Marshall B. Rosenberg, chithunzi chochokera ku Center for Nonviolent Communication.

Marshall B. Rosenberg, mlengi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana, wapita kale 7 February 2015, monga ndinanena mu positi iyi.

Gulu lonse la akatswiri a Nonviolent Communication practitioners lisunthidwa ndipo nthawi yomweyo amalemekezedwa kuti apitilize ntchito yomwe idaperekedwa., pangani mtundu wa ubale ndi malingaliro omwe amasintha miyoyo ya anthu onse, Popanda kuchotserapo.

Pulogalamu ya Center for Nonviolent Communication (International Center for Nonviolent Communication) wapanga a Kukumbukira kwa Marshall Rosenberg ndi ntchito yanu yotsatira domingo 29 March 2015. Kuti athandizire kutenga nawo gawo kwa mayiko, iziulutsidwa pa intaneti. mu link iyi.

Chidwi: msonkho udzaperekedwa kwa iwo 16:00 nthawi yakomweko, adzakhala chiyani ndi 00:00 a 30 March 2015 (usiku kuyambira Lamlungu mpaka Lolemba) Spanish peninsular nthawi, ndi 23:00 Lamlungu 29 March 2015 Nthawi ya Canary Islands.

Ndikukupemphani kuti mutenge nawo mbali patali kukumbukira Marshall ndi moyo wake.

Xavier

[kulowa koyamba kwa 25 March 2015, kusinthidwa ku 30 March 2015, tsiku lomaliza la chochitika ku Spain.]

Kusintha

Pamapeto pake anthu ambiri atha kutsatira patali msonkho wa kukumbukira Marshall Rosenberg. Oyang'anira mwa mwambo wawo, Anthu ofunikira m'moyo wanu alankhula, omwe adagawana nawo zomwe adakumana nazo pa Marshall. Ndapeza mawu okhudza mtima kwambiri a ana ake aamuna Rick ndi Brett, Ndinkakonda kudziwa zambiri za moyo wake mu mbiri yoyambirira yomwe adawerenga rabbi yemwe adatsogolera, ndipo ndidakonda kudziwa zokumana nazo za ophunzitsa osiyanasiyana omwe adakhalapo ndi maudindo mu Center for Nonviolent Communication (International Center for Nonviolent Communication), kuphatikizapo Robert Gonzales (pulezidenti wakale, komanso amene ndimamudziwa ngati mphunzitsi) ndi Dominic Barter (Purezidenti wapano komanso mlengi wa Restorative Circles. Ngakhale madzulo a usiku kuno ku Madrid, Zomwe zandichitikirazi zandilemeretsa kwambiri ndipo yakhala njira yolemekeza kukumbukira kwa Marshall ndi anthu omwe amamudziwa mozama..

Ndi chiyamikiro ndi kusilira.

Xavier

Awa ndi masiku osangalatsa kwambiri pakati pa ife omwe timadziwa ndikuchita Yofatsa Kulankhulana. Marshall B. Rosenberg, mlengi wa yofatsa Kulankhulana, zakale zapita 7 February 2015 pa usinkhu wa 80 zaka (tinakondwerera kubadwa kwake miyezi ingapo yapitayo mu positi iyi), ndipo ife amene timamdziŵa iye ndi ife amene taphunzira chitsanzo chake mwachisawawa tikuchita zimene iye anatiphunzitsa: kukondwerera zochitika zomwe zakwaniritsa zosowa zathu ndikudzilola kuti timve chisoni zochitika zomwe zasiya zosowa zathu.

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye pamasiku asanu ndi anayi a International Intensive Training (International Intensive Training, IIT) ku Switzerland mu July ndi August 2008. Chithunzi chomwe ndili nacho ndi Marshall ndi mkazi wake Valentina chikuchokera ku mapangidwe amenewo., ndi chizindikiro chowonjezera cha kukhalapo kwa anyamata awiri osadziwika ndi mtsikana kumbuyo, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi chilimbikitso chimene Marshall anandipatsa m’ntchito yanga ndi ana, ndi achinyamata (werengani zambiri m'malo oyamba).

