Njengodokotela wezengqondo ngihlukanisa isikhathi sami sobungcweti phakathi komkhuba wokwelashwa ohambisana nabantu ezinkambisweni zabo zokwelapha eMadrid kanye nezeluleko nokuqeqeshwa kwezinhlangano ezihlobene nokuvikelwa kwezingane., amantombazane nentsha evela eSpirales Consultoría de Infancia. Lokho sika ngalokho ngiyakuyala yamjabulisa ukwethula imanuwali Ukuhambisana amanxeba umphefumulo. Trauma esemncane, Ngiye ngalungiselela Office of SOS Wezingane imephu Latin America naseCaribbean Regional.

Ukuze uthole eminye imininingwane salolu shicilelo, elikuqukethe futhi ezinye izincwadi okuhlobene yokuvikela izingane, ungafunda lokhu entry blog Espirales CI.

Amabili izinguqulo idokhumenti:

• Ukuhambisana amanxeba umphefumulo. Trauma esemncane, ekhasini elilodwa (iphrinta ukhululekile ngokunyathelisa nokufunda mobile noma ithebhulethi).
• Ukuhambisana amanxeba umphefumulo. Trauma esemncane, ikhasi double (ukubona esikrinini esikhulu noma ukunyathelisa ku ukuphrinta).

Kulesi Ukubloga enginakho kuphela ukwengeza ukuthi incazelo uhlukunyezwe njengoba inqubo kusekelwe Umgudu imodeli (Inqubo Model) de Eugene Gendlin, futhi izincazelo okuvimba ngokomzwelo eziye wahlangana abaqeqeshi kanye nabaxhumanisi Ukugxilisa Ann Weiser Cornell futhi uBarbara McGavin. Ungathola okulotshiwe emithonjeni ethize emakhasini 16-20 umbhalo.

Ngithemba imiphumela emihle.

F. Javier Romeo

Ukuqwashisa umzimba njengendawo isivikelo ubudlova ingenye eziza kuqala yami emayelana nomsebenzi ukhiye. Lokhu workshop, “Ukugxilisa, umzimba kanye nokuphepha: Ukugxilisa nokuvimbela udlame” Mina ukuhlanganisa umsebenzi wami eminyakeni engaphezu kweyishumi ezizimisele ukuvikela izingane ngokumelene izinhlobo ezahlukene zodlame (minyaka eyisishiyagalombili eminyakeni Spiral Consulting Izingane) ngamandla lobuchwepheshe Ukugxilisa, okuyinto singisize kokubili mathupha futhi efanele.

Ukugxilisa ungahlinzekela indlela entsha ukudala ukuphepha ezimpilweni zethu ngomzimba. Bonke abantu sifuna aphathwe kahle, ngenhlonipho nangokucabangela. Nokho, ubudlova ubufakazi emazingeni ahlukahlukene njalo. Uma singabantwana futhi nabo izingane, futhi intsha, kokubili imikhaya yethu futhi kusukela umsebenzi wethu, sibona izimo eziningi zodlame futhi sizibuze nendlela yokuzigwema ukuze zingasivimbi ke. Lokhu workshop eyedlule ukusebenza umqondo vivencial ngakho tekusebenta zodlame nge isizinda isipiliyoni kusuka emzimbeni. Ngakho singazibona ubudlova nemizimba yethu ngenkathi singenza ngokucace kakhudlwana futhi indlela zokuzivikela ezimpilweni zethu futhi ensimini wethu wezokusebenza.

Lokhu workshop sibhekiswe kubantu nothando lokufunda okwengeziwe mayelana nendlela yokuphatha udlame kusuka isikhundla sivikelekile umzimba, kokubili mathupha futhi efanele (Ochwepheshe kokungenela zomphakathi ezivela Psychology, ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, social work, imfundo…). Ukugxilisa ulwazi ngaphambi kungukuthi ezidingekayo (nakuba kuyoba inzuzo). Lokhu workshop wokulandisa elibonakalayo ukuthola Diploma Ukugxilisa ka Ukugxila Institute Spanish.

usuku: Saturday 11 Novemba 2017 of 10:00 a 14:00 futhi 16:00 a 20:00 nangeSonto 12 Novemba 2017 of 10:00 a 14:00.

Indawo: isikhala “Chitha lokhu ekhaya lakho”
C / Costa Brava, okokufaka C / La Masó 2, isitshalo 1, wendawo 8
28031 Madrid
(Metro Paco de uLucía, umugqa 9; amabhasi 133,134 futhi 178)

intengo: 170 euros.

