Lingaliro lakuya la ulemu ndi malingaliro omveka bwino a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amatuluka mwa ine pamene ndikugawana nawo zokambiranazi.. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwaukadaulo ndi nkhani zachiwawa” (“Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”), monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera mu chingerezi. Ndi mutu wofunikira kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito kwambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, upangiri wodziwa za Chitetezo cha Ana omwe ine ndidali woyambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza ma nuances onse kumakhala kovuta nthawi zonse.

Pulogalamu ya International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute, bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa pamlingo wapadziko lonse lapansi ntchito zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalitsa kwa Focusing) amalimbikitsa “zokambirana” (m'Chingerezi) ndi akatswiri Okhazikika ochokera padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), wolandira, ndipo zimatero m'njira yofananira ndi Kuyikirapo - ndi kusinkhasinkha kwachifundo, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuti awonekere ndikuwululidwa pa liwiro lawo-.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mupeza kuti timathirira ndemanga pamitu ngati iyi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadayenera kuchitika kuti zinthu zitheke, koma sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo kuwonongeka kumachitika m'thupi.
• Pezani a “chogwirira” (“chogwirira”) chifukwa cha ziwawa (muzindikiritse iye) ndi sitepe yoyamba kuti mutulukemo: chifukwa cha izi ndikofunikira kudziwa za chikhalidwe chomwe chimatipangitsa kuti tizikonda chiwawa.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu chiwawa.
• Chikondi chophatikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera chiwawa - komanso mawonekedwe athupi omwe angapezeke kudzera mu Focusing-.
• Kuzindikira ndi kuchitapo kanthu pazochitika zachiwawa mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudzana ndi kuthekera kwa machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chabwino kwambiri chochitira.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungasinthire zochitika zachiwawa kuchokera m'thupi kudzera mu Focusing, Ndikupezeka magawo osunga nthawi kuyimitsa Psychotherapy ku Madrid.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kupeza malingaliro olimbikitsa ntchito zanu zachiwawa., ndipo ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mumachita pa izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi

Malingaliro akuya aulemu ndi malingaliro apadera a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amadza kwa ine pamene ndigawana nawo zokambiranazi. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”, monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera. Ndi phunziro lofunika kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito zambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, kampani yolangizira yapadziko lonse yomwe imagwira ntchito pa Child Protection I yomwe inayambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro ake onse nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta.

Bungwe la International Focusing Institute (bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa ntchito zapadziko lonse lapansi Zoyang'ana zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalikira) amalimbikitsa kawiri pamwezi “Zokambirana” ndi Focusing akatswiri padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ku Cambridge (UK), amachita ngati wolandira, ndipo amatero molunjika kwambiri -kulingalira, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuwonekera ndikukula mu nthawi yawo.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mudzapeza nkhani zokambidwa monga zotsatirazi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadachitika kuti zinthu zipitirire patsogolo, ndipo sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo chovulaza chimachokera m'thupi.
• Kupeza chogwirira chiwawa (kuzizindikiritsa izo) ndi sitepe yoyamba kutulukamo: kudziwa miyambo yathu yomwe imapangitsa kuti chiwawa chizichitika.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu ziwawa.
• Chikondi cholumikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera ziwawa - komanso momwe thupi limakhudzidwira kudzera mu Focusing.
• Kuzindikira zachiwawa ndi kulowererapo mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudza machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chodabwitsa chochitira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mupeza lingaliro kapena ziwiri zomwe zingalimbikitse ntchito yanu yokhudzana ndi zachiwawa, ndipo ndimakonda kumva kuchokera kwa inu za izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani izi mu Spanish (ngakhale kuyankhulana komwe kuli mu Chingerezi).

Kupitilira mu mzere wa kulowa m'mbuyomu, ndi wogwirizana naye kwambiri, ndikusankhidwa kukhala membala wa International Relations mkati mwa Board of Directors a Spanish Institute of Focusing, chinthu chinanso choyitanira kuchitapo kanthu chomwe chachokera kutenga nawo gawo pa International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) Julayi watha 2016.

monga ndemanga mu positi imeneyo, mu izo Spanish Focusing Institute ife tikumvetsa izo, komanso zochita za kuphunzitsa ndi kutsagana ndi Kuyikirapo maganizo makamaka payekha, aliyense ali ndi kalembedwe kake komanso kukhudzika kwake, komanso nthawi zonse mogwirizana ndi zomwe anthu amavomereza komanso luso, Komabe, zochita zonse za bungwe ndi kutenga nawo mbali ziyenera kuchokera kumagulu amagulu.