Masiku ano, momwe ndawerenga mauthenga osiyanasiyana ndi zikumbutso zomwe zachitika m'gulu la Nonviolent Communication, Ndapezanso mwayi wowerenganso zolemba zomwe ndidakumana nazo masiku amenewo ndili naye (komanso pagulu la ophunzitsa ena ndi ena onse otenga nawo mbali). Ndipo pambuyo pake idzakhala nthawi yowerenganso ntchito zake zonse, monga njira yotsitsimula ndi kulemekeza ntchito yawo.

Marshall Rosenberg adagwira ntchito kuti apange dziko laumunthu, kuzindikira mbali za moyo ndi kukula ngakhale muzochita zosamvetsetseka. Mawu ake enieni ndi “Chiwawa ndi chiwonetsero chomvetsa chisoni cha zosowa zosakwanira”, ndi njira yake, kulankhulana kopanda chiwawa, njira yoti athe kumvetsera ndikusinthanso mawu mpaka mayankho apezeka momwe mbali zonse zipambana.

Ndimaona kuti kugogomezera kwa Marshall pankhani ya kusintha kwa anthu kumakhala kopindulitsa kwambiri., sanafune kuti Kulankhulana Kwankhanza kutumikire kuti anthu azikhala odekha ndi moyo wawo. Ntchitoyi imayambira mkati mwa munthu aliyense, koma inu simungakhoze kukhala pamenepo, ndikofunikira kuti ifike kumagulu osiyanasiyana (zachuma, chikhalidwe, ndondomeko, zamaphunziro…) ndi kuwasintha powasintha kukhala anthu. Monga momwe iye mwini anatiuzira ku Switzerland: “Zimene timachita zimafanana ndi zimene munthu amaona khandalo likugwa pa mathithi n’kumupulumutsa., napenya wina, nampulumutsa, napenya wina, nampulumutsa… Panthawi ina zimakhala bwino kuti munthuyo adzifunse kuti ndani akuponya ana ndikukwera mathithi kuti apewe.”.

Kupatula ntchito yake yolembedwa (mabuku oposa khumi ndi awiri, mwa iwo Yofatsa Kulankhulana. chinenero cha moyo) ndi mavidiyo ndi zojambulidwa za ma workshop ake ndi nyimbo zake, Marshall anayambitsa Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent), ndi mbiri ya zaka zambiri za ntchito, ndipo izi zakhala zikugwira ntchito popanda iye kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi. Zimasiyanso mazana a ophunzitsidwa ovomerezeka kuti chitsanzo chake chipitirize kufalikira ndi kukhulupirika ndi zikwi makumi a akatswiri omwe amayesa kuwunikira mikangano yathu ya tsiku ndi tsiku.. Ndi chinachake kukondwerera.

Nthawi yomweyo, imfa yake imasiya malo opanda kanthu. Kudziwa kuti wamwalira kunyumba kwake limodzi ndi mkazi wake Valentina ndi ana awo ndi chitonthozo chaching'ono.. Tikudziwa kuti sitidzamuwonanso akuyimira mikangano yatsopano, kuti sitidzamva nyimbo yatsopano, kuti sadzalemba mabuku atsopano. Ndipo izi zisanachitike, zimangotsala kuvomereza ndi chifundo zowawa ndi chisoni chomwe chikuwonekera.

Pokhapokha pophatikiza zochitika zonse tingathe kupita patsogolo mokwanira, kuphatikiza zomwe zidalandiridwa kuchokera kwa Marshall ndikuyang'ana, mphindi ndi mphindi, momwe mungasinthire m'njira yolemeretsa kwa aliyense.

Mu chikondwerero ndi maliro,

Xavier

Pomaliza 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, Mlengi wa Yofatsa Kulankhulana, wakwanitsa zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu ndipo ife amene tawonapo ubwino wa ntchito yake tikukondwerera.

