Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndimagawaniza nthawi yanga yaukatswiri pakati pa zochitika zachipatala zotsagana ndi anthu m'njira zawo zochiritsira ku Madrid ndikulangiza ndi kuphunzitsa mabungwe okhudzana ndi chitetezo cha ana., atsikana ndi achinyamata ochokera ku Spirals Childhood Consulting. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndizosangalatsa kuti ndipereke bukuli Pamodzi ndi mabala a moyo. Zovuta muubwana ndiunyamata, zomwe ndakonzekera ku Ofesi Yachigawo ya Midzi ya Ana ya SOS ku Latin America ndi ku Caribbean.

Kuti mudziwe zambiri pa positi iyi, zomwe zili mkati mwake komanso ubale ndi zofalitsa zina zoteteza ana, mukhoza kuwerenga izi CI Spirals blog positi.

Mabaibulo awiri a chikalatacho:

• Pamodzi ndi mabala a moyo. Zovuta muubwana ndiunyamata, ku tsamba losavuta (omasuka kusindikiza pa chosindikizira komanso kuwerenga pa foni yam'manja kapena piritsi).
• Pamodzi ndi mabala a moyo. Zovuta muubwana ndiunyamata, tsamba lawiri (kuti muwone pazenera lalikulu kapena kusindikiza).

Mu blog iyi ndiyenera kuwonjezera kuti kufotokozera za zoopsa monga ndondomeko zimachokera chitsanzo cha ndondomeko (A Process Model) ndi Eugene Gendlin, ndi mafotokozedwe a ma block omwe ndimawadziwa kuchokera kwa ophunzitsa ndi Focusing Coordinators Ann Weiser Cornell ndi Barbara McGavin. Mawu omwe amachokera kuzinthu zina angapezeke pamasamba 16-20 wa malemba.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti muwapeza kukhala othandiza.

F. Javier Romeo

Kudziwitsa anthu za thupi ngati malo otetezedwa ku nkhanza ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira zanga zaukadaulo.. mu msonkhano uno, “Kuganizira, thupi ndi chitetezo: Kuganizira kuti kupewa chiwawa” Ndimaphatikiza ntchito yanga yopitilira zaka khumi zoperekedwa kuchitetezo cha ana ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya nkhanza (zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zapitazi Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana) ndi luso luso la Kuganizira, Zandithandiza kwambiri pamlingo waumwini komanso waukadaulo..

Kuyang'ana kungatipatse njira yatsopano yopangira chitetezo m'miyoyo yathu kudzera m'thupi. Tonsefe timafuna kuchitiridwa zabwino., ndi ulemu ndi kulingalira. Komabe, timawona ziwawa pamagawo ake osiyanasiyana nthawi zambiri. Ngati timakumananso ndi ana, ndi achinyamata, ponse paŵiri m’mabanja athu ndi kuntchito kwathu, timawona zochitika zambiri zachiwawa ndipo timadabwa momwe tingapewere. Cholinga cha msonkhanowu ndi kugwira ntchito mwachidziwitso pa lingaliro lachiwawa lomwe limagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi thupi.. Mwanjira imeneyi tidzatha kuzindikira chiwawa kuchokera m'thupi lathu pomwe panthawi imodzimodziyo tidzatha kuchita zinthu momveka bwino komanso zotetezera m'moyo wathu komanso m'ntchito yathu..

Msonkhanowu ndi cholinga cha anthu omwe akufuna kudziwa bwino momwe angathanirane ndi nkhanza kuchokera pamalo otetezeka mkati mwa thupi, zonse payekha komanso mwaukadaulo (akatswiri okhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu kuchokera ku psychology, psychotherapy, ntchito yothandiza anthu, maphunziro…). Palibe chidziwitso choyambirira cha Focusing chofunikira (ngakhale zidzakhala zothandiza). Msonkhanowu ndi wodziwika bwino wopezera Diploma Yoyang'anira Spanish Focusing Institute.

