Chaza noma ubani ukuthi yini ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, futhi ikakhulukazi lokho engikuqonda ngokuthi ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, kuhlale kuyinselelo. Futhi uma sengeza kulokhu ukuthi sifuna ukukuchazela izingane, amantombazane noma intsha, kubonakala sengathi kunzima kakhulu. futhi nokho, I-psychotherapy iyinto engokwemvelo ngokuphelele: ukubuyisela ibhalansi elahlekile (kanjalo ubuyise izintambo zempilo yakho).

Njengabantu ngokwesisekelo sikulungele ukukhula ngendlela enempilo. Into engokwemvelo kungaba ukuthi sonke sidlule ezigabeni ezihlukahlukene zobuntwana, esobusha kanye nokuba mdala isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Kungaba yimvelo, kahle, Ngakolunye uhlangothi, faka izakhi zomsoco ezingeni lezengqondo. (icorporal, ngokomzwelo, ingqondo, ngokwenqubo, isimo sengqondo…) futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi banqobe izakhi ezibuhlungu ngisho neziyingozi ngokufunda okusha (yohlobo “Lesi simo sami sengqondo asisangisiza” le “Angifuni ukubhekana nomuntu ongasangihloniphi futhi”). Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi izinto azihambi kahle (okuncane noma okuningi), futhi kuyadingeka ukwenza okuthile ukuze kuqhubekele phambili nempilo. I-Psychotherapy iyindlela enhle yokuhlanganisa nokuphulukisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo, ukubuyisela inkohliso yempilo yethu.

Ividiyo “U-Garra uvaliwe (UDokotela Fish)”, yenziwe yiqembu labafundi be-animation abavela ku- Sheridan College ngaphansi kwegama leFrozen Mammoth Productions, phakathi kwabanye Timothy Chan futhi Eunice Hwang, futhi ingasebenza njengesiqalo sokuqala ukuzindla.

Le vidiyo kimi ibonakala iyisibonelo esihle sokuchaza amaphuzu amaningana ayisisekelo engithanda ukuwenza acace ezinganeni nasebancane., futhi nakubantu abadala abacabanga ukwenza a ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe:

1) Umsebenzi walabo bethu abasebenza njengabelaphi uqukethe alulame enempilo futhi ephila Yini ngaphakathi esinabo ngokubonisana. Sonke sinokuthile okubalulekile ngeqiniso nje elikhona, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi izimo eziyingozi kakhulu ziye zenzeka, ngaphandle noma ngaphakathi.

2) Ukuze sibuyisele lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, sinakho anhlobonhlobo abezindaba, abafanele esinabo ngaphambili (nangeminyaka yakhe, abakuthandayo, isitayela sakhe, lokho asekuphile…). silalela njalo, sivame ukubuza, futhi ngezinye izikhathi siphakamisa imisebenzi (ukudweba kanjani, noma enze imisebenzi ebonakalayo, noma zama amasu ahlukene). Umgomo wethu uwukubuyisela kumuntu lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, kodwa kuhlanzekile futhi kunamandla ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho.

3) Siyakwazi lokho inqubo ithatha isikhathi. Uma sithatha amasonto, izinyanga, iminyaka, ukuhlala nento ebuhlungu, sizodinga futhi isikhathi sokuzinikela ukuze silephe. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kungase kube khona okutholiwe okushintsha kakhulu umuzwa wethu ngomzuzwana, njengoba ivela kuvidiyo, kodwa lokho kwenzeka kuphela uma sesiphenye ngokwanele ingaphakathi lethu. Futhi kuthatha isikhathi ukuthi lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kusungulwe emhlabeni wonke ezimpilweni zethu..

4) Futhi siyakwazi lokho inqubo idinga umzamo. Kufana nokuhlanza isilonda esingenwe yilesi sifo, kungase kuhlanganise ubuhlungu besikhashana, kodwa ukuthuthukiswa kubonakala esikhathini eside. Umzamo uthinta abantu abaseduze nomuntu ofika ukuze kuboniswane. Endabeni yezingane, futhi intsha, ukucindezeleka kuthinta umndeni, futhi ngombono wami we-psychotherapy ngingenelela kuphela uma kukhona ukuzibophezela okucacile nokuqinile engxenyeni yomndeni (ikakhulukazi abanakekeli bokuqala).

5) njengoba kwenzeka kuvidiyo, njengabelaphi siyazi kahle isipiliyoni ngoba siphile eyethu i-psychotherapy nezinselelo zethu. Yebo sinokuqeqeshwa okuqondile, ebanzi futhi ejulile, kodwa asizibheki njengabantu abahlukile. Simane singabantu abake babuka ubuhlungu bethu futhi abafunde ukubheka ubuhlungu babanye abantu ngendlela eyakhayo nangemibono emisha..

Ngethemba ukuthi ividiyo izokusiza ukuthi ube nemibono ecacile mayelana nalokhu ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuchazela izingane zakho, futhi intsha.

Javier