Chimodzi mwa ntchito zanga monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mnzanga pazochitika zaumwini ndi za bungwe ndizopeza njira zolankhulirana mauthenga ovuta kupyolera mu mafanizo ndi mafananidwe.. M'malo mwake “Kukonzanso kuchokera mkati”, zomwe ndapereka kale mu post ina iyi, tidapereka zovuta zingapo ndi malingaliro owongolera chitetezo cha ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ku Spain (Ndipo mu dziko lonse).

Mwezi uno ndagwirizana ndi nkhaniyi “Timatsagana ndi munthu amene tili”, yomwe imagwiritsa ntchito mafananidwe pakati pa zomwe tikuchita polimbana ndi mliriwu komanso zomwe tikuyenera kuzisamalira poyenda ndi ana., atsikana ndi achinyamata amene avutika kwambiri. Ndi njira yodziwitsa anthu momwe timakhalira komanso momwe timachitira, zonse payekha komanso mwaukadaulo.

Ndipo inu mudzaziwona izo, mwa nthawi zonse, Ndikuumirira kufunika kwa maphunziro mu zoopsa ndi kukumbukira mtengo wa Kuganizira, Ndimaona kuti ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri tsiku ndi tsiku..

Ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mukuganiza komanso momwe mumakhalira.

F. Javier Romeo

Chiyambireni mliriwu, mabungwe ambiri a ana ayesetsa kupanga zothandizira. Ku Spirals Consultancy for Children tapanga zida zingapo zosiyanasiyana.

Muzolemba zabuloguzi ndikufuna kugawana makanema omwe ali ogwirizana ndi zomwe ndikugawana pano, pazifukwa zambiri.

1. Amapereka mauthenga omveka bwino komanso otakata mokwanira kuti akambirane ndi ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata za mliri wa COVID-19, kuti adziwe zomwe zikuchitika kwa iwo.
2. Amapanga ntchito yodziwitsa thupi: kuchokera ku chitsanzo cha nzeru zitatu mpaka kukhudzana ndi mpweya, ndi zovuta kapena ndi zomverera zosiyanasiyana. Sizili choncho Kuganizira, koma kuloza ku tcheru kumeneko.
3. Iwo ali mu Spanish, komanso mu French ndi Moroccan Arabic. Ndasangalala kugwiritsa ntchito m’mavidiyowa zinenero ziwirizi zimene zandithandiza kwambiri kuti ndizilankhulana ndili ku Morocco komanso ndi achinyamata osamukira ku Spain..

Ndikusiya makanema pansipa:

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi mkwiyo”.

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi mantha”.

• Kanema “Atatu anzeru ndi kupempha thandizo”.

• Kanema “Nzeru zitatu ndi chisoni”.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti zotsatira za chidwi.

F. Javier Romeo

Kudziwitsa anthu za thupi ngati malo otetezedwa ku nkhanza ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira zanga zaukadaulo.. mu msonkhano uno, “Kuganizira, thupi ndi chitetezo: Kuganizira kuti kupewa chiwawa” Ndimaphatikiza ntchito yanga yopitilira zaka khumi zoperekedwa kuchitetezo cha ana ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya nkhanza (zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zapitazi Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana) ndi luso luso la Kuganizira, Zandithandiza kwambiri pamlingo waumwini komanso waukadaulo..

Kuyang'ana kungatipatse njira yatsopano yopangira chitetezo m'miyoyo yathu kudzera m'thupi. Tonsefe timafuna kuchitiridwa zabwino., ndi ulemu ndi kulingalira. Komabe, timawona ziwawa pamagawo ake osiyanasiyana nthawi zambiri. Ngati timakumananso ndi ana, ndi achinyamata, ponse paŵiri m’mabanja athu ndi kuntchito kwathu, timawona zochitika zambiri zachiwawa ndipo timadabwa momwe tingapewere. Cholinga cha msonkhanowu ndi kugwira ntchito mwachidziwitso pa lingaliro lachiwawa lomwe limagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi thupi.. Mwanjira imeneyi tidzatha kuzindikira chiwawa kuchokera m'thupi lathu pomwe panthawi imodzimodziyo tidzatha kuchita zinthu momveka bwino komanso zotetezera m'moyo wathu komanso m'ntchito yathu..