Tsiku: Loweruka 11 Novembala 2017 wa 10:00 a 14:00 ndi cha 16:00 a 20:00 ndi Sunday 12 Novembala 2017 wa 10:00 a 14:00.

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Zambiri ndikulembetsa pa Focusing Center, amene amakonza maphunzirowo: focusingcentro@gmail.com

Ndikukhulupirira kuti zotsatira za chidwi,

F. Javier Romeo

[kulowa koyamba kwa 16 October 2017, kusinthidwa ku 12 Novembala 2017, tsiku la maphunziro].

Lingaliro lakuya la ulemu ndi malingaliro omveka bwino a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amatuluka mwa ine pamene ndikugawana nawo zokambiranazi.. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwaukadaulo ndi nkhani zachiwawa” (“Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”), monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera mu chingerezi. Ndi mutu wofunikira kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito kwambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, upangiri wodziwa za Chitetezo cha Ana omwe ine ndidali woyambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza ma nuances onse kumakhala kovuta nthawi zonse.

Pulogalamu ya International Institute of Focusing (Bungwe la International Focusing Institute, bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa pamlingo wapadziko lonse lapansi ntchito zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalitsa kwa Focusing) amalimbikitsa “zokambirana” (m'Chingerezi) ndi akatswiri Okhazikika ochokera padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), wolandira, ndipo zimatero m'njira yofananira ndi Kuyikirapo - ndi kusinkhasinkha kwachifundo, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuti awonekere ndikuwululidwa pa liwiro lawo-.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mupeza kuti timathirira ndemanga pamitu ngati iyi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadayenera kuchitika kuti zinthu zitheke, koma sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo kuwonongeka kumachitika m'thupi.
• Pezani a “chogwirira” (“chogwirira”) chifukwa cha ziwawa (muzindikiritse iye) ndi sitepe yoyamba kuti mutulukemo: chifukwa cha izi ndikofunikira kudziwa za chikhalidwe chomwe chimatipangitsa kuti tizikonda chiwawa.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu chiwawa.
• Chikondi chophatikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera chiwawa - komanso mawonekedwe athupi omwe angapezeke kudzera mu Focusing-.
• Kuzindikira ndi kuchitapo kanthu pazochitika zachiwawa mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudzana ndi kuthekera kwa machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chabwino kwambiri chochitira.

Ndipo ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungasinthire zochitika zachiwawa kuchokera m'thupi kudzera mu Focusing, Ndikupezeka magawo osunga nthawi kuyimitsa Psychotherapy ku Madrid.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kupeza malingaliro olimbikitsa ntchito zanu zachiwawa., ndipo ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mumachita pa izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi

Malingaliro akuya aulemu ndi malingaliro apadera a kudzichepetsa ndi manyazi amadza kwa ine pamene ndigawana nawo zokambiranazi. Ndimamva bwino kuti ndili ndi udindo wolankhula za ntchito yomwe ndimagwira “Kuyang'ana ndi momwe mungagwirire ntchito mwankhanza”, monga mutu wa zokambirana umanenera. Ndi phunziro lofunika kwa ine (Ndimagwira ntchito zambiri Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, kampani yolangizira yapadziko lonse yomwe imagwira ntchito pa Child Protection I yomwe inayambitsa nawo), ndipo kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro ake onse nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta.

Bungwe la International Focusing Institute (bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa ntchito zapadziko lonse lapansi Zoyang'ana zokhudzana ndi maphunziro ndi kufalikira) amalimbikitsa kawiri pamwezi “Zokambirana” ndi Focusing akatswiri padziko lonse lapansi. Serge Prengel, Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso Woyang'anira Psychotherapist yemwe ndidakumana naye International Focusing Conference 2016 ku Cambridge (UK), amachita ngati wolandira, ndipo amatero molunjika kwambiri -kulingalira, ndi kupuma, kulola malingaliro atsopano kuwonekera ndikukula mu nthawi yawo.

