Njengenjwayelo, kule bhulogi ngabelana ngezinto ezithinta umsebenzi wami kuzo Spiral Consulting Izingane nezinye izithakazelo zomuntu siqu nezomsebenzi. Kulokhu ngiba nokwaneliseka ngokwabelana nomhlahlandlela Amazwi wenguquko. Umhlahlandlela wezindlela zokubonisana nezingane, amantombazane nentsha ekunakekelweni kokuhlala, esikuchazayo Pepa Horno futhi ngiyama I-UNICEF yaseSpain.

Kwaba ukwaneliseka ukuthola i-oda lokuhlela le ndlela yokusebenza ngokubhala ngendlela ethengekayo. Ingxenye yomsebenzi wethu lapho siphelezela izinhlangano zomphakathi nezizimele zezinhlelo zokuvikela lapha e-Spain nakwamanye amazwe ezinqubweni zabo zokuthuthukisa ihlanganisa ukubheka abalingiswa bazo.: izingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha ehlala ezikhungweni zokuvikela. Futhi bangochwepheshe ezimpilweni zabo, futhi izikhungo zivame ukukhohlwa ukubabuza, Ngeshwa.

Yingakho kuyinjabulo enkulu lokho I-UNICEF yaseSpain, emsebenzini wayo wokukhuthaza ukubamba iqhaza kwezingane nentsha, wasimema ukuba sethule indlela elula yokubonisana nalezi zingane, futhi intsha. Siphawula kabanzi ngakho kubhulogi ye-Spiral Consulting for Children.

Ngaphakathi lokho kunesiqondiso sobuchwepheshe nesisebenzayo, isici se ukuxhumana nabanye abantu: singakhuluma kanjani thina bantu abadala, singakha kanjani indawo efanele nokuthi singalalela kanjani izingane, futhi intsha. Amagama esiwasebenzisayo angavula noma avale ukuxhumana, yingakho amafomula esiwethulayo ecace kakhulu: Ngiyahlonipha, ukufakwa kanye ne-protagonism yezingane ngokwazo, futhi intsha.

Futhi siye saphikelela ekuguquguqukeni nokuzivumelanisa nezimo kuzo zonke izingane, futhi intsha, ukuhlinzeka ngemihlahlandlela yokwamukela ukungenelela ekuhlukeni kokusebenza, ukuhlukahluka kwamasiko (Ngokukhethekile ukuze abafana namantombazane abafudukayo bengaphelezelwa) nalabo abanempilo yengqondo kanye nezinkinga zokuhlukumezeka. Amazwi abo, njengoba sisho esihlokweni, yezwa kahle, bangenza ushintsho lube ngcono ekuphileni kwabo.

Ngethemba ukuthi uyayithanda futhi uyayithola ithakasela.

F. Javier Romeo

Ingxenye yomsebenzi wami njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nomngane ezinqubweni zomuntu siqu nezenhlangano ukuthola izindlela zokudlulisa imilayezo eyinkimbinkimbi ngokusebenzisa izingathekiso nezifaniso.. Ngokuhamba phambili “Ukuvuselelwa ngaphakathi”, esengizethulile kulokhu okunye ukungena, Siphakamisa izinselelo neziphakamiso ezimbalwa zokuthuthukisa uhlelo lokuvikela izingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha eSpain (Nasemhlabeni wonke).

Kule nyanga ngibe nesandla esihlokweni “Sihamba nomuntu esiyikho”, esebenzisa ama-analogies phakathi kwezinyathelo esizithathayo lapho sibhekene nalolu bhubhane kanye nezici okudingeka sizinakekele lapho siphelezela izingane., amantombazane kanye nentsha eye yahlupheka kakhulu. Kuyindlela yokuqwashisa ngendlela yethu yokwenza nokwenza, kokubili ngokomuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi.

Futhi uzobona lokho, njengenjwayelo, Ngigcizelela ukubaluleka ukuqeqeshwa kokuhlukumezeka futhi ngikhumbula ukubaluleka Ukugxilisa, okuyithuluzi eliwusizo kakhulu kimina usuku nosuku.

Ngingathanda ukwazi ukuthi ucabangani nokuthi uphila kanjani.