Marshall B. Rosenberg anabadwa pa 6 October 1934 ku Guangzhou, Ohio (U.S), ndipo banja lidalowa 1943 ndi Detroit, Michigan, kutatsala pang'ono kuchita zipolowe za mpikisano chaka chimenecho. Marshall akufotokoza momwe zochitika zachiwawa zidamuzindikiritsira. Anakumananso ndi chiwawa kusukulu, podziwika kuti ndi Myuda ndi dzina lake lachibale. monga anenera mwini, anapeza kuti pali anthu amene angasangalale kuwawa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, adatha kuwona momwe anthu ena amatha kuyenda mwachifundo m'mikhalidwe yovuta kwambiri (agogo ake, amene panthawi yamavuto adatha kudyetsa anthu mumsewu; kapena amalume ake, amene anatha kudyetsa ndi kuchiritsa agogo okalamba kale).

Pambuyo pake adaphunzira za psychology ndipo adalandira Ph.D. kuchokera kwa Carl Rogers in 1961, woyenereradi kukhala katswiri wazamisala mu 1966. Komabe, njira ya psychology yachipatala sinamukhutiritse, ndi kutsindika kumeneko pa zilembo ndi matenda. Anapitiriza kufufuza ndi kuphunzitsa (amaphunzitsidwanso Focusing, ndipo amavomereza mu maphunziro ake apamwamba), ndipo pamapeto adapanga njira ya Yofatsa Kulankhulana monga tikudziwira panopa.

Kuyambira zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu wakhala akugwira ntchito padziko lonse lapansi poyimira pakati pa mikangano yayikulu komanso kukulitsa luso laling'ono lothetsera mikangano pamoyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku., mikangano ndi anthu ena komanso mikangano yamkati. Anapuma pantchito zaka zingapo zapitazo, atatha kupanga mazana a mapangidwe padziko lapansi ndikukhazikitsa International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent) kufalitsa njira yosinthira iyi. Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za moyo wake komanso komwe adagwirako ntchito Webusaiti ya International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center kwa Communication NonViolent).

Ndinasangalala kuphunzira naye, ndi mkazi wake Valentina komanso ndi opanga ena mu International Intensive Formation (International Intensive Training) masiku asanu ndi anayi ku Switzerland mu Ogasiti 2008, ndipo ndinatha kulandira chikondi chake ndi momwe adandilimbikitsira kuti ndiyese kupereka kumvetsetsa kwanga kwa Nonviolent Communication kwa ana ndi anthu omwe amakumana nawo.. Zambiri mwa ntchito zanga kuyambira pamenepo zalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe ndaphunzira kwa iye., zonse kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka m’miyoyo ya anthu onse (kuphatikizapo wanga), monga m’miyoyo ya ana, atsikana ndi achinyamata omwe ndimakumana nawo, ndi anthu ozungulira inu (makamaka kudzera Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, mkati mwa mzere Kulankhulana pakati pa anthu). M'maphunzirowa tinkakamba za Certification, ndipo ngakhale kuti pamapeto pake ndi njira yomwe sindinayitsatire, Ndikumva mbali ya gulu la Nonviolent Communication ndipo ndikupitiriza kugwirizana ndi Association for Nonviolent Communication kuno ku Spain komanso ndi magulu ena a internship ndi maphunziro.

Pa nthawi imeneyo tinajambula chithunzi ichi, kugwirizana kwa tsogolo, Marshall amatifotokozera, Valentina ndi ine tili ndi anyamata awiri osadziwika bwino ndi mtsikana, monga kuyimira mwapadera ntchito ndi ana yomwe ndimachita ndi kudzoza kwa Marshall ndi Nonviolent Communication.

Kuchokera pano nditumiza zikomo zanga ndi msonkho wanga. ¡Gracias pa, Marshall!

Ndi chiyamiko chakuya ndimatumiza ulemu wanga wokondwerera. Zikomo, Marshall!

Xavier

Chiyambi cha chaka ndi nthawi ya zolinga zabwino, za projekiti zatsopano ndi zongopeka zatsopano. Zoyambira zonsezi zidzafuna masitepe, mwina masitepe ang'onoang'ono kwambiri poyamba. Kanemayu akuwonetsa lingaliro losintha dziko lapansi ndi manja.

