza ngomshini. Isahluko 7. Ake siphinde. futhi, kuhlelo lwakamuva lwe 2013 kusuka Umhleli Medici kuhlanganisa ukubheka emuva kusuka kubabhali kuya ekufundeni nasekuhlangabezaneni nakho eminyakeni engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu kanye nezwi elithinta inhliziyo likaJoanna Faber., ngolwazi lwakhe njengendodakazi yombhali u-Adele Faber nokuhlangana kwakhe nokuba ngumama wakhe.

Ngombono omuhle womuntu kanye nobudlelwano babantu, umbhalo usekelwe ekucabangeni okuyisisekelo nezibonelo eziningi, amanye aboniswa ngamavignette afana nempilo uqobo, futhi ngokuqhubekayo inikeza imibono okufanele isetshenziswe nabafana namantombazane abasizungezile. Nakuba ekuqaleni kuhloselwe imindeni, Ingasetshenziswa futhi emkhakheni wezemfundo nezenhlalo (nakuba ababhali benezinye izincwadi ezithile zesifundo sezifundo).

Futhi uma amadodana namadodakazi akho (noma abafundi osebenza nabo) sebekhulile, ungabheka futhi incwadi ngababhali abafanayo Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze intsha ilalele nokuthi ilalela kanjani ukuze intsha ikhulume nawe, enikeza imibono ehlukene (ezifanele uma sezikhulile) kanye neziphakamiso zihlala ziwusizo, lokho cishe kuzokwenza ukuthi umomotheke.

Ngikufisela ukufunda okuhle, nokuthi uyakujabulela ukuhlola izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana.

Javier