Ingxenye yomsebenzi wami njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nomngane ezinqubweni zomuntu siqu nezenhlangano ukuthola izindlela zokudlulisa imilayezo eyinkimbinkimbi ngokusebenzisa izingathekiso nezifaniso.. Ngokuhamba phambili “Ukuvuselelwa ngaphakathi”, esengizethulile kulokhu okunye ukungena, Siphakamisa izinselelo neziphakamiso ezimbalwa zokuthuthukisa uhlelo lokuvikela izingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha eSpain (Nasemhlabeni wonke).

Kule nyanga ngibe nesandla esihlokweni “Sihamba nomuntu esiyikho”, esebenzisa ama-analogies phakathi kwezinyathelo esizithathayo lapho sibhekene nalolu bhubhane kanye nezici okudingeka sizinakekele lapho siphelezela izingane., amantombazane kanye nentsha eye yahlupheka kakhulu. Kuyindlela yokuqwashisa ngendlela yethu yokwenza nokwenza, kokubili ngokomuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi.

Futhi uzobona lokho, njengenjwayelo, Ngigcizelela ukubaluleka ukuqeqeshwa kokuhlukumezeka futhi ngikhumbula ukubaluleka Ukugxilisa, okuyithuluzi eliwusizo kakhulu kimina usuku nosuku.

Ngingathanda ukwazi ukuthi ucabangani nokuthi uphila kanjani.

F. Javier Romeo

Kusukela ekuqaleni kwalolu bhubhane, izinhlangano eziningi zezingane zenze imizamo yokwakha izinsiza. Kwa-Spirals Consultancy for Children sikhiqize izinto ezihlukahlukene ezihlukahlukene.

Kulo mbhalo webhulogi ngifuna ukwabelana ngamavidiyo athile ahlobene nalokho engikwabelana ngakho lapha, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi.

1. Bethula imiyalezo ecacile nebanzi ngokwanele ukuthi baxoxe ngayo nezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha mayelana nobhubhane lwe-COVID-19, ukuze babe nolwazi lokuthi kwenzekani kubo.
2. Baphakamisa umsebenzi wokuqwashisa umzimba: kusukela kumodeli yobuhlakani obuthathu kuya ekuthinteni umoya, ngokushuba noma ngemizwa eyahlukene. Akuyona Ukugxilisa, kodwa khomba lokho kuzwela.
3. BangeSpanishi, kodwa nangesiFulentshi nesiMoroccan Arabic. Ngiye ngajabulela ukusebenzisa lezi zilimi ezimbili kula mavidiyo, okungisize kakhulu ukuthi ngikwazi ukuxhumana nabanye ngesikhathi ngihlala eMorocco kanye nentsha efudukayo eSpain..

Ngishiya amavidiyo angezansi:

• Ividiyo “I-intelligences emithathu nentukuthelo”.

• Ividiyo “Ama-intelligences amathathu nokwesaba”.

• Ividiyo “Abahlakaniphile abathathu futhi becela usizo”.

• Ividiyo “I-intelligences emithathu nokudabuka”.

Ngithemba ukuthi imiphumela of interest.

F. Javier Romeo

Ukuqwashisa umzimba njengendawo isivikelo ubudlova ingenye eziza kuqala yami emayelana nomsebenzi ukhiye. Lokhu workshop, “Ukugxilisa, umzimba kanye nokuphepha: Ukugxilisa nokuvimbela udlame” Mina ukuhlanganisa umsebenzi wami eminyakeni engaphezu kweyishumi ezizimisele ukuvikela izingane ngokumelene izinhlobo ezahlukene zodlame (minyaka eyisishiyagalombili eminyakeni Spiral Consulting Izingane) ngamandla lobuchwepheshe Ukugxilisa, okuyinto singisize kokubili mathupha futhi efanele.

Ukugxilisa ungahlinzekela indlela entsha ukudala ukuphepha ezimpilweni zethu ngomzimba. Bonke abantu sifuna aphathwe kahle, ngenhlonipho nangokucabangela. Nokho, ubudlova ubufakazi emazingeni ahlukahlukene njalo. Uma singabantwana futhi nabo izingane, futhi intsha, kokubili imikhaya yethu futhi kusukela umsebenzi wethu, sibona izimo eziningi zodlame futhi sizibuze nendlela yokuzigwema ukuze zingasivimbi ke. Lokhu workshop eyedlule ukusebenza umqondo vivencial ngakho tekusebenta zodlame nge isizinda isipiliyoni kusuka emzimbeni. Ngakho singazibona ubudlova nemizimba yethu ngenkathi singenza ngokucace kakhudlwana futhi indlela zokuzivikela ezimpilweni zethu futhi ensimini wethu wezokusebenza.

