Pomaliza 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, Mlengi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana, wakwanitsa zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu ndipo ife amene tawonapo ubwino wa ntchito yake tikukondwerera.

Marshall B. Rosenberg anabadwa pa 6 October 1934 ku Guangzhou, Ohio (U.S), ndipo banja lidalowa 1943 ndi Detroit, Michigan, kutatsala pang'ono kuchita zipolowe za mpikisano chaka chimenecho. Marshall akufotokoza momwe zochitika zachiwawa zidamuzindikiritsira. Anakumananso ndi chiwawa kusukulu, podziwika kuti ndi Myuda ndi dzina lake lachibale. monga anenera mwini, anapeza kuti pali anthu amene angasangalale kuwawa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, adatha kuwona momwe anthu ena amatha kuyenda mwachifundo m'mikhalidwe yovuta kwambiri (agogo ake, amene panthawi yamavuto adatha kudyetsa anthu mumsewu; kapena amalume ake, amene anatha kudyetsa ndi kuchiritsa agogo okalamba kale).

Pambuyo pake adaphunzira za psychology ndipo adalandira Ph.D. kuchokera kwa Carl Rogers in 1961, woyenereradi kukhala katswiri wazamisala mu 1966. Komabe, njira ya psychology yachipatala sinamukhutiritse, ndi kutsindika kumeneko pa zilembo ndi matenda. Anapitiriza kufufuza ndi kuphunzitsa (amaphunzitsidwanso Focusing, ndipo amavomereza mu maphunziro ake apamwamba), ndipo pamapeto adapanga njira ya Yofatsa Kulankhulana monga tikudziwira panopa.

Kuyambira zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu wakhala akugwira ntchito padziko lonse lapansi poyimira pakati pa mikangano yayikulu komanso kukulitsa luso laling'ono lothetsera mikangano pamoyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku., mikangano ndi anthu ena komanso mikangano yamkati. Anapuma pantchito zaka zingapo zapitazo, atatha kupanga mazana a mapangidwe padziko lapansi ndikukhazikitsa International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent) kufalitsa njira yosinthira iyi. Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za moyo wake komanso komwe adagwirako ntchito Webusaiti ya International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent).

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye, ndi mkazi wake Valentina komanso ndi opanga ena mu International Intensive Formation (International Intensive Training) masiku asanu ndi anayi ku Switzerland mu Ogasiti 2008, ndipo ndinatha kulandira chikondi chake ndi momwe adandilimbikitsira kuti ndiyese kupereka kumvetsetsa kwanga kwa Nonviolent Communication kwa ana ndi anthu omwe amakumana nawo.. Zambiri mwa ntchito zanga kuyambira pamenepo zalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe ndaphunzira kwa iye., zonse kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka m’miyoyo ya anthu onse (kuphatikizapo wanga), monga m’miyoyo ya ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ndimakumana nawo, ndi anthu ozungulira inu (makamaka kudzera Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, mkati mwa mzere Kulankhulana pakati pa anthu). M'maphunzirowa tinkakamba za Certification, ndipo ngakhale kuti pamapeto pake ndi njira yomwe sindinayitsatire, Ndikumva mbali ya gulu la Nonviolent Communication ndipo ndikupitiriza kugwirizana ndi Association for Nonviolent Communication kuno ku Spain komanso ndi magulu ena a internship ndi maphunziro.

Pa nthawi imeneyo tinajambula chithunzi ichi, kugwirizana kwa tsogolo, Marshall amatifotokozera, Valentina ndi ine tili ndi anyamata awiri osadziwika bwino ndi mtsikana, monga kuyimira mwapadera ntchito ndi ana yomwe ndimachita ndi kudzoza kwa Marshall ndi Nonviolent Communication.

Kuchokera pano nditumiza zikomo zanga ndi msonkho wanga. ¡Gracias pa, Marshall!

Ndi chiyamiko chakuya ndimatumiza ulemu wanga wokondwerera. Zikomo, Marshall!