Mu izi “Kukambirana” mudzapeza nkhani zokambidwa monga zotsatirazi:

• Chiwawa ngati njira yoyimitsidwa (“Chinachake chikadachitika kuti zinthu zipitirire patsogolo, ndipo sizinachitike, kotero ndondomekoyi imakakamira”).
• Kuvulaza kumatanthauza chiwawa, ndipo chovulaza chimachokera m'thupi.
• Kupeza chogwirira chiwawa (kuzizindikiritsa izo) ndi sitepe yoyamba kutulukamo: kudziwa miyambo yathu yomwe imapangitsa kuti chiwawa chizichitika.
• Udindo wa mphamvu mu ziwawa.
• Chikondi cholumikizidwa ndi chisamaliro ngati njira yopewera ziwawa - komanso momwe thupi limakhudzidwira kudzera mu Focusing.
• Kuzindikira zachiwawa ndi kulowererapo mu Chitetezo cha Ana.
• Uthenga wachiyembekezo wokhudza machiritso ndi kusintha chiwawa, ndi Kuyang'ana ngati chida chodabwitsa chochitira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mupeza lingaliro kapena ziwiri zomwe zingalimbikitse ntchito yanu yokhudzana ndi zachiwawa, ndipo ndimakonda kumva kuchokera kwa inu za izi.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

Werengani izi mu Spanish (ngakhale kuyankhulana komwe kuli mu Chingerezi).

Mapewa “Kupeza Chothandizira Chiwawa M'miyoyo Yathu” (“Kupeza poyambira chiwawa m'miyoyo yathu”) pa ntchito ya Kuganizira pofuna kupewa ziwawa mu 27Msonkhano wapadziko lonse wa International Focusing Conference wa 2016 ndi Cambridge (United Kingdom), yolembedwa ndi British Focusing Association, ndi kutsegulidwa kwa mamembala a International Institute of Focusing (The Focusing Institute) a dziko lonse lapansi.

Tsiku: Tsiku latsopano: Loweruka 23 July 2016, wa 11:00 a 13:00.

Malo: Robinson College
Cambridge
United Kingdom

Kufotokozera: Tikamagwira ntchito ndi ana, unyamata ndi unyamata, ndi anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo pagulu, m'malo okhudzidwa ndi anthu, ndi makasitomala mu chithandizo, tingathe kuona mmene chiwawa chimakhudzira miyoyo yawo. Mu msonkhano uno tigwira ntchito mwachidziwitso kuti tipeze malo achiwawa m'miyoyo yathu monga njira yoyamba yopewera ndi kuzindikira zochitika zachiwawa.. Tifufuza momwe tingadziwire chiwawa kuchokera ku Focusing body view kuti tidzipatse mphamvu -ndipo tisinthe nkhanza zomwe zimatizungulira-.

Adatumizidwa ku: akatswiri (za psychology, alowererepo achire, wa Maphunziro, za social work, ndi zina.) amene amagwira ntchito ndi ana, atsikana, achinyamata ndi achinyamata, ndi anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo pagulu, ndi makasitomala mu chithandizo; anthu ntchito kusintha chikhalidwe (m'mayanjano, maziko, ndi zina.); komanso anthu wamba omwe akufuna kuthana ndi nkhanza m'njira zatsopano.

wotsogolera:
F. Javier Romeo-Biedma ndi katswiri wazamisala, amavomerezedwa ngati Mphunzitsi Wokhazikika komanso ngati Psychotherapist yokhazikika, ku Madrid, Spain, ndipo ndi mlangizi wapadziko lonse wokhudza Chitetezo cha Ana, Kugwirizana ndi Kuyankhulana Kwamunthu mu Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (kampani yolangizira yapadziko lonse lapansi yomwe imaphunzitsa ndi kulangiza za Chitetezo cha Ana). Ntchito yanu ndi ana, atsikana, achinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe ali pachiwopsezo cha anthu ku Spain, Morocco ndi Mauritania adamutsogolera kuti afufuze za kupewa, kuzindikira ndi kuchiza chiwawa (ndipo izi zikuphatikizapo chidziwitso chakuya mu Nonviolent Communication). Amapanganso psychotherapy komanso amaphunzitsa Focusing, Nonviolent Communication ndi Psychology mu Kulumikiza More Longopeka. Iye wapereka maphunziro mu Spanish (chinenero chanu), Chingerezi, French ndi Morocco Arabic.