Imininingwane eyengeziwe kanye nokubhalisa Ukugxilisa Centro, ukuqeqeshwa ehleliwe: focusingcentro@gmail.com

Ngithemba ukuthi libaluleke,

F. Javier Romeo

[Entry Original 16 October 2017, olusha 12 Novemba 2017, Usuku ukwakheka].

Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ocacile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni uphakama kimi njengoba ngabelana ngale ngxoxo.. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenza kuwo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngezinkinga zobudlova” (“Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”), njengoba isihloko sengxoxo sisho ngesingisi. Kuyisihloko esibalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, i-consultancy egxile ekuvikelweni kwezingane enginguzakwethu wokuqala wayo), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances kuhlale kuyinselele.

the Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute, inhlangano exhumanisa ezingeni lamazwe ngamazwe imisebenzi ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa kwe-Focusing) ikhuthaza “izingxoxo” (isiZulu) nge-Focusing professionals abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), umsingathi, futhi ikwenza ngendlela ejwayeleke kakhulu ye-Focusing -ngokuboniswa kozwela, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ukuthi iqhamuke futhi yembuleke ngejubane layo-.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola ukuthi siphawula ngezihloko ezifana nalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Bekuzomele kwenzeke okuthile ukuletha lesi simo phambili, kodwa akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi umonakalo uvela emzimbeni.
• Thola a “isibambo” (“isibambo”) ngodlame (khomba yena) kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ngalokhu kuyadingeka ukwazi amaphethini amasiko asenza sijwayele ubudlova.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluhambisana nokunakekela njengendlela yokugwema udlame—kanye nobukhulu bomzimba obungazuzwa ngokugxila—.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela ezimeni zodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana namathuba okwelapha kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elihle kakhulu lokukwenza.

Futhi uma ufuna ukuzwa ukuthi ungawuguqula kanjani umuzwa wodlame emzimbeni ngokuFocusing, Ngiyatholakala amaseshini afika ngesikhathi isitobhi i-psychotherapy eMadrid.

Ngethemba ukuthi ungathola eminye imibono ukuze ukhuthaze umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho ngodlame., futhi ngingathanda ukwazi ukusabela kwakho ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi

Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ohlukile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni kuza kimi lapho ngihlanganyela le ngxoxo. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenzayo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”, njengokusho kwesihloko sengxoxo. Yindaba ebalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, inkampani yamazwe omhlaba eyelulekayo egxile ekuvikelekeni kwezingane I eyasungulwa ngokubambisana), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances akhona kuhlale kuyinselele.

I-International Focusing Institute (inhlangano exhumanisa imisebenzi egxile emhlabeni jikelele ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa) ikhuthaza kabili ngenyanga “Izingxoxo” nge-Focusing professionals emhlabeni wonke. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (UK), usebenza njengosokhaya, futhi ukwenza lokho ngendlela Egxilile kakhulu -ekhombisa, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ivele futhi ithuthuke ngesikhathi sayo.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola izindaba okuxoxwe ngazo njengalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Kukhona okufanele ngabe kwenzekile ukuqhubekisela phambili isimo, futhi akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi ukulimala kuphila emzimbeni.
• Ukuthola isibambo sodlame (ewukhomba) yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ukwazi amaphethini ethu amasiko ajwayelekile udlame.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluxhunyaniswe nokunakekelwa njengendlela yokugwema udlame - kanye nobukhulu bomzimba okungafinyelelwa kukho ngokugxila.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela kodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana nokuphulukisa kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elimangalisayo lokukwenza.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzothola umbono noma emibili engakhuthaza umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho mayelana nodlame, futhi ngizothanda ukuzwa kuwe ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi (nakuba inhlolokhono ngokwayo ingeyesiNgisi).

zinde “Ukuthola Handle for Udlame ezimpilweni zethu” (“Ukuthola indawo yodlame ezimpilweni zethu”) ekusetshenzisweni kwe Ukugxilisa ukunqanda udlame e 27Ingqungquthela Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe ka 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), ihlelwe yi I-British Focusing Association, futhi ivulekele amalungu e Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (The Institute Ukugxilisa) emhlabeni wonke.

usuku: Idethi entsha: Saturday 23 July 2016, of 11:00 a 13:00.

