Okokugcina 6 Okthoba UMarshall Rosenberg, umdali we Ukuxhumana benamathele, usehlanganise iminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalombili kanti thina esizibonele izinzuzo zomsebenzi wakhe siyawubungaza.

UMarshall B. Rosenberg wazalwa ngo 6 October 1934 e-Guangzhou, E-Ohio (USA), nomndeni wangena 1943 kanye neDetroit, EMichigan, ngaphambi nje kodlame lomjaho ngalowo nyaka. UMarshall ulandisa ukuthi isipiliyoni sodlame sammaka kanjani. Wabhekana nodlame esikoleni, ngokubizwa ngokuthi ungumJuda ngesibongo sakhe. njengoba esho yena, wathola ukuthi kunabantu abangajabulela ukulimaza. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, wakwazi ukubona indlela abanye abantu ababekwazi ngayo ukunyakaza ngozwela ezimeni ezinzima ngokwedlulele (ugogo wakhe, okwathi ngesikhathi sobunzima bakwazi ukuphakela abantu emgwaqweni; noma umalume wakhe, owakwazi ukuphakela nokwelapha ugogo osemdala).

Kamuva wafunda i-psychology futhi wathola i-Ph.D. ku-Carl Rogers in 1961, ofaneleka ngokuphelele njengodokotela wezengqondo emtholampilo ku 1966. Nokho, indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yomtholampilo ayizange imenelise, ngalokho kugcizelela kumalebula nokuxilongwa. Waqhubeka nokucwaninga nokuqeqesha (futhi waqeqeshwa ku-Focusing, futhi empeleni uyincoma ekuqeqeshweni kwayo okuthuthukile), futhi ekugcineni wadala inqubo ye Ukuxhumana benamathele njengoba sisazi njengamanje.

Kusukela ngeminyaka yamashumi ayisishiyagalombili usebenze emhlabeni wonke ekuxazululeni izingxabano ezinkulu kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amancane okuxazulula izingxabano ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke., izingxabano nabanye abantu kanye nezingxabano zangaphakathi. Uthathe umhlalaphansi eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngemva kokwenza amakhulukhulu ezinhlaka emhlabeni futhi esesungule Isikhungo Samazwe Ngamazwe Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Center for Communication benamathele) ukusabalalisa le nqubo yokuguqula. Ungafunda kabanzi ngempilo yakhe nalapho asebenze khona Isizindalwazi se-International Centre for Nonviolent Communication (Center for Communication benamathele).

Ngikujabulele ukuzilolonga naye, nomkakhe u-Valentina kanye nabanye abahleli ku-International Intensive Formation (Ukuqeqeshwa Okujulile Kwamazwe Ngamazwe) izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye eSwitzerland ngo-August 2008, futhi ngakwazi ukwamukela imfudumalo yakhe nendlela aye wangikhuthaza ngayo ukuba ngizame ukudlulisela ukuqonda kwami ​​Ukuxhumana Okungenabudlova ezinganeni nakubantu abaxhumana nabo. Umsebenzi wami omningi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ugqugquzelwe yilokho engikufunde kuye., kokubili ukudala a Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic ezimpilweni zabo bonke abantu (kuhlanganise neyami), njengasezimpilweni zezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha engihlangana nayo, nabantu abakuzungezile (ikakhulukazi ngokusebenzisa Spiral Consulting Izingane, ngaphakathi komugqa Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu). Kulokho kuqeqeshwa besikhuluma ngeSitifiketi, futhi nakuba ekugcineni kuyindlela engingazange ngiyilandele, Ngizizwa ngiyingxenye yenhlangano ye-Nonviolent Communication futhi ngiyaqhubeka nokuhlanganyela ne Association for Communication benamathele lapha eSpain kanye namanye ama-internship kanye namaqembu okufunda.

Ngaleso sikhathi sathatha lesi sithombe ukuthi, ukuqondana kwesiphetho, UMarshall uyasibonisa, Mina noValentina sinabafana ababili abangaziwa nentombazane, njengokufanekisa ngendlela ekhethekile umsebenzi nezingane engiwenza ngogqozi lwe-Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

Kusukela lapha ngithumela ukubonga kwami ​​kanye nesipho sami. ¡Gracias, Marshall!