Msonkhanowu ndi cholinga cha anthu omwe akufuna kudziwa bwino momwe angathanirane ndi nkhanza kuchokera pamalo otetezeka mkati mwa thupi, zonse payekha komanso mwaukadaulo (akatswiri okhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu kuchokera ku psychology, psychotherapy, ntchito yothandiza anthu, maphunziro…). Palibe chidziwitso choyambirira cha Focusing chofunikira (ngakhale zidzakhala zothandiza). Msonkhanowu ndi wodziwika bwino wopezera Diploma Yoyang'anira Spanish Focusing Institute.

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Ndikukhulupirira kuti zotsatira za chidwi,

F. Javier Romeo

[kulowa koyamba kwa 16 October 2017, kusinthidwa ku 12 Novembala 2017, tsiku la maphunziro].

Mogwirizana ndi kupitiriza kukondwerera kusindikizidwa chaka chapitacho nkhani za Peppa Oven, mnzanga wabwino ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito pazamaphunziro okhudza ubwana), cholembera ichi chikukwaniritsa yapitayo, kutanthauza buku lake Chilankhulo cha mitengo. nkhani iyi, Wamatsenga wamalingaliro, yasindikizidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi mafanizo a Margarita Sada.

Pepa mwiniwake akufotokoza cholinga chake cha bukuli ndi mawu otsatirawa:

Wamatsenga wamalingaliro kulankhula za caresses, ndi momwe kusisita ndi kusisita kumagwirira ntchito pakudziletsa, kuti anyamata ndi atsikana aja omwe akulu amati asakhale chete, Iwo sangakhoze kuyika malingaliro awo mu dongosolo, kapena kuwakhazika mtima pansi kapena kuyang'ana kwambiri ... Kuti anyamata ndi atsikanawa akhale ndi "zamatsenga" kuti athe kukhazikitsa dongosolo mkati mwawo.. M'malingaliro omwe pansi pamtima palibe koma chipatso cha chidwi chake chodabwitsa.

Apa ndikuwonjezera kuti ndi nkhani yomwe ingasinthidwe bwino kuti iphunzitse Kuganizira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana pazifukwa izi:

• Amapereka malingaliro abwino ndi olandirira malingaliro, zomverera, kumverera, maganizo ndi zokumana nazo zomwe ana amakhala nazo (komanso kuti tili ndi akuluakulu): zomwe zili mkati mwathu zimakhala zomveka ngati tipereka njira yokwanira yomvera.
• Anyamata ndi atsikana amatha kuchita zinthu zowona kuti asamalire zomwe akumana nazo mkati, kotero kuti akhazikike mtima pansi (ndi, ngakhale sichinafotokozedwe m’nkhaniyi, komanso kufalitsa), ndipo ife amene tili nawo pafupi titha kuwatsagana nawo.
• Zochitika zamkati zimatsagana ndi zochitika zina zolimbitsa thupi. M'nkhaniyi, Pepa akupereka caresses kumadera omwe akukhudzidwa (mutu wa protagonist, pamenepa), koma fotokozani patsamba lomaliza, “Mawu kwa moyo wa akuluakulu”, kuti pakhoza kukhala njira zina zambiri, malinga ngati thupi likukhudzidwa.

Chifukwa chake ndikupangira bukuli ngati njira yowonetsera Kuyikira Kwambiri m'njira yabwino kwa ana..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzazikonda monga momwe ndimachitira,

Xavier

Chaka choyamba cha kufalitsidwa kwa nkhaniyi posachedwapa chinali chikondwerero. Chilankhulo cha mitengo wa Peppa Oven, mnzanga wokondedwa ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito zoteteza ana). nkhani iyi, lofalitsidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi kufotokozedwa ndi Martina Vanda, anali ndi maulaliki angapo, ndipo woyamba anali m'menemo Madrid Book Fair 2015 za masiku awa, kotero zidawoneka zoyenera kukumbukira ndi cholembera ichi.

