Ukubonga, ukutuseka nokuthobeka - le mizwa igqama phakathi kwayo yonke eminye ngemuva kokubamba iqhaza esifundweni sokugcina noGene Gendlin kanye no-Ann Weiser Cornell on Focusing, Ifilosofi yomsebenzi Ongacacile kanye noGendlin jikelele.

Ngibonga kakhulu ngokuba nethuba lokuba khona “Izingxoxo ezivela ku-Edge no-Gene kanye no-Ann” (“Izingxoxo Emaphethelweni noGene kanye no-Ann”) kula masonto okugcina kaSepthemba no-Okthoba 2016. Ann Weiser Cornell usenesikhathi eside ehlela lezi “Izingxoxo ezivela ku-Edge no-Gene kanye no-Ann” izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka ngokusebenzisa ipulatifomu yayo, Izinsiza zokugxila, ngefomethi yesifundo ngocingo (noma ngekhompyutha, kodwa ngezwi kuphela) kaGene Gendlin kanye naye uqobo lapho thina esibambe iqhaza singacela noma yini esiyifunayo: Gene Gendlin uphendula imibuzo yethu, imibono yeziphakamiso zethu, futhi naye lowo Gendlin ngokwakhe wasiphelezela ohlelweni lokuGxila.

Ukubonga, ukutuswa, isizotha… Ngangivele ngizwe uGene Gendlin ekurekhodweni komsindo nevidiyo, futhi ngakuthola kukhuthaza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba sengxoxweni eqondile naye ocingweni kuyinto ehluke kakhulu.. Nakuba ngingazange ngilokothe ​​ngibuze lutho phakathi nezikhathi ezintathu zokuqala, ukumlalela exhumana bukhoma nabanye abantu kunekhwalithi ekhetheke kakhulu. Ubukhona bakho, ukuvuleka kwayo nokucaca kwayo kuyanginyakazisa, futhi uGene uhlanganyela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe ngamaparele amancane futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ngokunaka kwakhe.

Futhi ngingathanda ukwabelana ngeminye yemibono engiyijabulele kakhulu:

• Umqondo we “Isiphambano”, kufinyezwa ngofuzo: “[Inqubo ye] ukuwela kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukusho okuthile futhi kuqondwe ngendlela entsha ngokuyiveza ohlelweni olusha, ethi 'kunjani (noma kungaba njalo) lesi isibonelo salokhu okunye?'”. Singasho njalo into esiyiveza komunye umbono. Izingathekiso zihlanganisa ukusho into eyodwa ngokunye (“a yi, ngandlela thize, B”).
• Ingxoxo ethokozisayo phakathi kukaGene nomuntu mayelana nokuthi ungayichaza kanjani i-Focusing, kanye nokuphikisa kuka-Gendlin ekuchazeni izimo “edingekayo futhi eyanele” ukusho ukuthi kukhona Okugxilile. Omunye wemibono eminingi evele ku “Ukugxila kungukuba 'nokuthi', nalapho kungakenzeki ukukhululeka”.
• Ukugxila njengendlela yokulalela ukunyakaza kwethu kwangaphakathi: “Kuningi okungaphakathi kwethu okufisa kuzwakale okungakezwakali.. Yini lena engifuna ukuyizwa kimina?”.
• Umlayezo ogcwele ithemba: “Ukugxila akudingi ukwethemba inqubo ngaphambili”, ngomqondo wokuthi singakwazi ukuqala inqubo yokugxila ngisho nalapho singathembi okuthile ngaphakathi kwethu, futhi ngale nqubo sizobe sesikwethemba.
• I-Gene yabelana ngalokho okucatshangwayo “ukuchema kakhulu ngokuvuna ukugcina okuhle ezintweni nokushiya ngaphandle okubi”, okusho ukuthi ukhetha ukugxila ezicini ezijabulisayo zenqubo ngayinye futhi angagcizeleli ekuzameni “qonda” (kusukela ekhanda) izici ezibuhlungu uma inqubo isizixazululile: “Awudingi ukungena lapho”, kusho.
• “Ukugxila kuyisu, kodwa akuyona nje indlela”.
• Ukugxila kuhlale kuyinqubo yangaphakathi, ngisho nalapho senza Ukugxila ngezinto zangaphandle (izihlahla, indawo, imidwebo…): kuhlale kukhona ukuzwa komzimba.
• ukwakheka “Ake sichithe umzuzu yi“, ukuvumela izwi “yi” ziqukethe zonke izincazelo, awekho amagama aqondile, ukuze kuthi lapho amazwi evela, ube musha futhi umusha.
• Ukukhuluma ngokuthi isiko lingabumba kanjani isipiliyoni somuntu, kusho ufuzo: “Umuntu ngamunye uhlala edlula isiko lakhe”.
• “Umqondo ozwakalayo uhlale uthembekile kunomzwelo noma umqondo noma isizathu sodwa.”.

Futhi nginenkumbulo ekhethekile yokukhuluma no-Gene mayelana nendlela engisondela ngayo ekutholeni indawo yodlame nge-Focusing., ukuze sikwazi ukukubona futhi sikuvimbele, njengoba ngivamise ukufundisa ochwepheshe bokuvikelwa kwezingane ekuqeqesheni kwami (weSocial Work, Psychology, Imfundo…) nasemindenini. Isikhumbuzo sentshisekelo yakho kanye nokuthola ukwesekwa kwakho nesikhuthazo sokuqhubeka nokuhlola.

Bekukhona nokunye ukusebenzisana okuningi okugcwele imibono nesipiliyoni esithokozisayo., ngokuba khona kukaGene no-Ann. Ngiyazifudumeza, futhi ngasese.

Ngakho ngizwa ukubonga, ukutuswa nokuzithoba ngokuchitha lamahora ngilalele uGendlin bukhoma, nokufudumala kwayo, ekuvuleni, ilukuluku lakho, intshisekelo yakhe enkulu kulokho umhlanganyeli ngamunye ayefuna ukukubuza noma ukwabelana ngakho. isifundo sangempela. Ugqozi. kanye nomgubho.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kuGene ngokutholakala kanye naku-Ann ngokwenza kwaba nokwenzeka kuwo wonke amazinga..

Ngokubonga, ukutuswa nokuthobeka,

F. Javier Romeo

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