Ngokubonga okujulile ngithumela ukuhlonipha kwami ​​kokugubha. Ngiyabonga, Marshall!

Javier

Kulokhu okufakiwe ngifuna ukugubha uMklomelo Wokuthula weNobel 2014 inikezwe abantu ababili abavikela amalungelo ezingane, amantombazane kanye nentsha evela ku-Non-Violence.

Kube yinjabulo kimi ukwazi ukuthi uKailash Satyarthi uzoyithola, indoda yaseNdiya evikela amalungelo ezingane, ikakhulukazi labo abasebenza, y Malala Yousafzai, osemusha wasePakistan oye walwela ilungelo lemfundo yezingane ikakhulukazi amantombazane. kusukela ibhulogi ye-Spiral Consulting for Children Senze into ethile efakiwe lapho sinikeza khona imininingwane eyengeziwe ngezici esithakaselayo lapho: sebenzela izingane kusukela ekubambeni iqhaza. Ngiyakumema ukuthi ufunde umnyango, lapho sinikeza idatha eningi futhi ungayibona yomibili kuvidiyo.

Kule bhulogi, nokho, ngifuna ukuxoxa ngokuthi bobabili bakhuluma kanjani Nokungewona Udlame. Futhi bakwenza kanjani ngozwelo, kodwa futhi ngamandla amakhulu. Abakhulumi ngobuthakathaka noma ngobugwala. UGandhi usevele wathi “Phakathi kodlame nobugwala, Ngincamela udlame”, futhi-ke yabonisa ukuthi kwakukhona indlela enamandla kakhulu kunazo zombili, ukungabi nodlame. Lokhu ngikubona eKailash naseMalala.

Kailash Satyarthi, engaba nenhlanhla yokuhlangana nayo eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule engqungqutheleni yamalungelo ezingane, unobudlelwano obuseduze, ngesithakazelo esikhulu kulokho okwenziwa abanye ochwepheshe. Yena ngokwakhe uzithatha njengendlalifa yomugqa kaGandhi Wokungabi Nodlame, futhi ube ngumxhumanisi wemicimbi eminingi ezweni lakhe nasemhlabeni jikelele, sibonga ikhono lakhe lokulalela kanye nokufakwa kwazo zonke izinhlangothi ezihilelekile. Futhi lokho akuwaqedanga amandla ayo okusindisa izingane ezisebenza ngaphansi kwezimo ezixhaphazayo., ukuthembela emaphoyiseni aseNdiya nokubeka ubuqotho bakhe engozini (uselimele ngokuphindaphindiwe nokulahlekelwa abatakuli asebenza nabo).

Malala Yousafzai waduma ngokuqala ibhulogi yokuvikela ilungelo lemfundo, ikakhulukazi ekufundiseni amantombazane afana naye, endaweni yasePakistan ehlala amaTaliban. Ngenxa yalokho, amaTaliban azama ukumbulala., kodwa ngenhlanhla isindile futhi isaqhubeka nokwakheka, kodwa vele use-UK. UMalala uyaqhubeka nokufundisa, njengoba esho, “ukuze kufundiswe bonke abafana namantombazane, kuhlanganise vele amadodana namadodakazi amaTaliban”. Futhi phawula kuvidiyo ukuthi kanjani ngaleso sikhathi, lapho esatshiswa ngokubulawa, wacabanga ukuthi uzophendula kanjani, nokuthi wanquma kanjani ukuthi akafuni ukuthatha ulaka ngoba wabe esefana nomuntu omhlasele..

Ngakho ukuqashelwa kwabantu ababili nezindlela ezimbili ezihlukene zokuba khona kuye kwangigcwalisa ngokwaneliseka. (indoda, Yena wesifazane; yena omdala, osemusha; umNdiya, yena epakistani; yena hindu, uyiMuslim), okuyinto, nokho, esekelwe ekubukeni okunozwelo nokuqinile ezintweni ezingokoqobo zomuntu, futhi lokho kuholela ekuzibophezeleni kanye nemiphumela ebambekayo, Igxathu emvakwe gxathu. Empeleni sebezwakalise intshisekelo yokusebenza ndawonye., nakuba bengaziwa ngaphambili.