Lokhu workshop sibhekiswe kubantu nothando lokufunda okwengeziwe mayelana nendlela yokuphatha udlame kusuka isikhundla sivikelekile umzimba, kokubili mathupha futhi efanele (Ochwepheshe kokungenela zomphakathi ezivela Psychology, ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, social work, imfundo…). Ukugxilisa ulwazi ngaphambi kungukuthi ezidingekayo (nakuba kuyoba inzuzo). Lokhu workshop wokulandisa elibonakalayo ukuthola Diploma Ukugxilisa ka Ukugxila Institute Spanish.

usuku: Saturday 11 Novemba 2017 of 10:00 a 14:00 futhi 16:00 a 20:00 nangeSonto 12 Novemba 2017 of 10:00 a 14:00.

Indawo: isikhala “Chitha lokhu ekhaya lakho”
C / Costa Brava, okokufaka C / La Masó 2, isitshalo 1, wendawo 8
28031 Madrid
(Metro Paco de uLucía, umugqa 9; amabhasi 133,134 futhi 178)

intengo: 170 euros.

Imininingwane eyengeziwe kanye nokubhalisa Ukugxilisa Centro, ukuqeqeshwa ehleliwe: focusingcentro@gmail.com

Ngithemba ukuthi libaluleke,

F. Javier Romeo

[Entry Original 16 October 2017, olusha 12 Novemba 2017, Usuku ukwakheka].

Ngokuvumelana uqhubeke ukugubha ukushicilelwa ngonyaka owodwa edlule yezinganekwane Pepa Horno, umngane wami omuhle futhi umlingani e Spiral Consulting Izingane (lapho sisebenza ezindabeni imfundo affective ebuntwaneni), Liyanezela leli entry sangaphambilini, ebhekisela incwadi yakhe Ulimi izihlahla. le ndaba, The Wizard imicabango, Kuye enyatheliswa yi Editorial Phineus ngemifanekiso UMargarita manje.

Pepa akhawunti efanayo inhloso yakhe leli bhuku ngala mazwi alandelayo:

The Wizard imicabango Ukhuluma nokuqabulana, nendlela ayiphulule futhi ukubhucungwa ukukhonza ukuze ngokomzwelo ukuzithiba, La bantwana bona kunabantu abadala bathi namanje abayeki, abahluleka ukuhlunga imicabango yabo, noma Abathulise noma ukugxilisa ingqondo ... Ngenxa yalezi izingane abe "magic" akhohlisa ukubeka oda ezinye ngaphakathi kuye. Kulezo imicabango ukuthi ngokuyisisekelo kukhona kodwa isithelo ukuzwela ayekufezile.

Ukuze lokhu Ngalifaka ukuthi indaba ukuthi kungenziwa ingashintshwa ngokuphelele ukufundisa Ukugxilisa abafana namantombazane ngenxa yezizathu ezilandelayo:

• Lunikeza umbono omuhle futhi wamukelekile imicabango, emizweni, imizwa, imizwa kanye nakho ngokuvamile nezingane (futhi siphinde sibe abantu abadala): yini phakathi kwethu kwenza umqondo uma sinikeza wekulalela kahle.
• Izingane angenza izinto eziphathekako sinake okubehlele yangaphakathi, ngakho laba ezolile phansi (futhi, nakuba ayichazi indaba, Futhi ukuze kuqashwe), nalabo abamzungezile ungakwazi ukuhamba.
• nakho Yangaphakathi ahambisana ngemphumelelo nge yisiphi isinyathelo ngokomzimba. Pepa ehlongozwayo indaba ayiphulule ezindaweni abathintekayo (ikhanda lika protagonist, kuleli cala), kodwa wachaza ekhasini lokugcina, “Amagama umphefumulo abadala”, kungenzeka kube khona ezinye izindlela eziningi, inqobo nje uma kuhilela umzimba.

Ngakho mina zashaya ukuncoma leli bhuku njengendlela ukwethula Ukugxilisa ngendlela ezovumelana izingane.