Pepa akupereka bukuli motere:

Chilankhulo cha mitengo ndi za imfa. Kapenanso za ulusi wa chikondi umene umagwirizanitsa mbali zonse za moyo. Lankhulani za anthu amene ali ndi mtima wosagawanika, “hafu pa dziko lapansi ndi theka kumwamba”, ndipo linalembedwa kwa anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri (amene ali ana tsopano ndi anyamata ena ndi atsikana obisika pansi pa khungu la akuluakulu) amene ali ndi mitima yonga iyi.

Ndikufuna kuwunikira mbali zitatu zomwe ndikupangira nkhaniyi (ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ndapereka kale ngati mphatso maulendo angapo):

• Kufunika kopeza chiyanjano chophiphiritsa ndi munthu wakufayo, zomwe zingathe kukulitsidwa m'moyo kapena imfa ikachitika. Sipanachedwe kupanga mwambo womwe umapatsa ife omwe tidakali ndi moyo kumverera kwa kulumikizana.
• Chisoni cha thupi, zomwe zimawoneka zoloza mwaluso. Kuwona malo, yenda mozungulira munda, kupanga manja a thupi… zimatithandiza bwino ndondomeko zotayika, mosasamala za msinkhu.
• Kukoma mtima komwe kumalowa m'ntchitoyo kumatipempha kuti tisamalire ubale pazochitika zilizonse zachisoni ndi anyamata ndi atsikana onse.: amene ali ndi zaka, ndi omwe timanyamula nawo anyamata ndi atsikana athu mkati (ndipo amafunikiranso chisamaliro chanu).

Kwa zonsezi ndi zina zambiri, ndi buku lomwe ndimawona kuti ndilofunika kuliwerenga., komanso makamaka kukhala nazo pamene zotayika zikuchitika m'chilengedwe.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Xavier

Sabata ino ndakhala ndi mwayi wochita nawo masewerawa Ndi Congress of Emotional Education ya Navarra, opangidwa ndi Makolo Ophunzitsidwa. Yakhala msonkhano wokonzedwa ndi chidwi chachikulu, ndi chisamaliro chachikulu ndi mlingo wabwino wa kulimbika mtima. Ulaliki wanga unakhudza mwachindunji “Maphunziro okhudzidwa omwe amateteza ku nkhanza zogonana”, imodzi mwamitu yomwe ndimagwirako Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, amene ine ndiri membala woyambitsa. Koma pamapeto pake panali tebulo lozungulira lomwe linali ndi mafunso kwa gulu la okamba nkhani, zomwe timagawana ndi kuwongolera kwa Sonsoles Echevarren, Mtolankhani wa Diario de Navarra. Inali nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale mafunso anayankhidwa kwa wokamba nkhani aliyense, pamapeto pake panali ambiri omwe ambiri adatenga nawo mbali. M’nkhaniyi panabuka funso lochititsa chidwi kwambiri, “Momwe mungamvere mwana yemwe akukana kuchoka paki?”. Mayankho ochititsa chidwi ndi ofunika anaperekedwa, ndipo ndinapereka chopereka changa: “Kumva 'inde'’ mu 'ayi'”.

Ine chotero kupulumutsa nkhani yanga mu blog Mvetserani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘, yomwe idasindikizidwa mu nambala 52 (ya Januware ya 2011) Magazini Ngodya yathu ya 0-6, lofalitsidwa ndi ACCENT (pakadali pano sikupitilirabe kutulutsa manambala atsopano, ngakhale zilipo). M'nkhaniyi ndikufotokozera mozama zomwe ndidatsutsana nazo: Pamene munthu (ndipo mnyamata kapena mtsikana alinso munthu) dayisi “ayi”, akuti “Inde” ku zinthu zambiri, ndipo ngati timvera uthenga wonse, tidzatha kupanga mgwirizano wozama ndikupeza njira yokhutiritsa kwa maphwando onse. Nkhaniyi ikuyamba motere:

Ana, zaka ziwiri ndi theka, sakufuna kuvala malaya ake kuti atuluke panja. José, zaka zinayi, sakufuna kutsika panjira kupita kunyumba. Irene, wa zaka zisanu, safuna kukagona. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani safuna kucita zinthu zooneka ngati zoyenela kwa ife monga akulu??

