Umbhalo ngeSpanishi – IsiJapane – Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde ngesiNgisi

The I-International Focusing Conference eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ngoJulayi 2016 iqhubeka ithela izithelo.

Namuhla nginelungelo lokwethula ukuhunyushwa kwesihloko sami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile” (kuvele phakathi 2014 e The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy) ku-japanese, ngesihloko esiyela ngasocansini “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Kumithelela Ejulile-“.

Con Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

E-Cambridge ngathola injabulo yokuhlangana noMadoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), i-psychotherapist enokuqeqeshwa ku-Focusing owayeqale ukuhunyushwa kwesihloko esikhathini esidlule, futhi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Umdidiyeli Wokugxila owaziwayo, ojoyine iphrojekthi yokuhumusha esigabeni sayo sokugcina. Izingxoxo zethu zalowo mhlangano zenze umsebenzi waqhubekela phambili, futhi manje kukhona lokhu kuhumusha ngokucophelela okutholakala kuwebhusayithi ye Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), futhi engikhiqiza lapha ngemvume yakhe.

Kusukela lapha ngifuna ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kwami ​​okujulile ngomzamo nokuzinikela kwabo (kube nama-imeyili amaningi emuva naphambili ukuze acacise imiqondo nemigomo) ukuze lesi sici sokuGxila saziwe phakathi kodokotela nochwepheshe abaningi be-Focusing in Japan..

ekubongeni okujulileyo,

Javier

IsiJapane

Ingqungquthela ye-27th International Focusing Conference eCambridge (UK)amazinyo、Ukuletha imiphumela enothile。

manje、I、iphepha"Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Emithelela Ejulile-"("Ijenali Yezemfundo Yokugxila Nokuthola Inqubo Yokwelapha"The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential TherapyUmqulu 25, No. 1、2014Ngihlonishwa ngokuthi (ishicilelwe ngonyaka) yahunyushelwa olimini lwesiJapane.。

UMnu. Kawahara

E-Cambridge、Umeluleki u-En Kawahara oqeqeshelwa i-Focusing、Ngibe nokuhlangana okujabulisayo noNkz. Mako Hikasa, Umdidiyeli Wokugxila Oqinisekisiwe owaziwa kakhulu.。Ngoba、UMnu. Kawahara usevele esebenza kulokhu kuhumusha、Futhi esigabeni sokugcina sephrojekthi、Mako HikasaUjoyinile。Ngemva kwengqungquthela yamazwe ngamazwe、Sihlala sithintana ukuze siqedele ukuhumusha、Futhi manje、Ukuhunyushwa okuqondile kwesi-Japanese kuqediwe。lokhu、Iwebhusayithi yeJapan Focusing AssociationUngafunda ku。Kusuka kunhlangano、Ngithole imvume yokuthumela isixhumanisi。

Nginentshisekelo kwintshisekelo yabo kanye nomdlandla、Ngibonga ngokujulile。Ukucacisa imiqondo nama-nuances、Ukuhwebelana kwama-imeyili njalo。Kubaqeqeshi nabasebenzi abaningi Abagxilile abagunyaziwe e-Japan、Ngoba kuyithuba lokwazi lesi sici se-Focusing.。

Ngokubonga

Javier

Umbhalo wesiNgisi

I-International Focusing Conference 2016 eCambridge (i-United Kingdom) ilokhu iletha izithelo ezengeziwe.

Manje nginelungelo lokwethula isihloko sami “Ukugxila Okuwela kanye Nokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame: Ukucabangela Imithelela Ejulile”, okwavela ku The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy phakathi 2014, ihunyushwe ngesiJapane ngesihloko “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela Kumithelela Ejulile-“.

With Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen).

E-Cambridge ngathola injabulo yokuhlangana noMadoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen), isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esiqeqeshwe ku-Focusing owayesevele waqala ukuhumusha esikhathini esithile esidlule, futhi Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa), Umxhumanisi Wokugxila owaziwayo ojoyine iphrojekthi ezigabeni zayo zokugcina. Izingxoxo esibe nazo ngemuva kwalokho ziphothule umsebenzi, futhi manje sinalokhu kuhumusha okunembayo, etholakala kuwebhusayithi ye Japan Focusing Association (Japan Focusing Association), kukhiqizwa lapha ngemvume.

Ngifuna ukuzwakalisa ukubonga kwami ​​okukhulu ngentshisekelo yabo nokuzikhandla kwabo –kube nama-imeyili amaningi ukuze acacise imibono nama-nuances– ukwenza kwenzeke ukuthi lesi sici sokuGxila saziwe phakathi kochwepheshe abaningi Abagxilile kanye nabasebenzi baseJapan.