Ngithemba wena uyobe othanda it kakhulu ngendlela mina,

Javier

Kusanda kugujwa iminyaka yokuqala yokushicilelwa kwendaba. Ulimi izihlahla of Pepa Horno, umngane wami othandekayo kanye nomlingani wami Spiral Consulting Izingane (lapho sisebenza khona ezindabeni zokuvikela izingane). le ndaba, eshicilelwe ngabakwa Editorial Phineus futhi kuboniswe ngu Martina Vanda, yaba nezintshumayelo eziningana, eyokuqala yaba se I-Madrid Book Fair 2015 zalezi zinsuku, ngakho kubonakale kufanelekile ukuyikhumbula ngalokhu kufakwa kwebhulogi.

UPepa wethula incwadi ngale ndlela elandelayo:

Ulimi izihlahla kumayelana nokufa. Noma kunalokho mayelana nentambo yothando ehlanganisa izinhlangothi zombili zokuphila. Khuluma ngabantu abanezinhliziyo ezihlukene phakathi, “ingxenye emhlabeni nengxenye ezulwini”, futhi ibhalelwe abafana namantombazane amaningi (labo abayizingane manje nalabo abanye abafana namantombazane bacashe ngaphansi kwesikhumba sabantu abadala) abanezinhliziyo ezinje.

Ngifuna ukugqamisa izici ezintathu engincoma ngazo le ndaba (futhi ngenxa yaleso sizathu sengivele ngikunike njengesipho izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa):

• Ukubaluleka kokuthola isixhumanisi esingokomfanekiso nomuntu oshonile, ezingatshalwa empilweni noma uma sekufe. Akukephuzi kakhulu ukwenza isiko elinikeza labo bethu abasaphila umuzwa wokuxhumana.
• Ubukhulu bomzimba bosizi, okubonakala kukhonjwe ngobuciko. Hamba ngezinyawo, hambahamba ebaleni, yenza ukuthinta komzimba… isisiza ukuthi sicubungule kangcono ukulahlekelwa, kungakhathaliseki ubudala.
• Ububele obugcwele umsebenzi busimema ukuba sinakekele ubuhlobo esimweni ngasinye sosizi nabo bonke abafana namantombazane.: abalaye ngeminyaka, futhi esithwala nabo abafana namantombazane angaphakathi (futhi nazo zidinga ukunakwa kwakho).

Kukho konke lokhu nokunye okuningi, yincwadi engicabanga ukuthi iyifunde enconyiwe., futhi ikakhulukazi ukuba nayo lapho ukulahlekelwa kwenzeka endaweni ezungezile.

Ngithemba Wawujabulela kakhulu ngendlela mina.

Javier

Kule mpelasonto ngaba udumo iqhaza I Congress ngokomzwelo Navarra Ezemfundo, ihlelwe abazali kwakheka. Kwakuthinta inkomfa ihlelwe ngesithakazelo esikhulu, ngokukhulu ukucophelela futhi umthamo esihle sesibindi. isethulo wami kwaba ezimayelana “imfundo affective ukuthi zivikela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi”, omunye izindikimba ezisebenza kusukela Spiral Consulting Izingane, ka engiyakhayo ilungu owasungula. Kodwa ekugcineni kube khona ingxoxo panel ngemibuzo ngoba bonke abakhuluma, sase ukwabelana Luhlolokulinganisa Sonsoles Echevarren, intatheli kusukela Diario de Navarra. Bekusikhathi kakhulu, futhi nakuba imibuzo ayebhekiswe isikhulumi ngasinye, ekupheleni babebaningi lapho sihlanganyela eziningana. Kulo mongo kwaphakama umbuzo kakhulu, “Wenzenjani ulalele ingane owenqaba ukuhamba kwepaki?”. izimpendulo ezithakazelisayo futhi abalulekile banikwa, futhi mina baletha umnikelo wami: “Listening yebo’ ku 'cha'”.

