Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ocacile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni uphakama kimi njengoba ngabelana ngale ngxoxo.. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenza kuwo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngezinkinga zobudlova” (“Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”), njengoba isihloko sengxoxo sisho ngesingisi. Kuyisihloko esibalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, i-consultancy egxile ekuvikelweni kwezingane enginguzakwethu wokuqala wayo), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances kuhlale kuyinselele.

the Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute, inhlangano exhumanisa ezingeni lamazwe ngamazwe imisebenzi ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa kwe-Focusing) ikhuthaza “izingxoxo” (isiZulu) nge-Focusing professionals abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), umsingathi, futhi ikwenza ngendlela ejwayeleke kakhulu ye-Focusing -ngokuboniswa kozwela, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ukuthi iqhamuke futhi yembuleke ngejubane layo-.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola ukuthi siphawula ngezihloko ezifana nalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Bekuzomele kwenzeke okuthile ukuletha lesi simo phambili, kodwa akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi umonakalo uvela emzimbeni.
• Thola a “isibambo” (“isibambo”) ngodlame (khomba yena) kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ngalokhu kuyadingeka ukwazi amaphethini amasiko asenza sijwayele ubudlova.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluhambisana nokunakekela njengendlela yokugwema udlame—kanye nobukhulu bomzimba obungazuzwa ngokugxila—.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela ezimeni zodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana namathuba okwelapha kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elihle kakhulu lokukwenza.

Futhi uma ufuna ukuzwa ukuthi ungawuguqula kanjani umuzwa wodlame emzimbeni ngokuFocusing, Ngiyatholakala amaseshini afika ngesikhathi isitobhi i-psychotherapy eMadrid.

Ngethemba ukuthi ungathola eminye imibono ukuze ukhuthaze umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho ngodlame., futhi ngingathanda ukwazi ukusabela kwakho ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okuthunyelwe ngesiNgisi

Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ohlukile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni kuza kimi lapho ngihlanganyela le ngxoxo. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenzayo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”, njengokusho kwesihloko sengxoxo. Yindaba ebalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, inkampani yamazwe omhlaba eyelulekayo egxile ekuvikelekeni kwezingane I eyasungulwa ngokubambisana), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances akhona kuhlale kuyinselele.

I-International Focusing Institute (inhlangano exhumanisa imisebenzi egxile emhlabeni jikelele ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa) ikhuthaza kabili ngenyanga “Izingxoxo” nge-Focusing professionals emhlabeni wonke. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (UK), usebenza njengosokhaya, futhi ukwenza lokho ngendlela Egxilile kakhulu -ekhombisa, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ivele futhi ithuthuke ngesikhathi sayo.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola izindaba okuxoxwe ngazo njengalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Kukhona okufanele ngabe kwenzekile ukuqhubekisela phambili isimo, futhi akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi ukulimala kuphila emzimbeni.
• Ukuthola isibambo sodlame (ewukhomba) yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ukwazi amaphethini ethu amasiko ajwayelekile udlame.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluxhunyaniswe nokunakekelwa njengendlela yokugwema udlame - kanye nobukhulu bomzimba okungafinyelelwa kukho ngokugxila.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela kodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana nokuphulukisa kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elimangalisayo lokukwenza.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzothola umbono noma emibili engakhuthaza umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho mayelana nodlame, futhi ngizothanda ukuzwa kuwe ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Funda lokhu okufakiwe ngeSpanishi (nakuba inhlolokhono ngokwayo ingeyesiNgisi).

Iqhubeka emgqeni we okufakiwe kwangaphambilini, futhi uhlobene kakhulu naye, ukuqashwa kwami ​​njengelungu le-International Relations ngaphakathi kwebhodi labaqondisi le-Spanish Institute of Focusing, enye ingxenye yokubizela esenzweni okuvele kuyo ukubamba iqhaza kwami ​​eNgqungqutheleni Yokugxila Yamazwe Ngamazwe eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi odlule 2016.

njengoba kuphawuliwe kuleyo posi, ku Ukugxila Institute Spanish siyakuqonda lokho, kanye nesenzo sokufundisa kanye nokuhambisana ne-Focusing ikakhulukazi umuntu ngamunye, ngamunye unesitayela sakhe nokuzwela, futhi njalo ngaphakathi kwenqubo okuvunyelenwe ngayo esidlangalaleni kanye namakhono, Nokho, zonke izenzo zenhlangano kanye nokubamba iqhaza kufanele zivele ezinhlakeni zamaqoqo.