Xavier

Kuchokera pazolowera izi ndikufuna kukondwerera Mphotho ya Mtendere wa Nobel 2014 yaperekedwa kwa anthu awiri omwe amateteza ufulu wa ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata ochokera ku Non-Violence.

Zakhala zosangalatsa kwa ine kudziwa kuti Kailash Satyarthi adzalandira, munthu wa ku India yemwe amateteza ufulu wa ana, makamaka amene amagwira ntchito, y Malala Yousafzai, wachinyamata wa ku Pakistan yemwe wakhala akumenyera ufulu wa maphunziro kwa ana makamaka atsikana. Kuyambira blog ya Spiral Consulting for Children Tapanga cholowa chachindunji pomwe timapereka zambiri zazinthu zomwe zimatisangalatsa kumeneko: ntchito kwa ana kuchokera nawo. Ndikukupemphani kuti muwerenge polowera, komwe timapereka zambiri ndipo mutha kuwawona onse pavidiyo.

Kuchokera pabulogu iyi, ndikufuna kukambirana momwe onse awiri amachitira ndi Zopanda Chiwawa. Ndipo amazichita bwanji chifukwa cha chifundo, komanso ndi mphamvu yaikulu. Salankhula chifukwa cha kufooka kapena mantha. Gandhi adanena kale “Pakati pa ziwawa ndi mantha, Ndimakonda zachiwawa”, ndipo kenako adawonetsa kuti panali njira yamphamvu kwambiri kuposa zonse ziwiri, kusachita zachiwawa. Ndikuwona izi ku Kailash komanso ku Malala.

Kailash Satyarthi, amene ndinali ndi mwayi wokumana naye zaka zingapo zapitazo pamsonkhano wokhudza ufulu wa ana, ali ndi ubale wapamtima, ndi chidwi chachikulu ndi zomwe akatswiri ena amachita. Amadziona kuti ndi wolowa m'malo mwa Gandhi's Non-Violence., ndipo wakhala wogwirizira zochitika zingapo mdziko lake komanso padziko lonse lapansi, chifukwa cha luso lake lomvetsera komanso kuphatikiza magulu onse okhudzidwa. Ndipo zimenezo sizinachotse mphamvu zake zopulumutsa antchito a ana ku mikhalidwe yowadyera masuku pamutu., kudalira apolisi aku India ndikuyika pachiwopsezo kukhulupirika kwake (wavulala mobwerezabwereza ndi imfa ya anzake opulumutsa).

Malala Yousafzai adadziwika chifukwa choyambitsa blog kuteteza ufulu wamaphunziro, makamaka ku maphunziro a atsikana onga iye, m'dera la Pakistan lolamulidwa ndi a Taliban. Zotsatira zake, a Taliban anayesa kumupha., koma mwamwayi idapulumuka ndipo ikupitiliza kupanga, koma ku UK kale. Malala akupitiriza kuyankhula, monga akunena, “za maphunziro a anyamata ndi atsikana onse, kuphatikizapo ana aamuna ndi aakazi a Taliban”. Ndipo ndemanga pa kanema mmene panthawiyo, pamene anaopsezedwa kuti adzaphedwa, ndinaganiza zoyankha, ndi momwe adasankhira kuti sakufuna kutenga mzere waukali chifukwa ndiye adzakhala ngati yemwe adamuukira..

Chotero kuzindikirika kwa anthu aŵiri ndi njira ziwiri zosiyana zokhalira kwandidzaza ndi chikhutiro. (mwamunayo, Iye mkazi; iye wamkulu, iye wachinyamata; Mmwenye, iye pakistani; iye hindu, iye Muslim), zomwe, komabe, zimachokera pakuyang'ana kwachifundo ndi mwamphamvu pazochitika zenizeni zaumunthu, ndipo zomwe zimabweretsa kudzipereka ndi zotsatira zenizeni, Pang'onopang'ono. Ndipotu asonyeza kale chidwi chogwira ntchito limodzi., ngakhale kuti sanali kudziwika kale.