Ekubongeni,

Javier

I-ANSEMBOURG, Thomas. Yekani nice; Yiba eyiqiniso! edition wafanekisa. I-courier yokulethwa, 2015.

Thomas d'Ansembourg Kuyireferensi yamazwe ngamazwe ku Ukuxhumana benamathele (kanye nereferensi yomuntu siqu kimi, kusukela ukuqeqeshwa kwami ​​​​ku-NVC kwaqala ngaye futhi kwajula ngokuphelezelwa kwakhe). Manje uhlanganyela ukuqonda kwakhe okujulile kwemvelo yomuntu kanye nombono wakhe onozwela wokungqubuzana enguqulweni enezithombe ngokugcwele. (empeleni ngefomethi yamahlaya) yencwadi yakhe yokuqala, Yekani nice; Yiba eyiqiniso!, umthengisi kanye nensiza engashi yokucabanga.

kule ncwadi encane, ngemifanekiso yakhe U-Alexis Nouailhat, elula kangaka futhi esikisela, UThomas d'Ansembourg uxoxa indaba yakhe siqu (Isahluko 1, “Ubani lomfana?”), ihlaziya ngokuhlekisa nangokucacile ezinye zezinkinga eziyisisekelo esibhekana nazo njengabantu (Isahluko 2, “Ingabe ufuna ukuphuma izingibe?”) futhi uhlongoza “Eminye imibono ye-Nonviolent Communication” (Isahluko 3) ukuqala ukuguqula ukwazi kwethu (futhi ngalokho siguqule ubudlelwano bethu kanye nempilo yethu), futhi uvale ngempumelelo “Iziphetho”.

Ngamahlaya kanye nokulula okusobala, le ncwadi isisiza ukuba sinake ekuphileni kwethu, ngobukhona obukhulu namandla okuguqula. Kuyinjabulo ukushicilelwa koHlelo lweMensajero, futhi kungenzeka bona isampula yethebula lokuqukethwe neminye imifanekiso kuwebhusayithi yabo.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela kakhulu ngendlela mina.

Javier

Kule mpelasonto ngaba udumo iqhaza I Congress ngokomzwelo Navarra Ezemfundo, ihlelwe abazali kwakheka. Kwakuthinta inkomfa ihlelwe ngesithakazelo esikhulu, ngokukhulu ukucophelela futhi umthamo esihle sesibindi. isethulo wami kwaba ezimayelana “imfundo affective ukuthi zivikela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi”, omunye izindikimba ezisebenza kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, ka engiyakhayo ilungu owasungula. Kodwa ekugcineni kube khona ingxoxo panel ngemibuzo ngoba bonke abakhuluma, sase ukwabelana Luhlolokulinganisa Sonsoles Echevarren, intatheli kusukela Diario de Navarra. Bekusikhathi kakhulu, futhi nakuba imibuzo ayebhekiswe isikhulumi ngasinye, ekupheleni babebaningi lapho sihlanganyela eziningana. Kulo mongo kwaphakama umbuzo kakhulu, “Wenzenjani ulalele ingane owenqaba ukuhamba kwepaki?”. izimpendulo ezithakazelisayo futhi abalulekile banikwa, futhi mina baletha umnikelo wami: “Listening yebo’ ku 'cha'”.

Rescue kule blog ngoba sihloko yami 'Lalela “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘, okuyinto yanyatheliswa inombolo 52 (Januwari 2011) umagazini ekhoneni yethu 0-6, enyatheliswa Accent (Aqhubeke ayisekho ukukhulula izinombolo, nakuba isatholakala). Lesi senzakalo sihloko ngokunabile ukuthi Nga- ngibatshela bese: lapho umuntu (futhi umfana noma intombazane futhi umuntu) idayisi “kungekho”, Uthi “yebo” izinto eziningi, futhi uma silalela wonke umlayezo, Singenza uxhumano ezijulile sithole nesisombululo egculisayo zonke izinhlangothi. Isihloko iqala:

unina, iminyaka emibili nengxenye, Akathandi elingenamikhono wakhe ukuya ngaphandle. uJosé, iminyaka emine, Awufuni ukulahlekelwa jika ukuya ekhaya. Irene, iminyaka emihlanu, Akafuni ukuya ukulala. Kungani lezi zinto ukuthi njengoba abadala sesiqala kahle ezinengqondo?

