Most disputes can be resolved in a satisfactory and beneficial way for all parties, provided that the necessary resources and time are dedicated. That's my personal and professional experience years learning, practicing and transmitting Nonviolent Communication. It's as basic (not easy) as the necessary conditions for that resolution occurs. For me there are several must-haves, which can be summarized as follows:

• An appropriate methodology, to allow all parties involved feel safe and respected in their rights.
• Professionals with experiential training in mediation and deep listening skills and “translation” messages to make them easier to listen to each person.
• A supportive community restorative processes, devoting time, spaces, human Resources, training…
• People willing to resolve conflicts in a way that ultimately all parties feel heard and that all parties leave satisfied with the solution.

So for me it is a joy to share the resources developed by a large community of people in the neighborhood are Gotleu in Palma de Mallorca (Mallorca), They are collecting and how they have worked each of those elements.

In this video you can see how they have been involved, with the revitalization of Institute for Coexistence and School Success (the Institute for Coexistence and School Success in Castilian) Government of the Balearic Islands, from the faculty of schools of Primary Education, Elementary and Secondary, students of all ages, the families, and Social Services, police, University and other significant social groups. A mosaic of voices, We make us an idea of ​​the experiences of the creation of that network security in a socially vulnerable environment, and we see some results.

For a more systematic view, is the publication containing the fundamentals. Published in Catalan, Castilian and English as part of a European project this subject, the Guide to improve coexistence with Restorative Practices / Guide Mejoramos coexistence with the practices restorative develops the theoretical aspects of Restorative Practices, more accurate data and provides concrete examples and suggestions for further reading for more information.

And to deepen the Restorative Circles, a practice of conflict resolution originated in the social dimension Nonviolent Communication, you can read the interesting monograph Justice and Restorative Practices. Restorative Circles and their application in various fields, written by Vicenç Rul·lan, a trainer who I have the pleasure of meeting, on the video and in the Guide, and he is a member of the Association of Restorative Justice Practices and Islands (to page Castilian and in Catalan, with several resources more). A good introduction, to further deepen this particular model. And you can also watch videos (English) on the official website of the creator of the Restorative Circles, Dominic Barter, RestorativeCircles.org.

Who have done some training of interpersonal communication with me you have seen that ground mention this issue of Restorative Practices. I hope these resources illustrate a little better what you have heard me and I hope to awaken your creativity and your imagination to continue discovering more effective and deeper ways to resolve conflicts in the educational environment, and in any other area.

Xavier

Marshall B. Rosenberg, fotografía del Center for Nonviolent Communication.

Marshall B. Rosenberg, creator Nonviolent Communication, died last 7 February 2015, as I said in this post.

The whole community of practitioners Nonviolent Communication is moved and honored at the same time to get on with the task that was proposed, create a relationship and attitude to improve the lives of all people, Without exceptions.

Center for Nonviolent Communication (International Center for Nonviolent Communication) He has organized a tribute to the memory of Marshall Rosenberg and its work next domingo 29 March 2015. To facilitate international participation will be broadcast online in this link.

Attention: tribute be held at 16:00 local time, to be the 00:00 of 30 March 2015 (the night of Sunday to Monday) Spanish CET, the 23:00 Sunday 29 March 2015 When the Canary Islands.

I invite you to take part from a distance in this recall Marshall and his life.

Xavier

[Original entry 25 March 2015, actualizada a 30 March 2015, end date of the event in Spain.]

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At the end many people have been able to follow in the distance tribute to the memory of Marshall Rosenberg. Officiated in their tradition, They have spoken important people in your life, who they have shared their experience of Marshall. I have been particularly emotional the speeches of his sons Rick and Brett, I liked more details of his life in the initial sketch read by the officiating rabbi, and I liked to know the experiences of several trainers who have held positions in the Center for Nonviolent Communication (International Center for Nonviolent Communication), including Robert Gonzales (former president, and whom I have known personally as a trainer) y Dominic Barter (current president and creator of the restorative circles. Despite the late hours of the night here in Madrid, I have greatly enriched the experience and has been a way to honor the memory of Marshall with people who knew him in depth.

With gratitude and admiration.