Ndikusiya cholowa ichi ngati chikondwerero, komanso monga kudzoza. Zowona kuchokera kwa anthu omwe ndife titha kupeza njira yopita ku Kulumikizana Kowona Kwambiri, ndi kutengapo njira zothetsera mavuto enieni komanso enieni.

Ndikukupemphani kuti mufufuze zambiri za Kailash ndi Malala, ndi kuti mumasangalala ndi chilimbikitso chimene angatipatse.

Xavier

Zindikirani: Ndizosangalatsa kudziwa kuti pali mzere wa ntchito mkati Kuyang'ana kwa anthu ammudzi ku Afghanistan ndi Pakistan, m'madera omwe alangidwa kwambiri ndi a Taliban, kubwezeretsa chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi kugwirizana kudzera mu miyambo ya Sufi, ndi gawo lowonjezera loperekedwa ndi Focusing. Ndikuganiza kuti Malala sakudziwa ntchito imeneyi, koma pali kudzoza kwina.

Chida chofunikira kuti muphunzire za Focusing ndi Webusaiti ya New York Focusing Institute, The Focusing Institute. Institute ndi bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa kufalitsa kwa Focusing ndi ziphaso zapadziko lonse za akatswiri a Focusing.. Ndi cholinga ichi, tsamba la webusayiti lili ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri.

Ili ndi gawo mkati español, kumene malemba oyambilira angapo okhudza Kuyikira Kwambiri ndi zina zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito zimawonekera, kuphatikizapo nkhani yanga “Yonseyi Kuganizira ndi Nonviolent Communication: Lingalirani zozama zakuya”.

tsamba lalikulu, zomwe ziri mu Chingerezi, ili ndi magawo osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo:

• Momwe mungaphunzire Kukhazikika (Phunzirani Kuyikira Kwambiri).
• Zomwe zikuchitika mdera la Focusing (Felt Community), ndi kalata (Kakalata) zomwe zimawonekera kangapo pachaka ndi The Folio. Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, magazini yovomerezeka yamaphunziro.
• Kugwiritsa ntchito ndi kuphatikiza kwa Kuyang'ana m'malo osiyanasiyana komanso kwa anthu osiyanasiyana (Kuyang'ana ndi…).
• sitolo yapaintaneti (Sitolo Yoyang'ana), kumene mungathe kuwona kugula kuchokera m'mabuku akuluakulu, makanema ndi zomvera, ngakhale kuti malemba ambiri mu Spanish akupezeka bwino pa webusaiti ya Spanish Focusing Institute.

Laibulale ya Eugene Gendlin Online ndiyosangalatsa kwambiri (Gendlin Online Library), komwe mungatsegule mwayi wopeza mtundu woyambirira (mu Chingerezi kapena Chijeremani) m’nkhani zambirimbiri zimene wasindikiza mlembi wamkulu wa Focusing, ndi komwe mungawerengenso zambiri za mbali yanzeru kwambiri ya chida ichi, ndi Philosophy ya Implicit (Philosophy ya Zosamveka).

Ndikukupemphani kuti mufufuze ndikupeza zothandizira patsamba lino, kumupatsa nthawi yoyenera.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zizikhala zolemeretsa ngati zanga.

Xavier

The Association for Nonviolent Communication ku Spain imapereka chidziwitso pamaphunziro omwe amaperekedwa ku Spain ndi anthu omwe amavomerezedwa ndi Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), maulalo, nkhani ndi kupeza ntchito za Association.

Ndi chiyambi chabwino kuti mudziwe zomwe zikuchitika ku Spain zokhudzana ndi Kulankhulana Kwachiwawa ndikuthandizira kulumikizana ndi magulu ophunzitsira ndikuchita..