Werengani nkhaniyi mu Chingerezi.

[kulowa koyamba kwa 27 Mulole 2016, kusinthidwa ku 23 July 2016, tsiku la msonkhano].

Msonkhano “Kupeza Chothandizira Chiwawa M'miyoyo Yathu” ku 27Msonkhano Wapadziko Lonse Woganizira Kwambiri 2016 ku Cambridge (UK), yolembedwa ndi British Focusing Association, lotseguka kwa mamembala a The Focusing Institute padziko lonse lapansi.

Madeti: Tsiku latsopano: Loweruka 23 July 2016, kuchokera 11:00 ku 13:00.

Malo: Robinson College
Cambridge
United Kingdom

Kufotokozera: Tikamagwira ntchito ndi ana ndi achinyamata, ndi anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo, m'malo ochezera, ndi makasitomala mu chithandizo, tikhoza kuona zotsatira za chiwawa m’miyoyo yawo. Mu msonkhano uno tigwira ntchito mwachidziwitso kuti tipeze njira yothanirana ndi nkhanza pamoyo wathu, ngati njira yoyamba yopewera ndi kuzindikira zochitika zachiwawa. Tidzafufuza momwe tingadziwire chiwawa kuchokera ku Kukhazikika komanso kukhazikika kuti tidzipatse mphamvu -kusintha ziwawa zomwe zimatizungulira..

Omvera omwe mukufuna: akatswiri (akatswiri a zamaganizo, ochiritsa, aphunzitsi, ogwira ntchito zamagulu, ndi zina.) kugwira ntchito ndi ana ndi achinyamata, ndi anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndi makasitomala mu chithandizo; anthu ntchito kusintha chikhalidwe (mayanjano, maziko, ndi zina.); komanso anthu wamba omwe akufuna kuthana ndi nkhanza m'njira zatsopano.

Wotsogolera:
F. Javier Romeo-Biedma ndi katswiri wazamisala, Wotsimikizika Woyang'anira Wotsimikizika ndi Psychotherapist wokhala ku Madrid, Spain, komanso mlangizi wapadziko lonse wokhudza Chitetezo cha Ana, Chiyanjano ndi Kuyankhulana pa Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (kampani yopereka upangiri yapadziko lonse lapansi yomwe adayambitsa nawo yomwe imapereka maphunziro ndi kuwunika kwa Chitetezo cha Ana). Ntchito yake ndi ana omwe ali pachiwopsezo komanso achinyamata ku Spain, Morocco ndi Mauritania zamupangitsa kuti afufuze za kupewa ziwawa, kuzindikira ndi kuchiritsa (kuphatikizapo chidziwitso chakuya mu Nonviolent Communication). Amakhalanso ndi machitidwe achinsinsi ndipo amaphunzitsa Focusing, Nonviolent Communication ndi Psychotherapy pa Kulumikiza More Longopeka. Iye waphunzitsa mu Spanish (chinenero chake), Chingerezi, French ndi Morocco Arabic.

Onaninso zomwezi mu Spanish.

[Cholemba choyambirira cha Meyi 27th. 2016, zasinthidwa pa Julayi 23rd. 2016, tsiku la msonkhano].

Mogwirizana ndi kupitiriza kukondwerera kusindikizidwa chaka chapitacho nkhani za Peppa Oven, mnzanga wabwino ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito pazamaphunziro okhudza ubwana), cholembera ichi chikukwaniritsa yapitayo, kutanthauza buku lake Chilankhulo cha mitengo. nkhani iyi, Wamatsenga wamalingaliro, yasindikizidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi mafanizo a Margarita Sada.

