The ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe Inengxenye ebalulekile yokuqeqeshwa okujulile, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kuyacebisa kakhulu ukufunda izindlela ezintsha, amasu amasha, izindlela ezintsha zokufinyelela kuzindikimba ezisafufusa. Ukubuyekeza nokuqeqeshwa okuqhubekayo kuyingxenye yomkhuba omuhle wokwelapha kwengqondo.

I-Psychotherapy Networker Kungumthombo owusizo kakhulu kimina ukuthi ngihlale nginolwazi lwakamuva ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe. Ngaphandle kwezinye izinsiza (amavidiyo, imibhalo, izinombolo ezithile…), le nhlangano ishicilela umagazini okhethekile ovela kabili ngenyanga ngephepha nangefomethi ye-elekthronikhi (ukufinyelela okuvulekile iminyaka emibili), futhi inombolo ngayinye inentambo evamile, ngezindatshana zochwepheshe abasebenze ngesihloko senyanga, kanye nezikhombo zezincwadi ezithakazelisa kakhulu (empeleni sengithenge izincwadi ezimbalwa ngemva kokufunda izihloko ezithile, futhi nganeliseke kakhulu).

Iwebhusayithi inezinsiza eziningi, futhi kusukela lapha ngifuna ukutusa izindatshana ezithile nezindaba ezibonakala zizintsha kakhulu kimi.

• Umagazini kaNovemba noDisemba 2013, ngendikimba “Imikhuba Yethu, Okwethu. Ingabe Umbuthano Ungaphulwa?” (“imikhuba yethu, kanye nathi. Ungakwazi yini ukuphula indilinga?”), inkinga enemibono yokuthi ungayinqamula kanjani imibuthano enonya ku-psychotherapy, nge-athikili evela Ann Weiser Cornell, uchwepheshe we-Focusing Orientation Psychotherapy engiqeqeshwe naye, “Okuthile Okusha, Lapha futhi Manje. Ukuhlukana Nomkhuba” (“Okuthile okusha, lapha futhi manje. Ungagqashula kanjani kokujwayelekile”).
• Ukukhishwa kukaMeyi noJuni 2014, ngendikimba “Ukwelapha Ukuhlukumezeka. Yini Esishodayo?” (“Yelapha ukuhlukumezeka. sishoda ngani?”), enemigqa emisha yokungenelela ekuhlukumezeni njengendatshana ka-Janina Fisher “Ukuhlanganisa Izingcezu. 25 Iminyaka Yokufunda Ukwelashwa Kwe-Trauma” (“hlanganisa zonke izingcezu. Iminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu yokufunda ukubhekana nokuhlukumezeka”).
• Umagazini kaSepthemba no-Okthoba 2014, ngendikimba “Lapho futhi Hhayi Lapho. Ukukhula Esikhathini Sokuphazamiseka” (“lapho futhi hhayi lapho. Ungakhula kanjani eminyakeni yokuphazamiseka”), kubalulekile ngezinto ezifana “Ukuthola Ukukhishwa. Ukuxhumana Nezingane Ezihlukumezekile Ezicindezela Izinkinobho Zakho” (“Yehla ehhuku. Ungaxhumana kanjani nezingane ezihlukumezekile ezenza ukuzivikela kwakho kugxume”) nguMartha Strauss.

Ngikushiye ufunde kahle futhi ngethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela..

Javier

Kulokhu okufakiwe ngifuna ukugubha uMklomelo Wokuthula weNobel 2014 inikezwe abantu ababili abavikela amalungelo ezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha evela ku-Non-Violence.

Kube yinjabulo kimi ukwazi ukuthi uKailash Satyarthi uzoyithola, indoda yaseNdiya evikela amalungelo ezingane, ikakhulukazi labo abasebenza, y Malala Yousafzai, osemusha wasePakistan oye walwela ilungelo lemfundo yezingane ikakhulukazi amantombazane. kusukela ibhulogi ye-Spiral Consulting for Children Senze into ethile efakiwe lapho sinikeza khona imininingwane eyengeziwe ngezici esithakaselayo lapho: sebenzela izingane kusukela ekubambeni iqhaza. Ngiyakumema ukuthi ufunde umnyango, lapho sinikeza idatha eningi futhi ungayibona yomibili kuvidiyo.

Kule bhulogi, nokho, ngifuna ukuxoxa ngokuthi bobabili bakhuluma kanjani Nokungewona Udlame. Futhi bakwenza kanjani ngozwelo, kodwa futhi ngamandla amakhulu. Abakhulumi ngobuthakathaka noma ngobugwala. UGandhi usevele wathi “Phakathi kodlame nobugwala, Ngincamela udlame”, futhi-ke yabonisa ukuthi kwakukhona indlela enamandla kakhulu kunazo zombili, ukungabi nodlame. Lokhu ngikubona eKailash naseMalala.