Ndipo tidzatani kenako? Kodi tingagonje ndi kuwalola kuchita zimene akufuna?? Choncho timakhumudwa chifukwa sitikugwirizana ndi maphunziro awo., ndipo zimatipatsanso malingaliro osiya pambali zomwe ifenso tikufuna monga anthu. Kodi timawakakamiza kuchita zimene tikufuna?? Kotero ndife otsimikizika kukambirana ndi chikhalidwe choipa kwa nthawi yaitali., ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi timawaphunzitsa kuti pamapeto pake chofunika ndicho kukhala ndi mphamvu kapena mphamvu, ndipo kukambirana kumeneko kumangogwira ntchito pamene muli ofooka. Muzochitika zanga zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo pali njira yachitatu, kutengera kulumikizana mwakuya muzochitika zonsezi. Ndipo luso limodzi lomwe timakulitsa m'misonkhano yomwe ndimathandizira ndikutha kumvetsera zomwe akunena “Inde” anyamata ndi atsikana athu akamati “ayi”.

Tsitsani nkhani yonse “mverani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘

Ndikukhulupirira mukuwapeza osangalatsa.

Xavier

M'masiku otsiriza ano a Okutobala, nkhani ya imfa imabuka pafupipafupi m'miyoyo ya ana. Kuyambira pachikondwerero cha Tsiku la Akufa m'mabanja ena kupita ku zochitika zamitundu yosiyanasiyana za Halowini, zoona zake n’zakuti ndi nthawi imene ana amatha kufunsa mafunso okhudza imfa, ndipo ndi bwino kukhala ndi maganizo ndi malo oti mumvetsere ndi kuyankha.

Ndinalemba mkati 2011 nkhani yomwe ndimachira apa, “Anyamata ndi atsikana ndi imfa”, kukumbukira makiyi ena othandiza. M'nkhani, lofalitsidwa ndi magaziniyo Ngodya yathu ya 0-6 - ACCENT yoperekedwa ku Maphunziro a Ubwana Wachichepere, madera atatu ofunika akufufuzidwa:

• Lingaliro la imfa pa mibadwo yosiyana (pakati pa ziro ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, Kodi mutu wa magaziniyi ndi wotani?).
• Malangizo ena ofunika kutsagana ndi ana asanamwalire.
• Kuwerenga kovomerezeka, ogawidwa m'magulu owerengera mabanja ndi akatswiri komanso nkhani zowerenga ndi ana.

Ndipo ndimayamba nkhaniyo ndikuyipanga ndi ndime iyi:

Kwa nthawi yaitali anthu ankaganiza kuti anyamata ndi atsikana samamva chisoni mpaka atakalamba. Komabe, kafukufuku m'munda wa attachment wasonyeza kuti amadutsa m'njira zamaliro kuyambira zaka zoyambirira, ngakhale kuti saziwonetsera mofanana ndi akuluakulu mpaka pambuyo pake. N’chifukwa chake m’pofunika kulankhula nawo za imfa (ndipo musawabise kuopa kuwaononga) zikachitika (kapena zidzachitika liti, pa nkhani ya matenda osachiritsika), kotero kuti amvetse 1) kuti munthuyo akuchokadi ndipo 2) kuti munthuyo sachoka mwakufuna kwake, komanso kuti athe kusanzika, popeza ngati malingalirowa sakumveka bwino ndipo palibe kutsanzikana, Matenda a pathological angawonekere. Ndipo ndicho chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kuti tidziŵe kumvetsera ndi kulabadira zimene zimachitika mkati mwawo imfa ikawonekera m’miyoyo yawo..
[mawu ngati: ROMEO BIEDMA, Francisco Javier (2011): "Anyamata ndi atsikana ndi imfa" mu Ngodya yathu ya 0-6 - ACCENT, 60, 17-21.]

Pitirizani kuwerenga nkhaniyi…

Ndikukhulupirira kuti kusinkhasinkhaku kukuthandizani kuti muthe kutsagana ndi ana omwe akuzungulirani pankhaniyi.. Imfa ndi gawo losapeŵeka la moyo, ndipo bwino timaphatikiza, mochuluka adzakhala ndi moyo, anyamata ndi atsikana komanso ife.