Yingakho ke, ngesikhathi ngimenywa ukuba ngibambe iqhaza IKomidi Lobulungu Le-International Institute of Focusing ezinze eNew York (I-International Focusing Institute), Ngibeke leso sikhundla esandleni se-Spanish Institute of Focusing, ukuze lithathwe yinoma yimuphi umuntu njengommeleli ovela eSpain. Yini engingayimangaza uma ngimenywa ukuba ngibambe iqhaza elixhumene ne-International Relations ngaphakathi kwe ibhodi labaqondisi kanye nokwamukela leso sikhundla samazwe ngamazwe. Ngasamukela isicelo, izinyathelo ezifanele ezihlongozwe emithethweni sezithathiwe futhi ngisanda kuqokwa njengelungu.

Ngijabule kakhulu ukukwazi ukufaka isandla emphakathini we-Focusing eSpain, engithole kuyo okuningi. Kusukela ekuqaleni kokuqeqeshwa kwami ​​ku 2009, Izinsuku Zezwe, isikole sasehlobo, ukugadwa, iDiploma kanye neziqu zomqeqeshi oqinisekisiwe kanye ne-Certified Focusing Counselling Psychotherapist kanye nabo bonke abathintwayo nezimo zokukhula, Impela ngicushwe njengochwepheshe be-Focusing (futhi njengomuntu).

Futhi kulolu chungechunge lwezimemo zesenzo (njengoba lisho Elizabeth Gascón, umxhumanisi wami wokudlulisela, the “isinyathelo sesikhombisa” de Ukugxila: “Futhi konke lokhu kukumemela ini?”), Kimina sengathi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ngifake isandla nakulesi sikhundla, inqobo nje uma umsebenzi wami usewusizo futhi wakha. Kuyinselelo ukusebenza kanye nasekusebenzeleni abantu abaningi engibaziyo, nengcebo ngaphakathi lokho kungibeka esimweni sokuthobeka nokufunda.

Ngakho futhi kulesi sikhundla esisha ngisenkonzweni yakho, ngethemba lokufaka isandla olwazini lwamazwe ngamazwe lwengcebo ye-Focusing esiyenzayo lapha, kanye nokunikela ngemibono neziphakamiso ezivela kwezinye izindawo ezivela kulesi simo sobudlelwano bamazwe ngamazwe.

F. Javier Romeo

Njengoba ngike ngaphawula kwenye iposi, babambe iqhaza ku I-International Focusing Conference eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi odlule 2016 kusho ukuvuleka okuningi okusha, izindlela ezintsha, izindlela ezintsha zokufaka i-Focusing empilweni yami nokwabelana ngayo. ukwazi, futhi ubizela esenzweni.

Kungimangaze kakhulu ukumenywa ukuba ngibe yingxenye yeKomidi Lobulungu (IKomidi Lobulungu) kwe Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke ezinze eNew York (I-International Focusing Institute). Leli komiti liwumgwamanda nje owelulekayo. (ayenzi izinqumo) futhi ngokuyisisekelo yakhiwe amavolontiya, oweluleka izigungu ezilawulayo ngazo zonke izindaba eziphathelene nokuba yilungu leSikhungo: indlela yokuthuthukisa ubulungu, ulenza kanjani inani lakho libonakale, kanjani ukwenza lula ukubamba iqhaza phakathi kwamalungu. Umsebenzi wakho ukubheka amalungu futhi uthole izidingo ezivelayo nezikhala zokusebenzisana. Liyikomidi lamazwe ngamazwe, nemihlangano yenkomfa yevidiyo kanye namathimba omsebenzi athile. Yiqembu elisha kangangokuthi alikabi naso isigaba salo Iwebhusayithi yesikhungo. Futhi mina, ukuthi ngiye ngajabulela izinzuzo zokuba yilungu kusukela ngaleso sikhathi 2010, okokuqala njengoMqeqeshi Ekuqeqesheni, futhi kamuva njengomqeqeshi Oqinisekisiwe (2012) futhi Njengochwepheshe Oqinisekisiwe Wokugxila Ekugxileni Kubo (2014), Ngithola njengelungelo ukukwazi ukufaka isandla kwabanye abantu kanye nesakhiwo seSikhungo.

Kimina kubalulekile ukulandela umugqa womsebenzi we Ukugxila Institute Spanish, lapho sisebenza khona ekuqeqesheni, ukuphelezela noma eminye imikhakha yokuGxila ezingeni ngalinye, kodwa lapho ubudlelwano namanye amaqembu nezinhlangano kunqunywa ngokuhlanganyela. Ngakho-ke, Ngithumele isimemo kuBhodi Labaqondisi be-Spanish Institute of Focusing futhi muva nje ngiphinde ngaqokwa ilungu lobudlelwano bamazwe ngamazwe, ukuze akwazi ukuthatha isikhundla eKomidini Lobulungu.

