Mawu mu Spanish – Chijapani – Dinani apa kuti muwerenge mu Chingerezi

The International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) mu Julayi 2016 akupitiriza kubala zipatso.

Lero ndili ndi mwayi wopereka kumasulira kwa nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Lingalirani zozama zakuya” (adawonekera mkati 2014 mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy) ku japanese, ndi mutu wolimbikitsa “Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana Kwachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-“.

Con Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

Ku Cambridge ndinasangalala kukumana ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), psychotherapist wophunzitsidwa mu Focusing yemwe adayamba kumasulira nkhaniyi nthawi yayitali, Kale Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Woyang'anira Wodziwika bwino, amene analowa nawo ntchito yomasulira m’gawo lake lomaliza. Zokambirana zathu zapamsonkhanowu zidapangitsa kuti ntchitoyi ipite patsogolo, ndipo tsopano pali kumasulira kosamala komwe kulipo pa webusayiti ya Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), ndi zomwe ndikuzitulutsa apa ndi chilolezo chake.

Kuchokera pano ndikufuna kuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha khama lawo komanso kudzipereka kwawo (pakhala pali maimelo ambiri mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo kuti afotokoze malingaliro ndi mawu) kotero kuti gawo ili la Focusing lidziwike pakati pa akatswiri ambiri ndi akatswiri a Focusing ku Japan..

mu kuyamika kwakukulu,

Xavier

Chijapani

Msonkhano wa 27 wa International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (UK)mano、Kubweretsa zotsatira zolemetsa。

tsopano、Ine、pepala"Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusachita Zachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-"("Academic Journal for Focusing and Experience Process Therapy"The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential TherapyVol. 25, No. 1、2014Ndine wolemekezeka kuti (lofalitsidwa m'chaka) linamasuliridwa ku Japan.。

Bambo Kawahara

Ku Cambridge、Counselor En Kawahara yemwe akuphunzitsidwa Focusing、Ndinakumana mosangalala ndi Mayi Mako Hikasa, Wotsogolera Woyang'anira Wodziwika bwino wa Certified Focusing Coordinator.。Chifukwa、A Kawahara akugwira kale ntchito yomasulira、Ndipo pa gawo lomaliza la polojekitiyi、Mako HikasaWajowina。Pambuyo pa msonkhano wapadziko lonse、Timalumikizana kuti timalize kumasulira、Ndipo tsopano、Kumasulira kwenikweni kwa Chijapanizi kwamalizidwa。izi ndi、Tsamba la Japan Focusing AssociationMukhoza kuwerenga pa。Kuchokera ku mgwirizano、Ndalandira chilolezo choyika ulalo。

Ndimachita chidwi ndi chidwi chawo komanso chidwi chawo、Ndine woyamikira kwambiri。Kufotokozera malingaliro ndi ma nuances、Kusinthitsa maimelo pafupipafupi。Kwa akatswiri ambiri ovomerezeka a Focusing ndi akatswiri ku Japan、Chifukwa ndi mwayi wodziwa mbali iyi ya Focusing.。

Ndi chiyamiko

Javier

Mawu achingerezi

Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse Woganizira Kwambiri 2016 ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) akupitiriza kubweretsa zipatso zambiri.

Tsopano ndili ndi mwayi wopereka nkhani yanga “Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication: Kuganizira Zozama Zake”, zomwe zidawoneka mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy mu 2014, kumasuliridwa m'Chijapani ndi mutu “Kuphatikizika kwa Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana Kwachiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama-“.

Ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

Ku Cambridge ndinasangalala kukumana ndi Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), katswiri wa zamaganizo wophunzitsidwa mu Focusing yemwe anali atayamba kale kumasulira nthawi ina yapitayo, ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), wodziwika bwino wa Focusing Coordinator yemwe adalowa nawo ntchitoyi pomaliza. Zokambirana zomwe tidakambirana pambuyo pa msonkhanowu zapangitsa kuti ntchitoyi ithe, ndipo tsopano tili ndi kumasulira kolondola kumeneku, zomwe zikupezeka pa webusayiti ya Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), kupangidwanso apa ndi chilolezo.

Ndikufuna kuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha chidwi chawo komanso khama lawo –pakhala pali maimelo ambiri kuti afotokoze malingaliro ndi ma nuances– kuti zitheke kuti gawo ili la Kukhazikika lidziwike pakati pa akatswiri ambiri Okhazikika komanso akatswiri ku Japan..