Ndikufunirani chikumbutso ndi chikumbumtima,

Xavier

“malinga ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo, kuchita Zopanda Zachiwawa Kulankhulana ndi ana aang'ono ndi nkhani ya zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanga-momwe ndimalankhula ndekha za zomwe zikuchitika ndi ine ndi mwana wanga-kuposa kukambirana. Komabe, Ndikufunanso kuyika m'mawu momwe ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika kwa tonsefe, mwina gawo la nthawi, ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti mwana wanga samamva chilankhulo, chifukwa zimandithandiza kulumikizana ndi malingaliro ndi zosowa za onse awiri. Kuti, nthawi yomweyo, zimandithandiza kukhazika mtima pansi ndikupeza njira zomwe zingagwire ntchito kwa tonsefe. Ndikufunanso kuyankhula mokweza chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yophunzirira chilankhulo komanso kumvetsetsa.” (Inbal Chestnut, Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima, tsamba 38)

Pamene anthu omwe atenga nawo gawo pamisonkhano yanga yolankhulirana ndi anthu ali ndi ana aamuna kapena aakazi omwe ali paubwana wawo kapena unyamata wawo., kapena kugwira ntchito ndi mibadwo imeneyo, kawirikawiri amawuka “Inde, njira iyi yolankhulirana ndi yabwino kwambiri pakati pa akuluakulu, koma tiyeni tiwone momwe ndingamuwuzire mwana wanga/mchemwali/wophunzira/mwana wamkazi…”. ngati muli ndi nthawi, timaphunzira kulankhulana ndi anyamata ndi atsikana mu maphunziro, ngakhale nthawi zambiri ndimatha kuwonetsa malingaliro ndi zofufuza zomwe zingatheke. Tsopano tili ndi chida chatsopano, zimene zimalola kuti kulankhulana m’banja kupitirire kumlingo wina. Sikungothetsa kusamvana (kutinso), koma kupanga mtundu wodalirika kwambiri wamalumikizidwe, zakuya ndi zamphamvu kwambiri, zimene zimakonzekeretsa ana kukhala olimba m’moyo.

Ndi chidwi ichi Inbal Kashtan analemba buku lake Kukhala makolo kuchokera pansi pamtima. Gawanani mphatso zachifundo, kugwirizana ndi kusankha, lofalitsidwa chaka chatha m'Chisipanishi ndi Editorial Acanto. Inbal Chestnut, mphunzitsi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi mayi wa mwana, adatsogolera kwa zaka ntchito ya Nonviolent Communication m'banja, makamaka kuchokera kwa abambo ndi amayi kupita kwa ana awo aamuna ndi aakazi. Inbal anamwalira mu September 2014, koma cholowa chake chikhalapobe Zithunzi za BayNVC (bungwe lomwe limafalitsa Nonviolent Communication kuchokera ku San Francisco Bay Area, California, amene anali woyambitsa nawo) ndi m’zolemba zake (pambali pa bukhu ili, Mukhoza kuwerenga zina mwa nkhani zake zokhudza kulankhulana m'banja mu Chingerezi pa Zithunzi za BayNVC). Cholembera chabuloguchi chimafunanso kukuthokozani komanso kupereka ulemu ku moyo wake ndi ntchito yake.

Ndikupangira bukuli kwa iwo omwe amayandikira kwa nthawi yoyamba Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi kwa iwo amene akufuna kuzamitsa machitidwe awo ndi ana. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda.

Xavier

Mikangano yambiri itha kuthetsedwa m’njira yokhutiritsa ndi yopindulitsa kwa mbali zonse., Kupereka zofunikira ndi nthawi zimaperekedwa. Izi ndizochitika zanga komanso zaukadaulo zomwe ndaphunzira zaka zambiri, kuchita ndi kufalitsa Yofatsa Kulankhulana. ndizofunika kwambiri (osati zophweka) ndi kuti zofunikira zikukwaniritsidwa kuti chigamulochi chichitike. Kwa ine pali zinthu zingapo zofunika, zomwe tingazifotokoze mwachidule zotsatirazi:

• Njira yokwanira, zomwe zimalola onse omwe akukhudzidwa kuti azikhala otetezeka komanso olemekezedwa paufulu wawo.
• Akatswiri omwe ali ndi maphunziro odziwa kuyimira pakati komanso kumvetsera mozama komanso “kumasulira” za mauthenga kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti munthu aliyense amve.
• Dera lomwe limathandizira njira zobwezeretsa, kugawa nthawi, mipata, anthu ogwira ntchito, maphunziro…
• Anthu okonzeka kuthetsa mikangano m'njira yoti pamapeto pake onse azimva kuti akumva komanso kuti mbali zonse zikhutitsidwe ndi yankho.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndizosangalatsa kwa ine kugawana nawo zothandizira zomwe gulu lalikulu la anthu a m'dera la Son Gotleu ku Palma de Mallorca adachita. (Mallorca), popeza amasonkhanitsa momwe chilichonse mwazinthuzi chagwirira ntchito.