Pepa mwiniwake akufotokoza cholinga chake cha bukuli ndi mawu otsatirawa:

Wamatsenga wamalingaliro kulankhula za caresses, ndi momwe kusisita ndi kusisita kumagwirira ntchito pakudziletsa, kuti anyamata ndi atsikana aja omwe akulu amati asakhale chete, Iwo sangakhoze kuyika malingaliro awo mu dongosolo, kapena kuwakhazika mtima pansi kapena kuyang'ana kwambiri ... Kuti anyamata ndi atsikanawa akhale ndi "zamatsenga" kuti athe kukhazikitsa dongosolo mkati mwawo.. M'malingaliro omwe pansi pamtima palibe koma chipatso cha chidwi chake chodabwitsa.

Apa ndikuwonjezera kuti ndi nkhani yomwe ingasinthidwe bwino kuti iphunzitse Kuganizira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana pazifukwa izi:

• Amapereka malingaliro abwino ndi olandirira malingaliro, zomverera, kumverera, maganizo ndi zokumana nazo zomwe ana amakhala nazo (komanso kuti tili ndi akuluakulu): zomwe zili mkati mwathu zimakhala zomveka ngati tipereka njira yokwanira yomvera.
• Anyamata ndi atsikana amatha kuchita zinthu zowona kuti asamalire zomwe akumana nazo mkati, kotero kuti akhazikike mtima pansi (ndi, ngakhale sichinafotokozedwe m’nkhaniyi, komanso kufalitsa), ndipo ife amene tili nawo pafupi titha kuwatsagana nawo.
• Zochitika zamkati zimatsagana ndi zochitika zina zolimbitsa thupi. M'nkhaniyi, Pepa akupereka caresses kumadera omwe akukhudzidwa (mutu wa protagonist, pamenepa), koma fotokozani patsamba lomaliza, “Mawu kwa moyo wa akuluakulu”, kuti pakhoza kukhala njira zina zambiri, malinga ngati thupi likukhudzidwa.

Chifukwa chake ndikupangira bukuli ngati njira yowonetsera Kuyikira Kwambiri m'njira yabwino kwa ana..

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzazikonda monga momwe ndimachitira,

Xavier

Chaka choyamba cha kufalitsidwa kwa nkhaniyi posachedwapa chinali chikondwerero. Chilankhulo cha mitengo wa Peppa Oven, mnzanga wokondedwa ndi mnzanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana (komwe timagwira ntchito zoteteza ana). nkhani iyi, lofalitsidwa ndi Mkonzi Fineo ndi kufotokozedwa ndi Martina Vanda, anali ndi maulaliki angapo, ndipo woyamba anali m'menemo Madrid Book Fair 2015 za masiku awa, kotero zidawoneka zoyenera kukumbukira ndi cholembera ichi.

Pepa akupereka bukuli motere:

Chilankhulo cha mitengo ndi za imfa. Kapenanso za ulusi wa chikondi umene umagwirizanitsa mbali zonse za moyo. Lankhulani za anthu amene ali ndi mtima wosagawanika, “hafu pa dziko lapansi ndi theka kumwamba”, ndipo linalembedwa kwa anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri (amene ali ana tsopano ndi anyamata ena ndi atsikana obisika pansi pa khungu la akuluakulu) amene ali ndi mitima yonga iyi.

Ndikufuna kuwunikira mbali zitatu zomwe ndikupangira nkhaniyi (ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ndapereka kale ngati mphatso maulendo angapo):

• Kufunika kopeza chiyanjano chophiphiritsa ndi munthu wakufayo, zomwe zingathe kukulitsidwa m'moyo kapena imfa ikachitika. Sipanachedwe kupanga mwambo womwe umapatsa ife omwe tidakali ndi moyo kumverera kwa kulumikizana.
• Chisoni cha thupi, zomwe zimawoneka zoloza mwaluso. Kuwona malo, yenda mozungulira munda, kupanga manja a thupi… zimatithandiza bwino ndondomeko zotayika, mosasamala za msinkhu.
• Kukoma mtima komwe kumalowa m'ntchitoyo kumatipempha kuti tisamalire ubale pazochitika zilizonse zachisoni ndi anyamata ndi atsikana onse.: amene ali ndi zaka, ndi omwe timanyamula nawo anyamata ndi atsikana athu mkati (ndipo amafunikiranso chisamaliro chanu).