Mu chiyamiko,

Xavier

Chithunzi cha ANSEMBOURG, Tomasi. siyani kukhala wabwino; Khalani owona! kope lojambulidwa. Courier yotumizira, 2015.

Thomas d'Ansembourg Ndilo umboni wapadziko lonse lapansi ku Yofatsa Kulankhulana (ndi umboni waumwini kwa ine, popeza maphunziro anga mu NVC adayamba ndi iye ndikuzama ndikutsagana naye). Tsopano akugawana chidziŵitso chake chakuya cha chibadwa cha munthu ndi kawonedwe kake kachifundo ka mikangano m’chifanizo chazithunzithunzi. (kwenikweni mu mawonekedwe a comic) m'buku lake loyamba, siyani kukhala wabwino; Khalani owona!, wogulitsa kwambiri komanso gwero losatha la kulingalira.

m'kabukhu kakang'ono aka, ndi mafanizo ake Alexis Nouailhat, zosavuta komanso zolimbikitsa, Thomas d'Ansembourg akufotokoza nkhani yake (Mutu 1, “Munthu uyu ndi ndani?”), imasanthula mwanthabwala komanso momveka bwino mavuto ena omwe timakumana nawo monga anthu (Mutu 2, “Kodi mukufuna kutuluka mumisampha?”) ndipo akufunsira “Malingaliro ena a Nonviolent Communication” (Mutu 3) kuti tiyambe kusintha maganizo athu (ndipo potero amasintha ubale wathu ndi miyoyo yathu), ndi kutseka ndi wopambana “Mapeto”.

Ndi nthabwala komanso mopepuka, bukuli limatithandiza kutchera khutu pa moyo wathu, ndi kukhalapo kwakukulu komanso kuthekera kosintha. Ndizosangalatsa kuti Mkonzi wa Mensajero wasindikiza, ndipo ndizotheka onani zitsanzo za zomwe zili mkati ndi zithunzi zina patsamba lawo.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Xavier

Sabata ino ndakhala ndi mwayi wochita nawo masewerawa Ndi Congress of Emotional Education ya Navarra, opangidwa ndi Makolo Ophunzitsidwa. Yakhala msonkhano wokonzedwa ndi chidwi chachikulu, ndi chisamaliro chachikulu ndi mlingo wabwino wa kulimbika mtima. Ulaliki wanga unakhudza mwachindunji “Maphunziro okhudzidwa omwe amateteza ku nkhanza zogonana”, imodzi mwamitu yomwe ndimagwirako Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, amene ine ndiri membala woyambitsa. Koma pamapeto pake panali tebulo lozungulira lomwe linali ndi mafunso kwa gulu la okamba nkhani, zomwe timagawana ndi kuwongolera kwa Sonsoles Echevarren, Mtolankhani wa Diario de Navarra. Inali nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale mafunso anayankhidwa kwa wokamba nkhani aliyense, pamapeto pake panali ambiri omwe ambiri adatenga nawo mbali. M’nkhaniyi panabuka funso lochititsa chidwi kwambiri, “Momwe mungamvere mwana yemwe akukana kuchoka paki?”. Mayankho ochititsa chidwi ndi ofunika anaperekedwa, ndipo ndinapereka chopereka changa: “Kumva 'inde'’ mu 'ayi'”.

Ine chotero kupulumutsa nkhani yanga mu blog Mvetserani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘, yomwe idasindikizidwa mu nambala 52 (ya Januware ya 2011) Magazini Ngodya yathu ya 0-6, lofalitsidwa ndi ACCENT (pakadali pano sikupitilirabe kutulutsa manambala atsopano, ngakhale zilipo). M'nkhaniyi ndikufotokozera mozama zomwe ndidatsutsana nazo: Pamene munthu (ndipo mnyamata kapena mtsikana alinso munthu) dayisi “ayi”, akuti “Inde” ku zinthu zambiri, ndipo ngati timvera uthenga wonse, tidzatha kupanga mgwirizano wozama ndikupeza njira yokhutiritsa kwa maphwando onse. Nkhaniyi ikuyamba motere:

Ana, zaka ziwiri ndi theka, sakufuna kuvala malaya ake kuti atuluke panja. José, zaka zinayi, sakufuna kutsika panjira kupita kunyumba. Irene, wa zaka zisanu, safuna kukagona. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani safuna kucita zinthu zooneka ngati zoyenela kwa ife monga akulu??