Muvidiyoyi mukuwona momwe adathandizira, ndi revitalization ya Institute for Coexistence and School Success (ndi Institute for Coexistence and School Success in Spanish) ya Boma la Zilumba za Balearic, kuchokera kwa aphunzitsi a malo ophunzirira a Early Childhood Education, Pulayimale ndi Sekondale, ophunzira amisinkhu yonse, mabanja, komanso Social Services, apolisi, yunivesite ndi magulu ena odziwika bwino. Mu mosaic wa mawu, timapeza lingaliro lazomwe zidachitika pakukhazikitsidwa kwa ukonde wachitetezo pamalo omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndikuwona zina mwazotsatira.

Kuti muwone mwadongosolo, pali chofalitsidwa chimene chimasonkhanitsa mbali zofunika kwambiri. Adasinthidwa mu Catalan, Chisipanishi ndi Chingerezi mkati mwa projekiti yaku Europe yokhala ndi mutuwu, ndi Upangiri Timakulitsa kukhalirana ndi Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa / Kalozera Timathandizira kukhazikika ndi machitidwe obwezeretsa imapanga mbali zongopeka za Restorative Practices, amafunikira deta yochulukirapo ndipo amapereka zitsanzo zenizeni ndi malingaliro owerengera kuti awonjezere zambiri.

Ndipo kukulitsa Mabwalo Obwezeretsa, mchitidwe kuthetsa mikangano ndi chikhalidwe dimension anachokera Yofatsa Kulankhulana, mukhoza kuwerenga monograph chidwi Chilungamo ndi Zochita Zobwezeretsa. Mabwalo Obwezeretsa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kwawo m'magawo osiyanasiyana, yolembedwa ndi Vicenç Rulan, mphunzitsi amene ndili wokondwa kumudziwa, zomwe zikuwoneka mu kanema ndi mu Bukhuli, ndi kuti iye ndi membala wa Association of Justice and Restorative Practices of the Balearics (ndi tsamba castellano ndi mu chikatalani, ndi zinthu zina zambiri). chiyambi chabwino, kuti tipitirize kuyang'ana mu chitsanzo ichi. Komanso mukhoza kuonera mavidiyo (m'Chingerezi) patsamba lovomerezeka la mlengi wa Restorative Circles, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Inu amene mwandiphunzitsako kulankhulana ndi anthu ena mwawona kuti nthawi zambiri ndimatchula mutu uwu wa Makhalidwe Obwezeretsa.. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zinthuzi zikuwonetsa bwino zomwe mwamva kuchokera kwa ine ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti ziyambitsa luso lanu komanso malingaliro anu kuti mupitilize kupeza njira zozama komanso zozama zothetsera mikangano m'malo ophunzirira., ndi kudera lina lililonse.

Xavier

Fotokozerani kwa aliyense zomwe psychotherapy, ndipo makamaka zomwe ndimamva ngati psychotherapy, nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta. Ndipo pamene ife tiwonjezera pa izi zomwe ife tikufuna kuzifotokoza izo kwa ana, atsikana kapena achinyamata, zikuwoneka kuti ndizovuta kwambiri. ndi pa, psychotherapy ndi chinthu chachilengedwe: kubweza ndalama zomwe zidatayika (ndipo potero tenganso zingwe za moyo wako).