Rescue kule blog ngoba sihloko yami 'Lalela “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘, okuyinto yanyatheliswa inombolo 52 (Januwari 2011) umagazini ekhoneni yethu 0-6, enyatheliswa Accent (Aqhubeke ayisekho ukukhulula izinombolo, nakuba isatholakala). Lesi senzakalo sihloko ngokunabile ukuthi Nga- ngibatshela bese: lapho umuntu (futhi umfana noma intombazane futhi umuntu) idayisi “kungekho”, Uthi “yebo” izinto eziningi, futhi uma silalela wonke umlayezo, Singenza uxhumano ezijulile sithole nesisombululo egculisayo zonke izinhlangothi. Isihloko iqala:

unina, iminyaka emibili nengxenye, Akathandi elingenamikhono wakhe ukuya ngaphandle. uJosé, iminyaka emine, Awufuni ukulahlekelwa jika ukuya ekhaya. Irene, iminyaka emihlanu, Akafuni ukuya ukulala. Kungani lezi zinto ukuthi njengoba abadala sesiqala kahle ezinengqondo?

Futhi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo? ¿Thina ukuhoxa abenze noma yini abayifunayo? Ngemva kwalokho siba ezimbi ngoba asisebenzi nemfundo, futhi lokho kusinika umuzwa kokushiya eceleni kulokho esingakufeza njengabantu abantu futhi ufuna. Ungathanda ukubaphoqa ukuba lokho esikufunayo? Khona-ke siye yibhange ingxoxo futhi imvelo ezimbi isikhathi eside, eside futhi sifundisa ukuthi ekugcineni into ebalulekile ukuba namandla noma amandla, nokuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano kusebenza kuphela uma ibuthakathaka. Ngolwazi lwami yemisindvo kukhona indlela yesithathu, esekelwe zokuxhumana ajulile kulezi zimo. Futhi elinye lamakhono ukuthi ithuthukiswe amashabhu mina lula yikhono ulalele lokho abakushoyo “yebo” izingane zethu uma bethi “kungekho”.

Download isihloko full “ulalele “yebo” ku “kungekho”‘

Ithemba kuthakazelisa.

Javier

Kulezi zinsuku zokugcina zaleli Okthoba isihloko ukufa ngakho njalo ngaphezulu ekuphileni kwezingane kuphakama. Kusukela uSuku Lwabafileyo emikhayeni ezithile kuzo zonke izenzakalo lowehlukile Halloween, iqiniso liwukuthi kuyisikhathi lapho izingane ebuza imibuzo mayelana nokufa, futhi kulula ukuba uzilungiselele izimo zengqondo izikhala ukulalela nezimpendulo.

Ngaloba 2011 i-athikili yokutakula lapha, “Izingane nokufa”, ukukhumbula ezinye imikhondo ewusizo. Article, owanyatheliswa ephephabhukwini ekhoneni yethu 0-6 - Accent ziqondiswe Imfundo yezingane, izindawo ezintathu ezibalulekile uhlole:

• Umbono sokufa emazingeni ahlukene (phakathi neminyaka engu-zero kanye eziyisithupha, okuyinto isihloko umagazini).
• Ezinye izinkombandlela eziyisisekelo ukuba ahambe izingane ukufa.
• Ukufundwa letiphakanyisiwe, ukufundwa ehlukile imindeni kanye nezifundiswa nezindaba ukufunda nezingane.

Futhi mina ngiqale nge lesi sihloko nokubiyela isigaba:

Kwaphela isikhathi eside kwakucatshangwa ukuthi izingane akazange ahlupheke inqubo lusizi kwaze kwaba ubudala amadala. Nokho, ucwaningo emkhakheni ingozi yokulutheka baye babonisa idlule sokulila kusukela ubudala bokuqala ukuthi, nakuba awusebenzi sibonakalise Njengabantu abadala kuze kamuva. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuba ukhulume sokufa (hhayi ulifihle ngenxa yokwesaba odalekayo kuwo) lapho kwenzeka (noma uma kuzokwenzeka, esimweni ukufa), ukuqonda 1) ukuthi umuntu ngempela uya futhi 2) ukuthi umuntu akabashiyi ngokuzithandela, futhi ukuze bakwazi ukusho goodbye, ngoba uma imiqondo le ibingakaziwa hhayi yokuvalelisa kwenzeka, Yisililo sokugembula zingavela. Futhi ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi silalela futhi unake ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi lapho ukufa kwenzeka ezimpilweni zabo.
[zilandise njengoba: Romeo BIEDMA, Francisco Javier (2011): "Izingane nokufa kwabantu abaningi" ekhoneni yethu 0-6 - Accent, 60, 17-21.]