F. Javier Romeo

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngithole isitifiketi njengevolontiya le isevisi yocingo yeKholeji Esemthethweni Yengqondo Yengqondo yaseMadrid. Kulezi zikhathi ze “okusha evamile” Kube yisikhumbuzo sezikhathi eziyinkimbinkimbi zokuvalelwa, phakathi kukaMashi noMeyi kulo nyaka 2020. futhi kusukela ezolile (okwesikhashana) okwangempela, Ngicabanga ukuthi yisikhathi esihle sokucubungula engihlangabezane nakho. Futhi amagama amane eza kimi ukukufanekisa: ukuzibophezela, ukukhuthazela, ukuthobeka nokuqaphela.

Lapho i-lockdown iqala umbuzo wami oyisisekelo wawuthi “Nginganikela kanjani??”. Ku-Espirales Consulting for Children sithole izicelo eziningi esikwazile ukuya kuzo, kodwa lokho kuzoba yisihloko somunye ukufakwa kwebhulogi. Kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, kwakukhona esinye isici, kusukela ekuvolontiyeni, Ubufuna ukunikela ngani?. Phakathi kwe izinsiza eziningi nezinsiza owanikela nge Ikolishi Elisemthethweni LePsychology yaseMadrid, ukuya ngocingo kubantu abakudingayo kungilingana kahle kakhulu. Kusukela lapho, Ngizizwe ngihloniphekile ukuba yingxenye yale nhlangano esondelene nezakhamizi njengoba izinsiza zayo ibivuma.. Lokhu kimi kuhlobene ne-psychology, ngaphandle kokuba ngumsebenzi wami, futhi ucabanga a ukuzibophezela enhlalakahleni yabantu ngabanye kanye nemiphakathi. Sikubonile ukuzinikela kwabantu abaningi namaqembu amaningi ochwepheshe, futhi lokhu kube okwethu: nikeza ukulalela nokusekelwa kulabo abakudingayo.

Ukuqala kwenkonzo yocingo kwakushubile kimi. Izingcingo bezingeziningi, kodwa yebo eside futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ukusuka osizini ngokufa kwabantu kuya ebunzimeni obukhulu bezempilo yengqondo. Nokuthakasela kwami ​​ukukwazi ukukhuthazela womuntu ngamunye engangimkhonza. Ngiyathanda ukusho “ukuqina”, lelo gama esilithanda kakhulu kuPsychology. Kodwa “ukuqina” kusho “ukumelana” futhi “lungisa kabusha”, futhi ocingweni olulodwa ngomuntu ngamunye ngathola kuphela ingxenye yakhe “ukumelana”. Lapho ngibona ukuphumula okukhona manje lapho sibhekene nezinyathelo zokuhlanzeka, ngikhumbula umuntu ngamunye engangiya kuye, ngezinga lakho lokuhlupheka, futhi ngiyazibuza ukuthi bazophila kanjani. Ingabe banomuzwa wokukhungatheka ngokuthi akuzange kwenziwe kangcono ngaleso sikhathi?? Ingabe bayojabulela ukuphumula nokuxhumana? Inkumbulo yami ikulabo bantu abaye baba nesikhathi esibi kangaka, nokuthi kuyodingeka bathole amandla okuqhubeka nokumelana futhi, Ngiyafisa, ukuze ufinyelele ukukhuthazela nokwakha kabusha.

Konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuye kwangivusa kakhulu isizotha. I-coronavirus ngokuvamile iwubizo kunembeza, ukuthi njengabantu sibheke ukuthi siphila kanjani emhlabeni futhi sibheke izindlela zokuthuthuka. Kwami, njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kucatshangwa ukuthi kuyikhambi lokuthobeka. Kuningi ukuhlupheka engingeke ngikwazi ukukubheka, kodwa kofikayo, wafika. Kunabantu abanobunzima obuningi emqondweni angazi ukuthi ngibaphelekezela kanjani, futhi kufanele ngiqhubeke nokuqeqeshwa. Futhi kunezinto eziningi okufanele ngithuthuke kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngikuthola kungenathemba, kodwa ukuzibophezela kwami ​​ukuqhubeka nokuhlakulela ithemba.

Y, Phinda futhi, isipiliyoni kube kimi ucingo unembeza. Ubhekene nokuhlupheka kwabantu, kuyadingeka ukuthi ungabi nje uchwepheshe, kodwa futhi njengomuntu. ukuxhumana kwabantu, esikugejile kakhulu ngesikhathi siboshiwe, ungumthombo wenhlalakahle (uma kwenzeka ebudlelwaneni obunempilo). Ukunakekelwa kwengqondo kube kimina ukuba khona, ngozwela kanye nokuba sengozini kwami (kodwa ukuphatha engiphila ngakho).