Futhi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo? ¿Thina ukuhoxa abenze noma yini abayifunayo? Ngemva kwalokho siba ezimbi ngoba asisebenzi nemfundo, futhi lokho kusinika umuzwa kokushiya eceleni kulokho esingakufeza njengabantu abantu futhi ufuna. Ungathanda ukubaphoqa ukuba lokho esikufunayo? Khona-ke siye yibhange ingxoxo futhi imvelo ezimbi isikhathi eside, eside futhi sifundisa ukuthi ekugcineni into ebalulekile ukuba namandla noma amandla, nokuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano kusebenza kuphela uma ibuthakathaka. Ngolwazi lwami yemisindvo kukhona indlela yesithathu, esekelwe zokuxhumana ajulile kulezi zimo. Futhi elinye lamakhono ukuthi ithuthukiswe amashabhu mina lula yikhono ulalele lokho abakushoyo “yebo” izingane zethu uma bethi “kungekho”.

Download isihloko full “ulalele “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘

Ithemba kuthakazelisa.

Javier

Kuleliviki leliphelile 12 futhi 13 September 2015 Ngiye ngajabulela ilungelo sajabulela ukusebenza futhi Bridget Belgrave. Njengoba ngishilo kule post, ngahlangana Bridget Belgrave futhi Gina Lawrie, Ukwakha Certified Center for Communication benamathele (Center for Communication benamathele, Nceku), e 2009 futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi saqala ukusebenza ndawonye ukuhumusha Dance Floors CNV the Castilian. ekugcineni izinguqulo Kuqediwe wabona ukukhanya 2014, nabathile ama engokomfanekiso ukuthi ingabonwa Ngenza lokhu entry for release. The Association for Communication benamathele Kuye ihlelwe uchungechunge zokuqeqesha in Madrid, Bilbao futhi Barcelona ngesikhathi September 2015, futhi mina-ke Bekulokhu kuyinjabulo enkulu ukusebenza futhi nge Bridget Belgrave yithimba ukuhumusha kusuka esiNgisini Castilia kanye noHezekeli.

Ekulungiseleleni workshop ngiye ngamukela isikhathi ukuze ubuyekeze zonke izinto nginoMoya Dance Floors CNV futhi Bridget ikakhulukazi. Nasekwaziseni zonke izinto, ngasinye umcebo walo, ukhona ofunayo namanje intandokazi yami. Eqinisweni, Bridget wangimemela ukuze ngibonisane nabo ngombono wami ngesikhathi esithile se-workshop, nami kwenzeka ukudlulisa isincomo sami futhi kule blog.

I embuzweni kuphela ngesiNgisi hhayi nayo imibhalo izinguqulo etholakalayo, kodwa ngithemba ukuthi alimelene asondele kuye. “Xhuma nge Inhlonipho” (“Xhuma ukuhlonipha”, ngokwezwi nezwi ehunyushwa ngokuthi zibe Castilia) is a impahla multimedia nokubhalisa iphrojekthi owenza Bridget Belgrave 2004 nge 21 intsha kanye nabantu abadala abasha nge Isilinganiso sobudala nesikhombisa. Iphrojekthi ehlongozwayo njengenhlangano kokungenela ukuqeqesha abafana namantombazane ezimweni nobunzima nomphakathi Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngaphakathi kohlaka workshop ukwakha isigqi ezisemadolobheni, kwaphela amasonto ayishumi anzima.

Kungani ukuncoma? Nasi isifinyezo izizathu zami:

• DVD ne ifilimu, of 25 iminithi. Ukuqoqa izikhathi ukhiye yephrojekthi, kokubili esalotshwa abaqeqeshi abathathu njengoba abantu abasha ngokwabo, futhi ukuhlelwa ngekubambisana nabo. Eqinisweni, njengoba atshela engxenyeni, yokuthi ufunde amaseshini odlule eyabasiza zonke bati ngaphezulu emfundvweni yabo ukuthola ukuziphatha adecuasen kangcono izidingo wonke umuntu. Kuyinto idokhumenti ingcaca evumela baba ubuso (nemisindo) nezimo ezihlukene, futhi sisivumela ukuthi ukucabanga ukuthi ungakusebenzisa kanjani kwezinye izingqikithi.

• Ividiyo kulekelelwa ne ngxenye yencwadi yesibili, “Umhlahlandlela Film” (“Qondisa befilimu”), lapho ukulandelana by ukulandelana okuxoxwe konke okwenzekayo: isimo ngasinye, wafundisa Ukuxhumana kanjani benamathele, izikhathi Practice, zezimpi yangempela ukuthi kuphakama… Lokhu kuzokwenza uqonde kangcono ngenjongo yomsebenzi ngamunye futhi kobunzima futhi kanjani they ayebhekiswe.