Kailash Satyarthi, engaba nenhlanhla yokuhlangana nayo eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule engqungqutheleni yamalungelo ezingane, unobudlelwano obuseduze, ngesithakazelo esikhulu kulokho okwenziwa abanye ochwepheshe. Yena ngokwakhe uzithatha njengendlalifa yomugqa kaGandhi Wokungabi Nodlame, futhi ube ngumxhumanisi wemicimbi eminingi ezweni lakhe nasemhlabeni jikelele, sibonga ikhono lakhe lokulalela kanye nokufakwa kwazo zonke izinhlangothi ezihilelekile. Futhi lokho akuwaqedanga amandla ayo okusindisa izingane ezisebenza ngaphansi kwezimo ezixhaphazayo., ukuthembela emaphoyiseni aseNdiya nokubeka ubuqotho bakhe engozini (uselimele ngokuphindaphindiwe nokulahlekelwa abatakuli asebenza nabo).

Malala Yousafzai waduma ngokuqala ibhulogi yokuvikela ilungelo lemfundo, ikakhulukazi ekufundiseni amantombazane afana naye, endaweni yasePakistan ehlala amaTaliban. Ngenxa yalokho, amaTaliban azama ukumbulala., kodwa ngenhlanhla isindile futhi isaqhubeka nokwakheka, kodwa vele use-UK. UMalala uyaqhubeka nokufundisa, njengoba esho, “ukuze kufundiswe bonke abafana namantombazane, kuhlanganise vele amadodana namadodakazi amaTaliban”. Futhi phawula kuvidiyo ukuthi kanjani ngaleso sikhathi, lapho esatshiswa ngokubulawa, wacabanga ukuthi uzophendula kanjani, nokuthi wanquma kanjani ukuthi akafuni ukuthatha ulaka ngoba wabe esefana nomuntu omhlasele..

Ngakho ukuqashelwa kwabantu ababili nezindlela ezimbili ezihlukene zokuba khona kuye kwangigcwalisa ngokwaneliseka. (indoda, Yena wesifazane; yena omdala, osemusha; umNdiya, yena epakistani; yena hindu, uyiMuslim), okuyinto, nokho, esekelwe ekubukeni okunozwelo nokuqinile ezintweni ezingokoqobo zomuntu, futhi lokho kuholela ekuzibophezeleni kanye nemiphumela ebambekayo, Igxathu emvakwe gxathu. Empeleni sebezwakalise intshisekelo yokusebenza ndawonye., nakuba bengaziwa ngaphambili.

Ngishiya lokhu kungenela njengomgubho, futhi futhi njengogqozi. Ngempela kubantu esiyikho singathola indlela ebheke kuXhumano Oluyiqiniso Kakhudlwana, kanye nokuthatha izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokuxazulula izinkinga zangempela nezibambekayo.

Ngiyakumema ukuthi uphenye kabanzi mayelana no-Kailash no-Malala, nokuthi uyasijabulela isikhuthazo abangasilethela sona.

Javier

Qaphela: Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi ukuthi kukhona umugqa womsebenzi kuwo Ukugxila emphakathini wase-Afghanistan nasePakistan, ezindaweni ezijeziswe kakhulu yiTaliban, ukubuyisela indwangu yomphakathi kanye nokuxhumana ngokusebenzisa amasiko endawo yamaSufi, ngobukhulu obungeziwe obunikezwa i-Focusing. Angicabangi ukuthi uMalala uyawazi lo msebenzi, kodwa kukhona okunye ugqozi.

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngiphawule kokuthunyelwe kwebhulogi ngu-Spiral Consulting for Children, lapho ngisebenza khona ezindabeni zokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu bemindeni kanye nezingcweti ezisebenza nezingane, futhi intsha, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi iworkshop yokuthuthukisa ukukhulumisana emkhayeni noma ekilasini isebenze ekuvuseni isithakazelo, futhi ngaphandle kwemininingwane ezuziwe namathuluzi afundiwe, abantu abaningi bacela izinto ezengeziwe abangancika kuzo. Ngithanda ukuncoma incwadi U-Adele Faber no-Elaine Mazlish (abaqeqeshi nomama) ngesihloko esiyela ngasocansini Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze izingane zakho zilalele futhi zilalele ukuze izingane zakho zikhulume nawe, i-classic yokuxhumana nabafana namantombazane evele kuyo 1980. Sekuyiminyaka eminingi iwuphawu lokuba umzali omuhle: ukulalela okunozwela nokuqinisekisa ngenkathi ubeka imingcele futhi ufinyelela izivumelwano ezanelisayo zabo bonke abathintekayo.

