Umuzwa ojulile wokuhlonipha kanye nomuzwa ocacile wokuzithoba kanye namahloni uphakama kimi njengoba ngabelana ngale ngxoxo.. Ngiwuzwa ngokucacile umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuluma ngomsebenzi engiwenza kuwo “Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngezinkinga zobudlova” (“Ukugxilisa nokuthi ukusebenza experientially ngodlame”), njengoba isihloko sengxoxo sisho ngesingisi. Kuyisihloko esibalulekile kimina (Ngisebenza kakhulu ngakho Spiral Consulting Izingane, i-consultancy egxile ekuvikelweni kwezingane enginguzakwethu wokuqala wayo), futhi ukuzama ukudlulisa wonke ama-nuances kuhlale kuyinselele.

the Isikhungo Sokugxila Emhlabeni Wonke (I-International Focusing Institute, inhlangano exhumanisa ezingeni lamazwe ngamazwe imisebenzi ehlobene nokuqeqeshwa nokusabalalisa kwe-Focusing) ikhuthaza “izingxoxo” (isiZulu) nge-Focusing professionals abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba. Serge Prengel, Umqeqeshi Ogxilile kanye NePsychotherapist Egxile Ekugxileni engahlangana naye I-International Focusing Conference 2016 kanye neCambridge (i-United Kingdom), umsingathi, futhi ikwenza ngendlela ejwayeleke kakhulu ye-Focusing -ngokuboniswa kozwela, ngokuma, ukuvumela imibono emisha ukuthi iqhamuke futhi yembuleke ngejubane layo-.

Kulokhu “Ingxoxo” uzothola ukuthi siphawula ngezihloko ezifana nalezi ezilandelayo:

• Udlame njengenqubo emisiwe (“Bekuzomele kwenzeke okuthile ukuletha lesi simo phambili, kodwa akwenzekanga, ngakho inqubo ibambeka”).
• Ukulimala kuchaza udlame, futhi umonakalo uvela emzimbeni.
• Thola a “isibambo” (“isibambo”) ngodlame (khomba yena) kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho: ngalokhu kuyadingeka ukwazi amaphethini amasiko asenza sijwayele ubudlova.
• Iqhaza lamandla odlameni.
• Uthando oluhambisana nokunakekela njengendlela yokugwema udlame—kanye nobukhulu bomzimba obungazuzwa ngokugxila—.
• Ukutholwa nokungenelela ezimeni zodlame Ekuvikelweni Kwezingane.
• Umlayezo wethemba mayelana namathuba okwelapha kanye nokuguqula udlame, futhi Ukugxila njengethuluzi elihle kakhulu lokukwenza.

Futhi uma ufuna ukuzwa ukuthi ungawuguqula kanjani umuzwa wodlame emzimbeni ngokuFocusing, Ngiyatholakala amaseshini afika ngesikhathi isitobhi i-psychotherapy eMadrid.

Ngethemba ukuthi ungathola eminye imibono ukuze ukhuthaze umsebenzi wakho wokuhlangenwe nakho ngodlame., futhi ngingathanda ukwazi ukusabela kwakho ngakho.

F. Javier Romeo-Biedma

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