“malinga ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo, kuchita Zopanda Zachiwawa Kulankhulana ndi ana aang'ono ndi nkhani ya zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanga-momwe ndimalankhula ndekha za zomwe zikuchitika ndi ine ndi mwana wanga-kuposa kukambirana. Komabe, Ndikufunanso kuyika m'mawu momwe ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika kwa tonsefe, mwina gawo la nthawi, ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti mwana wanga samamva chilankhulo, chifukwa zimandithandiza kulumikizana ndi malingaliro ndi zosowa za onse awiri. Kuti, nthawi yomweyo, zimandithandiza kukhazika mtima pansi ndikupeza njira zomwe zingagwire ntchito kwa tonsefe. Ndikufunanso kuyankhula mokweza chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yophunzirira chilankhulo komanso kumvetsetsa.” (Inbal Chestnut, Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima, tsamba 38)

Pamene anthu omwe atenga nawo gawo pamisonkhano yanga yolankhulirana ndi anthu ali ndi ana aamuna kapena aakazi omwe ali paubwana wawo kapena unyamata wawo., kapena kugwira ntchito ndi mibadwo imeneyo, kawirikawiri amawuka “Inde, njira iyi yolankhulirana ndi yabwino kwambiri pakati pa akuluakulu, koma tiyeni tiwone momwe ndingamuwuzire mwana wanga/mchemwali/wophunzira/mwana wamkazi…”. ngati muli ndi nthawi, timaphunzira kulankhulana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana mu maphunziro, ngakhale nthawi zambiri ndimatha kuwonetsa malingaliro ndi zofufuza zomwe zingatheke. Tsopano tili ndi chida chatsopano, zimene zimalola kuti kulankhulana m’banja kupitirire kumlingo wina. Sikungothetsa kusamvana (kutinso), koma kupanga mtundu wodalirika kwambiri wamalumikizidwe, zakuya ndi zamphamvu kwambiri, zimene zimakonzekeretsa ana kukhala olimba m’moyo.

Ndi chidwi ichi Inbal Kashtan analemba buku lake Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima. Gawanani mphatso zachifundo, kugwirizana ndi kusankha, lofalitsidwa chaka chatha m'Chisipanishi ndi Editorial Acanto. Inbal Chestnut, mphunzitsi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi mayi wa mwana, adatsogolera kwa zaka ntchito ya Nonviolent Communication m'banja, makamaka kuchokera kwa abambo ndi amayi kupita kwa ana awo aamuna ndi aakazi. Inbal anamwalira mu September 2014, koma cholowa chake chikhalapobe Zithunzi za BayNVC (bungwe lomwe limafalitsa Nonviolent Communication kuchokera ku San Francisco Bay Area, California, amene anali woyambitsa nawo) ndi m’zolemba zake (pambali pa bukhu ili, Mukhoza kuwerenga zina mwa nkhani zake zokhudza kulankhulana m'banja mu Chingerezi pa Zithunzi za BayNVC). Cholembera chabuloguchi chimafunanso kukuthokozani komanso kupereka ulemu ku moyo wake ndi ntchito yake.

Ndikupangira bukuli kwa iwo omwe amayandikira kwa nthawi yoyamba Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi kwa iwo amene akufuna kuzamitsa machitidwe awo ndi ana. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda.

Xavier