Ngishiya lokhu kungenela njengomgubho, futhi futhi njengogqozi. Ngempela kubantu esiyikho singathola indlela ebheke kuXhumano Oluyiqiniso Kakhudlwana, kanye nokuthatha izinyathelo ezisebenzayo zokuxazulula izinkinga zangempela nezibambekayo.

Ngiyakumema ukuthi uphenye kabanzi mayelana no-Kailash no-Malala, nokuthi uyasijabulela isikhuthazo abangasilethela sona.

Javier

Qaphela: Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi ukuthi kukhona umugqa womsebenzi kuwo Ukugxila emphakathini wase-Afghanistan nasePakistan, ezindaweni ezijeziswe kakhulu yiTaliban, ukubuyisela indwangu yomphakathi kanye nokuxhumana ngokusebenzisa amasiko endawo yamaSufi, ngobukhulu obungeziwe obunikezwa i-Focusing. Angicabangi ukuthi uMalala uyawazi lo msebenzi, kodwa kukhona okunye ugqozi.

Insiza eyisisekelo yokufunda ngokugxila yi Iwebhusayithi yeNew York Focusing Institute, The Institute Ukugxilisa. I-Institute yibhizinisi elixhumanisa ezingeni lamazwe ngamazwe ukusatshalaliswa kwe-Focusing kanye nesitifiketi samazwe ngamazwe sochwepheshe bokugxila.. Ngale nhloso, iwebhusayithi inezinsiza eziningi ngaphakathi kwezici ezifanele kakhulu.

Inesigaba phakathi español, lapho kuvela khona imibhalo embalwa yesingeniso emayelana nokuGxila nezinye izinhlelo zokusebenza, yayihlanganisa isihloko sami “Ukuhlanganisa Ukugxilisa and Communication benamathele: Ake ucabange lezinyathelo ezijulile”.

ikhasi eliyinhloko, okuyisiNgisi, inezigaba ezahlukene, kuhlanganise:

• Indlela yokufunda Ukugxila (Funda Ukugxila).
• Okwenziwayo emphakathini we-Focusing (Umphakathi Wazizwa), ngephephandaba (Iphephandaba) elivela izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka futhi The Ikhasi. A Journal for Ukugxila kanye Experiential Therapy, iphephabhuku lezemfundo elisemthethweni.
• Izinhlelo zokusebenza nezinhlanganisela Zokugxila ezindaweni ezahlukene nezethameli ezahlukene (Ukugxila kanye…).
• isitolo se-inthanethi (I-Focusing Store), lapho ungabona khona ukuthenga ezincwadini ezinkulu, amavidiyo nomsindo, nakuba imibhalo eminingi ngeSpanishi itholakala kangcono kuwebhusayithi ye Ukugxila Institute Spanish.

I-Eugene Gendlin Online Library ijabulisa kakhulu (I-Gendlin Online Library), lapho ungavula khona ukufinyelela kunguqulo yokuqala (ngesiNgisi noma ngesiJalimane) zamakhulu ezihloko azishicilele umbhali oyinhloko we-Focusing, nalapho ungafunda khona okuningi mayelana nengxenye yefilosofi yaleli thuluzi, le Ifilosofi ye-Implicit (Ifilosofi ye-Implicit).

Ngiyakumema ukuthi uphenye futhi uthole izinsiza kuleli khasi, ukuyinika isikhathi esisifanele.

Ngethemba ukuthi kuzogcina kucebisa njengeyami.

Javier

The Association for Communication benamathele eSpain inikeza ulwazi ngokuqeqeshwa okunikezwa eSpain ngabantu abagunyazwe yi Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame (Nceku), izixhumanisi, izihloko kanye nokufinyelela emisebenzini yeNhlangano.