Pali nthawi zosuntha zazikulu, kwa kusintha kwakukulu, kwa zilonda zazikulu.

Ndipo palinso nthawi zosintha pang'ono, zosintha mwatsatanetsatane, za “chitani zomwezo koma mwanjira ina”.

Nkhani ya kanemayu ndikuti bungwe la Czech Crossroads Olomouc ikonzanso zotsatsa zingapo Liberty Mutual, kampani ya inshuwaransi yomwe yakhala ikuchita zotsatsa zotsatsira kwazaka zambiri kuti ilimbikitse udindo wa nzika. Mukusintha uku timatenga zing'onozing'ono zomwe titha kuchita tsiku lililonse kuti dziko lapansi likhale labwinoko, mosasamala kanthu za malo amalingaliro kapena amtundu uliwonse. Ndipo podziwa kuti sitingalandire kuchokera kwa anthu omwe timawathandiza (ngakhale kuyanjana ndikofunikira pa ubale wofunikira), monga muvidiyo, koma zochita zathu zimatha kulimbikitsa anthu ena, ndipo sitingathe kudziwa zipatso zake.

Ine ndikukhumba inu ndi wokondwa 2014, ndi chidziwitso komanso zopereka zazikulu kudziko lapansi.

Xavier

Alex Rovira, mlangizi wamabizinesi, wophunzitsa komanso wolemba zolemba ndi ma novel, ali ndi masomphenya abwino aumunthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi omwe tili nawo kuchokera ku Nonviolent Communication and Focusing.

Muvidiyo yayifupi iyi akupereka makiyi ofunikira ogwirira ntchito ndi anthu, zonse kuchokera ku kasamalidwe ka bizinesi komanso kwa ife omwe timalowerera kwambiri payekha komanso pagulu. mawu ofunikira “chuma cha caress” amasonkhanitsa chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira zomwe ndimayesetsa kufalitsa kuchokera kumaphunziro anga ndi ntchito zotsagana nazo: anthu amafuna kuwonedwa, kuzindikirika, ndipo ngati sitipeza zabwinozo timazifunafuna kudzera mu mafoni odzutsa osasangalatsa. Chofunikira ndikuzindikira izi ndikuphunzira kuwerenga pakati pa mizere.. Izi zimandithandiza pa ntchito yanga ndi achinyamata ndi mabanja awo., ndipo ndicho chida chachikulu chomangira milatho pakati pa anthu.

Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muwonere kanemayo (mobwerezabwereza, ngakhale, kuti agwire zobisika) ndi kulingalira momwe tingakhazikitsire chuma cha caress m'miyoyo yathu yachinsinsi, komanso mu professional.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukuikonda.

Xavier

Monga ndanenera kale mu “Takulandilani kubulogu”, lingaliro ndilakuti blog iyi ikufuna kukhala ngati malo osungiramo zinthu, kotero kuti mitundu yonse ya zida ndi malingaliro apezeke omwe amathandizira kupanga a Kulumikiza More Longopeka ndi anthu ena komanso dziko lathu lamkati. Monga padzakhala zosiyanasiyana zosiyanasiyana, Ndikufuna kufotokoza apa malemba osiyanasiyana omwe nditi ndigwiritse ntchito kuyika zolembazo.