Indawo: Robinson College
Cambridge
i-United Kingdom

Incazelo: Lapho sisebenza nezingane, ubusha nobusha, nabantu abasengozini yomphakathi, ezindaweni zokungenelela komphakathi, namakhasimende kwezokwelapha, singabona imiphumela ubudlova obunayo ekuphileni kwabo. Kulo mhlangano wokucobelelana ngolwazi sizosebenza ngendlela yokuthola isisekelo sodlame ezimpilweni zethu njengesinyathelo sokuqala sokuvikela kanye nokubona izimo zodlame.. Sizohlola ukuthi singaluhlonza kanjani udlame ngokombono womzimba Ogxilile ukuze sizinike amandla—futhi ngaleyo ndlela siguqule udlame olusizungezile—.

Iqondiswe ku: ochwepheshe (kwengqondo, yokungenelela kokwelapha, Wezemfundo, yomsebenzi wezenhlalakahle, njll.) abasebenza nezingane, amantombazane, intsha kanye nentsha, nabantu abasengozini yomphakathi, namakhasimende kwezokwelapha; abantu abasebenzela ushintsho emphakathini (ezinhlanganweni, izisekelo, njll.); kanye nomphakathi jikelele onentshisekelo yokulawula udlame ngezindlela ezintsha.

umdidiyeli:
F. Javier Romeo-Biedma ungudokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo, ugunyazwe njengoMqeqetshi Ogxilile nanjengoDokotela Wezengqondo Ogxile Ekugxileni, e Madrid, Spain, futhi ungumxhumanisi wamazwe ngamazwe mayelana Nokuvikelwa Kwezingane, Ukuthintana kanye nokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu ku Spiral Consulting Izingane (inkampani yokubonisana yamazwe ngamazwe eqeqesha futhi eyeluleka ngokuVikelwa Kwezingane). Umsebenzi wakho nezingane, amantombazane, intsha kanye nentsha esengozini yomphakathi eSpain, IMorocco neMauritania ziholele ekutheni aphenye ukuvikela, ukutholakala nokwelashwa kodlame (futhi lokho kufaka okuhlangenwe nakho okujulile Kokukhulumisana Okungenalo Udlame). Uphinde enze i-psychotherapy futhi afundise i-Focusing, I-Nonviolent Communication kanye ne-Psychology ku Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic. Unikeze ukuqeqeshwa ngeSpanishi (ulimi lwakho lwebele), IsiNgisi, IsiFulentshi nesiMoroccan Arabic.

Funda lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi.

[Entry Original 27 May 2016, olusha 23 July 2016, usuku lokusebenzela].

Workshop “Ukuthola Handle for Udlame ezimpilweni zethu” kwe 27th Inkomfa Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe 2016 eCambridge (UK), ihlelwe yi- I-British Focusing Association, kuvulekele amalungu The Institute Ukugxilisa abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba.

Izinsuku: Idethi entsha: NgoMgqibelo zingama-23 kuJulayi 2016, kusuka 11:00 ku 13:00.

Indawo: Robinson College
Cambridge
i-United Kingdom

Incazelo: Lapho sisebenza nezingane kanye nentsha, nabantu abasengozini, kuzilungiselelo zomphakathi, namakhasimende kwezokwelapha, singabona imiphumela yobudlova ekuphileni kwabo. Kulo mhlangano sizosebenza ngokuzikhandla ukuze sithole isibambo sodlame ezimpilweni zethu, njengesinyathelo sokuqala sokuvimbela kanye nokubona izimo zodlame. Sizohlola ukuthi singaluhlonza kanjani udlame ngombono wokugxila nokuhlanganiswa ukuze sizinike amandla -ukuguqula udlame olusizungezile.

Izithameli eziqondiwe: ochwepheshe (izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, abelaphi, abafundisi, osonhlalakahle, njll.) ukusebenza nezingane kanye nentsha, nabantu abasengozini, namakhasimende kwezokwelapha; abantu abasebenzela ushintsho emphakathini (izinhlangano, izisekelo, njll.); kanye nomphakathi jikelele onentshisekelo yokubhekana nodlame ngezindlela ezintsha.

Umgqugquzeli:
F. Javier Romeo-Biedma ungudokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile Oqinisekisiwe kanye Nodokotela Wengqondo ozinze eMadrid, Spain, kanye nomeluleki wamazwe ngamazwe mayelana Nokuvikelwa Kwezingane, Ukusebenza Nokuxhumana at Spiral Consulting Izingane (inkampani yezokubonisana yamazwe ngamazwe ayisungule ngokuhlanganyela ehlinzeka ngokuqeqeshwa nokuhlola ekuvikelweni kwezingane). Umsebenzi wakhe nezingane ezisengozini kanye nentsha eSpain, I-Morocco ne-Mauritania iholele ekutheni enze ucwaningo ngokuvimbela udlame, ukutholwa nokwelashwa (kufaka phakathi isipiliyoni esijulile ku-Nonviolent Communication). Uphinde abe nomsebenzi wangasese futhi ufundisa i-Focusing, I-Nonviolent Communication and Psychotherapy at Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic. Ufundise ngeSpanishi (ulimi lwakhe lwebele), IsiNgisi, IsiFulentshi nesiMoroccan Arabic.