Ndichifukwa chake, pamene ndinaitanidwa kutenga nawo mbali mu Umembala wa Komiti ya International Institute of Focusing ku New York (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute), Ndinayika udindo umenewu m'manja mwa Spanish Institute of Focusing, kulandidwa ndi munthu aliyense ngati nthumwi yochokera ku Spain. Zingakhale zodabwitsidwa bwanji nditaitanidwa kuti ndikatenge nawo gawo lolumikizana ndi International Relations mkati mwa gulu la oyang'anira ndi kuvomereza udindo womwewo wapadziko lonse lapansi. Ndinavomera pempholo, njira zoyenera zomwe zaganiziridwa m'malamulo atengedwa ndipo posachedwapa ndasankhidwa kukhala membala.

Ndine wokondwa kwambiri kuti nditha kuthandiza nawo mgulu la Focusing ku Spain, kumene ndalandira zambiri. Kuyambira chiyambi cha maphunziro anga 2009, masiku a National, sukulu yachilimwe, kuyang'anira, Diploma ndi maudindo a Certified Trainer and Certified Focusing Counseling Psychotherapist ndi onse omwe amalumikizana nawo komanso kukula, Ine ndithudi kusinthidwa kukhala Focusing akatswiri (komanso ngati munthu).

Ndipo mu mndandanda wa zoyitanitsa kuchitapo kanthu (monga likunena Isabel Gascon, wotsogolera wanga, ndi “sitepe yachisanu ndi chiwiri” de Focusing: “Ndipo zonsezi zikukuitanani chiyani??”), Zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ndi nthawi yoti ndithandizire nawonso kuchokera paudindowu, bola ntchito yanga ndi yothandiza komanso yolimbikitsa. Ndizovuta kugwira nawo ntchito komanso potumikira anthu ambiri omwe ndimawadziwa, ndi chuma mkati mwake chimandiyika mumkhalidwe wodzichepetsa ndi kuphunzira.

Momwemonso kuchokera paudindo watsopanowu ndili pa ntchito yanu, tikuyembekeza kuti tithandizire ku chidziwitso chapadziko lonse cha chuma cha Focusing chomwe tikuchita pano, komanso kupereka malingaliro ndi malingaliro ochokera kumadera ena omwe amachokera ku chikhalidwe ichi cha ubale wapadziko lonse.

F. Javier Romeo

Monga ndafotokozera kale mu post ina, atenga nawo mbali mu International Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (United Kingdom) Julayi watha 2016 zatanthauza mafungulo ambiri atsopano, njira zatsopano, njira zatsopano zophatikizira Kukhazikika m'moyo wanga ndikugawana nawo. chidziwitso, komanso kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu.

Kwa ine zakhala zodabwitsa kwambiri kuitanidwa kukhala m’Komiti Yamamembala (Komiti Yamamembala) a International Institute of Focusing ku New York (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute). Komiti iyi ndi bungwe la alangizi. (sichipanga zisankho) ndipo kwenikweni amapangidwa ndi anthu odzipereka, amene amalangiza mabungwe olamulira pa zinthu zonse zokhudzana ndi kukhala membala wa Institute: momwe mungalimbikitsire umembala, momwe mungapangire mtengo wanu kuwoneka, momwe angathandizire kutengapo mbali pakati pa mamembala. Ntchito yanu ndikuyang'ana mamembala ndikupeza zosowa zomwe zikubwera komanso malo ogwirira ntchito. Ndi komiti yapadziko lonse lapansi, ndi misonkhano ya videoconference ndi magulu apadera a ntchito. Ndi gulu latsopano kotero kuti ilibe gawo lake mu tsamba la Institute. Inenso, kuti ndasangalala ndi ubwino wokhala membala kuyambira pamenepo 2010, choyamba ngati Mphunzitsi mu Maphunziro, ndipo pambuyo pake ngati Mphunzitsi Wovomerezeka (2012) komanso ngati Certified Focusing Orientation Psychotherapist (2014), Ndimalandira ngati mwayi wothandiza kwa anthu ena komanso kapangidwe ka Institute.

Kwa ine ndikofunikira kutsatira mzere wa ntchito ya Spanish Focusing Institute, momwe timagwira ntchito mu maphunziro, kutsagana kapena magawo ena a Kukhazikika pamunthu payekha, koma momwe ubale ndi magulu ena ndi mabungwe amaganiziridwa pamodzi. Choncho, Ndatumiza chiitanochi ku Board of Directors of the Spanish Institute of Focusing ndipo posachedwapa ndasankhidwanso. membala wa International Relations, kuti athe kutenga udindo mu Komiti ya Umembala.