• CNV: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Yofatsa Kulankhulana, momveka bwino kapena zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ali nazo “Chidziwitso cha CNV”.
• Malemba CNV: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Yofatsa Kulankhulana.
• Kuganizira: Zolemba zonse zokhudzana ndi Kuganizira kapena chinthu chofanana kwambiri.
• Kuganizira ku Madrid: adzasonkhanitsa maphunziro a Focusing ku Madrid ndi madera ozungulira (Mwachitsanzo, mu Miraflores de A La Sierra, ola limodzi kuchokera ku Madrid).
• Textos Kuganizira: zolemba zotengera mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata zenizeni Kuganizira.
• Spirals CI: pali zolemba zomwe zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi ntchito yanga Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana pa nkhani zamaganizo, chitetezo ndi kulumikizana pakati pa anthu, ndipo ndikufuna kunenanso mu blog iyi.
• Other Texts: Pali mabuku, zolemba ndi zikalata, popanda kufotokozedwa momveka bwino kuchokera ku maphunziro aliwonse omwe akuperekedwa, ali ndi mgwirizano wamba komanso mtengo womwe umanditsogolera kuti ndiwatchule mubulogu iyi.
• Websites: masamba, blog ndi intaneti zothandizira.
• Videos: makanema ambiri, kuphatikiza ndi zolemba zina zomwe zimafotokoza zomwe zili.
• Movies: zolemba ndi mafilimu, zonse zozikidwa pa zenizeni ndi zopeka, zomwe zikuwoneka zogwirizana ndi chidwi chomwe ndikufuna kupanga ndi blog iyi.
• Nkhani: masewera a sopo (komanso nkhani ndi mabuku a ana ndi achinyamata) zomwe zimatipangitsa kusangalala ndi chifundo chomwe timakhala nacho Yofatsa Kulankhulana ndi iye Kuganizira.
• Zokumana Nazo: nthawi zina moyo umatibweretsera zodabwitsa, zokumana nazo zomwe zimatipangitsa kulingaliranso zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kapena kutsimikizira zomwe timapanga, ndi zochitika zomwe ndisonkhanitsa ndi epigraph iyi.
• Ana: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mosalunjika ndi ana.
• Pakuti Achinyamata: zinthu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina ndi achinyamata.
• Charo enieni ndi Adasungidwa charo: Ndimapereka maphunziro ambiri kumagulu otsekedwa omwe adapangidwa kale, koma pakanthawi kochepa ndikapereka maphunziro otseguka kwa anthu wamba kapena anthu ena, ndimawapachika ndi zilembo izi., “Charo enieni” bola ngati sichinakondweretsedwe ndi “Adasungidwa charo” pamene tsiku la chochitika chadutsa, koma kwa mbiri ndipo mutha kuwona magawo a maphunziro omwe ndimapereka.

Monga mukuwonera, magulu ambiri amalumikizana. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti aliyense amafufuza ndikupeza zomwe zili zothandiza komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo padzakhala ena amene adzawonjezedwa.

Pezani mwayi!

cholinga changa choyamba 2012 yayamba blog iyi. Mutapanga tsamba la More Authentic Connection pa 2009, gawo la zothandizira linali litachepetsedwa. Mwa zina chifukwa pali zida zambiri zomwe zili mu Chingerezi kapena Chifalansa chokha, komanso mwa zina potchula malemba enieni a Nonviolent Communication, zinkaoneka kuti panalibenso zofunika zina.

Komabe, mphamvu zomwe ndaziwona mu Blog wa Kufunsira kwa Spirals kwa Ana, zomwe ndakhala ndikuzisunga pamodzi ndi Pepa Horno ndi Ana Sánchez-Mera kuyambira kumapeto kwa 2009, Zandiwonetsa kuti blog ndi chida chosangalatsa kwambiri kuti ndasonkhanitsa malingaliro onse omwe mumaphunzirowa amangondipatsa nthawi yoti nditchule.: zolemba, mabuku, masamba, makanema, mafilimu ndi magwero osiyanasiyana omwe angatithandize kukulitsa maphunziro athu. Pamenepo, Ndikufuna kuti izi zikhale lingaliro langa loyamba: werengani blog yathu yamabungwe. Ndipo m'malo ena mwazolemba ndidzachira pabulogu iyi.

Ndipo zandilimbikitsanso blog yanga ya mnzanga ndi mnzanga Pepa Horno. Pali zinthu zomwe zimagwira ntchito bwino pamlingo wokhazikika, ndiyeno pali zinthu zina zomwe zimagwirizana bwino ndi zaumwini, ndi njira ya kukhala mmodzi, ndipo izo zimafuna kukula kwake.

Chifukwa chake yambani blog iyi, zomwe zidzakulitsidwa mosavuta. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukupeza zosangalatsa, ndipo ndemanga ndizolandiridwa.