Futhi konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho manje kungilethela ukubonga, bobabili baya eCOP Madrid, ikakhulukazi labo asebehole uhlelo, njengalabo abaye baba nesibindi sokufona futhi bathembe thina esibahambele. Ukubonga kwami ​​kubo bonke labo bantu ngesibindi sabo.

Futhi izilokotho zami ezinhle ngalesi sigaba esisha.

F. Javier Romeo

Ulwazi mayelana ne-Roundtable on Crossing Focusing kanye Nokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (NVC) ihlelwe yi-International Focusing Institute ngeKomidi layo Lobulungu. Njengoba kuwumcimbi odlule ulwazi alusatholakali kuwebhusayithi ye-TIFI futhi luhlelwe ngokufanele.

Umbhalo ngeSpanishi – IsiJapane – Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde ngesiNgisi

The I-International Focusing Conference eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi 2016 iqhubeka ithela izithelo.

Namuhla nginelungelo lokwethula ukuhunyushwa kwesihloko sami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile” (kuvele phakathi 2014 e The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy) ku-japanese, ngesihloko esiyela ngasocansini “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Kumithelela Ejulile-“.

Con Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

E-Cambridge ngathola injabulo yokuhlangana noMadoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), i-psychotherapist enokuqeqeshwa ku-Focusing owayeqale ukuhunyushwa kwesihloko esikhathini esidlule, futhi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Umdidiyeli Wokugxila owaziwayo, ojoyine iphrojekthi yokuhumusha esigabeni sayo sokugcina. Izingxoxo zethu zalowo mhlangano zenze umsebenzi waqhubekela phambili, futhi manje kukhona lokhu kuhumusha ngokucophelela okutholakala kuwebhusayithi ye Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), futhi engikhiqiza lapha ngemvume yakhe.

Kusukela lapha ngifuna ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kwami ​​okujulile ngomzamo nokuzinikela kwabo (kube nama-imeyili amaningi emuva naphambili ukuze acacise imiqondo nemigomo) ukuze lesi sici sokuGxila saziwe phakathi kodokotela nochwepheshe abaningi be-Focusing in Japan..

ekubongeni okujulileyo,

Javier

IsiJapane

Ingqungquthela ye-27th International Focusing Conference eCambridge (UK)amazinyo、Ukuletha imiphumela enothile。

manje、I、iphepha"Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Emithelela Ejulile-"("Ijenali Yezemfundo Yokugxila Nokuthola Inqubo Yokwelapha"The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential TherapyUmqulu 25, No. 1、2014Ngihlonishwa ngokuthi (ishicilelwe ngonyaka) yahunyushelwa olimini lwesiJapane.。

UMnu. Kawahara

E-Cambridge、Umeluleki u-En Kawahara oqeqeshelwa i-Focusing、Ngibe nokuhlangana okujabulisayo noNkz. Mako Hikasa, Umdidiyeli Wokugxila Oqinisekisiwe owaziwa kakhulu.。Ngoba、UMnu. Kawahara usevele esebenza kulokhu kuhumusha、Futhi esigabeni sokugcina sephrojekthi、Mako HikasaUjoyinile。Ngemva kwengqungquthela yamazwe ngamazwe、Sihlala sithintana ukuze siqedele ukuhumusha、Futhi manje、Ukuhunyushwa okuqondile kwesi-Japanese kuqediwe。lokhu、Iwebhusayithi yeJapan Focusing AssociationUngafunda ku。Kusuka kunhlangano、Ngithole imvume yokuthumela isixhumanisi。

Nginentshisekelo kwintshisekelo yabo kanye nomdlandla、Ngibonga ngokujulile。Ukucacisa imiqondo nama-nuances、Ukuhwebelana kwama-imeyili njalo。Kubaqeqeshi nabasebenzi abaningi Abagxilile abagunyaziwe e-Japan、Ngoba kuyithuba lokwazi lesi sici se-Focusing.。

Ngokubonga

Javier

Umbhalo wesiNgisi

I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ilokhu iletha izithelo ezengeziwe.

Manje nginelungelo lokwethula isihloko sami “Ukugxila Okuwela kanye Nokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame: Ukucabangela Imithelela Ejulile”, okwavela ku The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy phakathi 2014, ihunyushwe ngesiJapane ngesihloko “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Kumithelela Ejulile-“.

With Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

E-Cambridge ngathola injabulo yokuhlangana noMadoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esiqeqeshwe ku-Focusing owayesevele waqala ukuhumusha esikhathini esithile esidlule, futhi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Umxhumanisi Wokugxila owaziwayo ojoyine iphrojekthi ezigabeni zayo zokugcina. Izingxoxo esibe nazo ngemuva kwalokho ziphothule umsebenzi, futhi manje sinalokhu kuhumusha okunembayo, etholakala kuwebhusayithi ye Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), kukhiqizwa lapha ngemvume.

Ngifuna ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kwami ​​okukhulu ngentshisekelo yabo nokuzikhandla kwabo –kube nama-imeyili amaningi ukuze acacise imibono nama-nuances– ukwenza kwenzeke ukuthi lesi sici sokuGxila saziwe phakathi kochwepheshe abaningi Abagxilile kanye nabasebenzi baseJapan.

Ekubongeni,

Javier

Namuhla ngifuna ukwabelana ngale vidiyo eshicilelwe ngabakwa Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute) nguGene Gendlin, ubaba we Ukugxilisa, lapho ekhuluma ngokuthi kanjani “sihlukile uma sisebenzisana nabantu abahlukene”. Kulokhu okuqoshiwe okufushane kodwa okugcwele okuqukethwe, Kuchaza uGendlin (ngemibhalo engezansi yesi-Spanish, engavulwa futhi icishwe) ukuthi lokhu kunomphumela wokuthi ngokuhlanganyela okuthile kwethu nomunye umuntu, sona kanye isenzo sokuba nomunye umuntu senza ushintsho.

Ividiyo eyela ngasocansini nekhuthazayo. Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier

I-ANSEMBOURG, Thomas. Yekani nice; Yiba eyiqiniso! edition wafanekisa. I-courier yokulethwa, 2015.

Thomas d'Ansembourg Kuyireferensi yamazwe ngamazwe ku Ukuxhumana benamathele (kanye nereferensi yomuntu siqu kimi, kusukela ukuqeqeshwa kwami ​​​​ku-NVC kwaqala ngaye futhi kwajula ngokuphelezelwa kwakhe). Manje uhlanganyela ukuqonda kwakhe okujulile kwemvelo yomuntu kanye nombono wakhe onozwela wokungqubuzana enguqulweni enezithombe ngokugcwele. (empeleni ngefomethi yamahlaya) yencwadi yakhe yokuqala, Yekani nice; Yiba eyiqiniso!, umthengisi kanye nensiza engashi yokucabanga.

kule ncwadi encane, ngemifanekiso yakhe U-Alexis Nouailhat, elula kangaka futhi esikisela, UThomas d'Ansembourg uxoxa indaba yakhe siqu (Isahluko 1, “Ubani lomfana?”), ihlaziya ngokuhlekisa nangokucacile ezinye zezinkinga eziyisisekelo esibhekana nazo njengabantu (Isahluko 2, “Ingabe ufuna ukuphuma izingibe?”) futhi uhlongoza “Eminye imibono ye-Nonviolent Communication” (Isahluko 3) ukuqala ukuguqula ukwazi kwethu (futhi ngalokho siguqule ubudlelwano bethu kanye nempilo yethu), futhi uvale ngempumelelo “Iziphetho”.

Ngamahlaya kanye nokulula okusobala, le ncwadi isisiza ukuba sinake ekuphileni kwethu, ngobukhona obukhulu namandla okuguqula. Kuyinjabulo ukushicilelwa koHlelo lweMensajero, futhi kungenzeka bona isampula yethebula lokuqukethwe neminye imifanekiso kuwebhusayithi yabo.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela kakhulu ngendlela mina.

Javier

Omunye unyaka, Kuyinjabulo nodumo kimina ukuthi ngiphinde ngibambe iqhaza kulo mdlalo V Umhlangano Wabasebenzi Bezokuxhumana Abangenalo Udlame ihlelwe yi- Association for Communication benamathele, ukugqugquzela umhlangano wami wokucobelelana ngolwazi kulo nyaka “Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame Nokugxila. Ubukhulu bomzimba bezidingo”.

Amadethi omcimbi aphelele: NgoLwesihlanu 11 kuze kube yiSonto 13 Mashi 2016.

Indawo: Ihhostela laseSan Servando
I-Cuesta de San Servando s/n
I-Toledo

Ukuze ufunde ulwazi oluphelele, cela ukucaciselwa kanye nerejista, Iya ku iwebhusayithi ethize yomcimbi.