Ndicholinga choti, Ndayamba kale kuwerenga mabuku (zambiri zapangidwa pakangotha ​​chaka chimodzi chantchito) ndipo ndinachita nawo msonkhano. Ndikuyembekeza kupitiliza kuthandizira kudziko la Focusing motere. Ndipo ngati muli ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro okhudzana ndi umembala wa International Institute of Focusing, Ndidzakondwera kuwamva.

Pautumiki wanu m'njira yatsopano,

F. Javier Romeo

Ndine wokondwa kugawana nawo nkhaniyi The Focusing Institute yasindikizidwa mu The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yamaphunziro, mu volume yake 25 za 2014. Pepala langa “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ adawonekera pa chiyambi cha 2014 ndipo yangosindikizidwa pa digito ndi mwayi waulere komanso mtundu wa PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi, “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha pa February 9th 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi, “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama”, ndi kuwerenga nkhani ya kumasulira kwake (mu Spanish) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri!

Ndikusiyirani apa mwatsatanetsatane:

ABSTRACT

Onse Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (NVC) zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza chidziwitso ndipo machitidwe awo amkati amapita patsogolo pamene mawu awo ena akuwonekera.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwanu nokha komanso ndi mnzanu. Ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumabweretsa zozama, momwe zinthu zomwe zimaganiziridwa zimakhazikika ndikuzindikirika.

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication ikani kupsinjika pakuwonetsa mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulumikizana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. Nonviolent Communication amayesa kupeza chilengedwe chonse zosowa zomwe zili pachimake cha zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication akhala kuwoloka m'njira zosiyanasiyana (kubwereza kwachidule kwa zodutsa zina zikufufuzidwa mu pepala ili). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa chidziwitso chatsopano cha zosowa, makamaka pofunsa. Ndipo Nonviolent Communication zitha kulimbikitsidwa ndi chidwi chatsopano ku mawu oyamba a munthuyo -osati kungoyesa "kumasulira" chilichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa ndipo mnzake / wothandizira akuwonetsa mbali zonse ziwiri za chidziwitso, munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zotsatira zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka.

Kwa olankhula Chisipanishi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Spanish.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nazo ndipo ndimakonda kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

Ndi chisangalalo chachikulu ndikugawana nkhaniyi yomwe mwasindikiza The Focusing Institute (New York-based International Focusing Institute) mu volume 25 zogwirizana ndi 2014 wa The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yake yovomerezeka yamaphunziro. Anawonekera mu pepala Baibulo pa chiyambi cha 2014, nkhani yanga “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya“ yangosindikizidwa mu Chingerezi mwaulere komanso yotseguka mu PDF patsamba lovomerezeka la The Folio.

Koperani nkhani yoyambirira mu Chingerezi, “Kuwoloka Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication. Kulingalira zozama zakuya”.

Tsitsani mtundu wa Chisipanishi wa nkhaniyi “Momwe mungaphatikizire Kulumikizana Kwambiri ndi Kusagwirizana. Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

[Kusintha kwa 9 February 2017] Tsitsani mtundu wa Chijapani wa nkhaniyi “Kuphatikizika kwa Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi Kuyankhulana Kopanda Chiwawa-Kubwerera ku Zozama Zozama” ndi kuwona mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Ndipo ndikusiyiraninso chidule choyambirira:

PITILIZANI

Onse kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication (CNV) Zimachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu amapeza zidziwitso ndi kuti njira zathu zimapitirizidwa patsogolo pamene mawu athu ena awonetsedwa kwa ife.. Kusinkhasinkha kumakulitsa kulumikizana kwa munthu ndi iyeyo komanso ndi aliyense amene amamutsatira. Ndipo kuwonetserako kumakhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya pamene mbali zobisika zimatseguka kumoyo wawo ndipo zimadziwika bwino..

Komabe, Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication kutsindika kuwonetsera mbali zosiyanasiyana za kulankhulana koyambirira. Kuyang'ana kumatsatira anamva mphamvu m'thupi ngati njira yatsopano yopangira tanthauzo latsopano. The Nonviolent Communication yesetsani kupeza zosowa chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe chimatsogolera zochita za munthu aliyense. Kuyang'ana ndi Nonviolent Communication zaphatikizidwa (kuwoloka) m'njira zosiyanasiyana (Ndemanga yachidule ya zosakaniza zina ikufufuzidwa m'nkhaniyi). Kuyang'ana kungathe kulemeretsedwa mwa kuyambitsa kuzindikira kwatsopano kwa zosowa, makamaka mu Funsani sitepe. Ndipo the Nonviolent Communication zingawonjezeke ndi kukhudzika kwatsopano kwa mawu oyamba a munthuyo—osati kungoyesa “kumasulira” chirichonse, komanso kuyamikira chinenero chachizolowezi monga mafanizo.