Ndipo tidzatani kenako? Kodi tingagonje ndi kuwalola kuchita zimene akufuna?? Choncho timakhumudwa chifukwa sitikugwirizana ndi maphunziro awo., ndipo zimatipatsanso malingaliro osiya pambali zomwe ifenso tikufuna monga anthu. Kodi timawakakamiza kuchita zimene tikufuna?? Kotero ndife otsimikizika kukambirana ndi chikhalidwe choipa kwa nthawi yaitali., ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi timawaphunzitsa kuti pamapeto pake chofunika ndicho kukhala ndi mphamvu kapena mphamvu, ndipo kukambirana kumeneko kumangogwira ntchito pamene muli ofooka. Muzochitika zanga zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo pali njira yachitatu, kutengera kulumikizana mwakuya muzochitika zonsezi. Ndipo luso limodzi lomwe timakulitsa m'misonkhano yomwe ndimathandizira ndikutha kumvetsera zomwe akunena “Inde” anyamata ndi atsikana athu akamati “ayi”.

Tsitsani nkhani yonse “mverani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘

Ndikukhulupirira mukuwapeza osangalatsa.

Xavier

Sabata yatha ya 12 ndi 13 September 2015 Ndakhala ndi mwayi ndi chisangalalo kuyanjananso ndi Bridget Belgrave. Monga ndanena kale mu positi iyi, ndinakumana Bridget Belgrave Kale Gina Lawrie, Formadoras mbiri yabwino ndi Center kwa Communication Nonviolent (Center kwa Communication NonViolent, CNVC), mu 2009 ndipo kuyambira nthawi imeneyo tinayamba kugwira ntchito monga gulu kumasulira NVC Dance apansi ku Spanish. Matembenuzidwe athunthu pomalizira pake anawona kuwala kwa tsiku 2014, ndi mavidiyo ena owonetsera omwe angawoneke cholowa ichi ndapanga kuti amasulidwe. The Association for Nonviolent Communication wakonza magawo ophunzitsira angapo ku Madrid, Bilbao ndi Barcelona mu Seputembala 2015, ndipo kwa ine zakhala zokhutiritsa kugwiranso ntchito monga gulu ndi Bridget Belgrave kuthandiza ndi kumasulira kuchokera ku Chingerezi kupita ku Spanish ndi mosemphanitsa..

Pokonzekera msonkhanowu ndakhala ndikuwunika zonse zomwe ndili nazo kuchokera ku NVC Dance apansi ndi cha Bridget makamaka. Ndi kuyamikira zipangizo zonse, aliyense ndi chuma chake, pali imodzi yomwe ndimakondabe. Pamenepo, Bridget anandipempha kuti ndifotokoze masomphenya anga panthawi ina mu msonkhano, ndipo zandichitikira kuti ndiwonjezere malingaliro anga mu blog iyi.

Zomwe zikufunsidwazi zili m'Chingerezi chokha ndipo zilibe mawu am'munsi kapena zomasulira zomwe zilipo, koma ndikhulupirira kuti izi sizikufooketsa inu kusayandikira kwa iye. “Gwirizanani ndi Ulemu” (“Gwirizanani ndi ulemu”, kumasuliridwa kwenikweni m’Chisipanishi) ndi ma multimedia omwe amalemba ntchito yomwe Bridget Belgrave adachita 2004 con 21 achinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe ali ndi zaka zapakati pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri. Ntchitoyi idapangidwa ngati njira yophunzitsira anyamata ndi atsikana omwe ali ndi mavuto azachuma Yofatsa Kulankhulana, mkati mwa dongosolo la msonkhano wokhudza kukhazikitsidwa kwa kayimbidwe ka mizinda, kwa masabata khumi.

chifukwa chiyani ndikupangira? Nachi chidule cha zifukwa zanga:

• DVD ndi kanema, wa 25 mphindi yaitali. Sungani mphindi zofunika za polojekitiyi, zolembedwa ndi alangizi atatuwo komanso ndi achinyamata omwe, ndi kukonzedwa mogwirizana ndi iwo. Pamenepo, monga zanenedwa m’ndime ina, kuyang'ana magawo am'mbuyomu kunathandiza aliyense kuzindikira bwino zomwe amaphunzira komanso makhalidwe omwe anali ogwirizana ndi zosowa za aliyense. Ndi chikalata chojambula chomwe chimakulolani kuti muyike nkhope (ndi mawu) ku zochitika zosiyanasiyana, ndikukulolani kuti muganizire momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito pazinthu zina.