• Futhi okwesithathu incwadi equkethe uhlelo oluphelele, amasonto ayishumi nazo zonke izivivinyo zalo enemininingwane futhi zonke izinto futhi typeset (isiZulu), kanye zokuhlanganisa i-CD-ROM ifayela ye impahla ngayinye PDF ukulungele uzitholele. Ngokusobala ividiyo akusho ukuqoqa wonke umzimba, ngakho-ke kubalulekile kakhulu ukubona umsebenzi inchubekelembili emsebenzini, benethuba ukuzandisa.

• Ukutholakala ukuhunyushwa lokho Dance phansi uqobo ukuze Castilia, ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi “Ukuhlonipha Me, Ukuhlonipha You”, ngaphakathi ephelele iphakheji Dance Floor.
• Futhi isixwayiso Bridget Belgrave hhayi ukuzama iphrojekthi yale isitayela ngaphandle ngesandla esisodwa ingemuva eqinile kanye nesipiliyoni Ukuxhumana benamathele, kanti okwesibili i team zemfundo nabanye ngesisekelo CNV futhi enolwazi olukhulu ukusebenza izingane. Engizenzileyo ezinye zalezi umzimba nge intsha kanye intsha engozini e Madrid futhi kwahamba kahle, ngakho mina am etholakalayo.

kafushane, a impahla engabiza ababonayo, funda, uphindza afundze kanye nokuqalisa. Futhi ungakwazi ukuthenga esitolo inthanethi, Life Resources.

Futhi uma ufuna ukucaciseleka okwengeziwe, ungabiza kimi efonini yami contact futhi nixoxe okufunayo.

Ngithemba ukuthi ngokushesha sizoba amaphrojekthi ngaphezulu lolu hlobo lana!

Javier

“Ngokusho umuzwa wami, Umkhuba wokusebenzelana benamathele Ukuxhumana abantwana ngaphezulu Kuxhomeke ekutheni yini okwenzekayo ngaphakathi kimi wokuHlinzekwa kanjani ngikhuluma ngokwami ​​ngalokho okwenzekayo nge mina kanye lendodana yami ukuxoxisana. Nokho, Futhi ngifuna ukubuchaza ngamazwi ukuqonda kwami ​​okwenzekayo kokubili, okungenani ingxenye isikhathi, ngisho uma ngicabanga ingane yami akaqondi ulimi, ngoba uyangisiza ukuxhumana imizwa nezidingo kokubili. ukuthi, ithuba, kusiza kwehlisa umoya wami futhi uthole amasu ukuthi ezingase ziphumelele kokubili. Futhi ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngoba ngicabanga lokhu kuyindlela bafundze lulwimi kanye nekukwati kufundza nekubhala ngokomzwelo.” (Inbal Kashtan, Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni, ikhasi 38)

Lapho abantu abathintekayo ekuchumana workshop yami zokuxhumana babe namadodana noma amadodakazi enisezweni ebuntwaneni noma usakhula, noma basebenze ndawonye nalabo ubudala, ngokuvamile kuphakama “yebo, Lokhu indlela zokuxhumana kahle phakathi abadala, kodwa ukuze ubone ukuthi ngithi yami ingane / nomshana / umfundi / goddaughter…”. Uma isikhathi sivuma, thina zifundiseni bekhulumisana nezingane ekuqeqesheni, kodwa ngokuvamile Angikwazi kuphela kubonise iziphakamiso kungenzeka futhi ukuhlola. Thina manje sesinesisetshenziswa entsha, esikuvumela ukuxhumana nomndeni kwenye ezingeni. Lena akuyona kuphela yokuxazulula izingxabano (futhi), kodwa ukudala eyiqiniso ngaphezulu uhlobo loxhumano, ezijulile nonamandla, ukuthi ilungiselela izingane ezingaphezu resiliently ukuphila.

Nale ukuzwela Inbal Kashtan abhala ngaso incwadi yakhe Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Yaba izipho kobubele, uxhumano kanye nokuzikhethela, eshicilelwe ngonyaka odlule Castilian ngu Acanto Editorial. Inbal Kashtan, ukwakha Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kumma, led iminyaka umsebenzi benamathele Ukuxhumana emkhayeni, ikakhulukazi nabazali maqondana nezingane zabo. Inbal eshona ngo-September 2014, kodwa igalelo lakhe uyaqhubeka baynvc (inhlangano disseminates benamathele Ukuxhumana kusukela San Francisco Bay, California, okuyinto azibonela yona omunye wabasunguli) nemibhalo (Ngaphezu le ncwadi, Ungafunda ezinye izihloko zakhe mayelana zokuxhumana umndeni ngesiNgisi baynvc). Le blog futhi noma ubani ofuna ukuba yokubonga wena intela ukuze asindise ukuphila kwakhe futhi umsebenzi.