Qhubeka ufunda lesi sihloko…

Ngithemba la ukucabanga oluzosiza ezihambisana nalesi sihloko nezingane endaweni yakho. Ukufa kuyingxenye engenakugwenywa yokuphila, abuye ahlanganise kanjani kangcono, Bayophila ngokugcwele, izingane zethu kanye nathi.

Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngiqaphele mkhosi,

Javier

“Ngokusho umuzwa wami, Umkhuba wokusebenzelana benamathele Ukuxhumana abantwana ngaphezulu Kuxhomeke ekutheni yini okwenzekayo ngaphakathi kimi wokuHlinzekwa kanjani ngikhuluma ngokwami ​​ngalokho okwenzekayo nge mina kanye lendodana yami ukuxoxisana. Nokho, Futhi ngifuna ukubuchaza ngamazwi ukuqonda kwami ​​okwenzekayo kokubili, okungenani ingxenye isikhathi, ngisho uma ngicabanga ingane yami akaqondi ulimi, ngoba uyangisiza ukuxhumana imizwa nezidingo kokubili. ukuthi, ithuba, kusiza kwehlisa umoya wami futhi uthole amasu ukuthi ezingase ziphumelele kokubili. Futhi ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngoba ngicabanga lokhu kuyindlela bafundze lulwimi kanye nekukwati kufundza nekubhala ngokomzwelo.” (Inbal Kashtan, Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni, ikhasi 38)

Lapho abantu abathintekayo ekuchumana workshop yami zokuxhumana babe namadodana noma amadodakazi enisezweni ebuntwaneni noma usakhula, noma basebenze ndawonye nalabo ubudala, ngokuvamile kuphakama “yebo, Lokhu indlela zokuxhumana kahle phakathi abadala, kodwa ukuze ubone ukuthi ngithi yami ingane / nomshana / umfundi / goddaughter…”. Uma isikhathi sivuma, thina zifundiseni bekhulumisana nezingane ekuqeqesheni, kodwa ngokuvamile Angikwazi kuphela kubonise iziphakamiso kungenzeka futhi ukuhlola. Thina manje sesinesisetshenziswa entsha, esikuvumela ukuxhumana nomndeni kwenye ezingeni. Lena akuyona kuphela yokuxazulula izingxabano (futhi), kodwa ukudala eyiqiniso ngaphezulu uhlobo loxhumano, ezijulile nonamandla, ukuthi ilungiselela izingane ezingaphezu resiliently ukuphila.

Nale ukuzwela Inbal Kashtan abhala ngaso incwadi yakhe Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Yaba izipho kobubele, uxhumano kanye nokuzikhethela, eshicilelwe ngonyaka odlule Castilian ngu Acanto Editorial. Inbal Kashtan, ukwakha Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kumma, led iminyaka umsebenzi benamathele Ukuxhumana emkhayeni, ikakhulukazi nabazali maqondana nezingane zabo. Inbal eshona ngo-September 2014, kodwa igalelo lakhe uyaqhubeka baynvc (inhlangano disseminates benamathele Ukuxhumana kusukela San Francisco Bay, California, okuyinto azibonela yona omunye wabasunguli) nemibhalo (Ngaphezu le ncwadi, Ungafunda ezinye izihloko zakhe mayelana zokuxhumana umndeni ngesiNgisi baynvc). Le blog futhi noma ubani ofuna ukuba yokubonga wena intela ukuze asindise ukuphila kwakhe futhi umsebenzi.

I batusa le ncwadi kokubili labo abeza okokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kulabo abafuna ukuba sijulise umkhuba wabo nezingane. Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier

izingxabano Iningi zingalungiswa ngendlela egculisayo futhi inzuzo yabo bonke abathintekayo, enikeziwe izinsiza futhi isikhathi esingakanani okufanele usichithe. Yilokho okwenzeka yami yemisindvo zeminyaka ukufunda, kutilolonga okuxhunyanwa Ukuxhumana benamathele. Kuyinto eziyisisekelo ngakho (akulula) njengoba izimo ezidingekile ukuthi isinqumo kwenzeka. Kimi kukhona izakhi eziningana ezibalulekile, okungase ngokufingqiwe okulandelayo:

• An indlela efanele, ukuvumela bonke labo abathintekayo uzizwe silondekile futhi sihloniphana njengomkhaya amalungelo abo.
• ochwepheshe Experiential nge ukuqeqeshwa e Ukulamula ukulalela ezijulile amakhono kanye “translation” imiyalezo ukuze kube lula ukuzwa wonke umuntu.
• Umphakathi esekela izinqubo okubuyisela, isikhathi ukunikelwa, izikhala, Manpower, ukuqeqeshwa…
• Abantu uzimisele ukuxazulula izingxabano ngendlela ekugcineni wonke amaqembu bazizwe wezwa nokuthi wonke amaqembu ushiye aneliseke isixazululo.