• Vidiyoyi ikugwirizana ndi mbali yachiwiri ya bukuli, “Wotsogolera Mafilimu” (“Mtsogoleli wowonera kanema”), momwe zonse zomwe zimachitika zimakambidwa motsatizana: chilichonse, mmene kulankhulana kopanda chiwawa kumaphunzitsidwa, nthawi zoyeserera, mikangano yeniyeni yomwe imabwera… Mwanjira imeneyi, cholinga cha ntchito iliyonse ndi zovuta zomwe zinabuka ndi momwe anachitira zimamveka bwino..

• Ndipo gawo lachitatu la bukhuli likusonkhanitsa Pulogalamu yonse, masabata khumi ndi machitidwe ake onse mwatsatanetsatane ndi zipangizo zonse masanjidwe kuwonjezera (m'Chingerezi), kuphatikiza pakuphatikiza CD-ROM yokhala ndi fayilo yazinthu zilizonse mu PDF yokonzeka kusindikizidwa. Mwachiwonekere kanemayo samaphatikizapo zochitika zonse, kotero ndizothandiza kwambiri kuwona momwe ntchito ikupitira patsogolo pochita, ndi kuthekera kobwerezanso.

• Choonadi chokhala ndi kumasulira kwa zomwe Malo ovina yokha ku castellano, ndi mutu wa “ulemu kwa ine, ulemu kwa inu”, mkati mwa phukusi lathunthu la Dance Floors.
• Ndipo the chenjezo a Bridget Belgrave kuti asayese pulojekiti yamtunduwu popanda, kumbali imodzi, maphunziro olimba komanso chidziwitso cha Nonviolent Communication., ndipo kumbali ina gulu la maphunziro lomwe lili ndi maziko ena a NVC komanso odziwa kugwira ntchito ndi achinyamata. Ndachitapo zina mwazochita zolimbitsa thupi ndi achinyamata komanso achinyamata omwe ali pachiwopsezo ku Madrid ndipo zidakhala bwino., ndiye ndikupezeka.

Powombetsa mkota, zinthu zofunika kuziwona, wapamwamba, werenganinso ndikuyika muzochita. Ndipo mungagule chiyani sitolo Intaneti, moyo Resources.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kumveketsa bwino, Mutha kundiyimbira foni nambala yanga ndipo titha kukambirana chilichonse chomwe mungafune..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti posachedwa titha kukhala ndi ma projekiti ambiri amtunduwu pano!!

Xavier

“malinga ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo, kuchita Zopanda Zachiwawa Kulankhulana ndi ana aang'ono ndi nkhani ya zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanga-momwe ndimalankhula ndekha za zomwe zikuchitika ndi ine ndi mwana wanga-kuposa kukambirana. Komabe, Ndikufunanso kuyika m'mawu momwe ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika kwa tonsefe, mwina gawo la nthawi, ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti mwana wanga samamva chilankhulo, chifukwa zimandithandiza kulumikizana ndi malingaliro ndi zosowa za onse awiri. Kuti, nthawi yomweyo, zimandithandiza kukhazika mtima pansi ndikupeza njira zomwe zingagwire ntchito kwa tonsefe. Ndikufunanso kuyankhula mokweza chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yophunzirira chilankhulo komanso kumvetsetsa.” (Inbal Chestnut, Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima, tsamba 38)

Pamene anthu omwe atenga nawo gawo pamisonkhano yanga yolankhulirana ndi anthu ali ndi ana aamuna kapena aakazi omwe ali paubwana wawo kapena unyamata wawo., kapena kugwira ntchito ndi mibadwo imeneyo, kawirikawiri amawuka “Inde, njira iyi yolankhulirana ndi yabwino kwambiri pakati pa akuluakulu, koma tiyeni tiwone momwe ndingamuwuzire mwana wanga/mchemwali/wophunzira/mwana wamkazi…”. ngati muli ndi nthawi, timaphunzira kulankhulana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana mu maphunziro, ngakhale nthawi zambiri ndimatha kuwonetsa malingaliro ndi zofufuza zomwe zingatheke. Tsopano tili ndi chida chatsopano, zimene zimalola kuti kulankhulana m’banja kupitirire kumlingo wina. Sikungothetsa kusamvana (kutinso), koma kupanga mtundu wodalirika kwambiri wamalumikizidwe, zakuya ndi zamphamvu kwambiri, zimene zimakonzekeretsa ana kukhala olimba m’moyo.