Kwa zonsezi ndi zina zambiri, ndi buku lomwe ndimawona kuti ndilofunika kuliwerenga., komanso makamaka kukhala nazo pamene zotayika zikuchitika m'chilengedwe.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda monga momwe ndimachitira.

Xavier

Sabata ino ndakhala ndi mwayi wochita nawo masewerawa Ndi Congress of Emotional Education ya Navarra, opangidwa ndi Makolo Ophunzitsidwa. Yakhala msonkhano wokonzedwa ndi chidwi chachikulu, ndi chisamaliro chachikulu ndi mlingo wabwino wa kulimbika mtima. Ulaliki wanga unakhudza mwachindunji “Maphunziro okhudzidwa omwe amateteza ku nkhanza zogonana”, imodzi mwamitu yomwe ndimagwirako Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, amene ine ndiri membala woyambitsa. Koma pamapeto pake panali tebulo lozungulira lomwe linali ndi mafunso kwa gulu la okamba nkhani, zomwe timagawana ndi kuwongolera kwa Sonsoles Echevarren, Mtolankhani wa Diario de Navarra. Inali nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale mafunso anayankhidwa kwa wokamba nkhani aliyense, pamapeto pake panali ambiri omwe ambiri adatenga nawo mbali. M’nkhaniyi panabuka funso lochititsa chidwi kwambiri, “Momwe mungamvere mwana yemwe akukana kuchoka paki?”. Mayankho ochititsa chidwi ndi ofunika anaperekedwa, ndipo ndinapereka chopereka changa: “Kumva 'inde'’ mu 'ayi'”.

Ine chotero kupulumutsa nkhani yanga mu blog Mvetserani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘, yomwe idasindikizidwa mu nambala 52 (ya Januware ya 2011) Magazini Ngodya yathu ya 0-6, lofalitsidwa ndi ACCENT (pakadali pano sikupitilirabe kutulutsa manambala atsopano, ngakhale zilipo). M'nkhaniyi ndikufotokozera mozama zomwe ndidatsutsana nazo: Pamene munthu (ndipo mnyamata kapena mtsikana alinso munthu) dayisi “ayi”, akuti “Inde” ku zinthu zambiri, ndipo ngati timvera uthenga wonse, tidzatha kupanga mgwirizano wozama ndikupeza njira yokhutiritsa kwa maphwando onse. Nkhaniyi ikuyamba motere:

Ana, zaka ziwiri ndi theka, sakufuna kuvala malaya ake kuti atuluke panja. José, zaka zinayi, sakufuna kutsika panjira kupita kunyumba. Irene, wa zaka zisanu, safuna kukagona. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani safuna kucita zinthu zooneka ngati zoyenela kwa ife monga akulu??

Ndipo tidzatani kenako? Kodi tingagonje ndi kuwalola kuchita zimene akufuna?? Choncho timakhumudwa chifukwa sitikugwirizana ndi maphunziro awo., ndipo zimatipatsanso malingaliro osiya pambali zomwe ifenso tikufuna monga anthu. Kodi timawakakamiza kuchita zimene tikufuna?? Kotero ndife otsimikizika kukambirana ndi chikhalidwe choipa kwa nthawi yaitali., ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi timawaphunzitsa kuti pamapeto pake chofunika ndicho kukhala ndi mphamvu kapena mphamvu, ndipo kukambirana kumeneko kumangogwira ntchito pamene muli ofooka. Muzochitika zanga zaumwini ndi zaukadaulo pali njira yachitatu, kutengera kulumikizana mwakuya muzochitika zonsezi. Ndipo luso limodzi lomwe timakulitsa m'misonkhano yomwe ndimathandizira ndikutha kumvetsera zomwe akunena “Inde” anyamata ndi atsikana athu akamati “ayi”.

Tsitsani nkhani yonse “mverani kwa “Inde” mu izo “ayi”‘

Ndikukhulupirira mukuwapeza osangalatsa.