I batusa le ncwadi kokubili labo abeza okokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kulabo abafuna ukuba sijulise umkhuba wabo nezingane. Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier

izingxabano Iningi zingalungiswa ngendlela egculisayo futhi inzuzo yabo bonke abathintekayo, enikeziwe izinsiza futhi isikhathi esingakanani okufanele usichithe. Yilokho okwenzeka yami yemisindvo zeminyaka ukufunda, kutilolonga okuxhunyanwa Ukuxhumana benamathele. Kuyinto eziyisisekelo ngakho (akulula) njengoba izimo ezidingekile ukuthi isinqumo kwenzeka. Kimi kukhona izakhi eziningana ezibalulekile, okungase ngokufingqiwe okulandelayo:

• An indlela efanele, ukuvumela bonke labo abathintekayo uzizwe silondekile futhi sihloniphana njengomkhaya amalungelo abo.
• ochwepheshe Experiential nge ukuqeqeshwa e Ukulamula ukulalela ezijulile amakhono kanye “translation” imiyalezo ukuze kube lula ukuzwa wonke umuntu.
• Umphakathi esekela izinqubo okubuyisela, isikhathi ukunikelwa, izikhala, Manpower, ukuqeqeshwa…
• Abantu uzimisele ukuxazulula izingxabano ngendlela ekugcineni wonke amaqembu bazizwe wezwa nokuthi wonke amaqembu ushiye aneliseke isixazululo.

Ngakho mina kuyathokozisa ukwabelana izinsiza akhiwa nomphakathi omkhulu nakubantu basendaweni esihlala kuyo kuthiwa Gotleu Palma de Mallorca (Mallorca), ngoba ukuqoqa indlela basebenza ngasinye salezi zici.

Kule video ungabona indlela eziye abathintekayo, i-nalomsebenzi Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye Impumelelo School (the Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye School Impumelelo Castilian) Uhulumeni we-Balearic Islands, kusuka othisha ezikoleni Imfundo yezingane, Primary kanye yesibili, abafundi babo bonke ubudala, imindeni, Nezenhlalakahle, amaphoyisa, University kanye namanye amaqembu abalulekile nomphakathi. Ngo ingxube amazwi, Senza kithi umqondo nakho yokudala ukuthi ukuphepha inethiwekhi endaweni emphakathini sengozini, futhi sibona imiphumela.

Ukuze uthole umbono ehlelekile ngaphezulu, Kuyinto ukushicilelwa eqoqa eziyisisekelo. Kushicilelwe ku-Catalan, Castilia nesiNgisi ngaphakathi kohlaka iphrojekthi European ngale ndaba, le Umhlahlandlela ngcono nokuhlalisana kanye Imikhuba bokubuyisana / Guide Mejoramos nokuhlalisana kanye nemikhuba okubuyisela Kutfutfukisa izici ezincwadini Imikhuba bokubuyisana, idatha eqondile inikeza izibonelo ukhonkolo kanye iziphakamiso Ngokufuna okuzayo ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi.

Futhi ukuba sijulise emibuthanweni okubuyisela, umkhuba nengxabano ludabuka ezindaweni ubukhulu nomphakathi Ukuxhumana benamathele, Ungafunda wokulandisa ezithakazelisayo Bokubuyisana Imikhuba Justice. Imibuthano bokubuyisana nendlela osebenza ngayo emikhakheni ehlukahlukene, elotshwe yiKhomishani UVenç Rul·lan, nomqeqeshi ngubani ngijabulela lokuhlangana, kuvidiyo kanye Umhlahlandlela, futhi nguye ilungu Association of Justice futhi bokubuyisana Imikhuba Islands (nekhasi Castilia futhi Catalan, ngezisetshenziswa eziningana). A isingeniso esihle, ukuze kuqhutshekwe sijulise nalolu hlobo locingo. Futhi ungakwazi futhi ubuke amavidiyo (isiZulu) kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni umdali imibuthano okubuyisela, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Ngubani okwenzile ukuqeqeshwa okuthile ekuchumana nami oyibonile Ngivame ukusho le nkinga ye Imikhuba bokubuyisana. Ngithemba kulezi kancane kangcono ukufanekisa ukuthi yini abezwile nami ithemba ukuthi ukuvusa lokusungula wakho nomcabango yakho ukuze uqhubeke ukuthola izindlela ikhiqize kakhudlwana ezijulile yokuxazulula izingxabano imvelo zemfundo, futhi iyiphi enye indawo.

