“Ngokusho umuzwa wami, Umkhuba wokusebenzelana benamathele Ukuxhumana abantwana ngaphezulu Kuxhomeke ekutheni yini okwenzekayo ngaphakathi kimi wokuHlinzekwa kanjani ngikhuluma ngokwami ​​ngalokho okwenzekayo nge mina kanye lendodana yami ukuxoxisana. Nokho, Futhi ngifuna ukubuchaza ngamazwi ukuqonda kwami ​​okwenzekayo kokubili, okungenani ingxenye isikhathi, ngisho uma ngicabanga ingane yami akaqondi ulimi, ngoba uyangisiza ukuxhumana imizwa nezidingo kokubili. ukuthi, ithuba, kusiza kwehlisa umoya wami futhi uthole amasu ukuthi ezingase ziphumelele kokubili. Futhi ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngoba ngicabanga lokhu kuyindlela bafundze lulwimi kanye nekukwati kufundza nekubhala ngokomzwelo.” (Inbal Kashtan, Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni, ikhasi 38)

Lapho abantu abathintekayo ekuchumana workshop yami zokuxhumana babe namadodana noma amadodakazi enisezweni ebuntwaneni noma usakhula, noma basebenze ndawonye nalabo ubudala, ngokuvamile kuphakama “yebo, Lokhu indlela zokuxhumana kahle phakathi abadala, kodwa ukuze ubone ukuthi ngithi yami ingane / nomshana / umfundi / goddaughter…”. Uma isikhathi sivuma, thina zifundiseni bekhulumisana nezingane ekuqeqesheni, kodwa ngokuvamile Angikwazi kuphela kubonise iziphakamiso kungenzeka futhi ukuhlola. Thina manje sesinesisetshenziswa entsha, esikuvumela ukuxhumana nomndeni kwenye ezingeni. Lena akuyona kuphela yokuxazulula izingxabano (futhi), kodwa ukudala eyiqiniso ngaphezulu uhlobo loxhumano, ezijulile nonamandla, ukuthi ilungiselela izingane ezingaphezu resiliently ukuphila.

Nale ukuzwela Inbal Kashtan abhala ngaso incwadi yakhe Bezingosi ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Yaba izipho kobubele, uxhumano kanye nokuzikhethela, eshicilelwe ngonyaka odlule Castilian ngu Acanto Editorial. Inbal Kashtan, ukwakha Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kumma, led iminyaka umsebenzi benamathele Ukuxhumana emkhayeni, ikakhulukazi nabazali maqondana nezingane zabo. Inbal eshona ngo-September 2014, kodwa igalelo lakhe uyaqhubeka baynvc (inhlangano disseminates benamathele Ukuxhumana kusukela San Francisco Bay, California, okuyinto azibonela yona omunye wabasunguli) nemibhalo (Ngaphezu le ncwadi, Ungafunda ezinye izihloko zakhe mayelana zokuxhumana umndeni ngesiNgisi baynvc). Le blog futhi noma ubani ofuna ukuba yokubonga wena intela ukuze asindise ukuphila kwakhe futhi umsebenzi.

I batusa le ncwadi kokubili labo abeza okokuqala Ukuxhumana benamathele futhi kulabo abafuna ukuba sijulise umkhuba wabo nezingane. Ithemba othanda ukuzenza.

Javier