Igqugquzelwe yimihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi eyenziwa ngababhali bobabili, Incwadi yakhiwe ngokuhambisana nokuqukethwe okulandelayo: Isahluko 1. Indlela yokusiza izingane ukubhekana nemizwa yazo. Isahluko 2. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukubambisana. Isahluko 3. Ezinye izindlela zokujezisa. Isahluko 4. Indlela yokukhuthaza ukuzimela. Isahluko 5. indumiso. Isahluko 6. Ungakubalekela kanjani ukusakaza ngomshini. Isahluko 7. Ake siphinde. futhi, kuhlelo lwakamuva lwe 2013 kusuka Umhleli Medici kuhlanganisa ukubheka emuva kusuka kubabhali kuya ekufundeni nasekuhlangabezaneni nakho eminyakeni engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu kanye nezwi elithinta inhliziyo likaJoanna Faber., ngolwazi lwakhe njengendodakazi yombhali u-Adele Faber nokuhlangana kwakhe nokuba ngumama wakhe.

Ngombono omuhle womuntu kanye nobudlelwano babantu, umbhalo usekelwe ekucabangeni okuyisisekelo nezibonelo eziningi, amanye aboniswa ngamavignette afana nempilo uqobo, futhi ngokuqhubekayo inikeza imibono okufanele isetshenziswe nabafana namantombazane abasizungezile. Nakuba ekuqaleni kuhloselwe imindeni, Ingasetshenziswa futhi emkhakheni wezemfundo nezenhlalo (nakuba ababhali benezinye izincwadi ezithile zesifundo sezifundo).

Futhi uma amadodana namadodakazi akho (noma abafundi osebenza nabo) sebekhulile, ungabheka futhi incwadi ngababhali abafanayo Indlela yokukhuluma ukuze intsha ilalele nokuthi ilalela kanjani ukuze intsha ikhulume nawe, enikeza imibono ehlukene (ezifanele uma sezikhulile) kanye neziphakamiso zihlala ziwusizo, lokho cishe kuzokwenza ukuthi umomotheke.

Ngikufisela ukufunda okuhle, nokuthi uyakujabulela ukuhlola izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana.

Javier

Ukuze ngokuhlathulula ukusebenza kwawo ekuthuthukiseni isimo sengqondo empathic ngase amakhono esinawo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ubudala bethu namakhono siye ithuthukiswe, ikhophi okuqukethwe lapha ukungena mina ezithunyelwe Espirales Consulting Izingane, ngoba ubonakalisa nombono unethemba kakhulu zabantu.

Selokhu ngafika ukufunda ngale ndlela ngemfundiso yokuziphendukela intelligence amaningi, ezihlongozwayo futhi lakhiwa sokusebenza kwengqondo Howard Gardner, Wakhanga kimi ngokujulile. Lokhu sokusebenza kwengqondo American ehlongozwayo 1983 ukuthi ukuhlakanipha yayingatholakali lapho kuphela (ukulinganisa ukuhlolwa zendabuko lo intelligence okunengqondo-zezibalo nezezilimi), kwaba amaningi (inombolo belilokhu ziyanda eminyakeni nocwaningo), Kepha futhi ukuba abantu ngamunye intelligence angagcina. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi uye kuhlanganiswe ucwaningo nge ukuthuthukisa izinto eziqondile zokufundisa imfundo oluningiliziwe, futhi umsebenzi wakhe ubelokhu eqashelwa izikhungo eziningi, kuhlanganise iSikhulu Asturias Award Social Sciences 2011.