Ukuze ufunde kancane mayelana nezisekelo zetiyori zalokho esizosebenza kukho, kusukela uMarshall Rosenberg ngokwakhe wayeyingxenye yenqubo ye Ukugxilisa kwezinye izikhathi zokulalela futhi wakuncoma, Ungakwazi uthintane sihloko yami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”, eshicilelwe ngenombolo ye 2014 of The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, ijenali yezemfundo esemthethweni ye The Institute Ukugxilisa (i-New York Focusing Institute).

Ngethemba ukuthi singahlangana khona.

Javier

[Entry Original 1 Mashi 2016, olusha 13 Mashi 2016, idethi yokuphela komcimbi].

Ngiyathanda ukuncoma imisebenzi ehloselwe umphakathi jikelele ukuqeqeshwa emikhakheni esondelene futhi ejulile Ukugxilisa futhi Ukuxhumana benamathele. Le trilogy iwela kuleso sigaba..

“Human: the film” iyi-documentary esesimweni se-trilogy esibonisa izingcezu zezingxoxo ezenziwa nabantu abangaphezu kwezinkulungwane ezimbili (nakuba enguqulweni yokugcina kubonakala abantu abangaba ngamakhulu amabili) sikhuluma ngazo zonke izinto ezisenza sibe yikho “abantu”. Abantu babo bonke ubudala (nakuba zimbalwa kakhulu izingane ezivelayo, amantombazane kanye nentsha ngokulingana, kanye nezindaba ezinzima kakhulu zonke), yazo zonke izinhlobo, kusukela kuwo wonke amazwekazi. Kuyinto ephusile, ngqo kakhulu: akukho mibuzo evela kwababuza imibuzo, akukho ukukopishwa (konke ukungenelela kuvela nemibhalo engezansi, ukuze izwi lokuqala lizwakale), ngaphandle kwedatha yemvelaphi yomuntu ngamunye (kuphela kwezinye izimo lapho bekhuluma ngezwe labo, kodwa ezimweni eziningi ungakwazi kuphela ukuqagela izwekazi layo, ngaphandle uma imibhalo engezansi ivuliwe), engenasiphelo (zonke izingxoxo zenziwa ngesizinda esimnyama esifanayo, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi imisindo evela endaweni yethulwa). Ngabantu abalalele futhi babheke ikhamera ngenkathi abanye bekhuluma, futhi akukho okunye. futhi ngezikhathi ezithile, ukubukwa kwasemoyeni kwezindawo ezimangalisayo, izindawo zemvelo kanye nezindawo zabantu, ngomculo womhlaba (ezivusa amadlingozi ikakhulukazi uma zisetshenziswa ngaphandle kokuhlobana nesithombe: indawo yase-Afrika enomculo wase-Asia ocacile, isibonelo, okuphinde kugcizelele ukuba semhlabeni wonke komuntu).

Umthwebuli wezithombe kanye nomenzi wefilimu U-Yann Artus-Bertrand, waziwa ngomsebenzi wakhe omude wobungcweti evikela izizathu zemvelo nezenhlalo, iqale le trilogy emangalisayo, okuhloswe ngayo ukuba negalelo elilodwa kusithombe somuntu ngezilinganiso zawo ezihlukene. nezibani zayo, futhi futhi ngezithunzi ezibalulekile. Ukubukeka kwefilimu kuhlanganisa yonke into: kusukela kokuhle kakhulu kuya kokubi kakhulu, okukhululayo nalokho okugqilazayo, lokho okunikeza incazelo kanye nombhedo wempilo yamanje…

Kukhona uhlaka oluthile lwetimu, okungabalulwa njengomhlahlandlela:

“Human: the film (umthamo 1)”: uthando (ngezindlela zayo ezahlukene), umsebenzi nobumpofu. Okukhulu kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala, ukucabanga ngalezi zici ezintathu zempilo yomuntu.

“Human: the film (umthamo 2)”: impi, I-Homophobia, ukufa kanye nobunzima bomndeni. Ibekwe ngokusobala kakhulu ekuvuneni isithunzi somuntu kuzo zonke izimo, nakuba kunzima ukukubona.

“Human: the film (umthamo 3)”: injabulo, Imfundo, ukukhubazeka, ubudlelwano nomhlaba, Inhloso yokuphila, ubulungisa kanye nesenzo somphakathi. Ukubheka izici ezithile ezidinga ukuma kwethu (okungcono kakhulu esintwini, siqonde ukukhethwa kwemiyalezo).