Javier

Kube yizinsuku ezimbalwa ezihamba phambili phakathi kwethu esiwaziyo futhi esiwenza Ukuxhumana benamathele. UMarshall B. Rosenberg, umdali we-Nonviolent Communication, okwedlule kudlulile 7 February 2015 eminyakeni yobudala 80 iminyaka (sigubhe usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule kule post), futhi thina ebesimazi futhi ngokujwayelekile nalabo abafunde imodeli yakhe benza into asifundisa yona: sigubhe izehlakalo ezihlangabezane nezidingo zethu futhi zisivumele ukuthi sililele izehlakalo ezishiye izidingo zethu zingafezeki.

Ngaba nenjabulo yokuqeqeshwa naye phakathi nezinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye Zokuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe, IIT) Switzerland ngoJulayi no-August 2008. Kusukela kulokho kwakheka isithombe enginaso noMarshall nomkakhe uValentina, ngomfanekiso ongeziwe wokuba khona kwabafana ababili abangabonakali nentombazane ngemuva, okuhlobene nesikhuthazo uMarshall anginikeza sona emsebenzini wami nezingane, futhi intsha (funda imininingwane eyengeziwe ekungeneni kokuqala).

Ngalezi zinsuku, lapho ngifunde khona imilayezo ehlukene kanye nezikhumbuzo ezenzeke emphakathini wezokuXhumana Okungenalo Udlame., Ngiphinde ngathatha ithuba lokuphinda ngifunde amanothi engangihlala naye ngalezo zinsuku (kanye nenkampani yabanye abaqeqeshi kanye nabanye ababambiqhaza). Futhi kamuva kuyoba yisikhathi sokufunda kabusha yonke imisebenzi yakhe, njengendlela yokuvuselela nokuhlonipha umsebenzi wabo.

UMarshall Rosenberg wasebenzela ukudala umhlaba onobuntu, ukuthola izici zokuphila nokukhula ngisho nasezenzweni ezingaqondakali kakhulu. Inkulumo yakhe eyisisekelo ithi “Udlame luwukubonakaliswa okudabukisayo kwezidingo ezingafezeki”, nendlela yakhe, Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame, indlela yokulalela nokwenza kabusha izinkulumo kuze kutholakale izixazululo lapho zonke izinhlangothi ziwina khona.

Ukugcizelela kukaMarshall izinguquko kwezenhlalo kuyangicebisa ngokukhethekile., wayengafuni Ukukhulumisana Okungenalo Ubudlova ukusiza abantu bahlale bezolile ngempilo yabo. Umsebenzi uqala ngaphakathi komuntu ngamunye, kodwa ayikwazi ukuhlala lapho, kufanele ifinyelele ezakhiweni ezahlukene (ezomnotho, social, ezombusazwe, ezemfundo…) futhi uziguqule ngokuzenza zibe ngumuntu. Njengoba yena ngokwakhe esitshela eSwitzerland: “Isenzo sethu sifana nesomuntu obona ingane iwe empophomeni ayisindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise, futhi ubone omunye futhi umsindise… Kwesinye isikhathi kuzoba lula kulowo muntu ukuthi acabangele ukuthi ngubani ojikijela izingane futhi agibele impophoma ukuze ayigweme.”.

Ngaphandle komsebenzi wakhe obhaliwe (engaphezu kweshumi izincwadi, phakathi kwazo Ukuxhumana benamathele. Ukuphila ulimi) namavidiyo nokuqoshwa workshop yabo nezingoma zawo, Amaqabunga Marshall zazakha Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele), ngomlando wamashumi eminyaka wokusebenza, nokuthi ibisebenza ngaphandle kwakhe kule minyaka edlule. Ubuye ashiye amakhulu abaqeqeshi abaqinisekisiwe ukuze imodeli yakhe iqhubeke isakazwa ngokwethembeka kanye namashumi ezinkulungwane zabasebenzi abazama ukukhanyisa izingxabano zethu zansuku zonke.. Kuyinto yokugubha.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukudlula kwakhe kushiya isikhala. Ukwazi ukuthi ushone emzini wakhe ephelezelwa umkakhe uValentina nezingane zabo kuyinduduzo encane. Siyazi ukuthi ngeke sisakubona umele izimo zokungqubuzana ezintsha, ukuthi ngeke sizwe ingoma entsha, lokho ngeke kubhale izincwadi ezintsha. Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho, kusele kuphela ukwamukela ngozwela ubuhlungu nokudabuka okuvelayo.

Ngokuhlanganisa kuphela ukuzizwisa okuphelele lapho singaqhubekela khona ngokugcwele, ukuhlanganisa lokho okwamukelwe kuMarshall nokufuna, umzuzu nomzuzu, ungayibuyekeza kanjani ngendlela enothisa wonke umuntu.