Ukuze, Sengiqalile ukufunda izincwadi (kuningi okwenziwe esikhathini esingaphezudlwana nje konyaka sokusebenza) futhi ngahlanganyela emhlanganweni. Ngethemba ukuthi ngizoqhubeka nokufaka isandla emhlabeni we-Focusing ngale ndlela. Futhi uma unezincomo noma iziphakamiso mayelana nobulungu be-International Institute of Focusing, ngiyojabula ukubezwa.

Enkonzweni yakho ngendlela entsha,

F. Javier Romeo

Ngiyajabula ukuhlanganyela lesi sihloko lokho The Institute Ukugxilisa ushicilele ku The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, iphephabhuku layo lezemfundo, ngevolumu yayo 25 ye 2014. Iphepha lami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ yavela ekuqaleni kwe 2014 futhi isanda kushicilelwa ngokwedijithali ngokufinyelela kwamahhala kanye nefomethi ye-PDF kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni ye The Ikhasi.

Dawuniloda isihloko ngesiNgisi, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Landa inguqulo ye-Spanish yesihloko, “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Buyekeza ngoFebhuwari 9 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese yesihloko, “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile”, futhi ufunde i indaba yokuhumusha kwayo (ngeSpanishi) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu!

Ngishiya lapha i-abstract:

ABSTRACT

Kokubili Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele (NVC) zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu bathola ukuqonda kanye nezinqubo zabo zangaphakathi ziqhubekela phambili lapho amanye amazwi abo ebonakaliswa.. Ukuzindla kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho kanye nomngane wakho. Futhi ukuzindla kuletha imiphumela ejulile, njengoba izici ezicatshangelwayo ziba khona futhi ziyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele beka ingcindezi ekuboniseni izici ezihlukene zokuxhumana kokuqala. Ukugxila kuyalandela wazizwa emzimbeni njengendlela entsha yokudala incazelo entsha. Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola universal izidingo okuwumongo wazo zonke izenzo zomuntu. Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele kade wawela ngezindlela ezahlukene (ukubuyekezwa okufushane kokuphambana okuthile kuhlolisiswa kuleli phepha). Ukugxila kungathuthukiswa ngokwethula ukuqwashisa okusha ngezidingo, ikakhulukazi uma Ukubuza. Futhi Communication benamathele ingathuthukiswa ukuzwela okusha ezimisweni zokuqala zomuntu -hhayi nje ukuzama "ukuhumusha" yonke into, kodwa futhi nokwazisa ulimi olujwayelekile njengezingathekiso.

Uma zombili izinqubo zihlanganisiwe futhi umngane/umelaphi ubonisa izici zawo womabili amazinga okuqwashisa, umuntu uthola imiphumela efanele njengoba kuvela imiphumela ejulile.

Amagama angukhiye: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC), Uzwela, Bonisa, Crossing.

Kwabakhuluma iSpanishi, ngena kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngeSpanishi.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela futhi ngizokuthanda ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

With injabulo enkulu engimtshela lesi sihloko I eshicilelwe The Institute Ukugxilisa (International Ukugxilisa Institute ezinze eNew York) umthamo 25 elihambisana 2014 of The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, Iphephabhuku official academic. Uvele version iphepha phambilini 2014, Isihloko yami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ It usanda eyanyatheliswa ngesiNgisi ngo ukufinyelela free PDF on the website esemthethweni The Ikhasi.

Download isihloko sokuqala in English, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Version Spanish of Article Thwebula “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Isibuyekezo se- 9 February 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese ye-athikili “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile” futhi ubone umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.

Futhi Ngiphinde ukushiya summary sokuqala:

NGOKUFINGQIWE

Ukugxilisa njengoba bobabili Communication benamathele (CNV) Bathi zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu nokuqonda futhi izinqubo zethu abazenzi phambili lapho sicabanga amanye amazwi. Uxhumano Amandla reflection of the umuntu ngokwakhe nangokuthi angakuthuthukisa ohambisa. Futhi reflection ithwala nemithelela ezijulile kanti izici ngokuphelele evulekile khona zabo siqu futhi waqaphela uyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Bathi ukugcizelela kubonise yizici ezihlukene zokuxhumana original. Ukugxilisa kanje imizwa ngokusuka enhliziyweni emzimbeni njengendlela entsha ukudala nencazelo entsha. The Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola izidingo ecashile human jikelele zonke izenzo zabantu. Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Baye kuhlangene (sawela) ngezindlela ezahlukene (kokubukeza kafushane ezinye inhlanganisela zibhekiwe kulesi sihloko). Ukugxila kungenziwa ahlanganiswe ngokwethula ngiqaphele entsha mayelana nezidingo, ikakhulukazi ngokudlula Buza. Futhi Communication benamathele Ungazi ukukhuthaza uzwela entsha ukuze imigomo original umuntu-hhayi nje uzama "ukuhumusha" yonke, kodwa futhi ekwaziseni ulimi common njengoba isethi izingathekiso.