Pamene njira zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa komanso pamene womvera ngati mnzake kapena wothandizira amasonyeza mbali zonse za chidziwitso., munthuyo amapeza zotsatira zoyenera pamene zozama zakuya zikuwonekera.

Mawu osakira: Kuganizira, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) / Nonviolent Communication (CNV), Chifundo, Lingalirani, Kuwoloka/Cross/Gwirizanitsani.

Kwa olankhula Chingerezi, pitani ku positi iyi mu Chingerezi.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwaikonda ndipo ndidzakhala wokondwa kuwerenga ndemanga zanu,

Xavier

kukweza ku 26 September 2014:

Ndakhala ndi mwayi kuti nkhani yanga ya Chisipanishi imapezeka mu Tsamba la Spanish la Focusing Institute of New York (The Focusing Institute). Zikomo kwambiri! Zikomo kwambiri!

kukweza ku 9 February 2017:

Ndikuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa cha kumasulira kwachi Japan kwa Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) ndi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). Zikomo kwambiri! Aquí está la mbiri ya kumasulira kwake.

Monga ndanenera kale mu “Takulandilani kubulogu”, lingaliro ndilakuti blog iyi ikufuna kukhala ngati malo osungiramo zinthu, kotero kuti mitundu yonse ya zida ndi malingaliro apezeke omwe amathandizira kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka ndi anthu ena komanso dziko lathu lamkati. Monga padzakhala zosiyanasiyana zosiyanasiyana, Ndikufuna kufotokoza apa malemba osiyanasiyana omwe nditi ndigwiritse ntchito kuyika zolembazo.

• CNV: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Yofatsa Kulankhulana, momveka bwino kapena zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ali nazo “Chidziwitso cha CNV”.
• Malemba CNV: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Yofatsa Kulankhulana.
• Kuganizira: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Kuganizira kapena chinthu chofanana kwambiri.
• Kuganizira ku Madrid: adzasonkhanitsa maphunziro a Focusing ku Madrid ndi madera ozungulira (Mwachitsanzo, mu Miraflores de A La Sierra, ola limodzi kuchokera ku Madrid).
• Textos Kuganizira: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Kuganizira.
• Spirals CI: pali zolemba zomwe zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana pa nkhani zamaganizo, chitetezo ndi kulumikizana pakati pa anthu, ndipo ndikufuna kunenanso mu blog iyi.
• Other Texts: Pali mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata, popanda kufotokozedwa momveka bwino kuchokera ku maphunziro aliwonse omwe akuperekedwa, ali ndi mgwirizano wamba komanso mtengo womwe umanditsogolera kuti ndiwatchule mubulogu iyi.
• Websites: masamba, blog ndi intaneti zothandizira.
• Videos: makanema ambiri, kuphatikiza ndi zolemba zina zomwe zimafotokoza zomwe zili.
• Movies: zolemba ndi mafilimu, zonse zozikidwa pa zenizeni ndi zopeka, zomwe zikuwoneka zogwirizana ndi chidwi chomwe ndikufuna kupanga ndi blog iyi.
• Nkhani: masewera a sopo (komanso nkhani ndi mabuku a ana ndi achinyamata) zomwe zimatipangitsa kusangalala ndi chifundo chomwe timakhala nacho Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi iye Kuganizira.
• Zokumana Nazo: nthawi zina moyo umatibweretsera zodabwitsa, zokumana nazo zomwe zimatipangitsa kulingaliranso zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kapena kutsimikizira zomwe timapanga, ndi zochitika zomwe ndisonkhanitsa ndi epigraph iyi.
• Ana: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mosalunjika ndi ana.
• Pakuti Achinyamata: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina ndi achinyamata.
• Charo enieni ndi Adasungidwa charo: Ndimapereka maphunziro ambiri kumagulu otsekedwa omwe adapangidwa kale, koma pakanthawi kochepa ndikapereka maphunziro otseguka kwa anthu wamba kapena anthu ena, ndimawapachika ndi zilembo izi., “Charo enieni” bola ngati sichinakondweretsedwe ndi “Adasungidwa charo” pamene tsiku la chochitika chadutsa, koma kwa mbiri ndipo mutha kuwona magawo a maphunziro omwe ndimapereka.

Monga mukuwonera, magulu ambiri amalumikizana. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti aliyense amafufuza ndikupeza zomwe zili zothandiza komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo padzakhala ena amene adzawonjezedwa.

Pezani mwayi!