Emkhosini nasekulileni,

Javier

CNV dancefloors kakade uvele version Castilian, lapho engisebenza, futhi iyatholakala kumavidiyo Spanish ezansi.

Bridget Belgrave futhi Gina Lawrie, Ukwakha Certified Center for Communication benamathele (Center for Communication benamathele, Nceku), Kwase kuyiminyaka eminingi wadala ithuluzi omkhulu futhi zikwenze Ukuxhumana benamathele (CNV). Njengoba bona ngokwabo babe e Ukuhanjiswa, le Dance Floors CNV (NVC Dance Phansi) Bona sekukhona ngokusebenzisa uchungechunge izinyathelo lula umkhuba wokusebenzisa benamathele Ukuxhumana nge amabalazwe ngekwendzawo ezikuvumela ukuba usebenzise ubukhulu umzimba ukusebenza nobukhulu ngokomzwelo, indlela ozibona le vidiyo:

ehlobo 2009 Mina sajabulela formarme nge Gina futhi ukuhlangabezana Bridget, futhi ukusuka lapho umsebenzi wokuhumusha futhi lithathelwe waphindiselwa Castilia, umzamo lapho siye sasiza abantu abaningi futhi ngiye esihlelwe isikhashana. Ngakho-ke kuyinjabulo ukusakaza ithuluzi elula kodwa ngakho ngokujulile, ekugcineni in Spanish, lapho siyabakhathalela ukufaka inani elikhulu kunawo kungenzeka version-Spanish.

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​ukuthi Dance Floors CNV abantu bangazijayeza nje ulwazi ambalwa kokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele (Eqinisweni ngiyisebenzisa ngezinye izikhathi workshop ezethula). Ngisho nabantu abangamazi inqubo ngokwalo Ukuxhumana benamathele (izingane, futhi intsha, amaklayenti therapy) Abakwazi kalula ukuwela ngayo usizo kothile abanolwazi kakhudlwana.

Dancefloors CNV hlanganisa ezibukwayo, ukhoporali nezezilimi, ukuze nakho kwenzeka ngokusebenzisa ezinye iziteshi nesipiliyoni lishonile. Futhi kukhona eziyisishiyagalolunye “nemidanso” ezahlukene, anamagama ezifana “Dance of 13 izinyathelo”, “Dance Kuhlanganiswa nekusetjentiswa Uxhumano”, “Dance Lolaka / Rage, Shame Nokucindezeleka”, “Dance of uyebo kanye noqhabo”, le “Guqula yobuhlungu izidingo unmet e Nobuhle Izidingo”.

futhi, e 2013 bakhipha abanye amavidiyo achaza ezintathu zalezi nemidanso, iwuhlelo ngokucophelela ukuthi kuhlanganisa imibhalo engezansi Spanish.

Uma ufuna ukuthenga CNV Dancefloor ngetakhiwo letehlukene (njengoba thwebula-PDF, iphepha, okufushane plasticized…) nama-DVD ukuze ufunde nabo ekhaya noma eqenjini umkhuba, ungavakashela esitolo inthanethi, Life Resources.

Futhi uma ufuna ukubala baragele phambili kimi ukuzama Dancefloor esidakayo zilandelana noma workshop ethize, Ngiyojabula ukuba ahambe.

Ithemba oyithandayo.

Javier

Ngiyajabula ukuhlanganyela lesi sihloko lokho The Institute Ukugxilisa ushicilele ku The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, iphephabhuku layo lezemfundo, ngevolumu yayo 25 ye 2014. Iphepha lami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ yavela ekuqaleni kwe 2014 futhi isanda kushicilelwa ngokwedijithali ngokufinyelela kwamahhala kanye nefomethi ye-PDF kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni ye The Ikhasi.

Dawuniloda isihloko ngesiNgisi, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Landa inguqulo ye-Spanish yesihloko, “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Buyekeza ngoFebhuwari 9 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese yesihloko, “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile”, futhi ufunde i indaba yokuhumusha kwayo (ngeSpanishi) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu!