Begoña Ibarrola, It ngokukhethekile ekuthuthukisweni ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi esengumntwana sokusebenza kwengqondo, kithi mayelana indlela emnandi intelligence ezahlukene encwadini yakhe Tales ukuthola intelligence, ekhishwa izinkantolo zesifundazwe SM iqembu nge wamthanda imifanekiso ngu-Anne Decis. Indaba uhambo leqembu abafana namantombazana eliwumhlaba Pegasus, lapho behlangabezana nezinye izingane njengabafokazi, izaba ukuhlola intelligence ngokolimi (ikhono ngamazwi nolimi), okunengqondo-zezibalo (kuzinombolo kanye nokusebenza okunengqondo), Imininingwane-Espacial (ikhono lokuphatha idatha lubandlululo kanye ezibukwayo, njengoba kule ubuciko kanye nobunjiniyela ingcaca), zomculo (kuphathelene ngomculo), ukhoporali-cinestésica (konke okuhlobene umzimba kanye nokunyakaza), intrapersonal (ku yangaphakathi ukuziqaphela amakhono), ekuchumana (ke ihlobene ubudlelwano nomphakathi kanye neqembu), semvelo (ukuzwela nemvelo) futhi ekuphileni (ikhono uzindle khona kanye nezinye izihloko zefilosofi). Ngasinye ingxenye yomhlaba ibhangqwe elinye iqembu Pegasus futhi ndawonye ukuhlola intelligence ukuthi bamele izindaba ezahlukene incwadi.

izingane esuselwe Primary (nakuba ingasetshenziswa iminyaka esuka kwemine), Indaba ngamunye yethulwa nge eziningi neziqondiso neziphakamiso imikhaya ukusebenza kanye nezifundiswa. Ngikuthola eziwusizo kakhulu ukuhlola nezingane ngezikhundla zabo ezahlukene kanye imithombo ukuletha ukuqaphela ukuze bathuthukiswe, ngenkathi ukuzazi futhi ukuzethemba kuyakhuthazwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Liyincwadi ukuthi kusiza ekwaziseni ukwehluka ngokwambula konke kuletha ngamunye intelligence (futhi bangakwazi ukulungisa lokho ukuletha abangani babo kusukela amakhono ngamunye).

Ngithemba Wawujabulela kakhulu ngendlela mina.

Njengoba ngasho le “Siyakwamukela ku-blog”, umbono wukuthi lokhu blog ufuna ukukhonza njengephayona onalo izinsiza, ukuze zonke izinto neziphakamiso bakhonza ukwakha Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic nabanye kanye nezwe lethu elingaphakathi. Njengoba kuzoba ezihlukahlukene ngokwanele, Ngifuna ukuchaza lapha amalebula ezahlukene ukuthi Ngizosebenzisa zokuhlukanisa okufakiwe.

• CNV: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngokucacile noma lokho okubonakala sengathi kuyilo kimi ukuthi Nginayo “CNV consciencia”.
• Textos CNV: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukuxhumana benamathele.
• Ukugxilisa: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukugxilisa noma into efana nalokho kakhulu.
• Ukugxilisa en Madrid: ziqoqe nemiklamo Madrid ku Ukugxilisa Area (isibonelo, Miraflores de la Sierra, ihora kusuka Madrid).
• Textos Ukugxilisa: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukugxilisa.
• CI ohlobo lwe: okufakiwe ezihlobene eduze umsebenzi wami Spiral Consulting Izingane ezindabeni affectivity, Ukuvikelwa kanye ekuchumana, futhi ngifuna futhi ubheke kule blog.
• Ezenye imibhalo: zikhona izincwadi, izihloko kanye imibhalo, ngaphandle kokuba ngokucacile kunoma yiziphi eyala ezihlongozwayo, Sinenkosi ziyezwana jikelele kanye value okuholela kimi ukukhuluma ngabo kule blog.
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• Imiqophi: amavidiyo jikelele, kuhlangene nezinye amalebula ezidinga ekuqukethe.
• Movies: emadokhumenthari namafilimu, kokubili ezisekelwe emaqinisweni real nasezindabeni eziqanjiwe, I kubonakala olufanele ukuzwela ukuthi ngifuna ukuthuthukisa le blog.
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• Okuhlangenwe Nakho: Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kusilethela lezimanga, nakho ezenza kithi uhlaziye izinto eziza kuqala kithi noma uqinisekise intuitions yethu, futhi lezo zenzakalo bazohlangana ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko.
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• Agenda langempela futhi Alondoloziwe Agenda: lidlulisele zokwakheka avaliwe kakhulu namaqembu ihlelwe, kodwa ezimweni ezingandile lapho ngivula i zokwakheka kuzithameli ezijwayelekile noma ethize hang nabo lezi amalebula, “Agenda langempela” ngenkathi iye aluphelanga futhi “Alondoloziwe Agenda” lapho sekuvele sekudlule usuku lomcimbi, kodwa irekhodi futhi ungabona kwemigomo zokwakheka ukuthi engikufundisayo.

Njengoba ubona, izigaba eziningi Ziyathandelana. Into ezithakazelisayo wukuthi wonke umuntu angakwazi uhlole, uthole ukuthi kube nosizo nehuha. Futhi kuyoba nabanye niyozenezelelwa.

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