Kungumsebenzi okufanele ubonwe ngokuzola, ngezingcezu zemizuzu engamashumi amabili noma engamashumi amathathu, ukuyigaya ijule. Idala imibuzo eminingi futhi isimema ukuthi siyiphendule ngaphakathi. Ungakwazi futhi ukubona amazwibela amade abanye abantu, ezingakhethwa ngendikimba noma umlayezo wazo, futhi lokho kuhlanganisa abantu ngezinye izikhathi abangabonakali efilimini.

Futhi labo bethu ababuka imuvi ngayinye bangakhetha: Ngabe sizohlukanisa umuntu ngamunye ngokwesiqephu esivela kuso? Noma sizokwazi ukulalela ngokukhululekile, uzama ukumbona ngemizwa yakhe nezidingo zakhe, ngemizwa okufanele abe nayo empilweni yakhe ukuze akhulume kanjalo, ngobuntu bakhe kanye nemfihlakalo yakhe?

Ngiyakumema ukuthi ubukele amafilimu futhi uthole okwengeziwe mayelana nobuntu bethu esabelana ngaso, kanye nezomuntu ngamunye ikakhulukazi.

Javier

Kule mpelasonto ngaba udumo iqhaza I Congress ngokomzwelo Navarra Ezemfundo, ihlelwe abazali kwakheka. Kwakuthinta inkomfa ihlelwe ngesithakazelo esikhulu, ngokukhulu ukucophelela futhi umthamo esihle sesibindi. isethulo wami kwaba ezimayelana “imfundo affective ukuthi zivikela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi”, omunye izindikimba ezisebenza kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, ka engiyakhayo ilungu owasungula. Kodwa ekugcineni kube khona ingxoxo panel ngemibuzo ngoba bonke abakhuluma, sase ukwabelana Luhlolokulinganisa Sonsoles Echevarren, intatheli kusukela Diario de Navarra. Bekusikhathi kakhulu, futhi nakuba imibuzo ayebhekiswe isikhulumi ngasinye, ekupheleni babebaningi lapho sihlanganyela eziningana. Kulo mongo kwaphakama umbuzo kakhulu, “Wenzenjani ulalele ingane owenqaba ukuhamba kwepaki?”. izimpendulo ezithakazelisayo futhi abalulekile banikwa, futhi mina baletha umnikelo wami: “Listening yebo’ ku 'cha'”.

Rescue kule blog ngoba sihloko yami 'Lalela “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘, okuyinto yanyatheliswa inombolo 52 (Januwari 2011) umagazini ekhoneni yethu 0-6, enyatheliswa Accent (Aqhubeke ayisekho ukukhulula izinombolo, nakuba isatholakala). Lesi senzakalo sihloko ngokunabile ukuthi Nga- ngibatshela bese: lapho umuntu (futhi umfana noma intombazane futhi umuntu) idayisi “kungekho”, Uthi “yebo” izinto eziningi, futhi uma silalela wonke umlayezo, Singenza uxhumano ezijulile sithole nesisombululo egculisayo zonke izinhlangothi. Isihloko iqala:

unina, iminyaka emibili nengxenye, Akathandi elingenamikhono wakhe ukuya ngaphandle. uJosé, iminyaka emine, Awufuni ukulahlekelwa jika ukuya ekhaya. Irene, iminyaka emihlanu, Akafuni ukuya ukulala. Kungani lezi zinto ukuthi njengoba abadala sesiqala kahle ezinengqondo?

Futhi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo? ¿Thina ukuhoxa abenze noma yini abayifunayo? Ngemva kwalokho siba ezimbi ngoba asisebenzi nemfundo, futhi lokho kusinika umuzwa kokushiya eceleni kulokho esingakufeza njengabantu abantu futhi ufuna. Ungathanda ukubaphoqa ukuba lokho esikufunayo? Khona-ke siye yibhange ingxoxo futhi imvelo ezimbi isikhathi eside, eside futhi sifundisa ukuthi ekugcineni into ebalulekile ukuba namandla noma amandla, nokuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano kusebenza kuphela uma ibuthakathaka. Ngolwazi lwami yemisindvo kukhona indlela yesithathu, esekelwe zokuxhumana ajulile kulezi zimo. Futhi elinye lamakhono ukuthi ithuthukiswe amashabhu mina lula yikhono ulalele lokho abakushoyo “yebo” izingane zethu uma bethi “kungekho”.

Download isihloko full “ulalele “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘

Ithemba kuthakazelisa.

Javier