Kuyisiqalo esihle sokuthola ukuthi yini eyenziwa eSpain mayelana Nokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame futhi kusiza ukuxhumana namaqembu okuqeqesha nokuzilolonga..

the Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame, isiZulu “Isikhungo Sokuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame” (Nceku) inalesi sizindalwazi esisemthethweni sokusabalalisa Ukuxhumana Okungenalo Udlame emhlabeni jikelele. Yasungulwa nguMarshall Rosenberg, umdali we-Nonviolent Communication, okwamanje osohlwini lomeluleki, osevele ethathe umhlalaphansi ekuphatheni okusebenzayo ngenxa yezizathu zobudala.

Kukhona ukufinyelela ezintweni eziningi (abanye ngeSpanishi) namavidiyo amaningana.

Njengoba ngasho le “Siyakwamukela ku-blog”, umbono wukuthi lokhu blog ufuna ukukhonza njengephayona onalo izinsiza, ukuze zonke izinto neziphakamiso bakhonza ukwakha Ukuxhuma Ngini Authentic nabanye kanye nezwe lethu elingaphakathi. Njengoba kuzoba ezihlukahlukene ngokwanele, Ngifuna ukuchaza lapha amalebula ezahlukene ukuthi Ngizosebenzisa zokuhlukanisa okufakiwe.

• CNV: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukuxhumana benamathele, ngokucacile noma lokho okubonakala sengathi kuyilo kimi ukuthi Nginayo “CNV consciencia”.
• Textos CNV: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukuxhumana benamathele.
• Ukugxilisa: konke okufakiwe ezihlobene Ukugxilisa noma into efana nalokho kakhulu.
• Ukugxilisa en Madrid: ziqoqe nemiklamo Madrid ku Ukugxilisa Area (isibonelo, Miraflores de la Sierra, ihora kusuka Madrid).
• Textos Ukugxilisa: okufakiwe eziphathelene amabhuku, izihloko kanye imibhalo ethize Ukugxilisa.
• CI ohlobo lwe: okufakiwe ezihlobene eduze umsebenzi wami Spiral Consulting Izingane ezindabeni affectivity, Ukuvikelwa kanye ekuchumana, futhi ngifuna futhi ubheke kule blog.
• Ezenye imibhalo: zikhona izincwadi, izihloko kanye imibhalo, ngaphandle kokuba ngokucacile kunoma yiziphi eyala ezihlongozwayo, Sinenkosi ziyezwana jikelele kanye value okuholela kimi ukukhuluma ngabo kule blog.
• Webs: amakhasi ewebhu, ibhulogi nezisetshenziswa inthanethi.
• Imiqophi: amavidiyo jikelele, kuhlangene nezinye amalebula ezidinga ekuqukethe.
• Movies: emadokhumenthari namafilimu, kokubili ezisekelwe emaqinisweni real nasezindabeni eziqanjiwe, I kubonakala olufanele ukuzwela ukuthi ngifuna ukuthuthukisa le blog.
• Indaba: inoveli (futhi izindaba nezincwadi zezingane) sisinikeze ithuba lokusho unambithe uzwela nge Ukuxhumana benamathele kanye Ukugxilisa.
• Okuhlangenwe Nakho: Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kusilethela lezimanga, nakho ezenza kithi uhlaziye izinto eziza kuqala kithi noma uqinisekise intuitions yethu, futhi lezo zenzakalo bazohlangana ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko.
• Ukuze izingane: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nezingane.
• For Teens: izinsiza engasetshenziswa ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile nge intsha.
• Agenda langempela futhi Alondoloziwe Agenda: lidlulisele zokwakheka avaliwe kakhulu namaqembu ihlelwe, kodwa ezimweni ezingandile lapho ngivula i zokwakheka kuzithameli ezijwayelekile noma ethize hang nabo lezi amalebula, “Agenda langempela” ngenkathi iye aluphelanga futhi “Alondoloziwe Agenda” lapho sekuvele sekudlule usuku lomcimbi, kodwa irekhodi futhi ungabona kwemigomo zokwakheka ukuthi engikufundisayo.

Njengoba ubona, izigaba eziningi Ziyathandelana. Into ezithakazelisayo wukuthi wonke umuntu angakwazi uhlole, uthole ukuthi kube nosizo nehuha. Futhi kuyoba nabanye niyozenezelelwa.

Bon appétit!