Bona lokhu kufakwa okufanayo ngeSpanishi.

[Okuthunyelwe kwangempela kwangomhla zingama-27 kuNhlaba. 2016, ibuyekezwe ngoJulayi 23. 2016, usuku lweworkshop].

Ngokuvumelana uqhubeke ukugubha ukushicilelwa ngonyaka owodwa edlule yezinganekwane Pepa Horno, umngane wami omuhle futhi umlingani e Spiral Consulting Izingane (lapho sisebenza ezindabeni imfundo affective ebuntwaneni), Liyanezela leli entry sangaphambilini, ebhekisela incwadi yakhe Ulimi izihlahla. le ndaba, The Wizard imicabango, Kuye enyatheliswa yi Editorial Phineus ngemifanekiso UMargarita manje.

Pepa akhawunti efanayo inhloso yakhe leli bhuku ngala mazwi alandelayo:

The Wizard imicabango Ukhuluma nokuqabulana, nendlela ayiphulule futhi ukubhucungwa ukukhonza ukuze ngokomzwelo ukuzithiba, La bantwana bona kunabantu abadala bathi namanje abayeki, abahluleka ukuhlunga imicabango yabo, noma Abathulise noma ukugxilisa ingqondo ... Ngenxa yalezi izingane abe "magic" akhohlisa ukubeka oda ezinye ngaphakathi kuye. Kulezo imicabango ukuthi ngokuyisisekelo kukhona kodwa isithelo ukuzwela ayekufezile.

Ukuze lokhu Ngalifaka ukuthi indaba ukuthi kungenziwa ingashintshwa ngokuphelele ukufundisa Ukugxilisa abafana namantombazane ngenxa yezizathu ezilandelayo:

• Lunikeza umbono omuhle futhi wamukelekile imicabango, emizweni, imizwa, imizwa kanye nakho ngokuvamile nezingane (futhi siphinde sibe abantu abadala): yini phakathi kwethu kwenza umqondo uma sinikeza wekulalela kahle.
• Izingane angenza izinto eziphathekako sinake okubehlele yangaphakathi, ngakho laba ezolile phansi (futhi, nakuba ayichazi indaba, Futhi ukuze kuqashwe), nalabo abamzungezile ungakwazi ukuhamba.
• nakho Yangaphakathi ahambisana ngemphumelelo nge yisiphi isinyathelo ngokomzimba. Pepa ehlongozwayo indaba ayiphulule ezindaweni abathintekayo (ikhanda lika protagonist, kuleli cala), kodwa wachaza ekhasini lokugcina, “Amagama umphefumulo abadala”, kungenzeka kube khona ezinye izindlela eziningi, inqobo nje uma kuhilela umzimba.

Ngakho mina zashaya ukuncoma leli bhuku njengendlela ukwethula Ukugxilisa ngendlela ezovumelana izingane.

Ngithemba wena uyobe othanda it kakhulu ngendlela mina,

Javier

Kusanda kugujwa iminyaka yokuqala yokushicilelwa kwendaba. Ulimi izihlahla of Pepa Horno, umngane wami othandekayo kanye nomlingani wami Spiral Consulting Izingane (lapho sisebenza khona ezindabeni zokuvikela izingane). le ndaba, eshicilelwe ngabakwa Editorial Phineus futhi kuboniswe ngu Martina Vanda, yaba nezintshumayelo eziningana, eyokuqala yaba se I-Madrid Book Fair 2015 zalezi zinsuku, ngakho kubonakale kufanelekile ukuyikhumbula ngalokhu kufakwa kwebhulogi.

UPepa wethula incwadi ngale ndlela elandelayo:

Ulimi izihlahla kumayelana nokufa. Noma kunalokho mayelana nentambo yothando ehlanganisa izinhlangothi zombili zokuphila. Khuluma ngabantu abanezinhliziyo ezihlukene phakathi, “ingxenye emhlabeni nengxenye ezulwini”, futhi ibhalelwe abafana namantombazane amaningi (labo abayizingane manje nalabo abanye abafana namantombazane bacashe ngaphansi kwesikhumba sabantu abadala) abanezinhliziyo ezinje.