Ndi chidwi ichi Inbal Kashtan analemba buku lake Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima. Gawanani mphatso zachifundo, kugwirizana ndi kusankha, lofalitsidwa chaka chatha m'Chisipanishi ndi Editorial Acanto. Inbal Chestnut, mphunzitsi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi mayi wa mwana, adatsogolera kwa zaka ntchito ya Nonviolent Communication m'banja, makamaka kuchokera kwa abambo ndi amayi kupita kwa ana awo aamuna ndi aakazi. Inbal anamwalira mu September 2014, koma cholowa chake chikhalapobe Zithunzi za BayNVC (bungwe lomwe limafalitsa Nonviolent Communication kuchokera ku San Francisco Bay Area, California, amene anali woyambitsa nawo) ndi m’zolemba zake (pambali pa bukhu ili, Mukhoza kuwerenga zina mwa nkhani zake zokhudza kulankhulana m'banja mu Chingerezi pa Zithunzi za BayNVC). Cholembera chabuloguchi chimafunanso kukuthokozani komanso kupereka ulemu ku moyo wake ndi ntchito yake.

Ndikupangira bukuli kwa iwo omwe amayandikira kwa nthawi yoyamba Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi kwa iwo amene akufuna kuzamitsa machitidwe awo ndi ana. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda.

Xavier

Mikangano yambiri itha kuthetsedwa m’njira yokhutiritsa ndi yopindulitsa kwa mbali zonse., Kupereka zofunikira ndi nthawi zimaperekedwa. Izi ndizochitika zanga komanso zaukadaulo zomwe ndaphunzira zaka zambiri, kuchita ndi kufalitsa Yofatsa Kulankhulana. ndizofunika kwambiri (osati zophweka) ndi kuti zofunikira zikukwaniritsidwa kuti chigamulochi chichitike. Kwa ine pali zinthu zingapo zofunika, zomwe tingazifotokoze mwachidule zotsatirazi:

• Njira yokwanira, zomwe zimalola onse omwe akukhudzidwa kuti azikhala otetezeka komanso olemekezedwa paufulu wawo.
• Akatswiri omwe ali ndi maphunziro odziwa kuyimira pakati komanso kumvetsera mozama komanso “kumasulira” za mauthenga kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti munthu aliyense amve.
• Dera lomwe limathandizira njira zobwezeretsa, kugawa nthawi, mipata, anthu ogwira ntchito, maphunziro…
• Anthu okonzeka kuthetsa mikangano m'njira yoti pamapeto pake onse azimva kuti akumva komanso kuti mbali zonse zikhutitsidwe ndi yankho.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndizosangalatsa kwa ine kugawana nawo zothandizira zomwe gulu lalikulu la anthu a m'dera la Son Gotleu ku Palma de Mallorca adachita. (Mallorca), popeza amasonkhanitsa momwe chilichonse mwazinthuzi chagwirira ntchito.

Muvidiyoyi mukuwona momwe adathandizira, ndi revitalization ya Institute for Coexistence and School Success (ndi Institute for Coexistence and School Success in Spanish) ya Boma la Zilumba za Balearic, kuchokera kwa aphunzitsi a malo ophunzirira a Early Childhood Education, Pulayimale ndi Sekondale, ophunzira amisinkhu yonse, mabanja, komanso Social Services, apolisi, yunivesite ndi magulu ena odziwika bwino. Mu mosaic wa mawu, timapeza lingaliro lazomwe zidachitika pakukhazikitsidwa kwa ukonde wachitetezo pamalo omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndikuwona zina mwazotsatira.

Kuti muwone mwadongosolo, pali chofalitsidwa chimene chimasonkhanitsa mbali zofunika kwambiri. Adasinthidwa mu Catalan, Chisipanishi ndi Chingerezi mkati mwa projekiti yaku Europe yokhala ndi mutuwu, ndi Upangiri Timakulitsa kukhalirana ndi Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa / Kalozera Timathandizira kukhazikika ndi machitidwe obwezeretsa imapanga mbali zongopeka za Restorative Practices, amafunikira deta yochulukirapo ndipo amapereka zitsanzo zenizeni ndi malingaliro owerengera kuti awonjezere zambiri.

