Chilimwechi ndakhala ndi chisangalalo chochita nawo 27Msonkhano wapadziko lonse wa International Focusing Conference wa 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), yolembedwa ndi British Focusing Association, ndi kutsegulidwa kwa mamembala a International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute) a dziko lonse lapansi, chondichitikira chomwe chandizindikiritsa pazifukwa zingapo.

Masomphenya apadziko lonse osonkhanitsira zithunzi za Focusing International Conference 2016. Kawirikawiri, amasonkhanitsa mbali zosewerera kwambiri, koma amawululanso mphindi zakuya. Ndipo chithunzi chokongola chikuwoneka kuti Blanca Ruiz wandijambula, ku Spain, ndi zomwe ndatengera mbiri yanga (¡chisomo, Blanca!).

Kupereka ziwerengero zina: takhala ochuluka kuposa 250 otenga nawo gawo 30 mayiko ku Robinson College, pafupifupi odzipereka kwathunthu ku Msonkhano. Kupatula pamisonkhano yonse, kumene kunali anthu ambiri, pa nthawi ya msonkhano tidagawana (aliyense malinga ndi kusankha kwake) muzochitika zoposa khumi ndi zisanu panthawi imodzi. Ndipo zonse zimayendetsedwa ndi gulu lodzipereka la bungwe (kuchokera British Focusing Association,) chani, Ndisanayambe kuthetsa mavuto anga, poyamba anandimvera, ndi chidwi chokhazikika.

Chifukwa chake chokumana nacho choyamba chakhala kupeza anthu ndikupanga gulu., m'malo Olunjika kwambiri. Ndakumana ndi anthu omwe adatenga nawo gawo koyamba pamwambo wapadziko lonse lapansi ngati uwu, monga ine. Ndapanganso nkhope, kamvekedwe ka mawu, ubale… kwa anthu omwe ndimawadziwa ndi maumboni (mabuku awo, zinthu zanu, masamba anu, mauthenga anu pa Focusing lists, malangizo omwe ndalandira…). Y, ndinadabwa, Ndazindikiridwanso ndi psychotherapist waku Japan Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara Yen) kuti anawerenga ndi chidwi kwambiri nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication”, Kupeza bwanji! [Ndipo potsiriza apa likumasuliridwa mu Chijapani ndi mutu wosonyeza The mphambano ya moganizira ndi kulankhulana si achiwawa, Zikomo kwambiri, Madoka!].

Komabe, Chomwe chandichititsa chidwi kwambiri chakhala chaubwenzi komanso kusasunthika kwa mankhwalawa, zonse muzochitika zamagulu komanso muzochita zambiri payekha, pa chakudya, m'nthawi yopuma, mu ntchito zina. Ndipo kumverera kopitiliza kupeza anthu atsopano komanso osangalatsa nthawi zonse ndikayamba kumva kuti “tinali titawonana padziko lonse lapansi”. Pamlingo wozama, Tsopano kuti masabata angapo adutsa, Chochitika choyamba chomwe ndikufuna kusunga ndicho malingaliro a anthu ammudzi mkati mwa kusiyana (ndipo panali zosiyana zambiri, Ndikutsimikizira!). Ndiko kumva kuti tikugwira ntchito, kufufuza, kuzunzika ndi kusangalala wina ndi mzake kukulitsa kumvetsetsa kwathu kwa Focusing, ndi momwe mungagawire ndi anthu ena.

chochitika chachiwiri, zogwirizana ndi zakale, wakhala dziwani malumikizano opanga ndi anthu ambiri. Zokonda zathu wamba. Kuti mumvetsetse Kuyang'ana mofanana kapena, m'malo mwake, kuti mumvetse m’njira zosiyanasiyana kuti n’zothandizana. Kwa madera athu zochita. Mwa kugwirizana kosavuta kwaumwini. Tsopano ndi nthawi yoti muchite mawu otchuka a Aristotle, “chilakolako chaubwenzi chimadza msanga, koma ubwenzi umatenga nthawi”. Ndi anthu ena ndimalumikizana nawo kale, Ndili ndi ena pamndandanda wanga wautali wa omwe ndikuyembekezera, koma cholinga chopitiliza kukulitsa njira zatsopano za Kuyikirapo chilipo. Zikhala ngati maubwenzi omwe ndili nawo kale mdera la Focusing ku Spain, koma padziko lonse lapansi.

Chachitatu chachitika kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu. Kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu komwe kumachitika mkati ndi kunja. zotheka ntchito, migwirizano kufufuza, mndandanda watsopano wowerenga, masewera olimbitsa thupi, madera kuti mupeze… Pakadali pano, zinthu zikubwereketsa kusuntha, ndipo ndikuyenda nawo. Ndilankhula za izi ndi zina muma post ena..

Ndi kudzipereka kuti ndikuuzeni zambiri muzolemba zamtsogolo ndikusiyani, ndi malingaliro oti mupite kutsamba lovomerezeka la Msonkhanowo pamene ikugwira ntchito, chifukwa lili ndi zinthu zambiri zoti mufufuze (m'Chingerezi).

Xavier

zosintha (zolemba pambuyo pake zokhudzana ndi izi):

Mkati mwa kuyitana kuchitapo kanthu:

• Kusankhidwa kwanga kukhala membala wa Komiti ya International Institute of Focusing.
• Ndipo kusankhidwa kwanga kukhala membala wa International Relations ku Spain Institute of Focusing.

Zochitika zina:

• zikwapu burashi (2) wa International Focusing Conference: gulu lachidwi la Community Wellness Focusing.
• Gulu Lachidwi la Community Wellness Focusing Group ku Focusing Conference ku Cambridge (UK) 2016.