Ngifuna ukugqamisa izici ezintathu engincoma ngazo le ndaba (futhi ngenxa yaleso sizathu sengivele ngikunike njengesipho izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa):

• Ukubaluleka kokuthola isixhumanisi esingokomfanekiso nomuntu oshonile, ezingatshalwa empilweni noma uma sekufe. Akukephuzi kakhulu ukwenza isiko elinikeza labo bethu abasaphila umuzwa wokuxhumana.
• Ubukhulu bomzimba bosizi, okubonakala kukhonjwe ngobuciko. Hamba ngezinyawo, hambahamba ebaleni, yenza ukuthinta komzimba… isisiza ukuthi sicubungule kangcono ukulahlekelwa, kungakhathaliseki ubudala.
• Ububele obugcwele umsebenzi busimema ukuba sinakekele ubuhlobo esimweni ngasinye sosizi nabo bonke abafana namantombazane.: abalaye ngeminyaka, futhi esithwala nabo abafana namantombazane angaphakathi (futhi nazo zidinga ukunakwa kwakho).

Kukho konke lokhu nokunye okuningi, yincwadi engicabanga ukuthi iyifunde enconyiwe., futhi ikakhulukazi ukuba nayo lapho ukulahlekelwa kwenzeka endaweni ezungezile.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela kakhulu ngendlela mina.

Javier

Kule mpelasonto ngaba udumo iqhaza I Congress ngokomzwelo Navarra Ezemfundo, ihlelwe abazali kwakheka. Kwakuthinta inkomfa ihlelwe ngesithakazelo esikhulu, ngokukhulu ukucophelela futhi umthamo esihle sesibindi. isethulo wami kwaba ezimayelana “imfundo affective ukuthi zivikela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi”, omunye izindikimba ezisebenza kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, ka engiyakhayo ilungu owasungula. Kodwa ekugcineni kube khona ingxoxo panel ngemibuzo ngoba bonke abakhuluma, sase ukwabelana Luhlolokulinganisa Sonsoles Echevarren, intatheli kusukela Diario de Navarra. Bekusikhathi kakhulu, futhi nakuba imibuzo ayebhekiswe isikhulumi ngasinye, ekupheleni babebaningi lapho sihlanganyela eziningana. Kulo mongo kwaphakama umbuzo kakhulu, “Wenzenjani ulalele ingane owenqaba ukuhamba kwepaki?”. izimpendulo ezithakazelisayo futhi abalulekile banikwa, futhi mina baletha umnikelo wami: “Listening yebo’ ku 'cha'”.

Rescue kule blog ngoba sihloko yami 'Lalela “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘, okuyinto yanyatheliswa inombolo 52 (Januwari 2011) umagazini ekhoneni yethu 0-6, enyatheliswa Accent (Aqhubeke ayisekho ukukhulula izinombolo, nakuba isatholakala). Lesi senzakalo sihloko ngokunabile ukuthi Nga- ngibatshela bese: lapho umuntu (futhi umfana noma intombazane futhi umuntu) idayisi “kungekho”, Uthi “yebo” izinto eziningi, futhi uma silalela wonke umlayezo, Singenza uxhumano ezijulile sithole nesisombululo egculisayo zonke izinhlangothi. Isihloko iqala:

unina, iminyaka emibili nengxenye, Akathandi elingenamikhono wakhe ukuya ngaphandle. uJosé, iminyaka emine, Awufuni ukulahlekelwa jika ukuya ekhaya. Irene, iminyaka emihlanu, Akafuni ukuya ukulala. Kungani lezi zinto ukuthi njengoba abadala sesiqala kahle ezinengqondo?

Futhi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo? ¿Thina ukuhoxa abenze noma yini abayifunayo? Ngemva kwalokho siba ezimbi ngoba asisebenzi nemfundo, futhi lokho kusinika umuzwa kokushiya eceleni kulokho esingakufeza njengabantu abantu futhi ufuna. Ungathanda ukubaphoqa ukuba lokho esikufunayo? Khona-ke siye yibhange ingxoxo futhi imvelo ezimbi isikhathi eside, eside futhi sifundisa ukuthi ekugcineni into ebalulekile ukuba namandla noma amandla, nokuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano kusebenza kuphela uma ibuthakathaka. Ngolwazi lwami yemisindvo kukhona indlela yesithathu, esekelwe zokuxhumana ajulile kulezi zimo. Futhi elinye lamakhono ukuthi ithuthukiswe amashabhu mina lula yikhono ulalele lokho abakushoyo “yebo” izingane zethu uma bethi “kungekho”.