Pulogalamu ya Center for Nonviolent Communication, m'Chingerezi “Center for Nonviolent Communication” (CNVC) ili ndi tsamba lovomerezeka kuti lifalitse Nonviolent Communication padziko lonse lapansi. Idakhazikitsidwa ndi Marshall Rosenberg, mlengi wa Nonviolent Communication, yemwe pakali pano adalembedwa ngati mlangizi, wapuma kale pantchito yoyang'anira mwachangu chifukwa cha zaka.

Pali mwayi wopeza zinthu zambiri (ena mu Spanish) ndi mavidiyo angapo.

Monga ndanenera kale mu “Takulandilani kubulogu”, lingaliro ndilakuti blog iyi ikufuna kukhala ngati malo osungiramo zinthu, kotero kuti mitundu yonse ya zida ndi malingaliro apezeke omwe amathandizira kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka ndi anthu ena komanso dziko lathu lamkati. Monga padzakhala zosiyanasiyana zosiyanasiyana, Ndikufuna kufotokoza apa malemba osiyanasiyana omwe nditi ndigwiritse ntchito kuyika zolembazo.

• CNV: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Yofatsa Kulankhulana, momveka bwino kapena zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ali nazo “Chidziwitso cha CNV”.
• Malemba CNV: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Yofatsa Kulankhulana.
• Kuganizira: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Kuganizira kapena chinthu chofanana kwambiri.
• Kuganizira ku Madrid: adzasonkhanitsa maphunziro a Focusing ku Madrid ndi madera ozungulira (Mwachitsanzo, mu Miraflores de A La Sierra, ola limodzi kuchokera ku Madrid).
• Textos Kuganizira: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Kuganizira.
• Spirals CI: pali zolemba zomwe zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana pa nkhani zamaganizo, chitetezo ndi kulumikizana pakati pa anthu, ndipo ndikufuna kunenanso mu blog iyi.
• Other Texts: Pali mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata, popanda kufotokozedwa momveka bwino kuchokera ku maphunziro aliwonse omwe akuperekedwa, ali ndi mgwirizano wamba komanso mtengo womwe umanditsogolera kuti ndiwatchule mubulogu iyi.
• Websites: masamba, blog ndi intaneti zothandizira.
• Videos: makanema ambiri, kuphatikiza ndi zolemba zina zomwe zimafotokoza zomwe zili.
• Movies: zolemba ndi mafilimu, zonse zozikidwa pa zenizeni ndi zopeka, zomwe zikuwoneka zogwirizana ndi chidwi chomwe ndikufuna kupanga ndi blog iyi.
• Nkhani: masewera a sopo (komanso nkhani ndi mabuku a ana ndi achinyamata) zomwe zimatipangitsa kusangalala ndi chifundo chomwe timakhala nacho Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi iye Kuganizira.
• Zokumana Nazo: nthawi zina moyo umatibweretsera zodabwitsa, zokumana nazo zomwe zimatipangitsa kulingaliranso zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kapena kutsimikizira zomwe timapanga, ndi zochitika zomwe ndisonkhanitsa ndi epigraph iyi.
• Ana: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mosalunjika ndi ana.
• Pakuti Achinyamata: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina ndi achinyamata.
• Charo enieni ndi Adasungidwa charo: Ndimapereka maphunziro ambiri kumagulu otsekedwa omwe adapangidwa kale, koma pakanthawi kochepa ndikapereka maphunziro otseguka kwa anthu wamba kapena anthu ena, ndimawapachika ndi zilembo izi., “Charo enieni” bola ngati sichinakondweretsedwe ndi “Adasungidwa charo” pamene tsiku la chochitika chadutsa, koma kwa mbiri ndipo mutha kuwona magawo a maphunziro omwe ndimapereka.

Monga mukuwonera, magulu ambiri amalumikizana. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti aliyense amafufuza ndikupeza zomwe zili zothandiza komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo padzakhala ena amene adzawonjezedwa.

Pezani mwayi!