Ndipo kukulitsa Mabwalo Obwezeretsa, mchitidwe kuthetsa mikangano ndi chikhalidwe dimension anachokera Yofatsa Kulankhulana, mukhoza kuwerenga monograph chidwi Chilungamo ndi Zochita Zobwezeretsa. Mabwalo Obwezeretsa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kwawo m'magawo osiyanasiyana, yolembedwa ndi Vicenç Rulan, mphunzitsi amene ndili wokondwa kumudziwa, zomwe zikuwoneka mu kanema ndi mu Bukhuli, ndi kuti iye ndi membala wa Association of Justice and Restorative Practices of the Balearics (ndi tsamba castellano ndi mu chikatalani, ndi zinthu zina zambiri). chiyambi chabwino, kuti tipitirize kuyang'ana mu chitsanzo ichi. Komanso mukhoza kuonera mavidiyo (m'Chingerezi) patsamba lovomerezeka la mlengi wa Restorative Circles, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Inu amene mwandiphunzitsako kulankhulana ndi anthu ena mwawona kuti nthawi zambiri ndimatchula mutu uwu wa Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa.. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zinthuzi zikuwonetsa bwino zomwe mwamva kuchokera kwa ine ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti ziyambitsa luso lanu komanso malingaliro anu kuti mupitilize kupeza njira zozama komanso zozama zothetsera mikangano m'malo ophunzirira., ndi kudera lina lililonse.

Xavier

Awa ndi masiku osangalatsa kwambiri pakati pa ife omwe timadziwa ndikuchita Yofatsa Kulankhulana. Marshall B. Rosenberg, mlengi wa yofatsa Kulankhulana, zakale zapita 7 February 2015 pa usinkhu wa 80 zaka (tinakondwerera kubadwa kwake miyezi ingapo yapitayo mu positi iyi), ndipo ife amene timamdziŵa iye ndi ife amene taphunzira chitsanzo chake mwachisawawa tikuchita zimene iye anatiphunzitsa: kukondwerera zochitika zomwe zakwaniritsa zosowa zathu ndikudzilola kuti timve chisoni zochitika zomwe zasiya zosowa zathu.

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye pamasiku asanu ndi anayi a International Intensive Training (International Intensive Training, IIT) ku Switzerland mu July ndi August 2008. Chithunzi chomwe ndili nacho ndi Marshall ndi mkazi wake Valentina chikuchokera ku mapangidwe amenewo., ndi chizindikiro chowonjezera cha kukhalapo kwa anyamata awiri osadziwika ndi mtsikana kumbuyo, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi chilimbikitso chimene Marshall anandipatsa m’ntchito yanga ndi ana, ndi achinyamata (werengani zambiri m'malo oyamba).

Masiku ano, momwe ndawerenga mauthenga osiyanasiyana ndi zikumbutso zomwe zachitika m'gulu la Nonviolent Communication, Ndapezanso mwayi wowerenganso zolemba zomwe ndidakumana nazo masiku amenewo ndili naye (komanso pagulu la ophunzitsa ena ndi ena onse otenga nawo mbali). Ndipo pambuyo pake idzakhala nthawi yowerenganso ntchito zake zonse, monga njira yotsitsimula ndi kulemekeza ntchito yawo.

Marshall Rosenberg adagwira ntchito kuti apange dziko laumunthu, kuzindikira mbali za moyo ndi kukula ngakhale muzochita zosamvetsetseka. Mawu ake enieni ndi “Chiwawa ndi chiwonetsero chomvetsa chisoni cha zosowa zosakwanira”, ndi njira yake, kulankhulana kopanda chiwawa, njira yoti athe kumvetsera ndikusinthanso mawu mpaka mayankho apezeka momwe mbali zonse zipambana.

Ndimaona kuti kugogomezera kwa Marshall pankhani ya kusintha kwa anthu kumakhala kopindulitsa kwambiri., sanafune kuti Kulankhulana Kwankhanza kutumikire kuti anthu azikhala odekha ndi moyo wawo. Ntchitoyi imayambira mkati mwa munthu aliyense, koma inu simungakhoze kukhala pamenepo, ndikofunikira kuti ifike kumagulu osiyanasiyana (zachuma, chikhalidwe, ndondomeko, zamaphunziro…) ndi kuwasintha powasintha kukhala anthu. Monga momwe iye mwini anatiuzira ku Switzerland: “Zimene timachita zimafanana ndi zimene munthu amaona khandalo likugwa pa mathithi n’kumupulumutsa., napenya wina, nampulumutsa, napenya wina, nampulumutsa… Panthawi ina zimakhala bwino kuti munthuyo adzifunse kuti ndani akuponya ana ndikukwera mathithi kuti apewe.”.