Monga anthu, timakonzekera kuti tikule bwino. Chinthu chachibadwa chikanakhala kuti tonsefe tidutse mu magawo osiyanasiyana a ubwana, za unyamata ndi ukalamba sitepe ndi sitepe. Zingakhale zachibadwa, ndiye, Kumbali imodzi, phatikizani zinthu zopatsa thanzi pamlingo wamalingaliro (corporal, maganizo, wanzeru, mwadongosolo, maganizo…) ndipo kumbali ina kugonjetsa zowawa ngakhale zovulaza ndi kuphunzira kwatsopano (za mtundu “Makhalidwe angawa sandithandizanso” ndi “Sindikufuna kuchita ndi munthu amene sandilemekezanso”). Komabe, nthawi zina zinthu zimalakwika (pang'ono kapena zambiri), ndipo ndikofunikira kuchitapo kanthu kuti mupite patsogolo ndi thanzi. Psychotherapy ndi njira yabwino yophatikizira ndikuchiritsa zomwe zidakhalapo, kubwezeretsa chinyengo cha moyo wathu.

Kanemayo “Garra anatseka (Doctor Fish)”, anapangidwa ndi gulu la makanema ojambula pamanja ophunzira ku Sheridan College pansi pa dzina la Frozen Mammoth Productions, mwa ena Timothy Chan ndi Eunice Hwang, ndipo ikhoza kukhala poyambira poyambira kusinkhasinkha.

Kanemayu akuwoneka kwa ine kukhala chitsanzo chabwino chofotokozera mfundo zingapo zofunika zomwe ndimakonda kumveketsa bwino kwa ana ndi achinyamata., komanso kwa akuluakulu omwe akuganiza zochita a psychotherapy:

1) Ntchito ya ife omwe timachita ngati othandizira imakhala ndi achire athanzi ndi amoyo Zomwe zili mkati mwa omwe tili nawo pokambirana. Tonsefe tili ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali chifukwa chokhalapo, ngakhale nthawi zina zoopsa kwambiri zachitika, zakunja kapena zamkati.

2) Kuti tibwezeretse zomwe zili zathanzi komanso zamoyo, tatero osiyanasiyana media, oyenera kwa omwe tili nawo patsogolo (ndi pa msinkhu wake, zomwe amakonda, kalembedwe kake, chimene wakhala moyo…). timamvetsera nthawi zonse, nthawi zambiri timafunsa, ndipo nthawi zina timafuna zochita (kujambula, kapena kuchita zinthu zinazake, kapena yesani njira zosiyanasiyana). Cholinga chathu ndi kubwezera kwa munthuyo zomwe zili zathanzi komanso zamoyo, koma zoyera komanso zamphamvu kuti mutha kupitiriza ndi moyo wanu.

3) Ife tikudziwa zimenezo ndondomekoyi imatenga nthawi. Ngati titenga masabata, miyezi, zaka, kukhala ndi chinthu chowawa, tidzafunikanso nthawi yodzipatulira kuti tichiritse. Ndizowona kuti pangakhale zopezedwa zomwe zingasinthiretu zochitika zathu m'kamphindi, monga zikuwonekera muvidiyoyi, koma zimangochitika pamene takhala tikufufuza zamkati mwathu mokwanira. Ndipo zimatengeranso nthawi kuti izi zikhazikike padziko lonse lapansi m'miyoyo yathu..

4) Ndipo ife tikudziwa zimenezo ndondomekoyi imafuna khama. Zili ngati kuyeretsa chilonda chimene chadwala, zingabweretse ululu kwakanthawi, koma kusinthako kumawonekera pakapita nthawi. Khama limakhudza anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi munthu amene amabwera kudzakambirana. Pankhani ya ana, ndi achinyamata, kupsinjika maganizo kumakhudza banja, ndipo kuchokera ku masomphenya anga a psychotherapy ndimangolowerera ngati pali kudzipereka momveka bwino komanso kolimba pa mbali ya banja. (makamaka olera oyamba).

5) monga zimachitika muvidiyoyi, monga asing'anga timadziwa zochitika bwino chifukwa takhala ndi psychotherapy yathu ndi zovuta zathu. Zoonadi tili ndi maphunziro apadera, yotakata ndi yakuya, koma sitidziona ngati anthu apadera. Ndife anthu chabe amene ayang’ana zowawa zathu ndipo taphunzira kuyang’ana zowawa za anthu ena m’njira yomangirira ndi malingaliro atsopano..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti vidiyoyi ikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro omveka bwino pankhaniyi psychotherapy, makamaka mukafuna kuwafotokozera ana anu, ndi achinyamata.

Xavier