Lapho izinqubo ezimbili ehlangana futhi lapho isilaleli njengoba umqeqeshi noma owelapha libonakalisa izici omabili emazinga ukwazi, umuntu ufinyelela imiphumela efanele ukuvela anencazelo ejulile.

Keywords: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC) / Communication benamathele (CNV), Uzwela, Reflect, Crossing/Cross / Hlanganisa.

For izikhulumi English, iya le post in English.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela futhi sijabule ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

Ukuthuthukela 26 September 2014:

Ngiye ngajabulela ilungelo version Castilian sihloko yami esisesigabeni page in Spanish Ukugxila Institute of New York (The Institute Ukugxilisa). Thanks! ngibona kakhulu!

Ukuthuthukela 9 February 2017:

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuhumusha kwesiJapane kuka-Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu! Aquí está la umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.

Njengoba ngasho le “Siyakwamukela ku-blog”, umbono wukuthi lokhu blog ufuna ukukhonza njengephayona onalo izinsiza, ukuze zonke izinto neziphakamiso bakhonza ukwakha Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic nabanye kanye nezwe lethu elingaphakathi. Njengoba kuzoba ezihlukahlukene ngokwanele, Ngifuna ukuchaza lapha amalebula ezahlukene ukuthi Ngizosebenzisa zokuhlukanisa okufakiwe.

• CNV: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngokucacile noma lokho okubonakala sengathi kuyilo kimi ukuthi Nginayo “CNV consciencia”.
• Textos CNV: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukuxhumana benamathele.
• Ukugxilisa: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukugxilisa noma into efana nalokho kakhulu.
• Ukugxilisa en Madrid: ziqoqe nemiklamo Madrid ku Ukugxilisa Area (isibonelo, Miraflores de la Sierra, ihora kusuka Madrid).
• Textos Ukugxilisa: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukugxilisa.
• CI ohlobo lwe: okufakiwe ezihlobene eduze umsebenzi wami Spiral Consulting Izingane ezindabeni affectivity, Ukuvikelwa kanye ekuchumana, futhi ngifuna futhi ubheke kule blog.
• Ezenye imibhalo: zikhona izincwadi, izihloko kanye imibhalo, ngaphandle kokuba ngokucacile kunoma yiziphi eyala ezihlongozwayo, Sinenkosi ziyezwana jikelele kanye value okuholela kimi ukukhuluma ngabo kule blog.
• Webs: amakhasi ewebhu, ibhulogi nezisetshenziswa inthanethi.
• Imiqophi: amavidiyo jikelele, kuhlangene nezinye amalebula ezidinga ekuqukethe.
• Movies: emadokhumenthari namafilimu, kokubili ezisekelwe emaqinisweni real nasezindabeni eziqanjiwe, I kubonakala olufanele ukuzwela ukuthi ngifuna ukuthuthukisa le blog.
• Indaba: inoveli (futhi izindaba nezincwadi zezingane) sisinikeze ithuba lokusho unambithe uzwela nge Ukuxhumana benamathele kanye Ukugxilisa.
• Okuhlangenwe Nakho: Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kusilethela lezimanga, nakho ezenza kithi uhlaziye izinto eziza kuqala kithi noma uqinisekise intuitions yethu, futhi lezo zenzakalo bazohlangana ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko.
• Ukuze izingane: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nezingane.
• For Teens: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nge intsha.
• Agenda langempela futhi Alondoloziwe Agenda: lidlulisele zokwakheka avaliwe kakhulu namaqembu ihlelwe, kodwa ezimweni ezingandile lapho ngivula i zokwakheka kuzithameli ezijwayelekile noma ethize hang nabo lezi amalebula, “Agenda langempela” ngenkathi iye aluphelanga futhi “Alondoloziwe Agenda” lapho sekuvele sekudlule usuku lomcimbi, kodwa irekhodi futhi ungabona kwemigomo zokwakheka ukuthi engikufundisayo.

Njengoba ubona, izigaba eziningi Ziyathandelana. Into ezithakazelisayo wukuthi wonke umuntu angakwazi uhlole, uthole ukuthi kube nosizo nehuha. Futhi kuyoba nabanye niyozenezelelwa.

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