Kupatula ntchito yake yolembedwa (mabuku oposa khumi ndi awiri, mwa iwo Yofatsa Kulankhulana. chinenero cha moyo) ndi mavidiyo ndi zojambulidwa za ma workshop ake ndi nyimbo zake, Marshall anayambitsa Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent), ndi mbiri ya zaka zambiri za ntchito, ndipo izi zakhala zikugwira ntchito popanda iye kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi. Zimasiyanso mazana a ophunzitsidwa ovomerezeka kuti chitsanzo chake chipitirize kufalikira ndi kukhulupirika ndi zikwi makumi a akatswiri omwe amayesa kuwunikira mikangano yathu ya tsiku ndi tsiku.. Ndi chinachake kukondwerera.

Nthawi yomweyo, imfa yake imasiya malo opanda kanthu. Kudziwa kuti wamwalira kunyumba kwake limodzi ndi mkazi wake Valentina ndi ana awo ndi chitonthozo chaching'ono.. Tikudziwa kuti sitidzamuwonanso akuyimira mikangano yatsopano, kuti sitidzamva nyimbo yatsopano, kuti sadzalemba mabuku atsopano. Ndipo izi zisanachitike, zimangotsala kuvomereza ndi chifundo zowawa ndi chisoni chomwe chikuwonekera.

Pokhapokha pophatikiza zochitika zonse tingathe kupita patsogolo mokwanira, kuphatikiza zomwe zidalandiridwa kuchokera kwa Marshall ndikuyang'ana, mphindi ndi mphindi, momwe mungasinthire m'njira yolemeretsa kwa aliyense.

Mu chikondwerero ndi maliro,

Xavier

CNV dancefloors kale anaonekera mu Baibulo mu Chikasitilia, imene Ndagwira ntchito, komanso zilipo Spanish ndi mawu mavidiyo.

Bridget Belgrave ndi Gina Lawrie, Formadoras mbiri yabwino ndi Center kwa Communication Nonviolent (Center kwa Communication NonViolent, CNVC), Kwa zaka analenga chida chachikulu kuphunzitsa ndi kuchita Nonviolent Communication (CNV). Monga iwowo mu kugonjera, ndi NVC Dance apansi (NVC Dance apansi) Iwo anatuluka kupyola mu mndandanda wa njira kuti atsogolere mwambo wa Nonviolent Communication ndi mapu okhudza malo kuti amakulolani kugwiritsa ntchito gawo thupi kugwira ntchito gawo maganizo, njira mukuona kanema:

m'chilimwe 2009 Ine tasangalala formarme ndi Gina ndi kukumana Bridget, kuyambira pamenepo ntchito yomasulira ndi anatengera anali anabwerera Chikasitilia, Poyesayesa imene tathandiza anthu ambiri ndipo ine kaamba kanthawi. Choncho timasangalala kufalitsa Chida chophweka ndipo komabe kwambiri, potsiriza mu Spanish, imene ife kusamalira kuphatikizapo yaikulu zotheka angapo Spanish Baibulo.

zimene ndinaona kuti NVC Dance apansi anthu akhoza kuchita chabe kudziwa ochepa koyamba Communication Nonviolent (Ndipotu I ntchito zina zokambirana ndi malonje). Ngakhale anthu amene sadziwa njira yokha Nonviolent Communication (ana, ndi achinyamata, makasitomala mankhwala) Mosavuta kuwoloka mothandizidwa ndi winawake amene amadziwa zambiri.

Dancefloors CNV kuphatikiza ndi zithunzi, ogwirika ndi zinenero, choncho zomwe kumachitika mwa njira ndi zinachitikira chozama. Ndipo pali naini “zovina” chosiyana, ndi mayina monga “Masewero 13 masitepe”, “Dance Kusakanikirana ndi mgwirizano”, “Dance la Mkwiyo / Ukali, Manyazi ndi Depression”, “Gule wa Inde ndi No”, ndi “Kusintha ululu wa zofuna unmet mu Kukongola Zosowa”.

Kuphatikiza Apo, mu 2013 iwo anamasulidwa makanema kuti afotokoze atatu ya madansi ameneŵa, mu kope mosamala monga omasulira Chisipanishi.