Download isihloko full “ulalele “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘

Ithemba kuthakazelisa.

Javier

Okokugcina 6 Okthoba UMarshall Rosenberg, umdali we Ukuxhumana benamathele, usehlanganise iminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalombili kanti thina esizibonele izinzuzo zomsebenzi wakhe siyawubungaza.

UMarshall B. Rosenberg wazalwa ngo 6 October 1934 e-Guangzhou, E-Ohio (USA), nomndeni wangena 1943 kanye neDetroit, EMichigan, ngaphambi nje kodlame lomjaho ngalowo nyaka. UMarshall ulandisa ukuthi isipiliyoni sodlame sammaka kanjani. Wabhekana nodlame esikoleni, ngokubizwa ngokuthi ungumJuda ngesibongo sakhe. njengoba esho yena, wathola ukuthi kunabantu abangajabulela ukulimaza. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, wakwazi ukubona indlela abanye abantu ababekwazi ngayo ukunyakaza ngozwela ezimeni ezinzima ngokwedlulele (ugogo wakhe, okwathi ngesikhathi sobunzima bakwazi ukuphakela abantu emgwaqweni; noma umalume wakhe, owakwazi ukuphakela nokwelapha ugogo osemdala).

Kamuva wafunda i-psychology futhi wathola i-Ph.D. ku-Carl Rogers in 1961, ofaneleka ngokuphelele njengodokotela wezengqondo emtholampilo ku 1966. Nokho, indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yomtholampilo ayizange imenelise, ngalokho kugcizelela kumalebula nokuxilongwa. Waqhubeka nokucwaninga nokuqeqesha (futhi waqeqeshwa ku-Focusing, futhi empeleni uyincoma ekuqeqeshweni kwayo okuthuthukile), futhi ekugcineni wadala inqubo ye Ukuxhumana benamathele njengoba sisazi njengamanje.

Kusukela ngeminyaka yamashumi ayisishiyagalombili usebenze emhlabeni wonke ekuxazululeni izingxabano ezinkulu kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amancane okuxazulula izingxabano ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke., izingxabano nabanye abantu kanye nezingxabano zangaphakathi. Uthathe umhlalaphansi eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngemva kokwenza amakhulukhulu ezinhlaka emhlabeni futhi esesungule Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele) ukusabalalisa le nqubo yokuguqula. Ungafunda kabanzi ngempilo yakhe nalapho asebenze khona Isizindalwazi se-International Centre for Nonviolent Communication (Center for Communication benamathele).

Ngikujabulele ukuzilolonga naye, nomkakhe u-Valentina kanye nabanye abahleli ku-International Intensive Formation (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe) izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye eSwitzerland ngo-August 2008, futhi ngakwazi ukwamukela imfudumalo yakhe nendlela aye wangikhuthaza ngayo ukuba ngizame ukudlulisela ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana Okungenabudlova ezinganeni nakubantu abaxhumana nabo. Umsebenzi wami omningi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ugqugquzelwe yilokho engikufunde kuye., kokubili ukudala a Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic ezimpilweni zabo bonke abantu (kuhlanganise neyami), njengasezimpilweni zezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha engihlangana nayo, nabantu abakuzungezile (ikakhulukazi ngokusebenzisa Spiral Consulting Izingane, ngaphakathi komugqa Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu). Kulokho kuqeqeshwa besikhuluma ngeSitifiketi, futhi nakuba ekugcineni kuyindlela engingazange ngiyilandele, Ngizizwa ngiyingxenye yenhlangano ye-Nonviolent Communication futhi ngiyaqhubeka nokuhlanganyela ne Association for Communication benamathele lapha eSpain kanye namanye ama-internship kanye namaqembu okufunda.

Ngaleso sikhathi sathatha lesi sithombe ukuthi, ukuqondana kwesiphetho, UMarshall uyasibonisa, Mina noValentina sinabafana ababili abangaziwa nentombazane, njengokufanekisa ngendlela ekhethekile umsebenzi nezingane engiwenza ngogqozi lwe-Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kanye nesipho sami. ¡Gracias, Marshall!

Ngokubonga okujulile ngithumela ukuhlonipha kwami ​​kokugubha. Ngiyabonga, Marshall!

Javier