Xavier

Pomaliza 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, Mlengi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana, wakwanitsa zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu ndipo ife amene tawonapo ubwino wa ntchito yake tikukondwerera.

Marshall B. Rosenberg anabadwa pa 6 October 1934 ku Guangzhou, Ohio (U.S), ndipo banja lidalowa 1943 ndi Detroit, Michigan, kutatsala pang'ono kuchita zipolowe za mpikisano chaka chimenecho. Marshall akufotokoza momwe zochitika zachiwawa zidamuzindikiritsira. Anakumananso ndi chiwawa kusukulu, podziwika kuti ndi Myuda ndi dzina lake lachibale. monga anenera mwini, anapeza kuti pali anthu amene angasangalale kuwawa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, adatha kuwona momwe anthu ena amatha kuyenda mwachifundo m'mikhalidwe yovuta kwambiri (agogo ake, amene panthawi yamavuto adatha kudyetsa anthu mumsewu; kapena amalume ake, amene anatha kudyetsa ndi kuchiritsa agogo okalamba kale).

Pambuyo pake adaphunzira za psychology ndipo adalandira Ph.D. kuchokera kwa Carl Rogers in 1961, woyenereradi kukhala katswiri wazamisala mu 1966. Komabe, njira ya psychology yachipatala sinamukhutiritse, ndi kutsindika kumeneko pa zilembo ndi matenda. Anapitiriza kufufuza ndi kuphunzitsa (amaphunzitsidwanso Focusing, ndipo amavomereza mu maphunziro ake apamwamba), ndipo pamapeto adapanga njira ya Yofatsa Kulankhulana monga tikudziwira panopa.

Kuyambira zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu wakhala akugwira ntchito padziko lonse lapansi poyimira pakati pa mikangano yayikulu komanso kukulitsa luso laling'ono lothetsera mikangano pamoyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku., mikangano ndi anthu ena komanso mikangano yamkati. Anapuma pantchito zaka zingapo zapitazo, atatha kupanga mazana a mapangidwe padziko lapansi ndikukhazikitsa International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent) kufalitsa njira yosinthira iyi. Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za moyo wake komanso komwe adagwirako ntchito Webusaiti ya International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent).

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye, ndi mkazi wake Valentina komanso ndi opanga ena mu International Intensive Formation (International Intensive Training) masiku asanu ndi anayi ku Switzerland mu Ogasiti 2008, ndipo ndinatha kulandira chikondi chake ndi momwe adandilimbikitsira kuti ndiyese kupereka kumvetsetsa kwanga kwa Nonviolent Communication kwa ana ndi anthu omwe amakumana nawo.. Zambiri mwa ntchito zanga kuyambira pamenepo zalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe ndaphunzira kwa iye., zonse kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka m’miyoyo ya anthu onse (kuphatikizapo wanga), monga m’miyoyo ya ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ndimakumana nawo, ndi anthu ozungulira inu (makamaka kudzera Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, mkati mwa mzere Kulankhulana pakati pa anthu). M'maphunzirowa tinkakamba za Certification, ndipo ngakhale kuti pamapeto pake ndi njira yomwe sindinayitsatire, Ndikumva mbali ya gulu la Nonviolent Communication ndipo ndikupitiriza kugwirizana ndi Association for Nonviolent Communication kuno ku Spain komanso ndi magulu ena a internship ndi maphunziro.

Pa nthawi imeneyo tinajambula chithunzi ichi, kugwirizana kwa tsogolo, Marshall amatifotokozera, Valentina ndi ine tili ndi anyamata awiri osadziwika bwino ndi mtsikana, monga kuyimira mwapadera ntchito ndi ana yomwe ndimachita ndi kudzoza kwa Marshall ndi Nonviolent Communication.

Kuchokera pano nditumiza zikomo zanga ndi msonkho wanga. ¡Gracias pa, Marshall!

Ndi chiyamiko chakuya ndimatumiza ulemu wanga wokondwerera. Zikomo, Marshall!

Xavier