Ngati mukufuna kugula dancefloor CNV mu akamagwiritsa osiyana (monga Koperani, pepala, plasticized Baibulo…) ndi ma DVD kuphunzira nawo kunyumba kapena kuchita gulu, mukhoza kukaona sitolo Intaneti, moyo Resources.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kundidalira kuyesa dancefloor mu gawo limodzi kapena zokambirana zenizeni, Ine ndidzakhala osangalala kuti apite.

Ndikuyembekeza inu mukufuna.

Xavier

Ndine wokondwa kugawana nawo nkhaniyi The Focusing Institute yasindikizidwa mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yamaphunziro, mu volume yake 25 za 2014. Pepala langa “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ adawonekera pa chiyambi cha 2014 ndipo yangosindikizidwa pa digito ndi mwayi waulere komanso mtundu wa PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi, “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha pa February 9th 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi, “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama”, ndi kuwerenga nkhani ya kumasulira kwake (mu Spanish) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri!

Ndikusiyirani apa mwatsatanetsatane:

ABSTRACT

Onse Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (NVC) zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza chidziwitso ndipo machitidwe awo amkati amapita patsogolo pamene mawu awo ena akuwonekera.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwanu nokha komanso ndi mnzanu. Ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumabweretsa zozama, momwe zinthu zomwe zimaganiziridwa zimakhazikika ndikuzindikirika.

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication ikani kupsinjika pakuwonetsa mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulumikizana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. Nonviolent Communication amayesa kupeza chilengedwe chonse zosowa zomwe zili pachimake cha zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication akhala kuwoloka m'njira zosiyanasiyana (kubwereza kwachidule kwa zodutsa zina zikufufuzidwa mu pepala ili). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa chidziwitso chatsopano cha zosowa, makamaka pofunsa. Ndipo Nonviolent Communication zitha kulimbikitsidwa ndi chidwi chatsopano ku mawu oyamba a munthuyo -osati kungoyesa "kumasulira" chilichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa ndipo mnzake / wothandizira akuwonetsa mbali zonse ziwiri za chidziwitso, munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zotsatira zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka.

Kwa olankhula Chisipanishi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Spanish.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo ndipo ndimakonda kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

Ndi chisangalalo chachikulu ndikugawana nkhaniyi yomwe mwasindikiza The Focusing Institute (New York-based International Focusing Institute) mu volume 25 zogwirizana ndi 2014 wa The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yovomerezeka yamaphunziro. Anawonekera mu pepala Baibulo pa chiyambi cha 2014, nkhani yanga “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ yangosindikizidwa mu Chingerezi mwaulere komanso yotseguka mu PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhani yoyambirira mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha kwa 9 February 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama” ndi kuwona mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Ndipo ndikusiyiraninso chidule choyambirira:

PITILIZANI

Onse kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (CNV) Zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza zidziwitso ndi kuti njira zathu zimapitirizidwa patsogolo pamene mawu athu ena awonetsedwa kwa ife.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwa munthu ndi iyeyo komanso ndi aliyense amene amamutsatira. Ndipo kuwonetserako kumakhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya pamene mbali zobisika zimatseguka kumoyo wawo ndipo zimadziwika bwino..

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication kutsindika kuwonetsera mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulankhulana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. The Nonviolent Communication yesetsani kupeza zosowa chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe chimatsogolera zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication zaphatikizidwa (kuwoloka) m'njira zosiyanasiyana (Ndemanga yachidule ya zosakaniza zina ikufufuzidwa m'nkhaniyi). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa kuzindikira kwatsopano kwa zosowa, makamaka mu Funsani sitepe. Ndipo the Nonviolent Communication zingawonjezeke ndi kukhudzika kwatsopano kwa mawu oyamba a munthuyo—osati kungoyesa “kumasulira” chirichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa komanso pamene womvera ngati mnzake kapena wothandizira amasonyeza mbali zonse za chidziwitso., munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zozama zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) / Nonviolent Communication (CNV), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka/Cross/Gwirizanitsani.

Kwa olankhula Chingerezi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Chingerezi.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwaikonda ndipo ndidzakhala wokondwa kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

kukweza ku 26 September 2014:

Ndakhala ndi mwayi kuti nkhani yanga ya Chisipanishi imapezeka mu Tsamba la Spanish la Focusing Institute of New York (The Focusing Institute). Zikomo kwambiri! Zikomo kwambiri!

kukweza ku 9 February 2017:

Ndikuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha kumasulira kwachi Japan kwa Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri! Aquí está la mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.