Ngakho mina kuyathokozisa ukwabelana izinsiza akhiwa nomphakathi omkhulu nakubantu basendaweni esihlala kuyo kuthiwa Gotleu Palma de Mallorca (Mallorca), ngoba ukuqoqa indlela basebenza ngasinye salezi zici.

Kule video ungabona indlela eziye abathintekayo, i-nalomsebenzi Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye Impumelelo School (the Institute for nokuhlalisana kanye School Impumelelo Castilian) Uhulumeni we-Balearic Islands, kusuka othisha ezikoleni Imfundo yezingane, Primary kanye yesibili, abafundi babo bonke ubudala, imindeni, Nezenhlalakahle, amaphoyisa, University kanye namanye amaqembu abalulekile nomphakathi. Ngo ingxube amazwi, Senza kithi umqondo nakho yokudala ukuthi ukuphepha inethiwekhi endaweni emphakathini sengozini, futhi sibona imiphumela.

Ukuze uthole umbono ehlelekile ngaphezulu, Kuyinto ukushicilelwa eqoqa eziyisisekelo. Kushicilelwe ku-Catalan, Castilia nesiNgisi ngaphakathi kohlaka iphrojekthi European ngale ndaba, le Umhlahlandlela ngcono nokuhlalisana kanye Imikhuba bokubuyisana / Guide Mejoramos nokuhlalisana kanye nemikhuba okubuyisela Kutfutfukisa izici ezincwadini Imikhuba bokubuyisana, idatha eqondile inikeza izibonelo ukhonkolo kanye iziphakamiso Ngokufuna okuzayo ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi.

Futhi ukuba sijulise emibuthanweni okubuyisela, umkhuba nengxabano ludabuka ezindaweni ubukhulu nomphakathi Ukuxhumana benamathele, Ungafunda wokulandisa ezithakazelisayo Bokubuyisana Imikhuba Justice. Imibuthano bokubuyisana nendlela osebenza ngayo emikhakheni ehlukahlukene, elotshwe yiKhomishani UVenç Rul·lan, nomqeqeshi ngubani ngijabulela lokuhlangana, kuvidiyo kanye Umhlahlandlela, futhi nguye ilungu Association of Justice futhi bokubuyisana Imikhuba Islands (nekhasi Castilia futhi Catalan, ngezisetshenziswa eziningana). A isingeniso esihle, ukuze kuqhutshekwe sijulise nalolu hlobo locingo. Futhi ungakwazi futhi ubuke amavidiyo (isiZulu) kuwebhusayithi esemthethweni umdali imibuthano okubuyisela, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Ngubani okwenzile ukuqeqeshwa okuthile ekuchumana nami oyibonile Ngivame ukusho le nkinga ye Imikhuba bokubuyisana. Ngithemba kulezi kancane kangcono ukufanekisa ukuthi yini abezwile nami ithemba ukuthi ukuvusa lokusungula wakho nomcabango yakho ukuze uqhubeke ukuthola izindlela ikhiqize kakhudlwana ezijulile yokuxazulula izingxabano imvelo zemfundo, futhi iyiphi enye indawo.

Javier

Chaza noma ubani ukuthi yini ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, futhi ikakhulukazi lokho engikuqonda ngokuthi ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, kuhlale kuyinselelo. Futhi uma sengeza kulokhu ukuthi sifuna ukukuchazela izingane, amantombazane noma intsha, kubonakala sengathi kunzima kakhulu. futhi nokho, I-psychotherapy iyinto engokwemvelo ngokuphelele: ukubuyisela ibhalansi elahlekile (kanjalo ubuyise izintambo zempilo yakho).