Ngishiya lapha i-abstract:

ABSTRACT

Kokubili Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele (NVC) zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu bathola ukuqonda kanye nezinqubo zabo zangaphakathi ziqhubekela phambili lapho amanye amazwi abo ebonakaliswa.. Ukuzindla kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho kanye nomngane wakho. Futhi ukuzindla kuletha imiphumela ejulile, njengoba izici ezicatshangelwayo ziba khona futhi ziyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele beka ingcindezi ekuboniseni izici ezihlukene zokuxhumana kokuqala. Ukugxila kuyalandela wazizwa emzimbeni njengendlela entsha yokudala incazelo entsha. Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola universal izidingo okuwumongo wazo zonke izenzo zomuntu. Ukugxila kanye Communication benamathele kade wawela ngezindlela ezahlukene (ukubuyekezwa okufushane kokuphambana okuthile kuhlolisiswa kuleli phepha). Ukugxila kungathuthukiswa ngokwethula ukuqwashisa okusha ngezidingo, ikakhulukazi uma Ukubuza. Futhi Communication benamathele ingathuthukiswa ukuzwela okusha ezimisweni zokuqala zomuntu -hhayi nje ukuzama "ukuhumusha" yonke into, kodwa futhi nokwazisa ulimi olujwayelekile njengezingathekiso.

Uma zombili izinqubo zihlanganisiwe futhi umngane/umelaphi ubonisa izici zawo womabili amazinga okuqwashisa, umuntu uthola imiphumela efanele njengoba kuvela imiphumela ejulile.

Amagama angukhiye: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC), Uzwela, Bonisa, Crossing.

Kwabakhuluma iSpanishi, ngena kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngeSpanishi.

Ngethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela futhi ngizokuthanda ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

With injabulo enkulu engimtshela lesi sihloko I eshicilelwe The Institute Ukugxilisa (International Ukugxilisa Institute ezinze eNew York) umthamo 25 elihambisana 2014 of The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, Iphephabhuku official academic. Uvele version iphepha phambilini 2014, Isihloko yami “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile“ It usanda eyanyatheliswa ngesiNgisi ngo ukufinyelela free PDF on the website esemthethweni The Ikhasi.

Download isihloko sokuqala in English, “Crossing Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele. Ukucabanga for lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

Version Spanish of Article Thwebula “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele. Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

[Isibuyekezo se- 9 February 2017] Landa inguqulo yesi-Japanese ye-athikili “Ukuphambana Kwezokuxhumana Okugxilile Nokungenalo Udlame-Buyela emiphumeleni ejulile” futhi ubone umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.

Futhi Ngiphinde ukushiya summary sokuqala:

NGOKUFINGQIWE

Ukugxilisa njengoba bobabili Communication benamathele (CNV) Bathi zisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu nokuqonda futhi izinqubo zethu abazenzi phambili lapho sicabanga amanye amazwi. Uxhumano Amandla reflection of the umuntu ngokwakhe nangokuthi angakuthuthukisa ohambisa. Futhi reflection ithwala nemithelela ezijulile kanti izici ngokuphelele evulekile khona zabo siqu futhi waqaphela uyaqaphela.

Nokho, Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Bathi ukugcizelela kubonise yizici ezihlukene zokuxhumana original. Ukugxilisa kanje imizwa ngokusuka enhliziyweni emzimbeni njengendlela entsha ukudala nencazelo entsha. The Communication benamathele uzama ukuthola izidingo ecashile human jikelele zonke izenzo zabantu. Ukugxilisa futhi Communication benamathele Baye kuhlangene (sawela) ngezindlela ezahlukene (kokubukeza kafushane ezinye inhlanganisela zibhekiwe kulesi sihloko). Ukugxila kungenziwa ahlanganiswe ngokwethula ngiqaphele entsha mayelana nezidingo, ikakhulukazi ngokudlula Buza. Futhi Communication benamathele Ungazi ukukhuthaza uzwela entsha ukuze imigomo original umuntu-hhayi nje uzama "ukuhumusha" yonke, kodwa futhi ekwaziseni ulimi common njengoba isethi izingathekiso.

Lapho izinqubo ezimbili ehlangana futhi lapho isilaleli njengoba umqeqeshi noma owelapha libonakalisa izici omabili emazinga ukwazi, umuntu ufinyelela imiphumela efanele ukuvela anencazelo ejulile.

Keywords: Ukugxilisa, Communication benamathele (NVC) / Communication benamathele (CNV), Uzwela, Reflect, Crossing/Cross / Hlanganisa.

For izikhulumi English, iya le post in English.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela futhi sijabule ukufunda imibono yakho,

Javier

Ukuthuthukela 26 September 2014:

Ngiye ngajabulela ilungelo version Castilian sihloko yami esisesigabeni page in Spanish Ukugxila Institute of New York (The Institute Ukugxilisa). Thanks! ngibona kakhulu!

Ukuthuthukela 9 February 2017:

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuhumusha kwesiJapane kuka-Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kanye noMako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). ngibona kakhulu! Aquí está la umlando wokuhunyushwa kwayo.