Njengabantu ngokwesisekelo sikulungele ukukhula ngendlela enempilo. Into engokwemvelo kungaba ukuthi sonke sidlule ezigabeni ezihlukahlukene zobuntwana, esobusha kanye nokuba mdala isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Kungaba yimvelo, kahle, Ngakolunye uhlangothi, faka izakhi zomsoco ezingeni lezengqondo. (icorporal, ngokomzwelo, ingqondo, ngokwenqubo, isimo sengqondo…) futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi banqobe izakhi ezibuhlungu ngisho neziyingozi ngokufunda okusha (yohlobo “Lesi simo sami sengqondo asisangisiza” le “Angifuni ukubhekana nomuntu ongasangihloniphi futhi”). Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi izinto azihambi kahle (okuncane noma okuningi), futhi kuyadingeka ukwenza okuthile ukuze kuqhubekele phambili nempilo. I-Psychotherapy iyindlela enhle yokuhlanganisa nokuphulukisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo, ukubuyisela inkohliso yempilo yethu.

Ividiyo “U-Garra uvaliwe (UDokotela Fish)”, yenziwe yiqembu labafundi be-animation abavela ku- Sheridan College ngaphansi kwegama leFrozen Mammoth Productions, phakathi kwabanye Timothy Chan futhi Eunice Hwang, futhi ingasebenza njengesiqalo sokuqala ukuzindla.

Le vidiyo kimi ibonakala iyisibonelo esihle sokuchaza amaphuzu amaningana ayisisekelo engithanda ukuwenza acace ezinganeni nasebancane., futhi nakubantu abadala abacabanga ukwenza a ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe:

1) Umsebenzi walabo bethu abasebenza njengabelaphi uqukethe alulame enempilo futhi ephila Yini ngaphakathi esinabo ngokubonisana. Sonke sinokuthile okubalulekile ngeqiniso nje elikhona, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi izimo eziyingozi kakhulu ziye zenzeka, ngaphandle noma ngaphakathi.

2) Ukuze sibuyisele lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, sinakho anhlobonhlobo abezindaba, abafanele esinabo ngaphambili (nangeminyaka yakhe, abakuthandayo, isitayela sakhe, lokho asekuphile…). silalela njalo, sivame ukubuza, futhi ngezinye izikhathi siphakamisa imisebenzi (ukudweba kanjani, noma enze imisebenzi ebonakalayo, noma zama amasu ahlukene). Umgomo wethu uwukubuyisela kumuntu lokho okunempilo nokuphilayo, kodwa kuhlanzekile futhi kunamandla ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho.

3) Siyakwazi lokho inqubo ithatha isikhathi. Uma sithatha amasonto, izinyanga, iminyaka, ukuhlala nento ebuhlungu, sizodinga futhi isikhathi sokuzinikela ukuze silephe. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kungase kube khona okutholiwe okushintsha kakhulu umuzwa wethu ngomzuzwana, njengoba ivela kuvidiyo, kodwa lokho kwenzeka kuphela uma sesiphenye ngokwanele ingaphakathi lethu. Futhi kuthatha isikhathi ukuthi lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kusungulwe emhlabeni wonke ezimpilweni zethu..

4) Futhi siyakwazi lokho inqubo idinga umzamo. Kufana nokuhlanza isilonda esingenwe yilesi sifo, kungase kuhlanganise ubuhlungu besikhashana, kodwa ukuthuthukiswa kubonakala esikhathini eside. Umzamo uthinta abantu abaseduze nomuntu ofika ukuze kuboniswane. Endabeni yezingane, futhi intsha, ukucindezeleka kuthinta umndeni, futhi ngombono wami we-psychotherapy ngingenelela kuphela uma kukhona ukuzibophezela okucacile nokuqinile engxenyeni yomndeni (ikakhulukazi abanakekeli bokuqala).

5) njengoba kwenzeka kuvidiyo, njengabelaphi siyazi kahle isipiliyoni ngoba siphile eyethu i-psychotherapy nezinselelo zethu. Yebo sinokuqeqeshwa okuqondile, ebanzi futhi ejulile, kodwa asizibheki njengabantu abahlukile. Simane singabantu abake babuka ubuhlungu bethu futhi abafunde ukubheka ubuhlungu babanye abantu ngendlela eyakhayo nangemibono emisha..

Ngethemba ukuthi ividiyo izokusiza ukuthi ube nemibono ecacile mayelana nalokhu ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuchazela izingane zakho, futhi intsha.

Javier