Xavier

I have the honor to offer a workshop on Focusing and Nonviolent Communication within National Conference Focusing 2015 organized by the Focusing Spanish Institute, open to members of the Institute. It will be an experiential presentation of some of the aspects that I propose in my article “Combining Focusing and Nonviolent Communication. Reflecting deeper implications for”, which it was published in the number of 2014 of The Folio. A Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, the official academic journal The Focusing Institute (Focusing Institute of New York).

Date: sábado, 21 March 2015, of 12:00 a 14:00.

Place: House of Spirituality of the Sacred Heart
Paseo de la Fuente El Cura, 13.
Miraflores de la Sierra (Madrid)

Download the full program of the National Conference Focusing 2015.

Go to the page of the Spanish Institute Focusing where you can download all the information.

[Original entry 6 February 2015, actualizada a 21 March 2015, date of completion of the workshop.]

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Available some photos and a summary of the Conference on blog entry Experiential Space written by Fran J. Sivianes Seville. Fran thank you very much for the photos, members of the Board for the organization of the conference and for their work throughout the year and the entire community of participants for making this possible.

Taking advantage of spring begins today, More Authentic Connection has already Twitter, ConexMasAutent, where they appear different entries published, as well as recommendations and other matters of interest Focusing, interpersonal communication based on Nonviolent Communication, personal development in general and psychotherapy.

I hope that is helpful.

Xavier

Taller “Nonviolent Communication and Focusing. Listen to the entire body needs” inside of the IV Meeting of Nonviolent Communication Practitioners organized by the Association for Nonviolent Communication.

Dates: Friday 20 to Sunday 22 February 2015.

Place: Hostel San Servando
Cuesta de San Servando s / n
Toledo

To read the full information, request clarification and register, go to specific web page of the event.

To read a little about the theoretical basis of the workshop, You can consult my article “Combining Focusing and Nonviolent Communication. Reflecting deeper implications for”, which it was published in the number of 2014 of The Folio. A Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, the official academic journal The Focusing Institute (Focusing Institute of New York).

[Original entry 30 January 2015, actualizada a 22 February 2015, end date of the meeting.]

They are being very poignant day between those who know and practice Nonviolent Communication. Marshall B. Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication, He has died last 7 February 2015 at the age of 80 years (We celebrated his birthday a few months ago in this post), and those who knew him and those who have learned general model are doing something that taught us: celebrate the events that have covered our needs and allow us to pass the duel of events that have left our unmet needs.

I had the pleasure of formarme with him during the nine days of the International Intensive Training (International Intensive Training, IIT) Switzerland in July and August 2008. Of that training is the photo that I have with Marshall and his wife Valentina, with the added symbolism of the presence of two boys and a girl unrecognizable in the background, that connects with the Marshall gave me encouragement in my work with children, and adolescents (read more details in the original entry).

During these days, in which I read the various messages and commemorations that have occurred in the community of Nonviolent Communication, I also took the opportunity to reread the notes I lived those days with him (and in the company of other trainers and other participants). And later it will touch reread all his works, as a way to refresh and honor their work.

Marshall Rosenberg worked to create a more humane world, discovering aspects of life and growth even in the most incomprehensible acts. Your basic sentence is “Violence is a tragic expression of unmet needs”, and the method, Nonviolent Communication, a path to listen and reformulate expressions to find solutions in which all parties are winners.

For me it is especially enriching Marshall's emphasis on social change, he did not want to serve Nonviolent Communication for people he would tarry with her quiet life. The work begins within each person, but you can not stay there, it must reach different structures (economic, social, policies, Education…) and that transform humanizándolas. As he told us in Switzerland: “Our action is similar to that of someone who sees a baby fall down a waterfall and saves, and watching another and saves, and watching another and saves… At some point it will be convenient that person arises who is throwing babies and climb the waterfall to avoid”.

Apart from his writings (more than a dozen books, among them Nonviolent Communication. A language life) and videos and recordings of their workshops and their songs, Marshall leaves constituted the Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication), with a history of decades of work, and that it has been operating without recent years. It also leaves hundreds of certified trainers that their model is still transmitted with fidelity and tens of thousands of practitioners who try to put some light in our daily conflicts. It is something to celebrate.

At the same time, his passing leaves a void. Knowing that he has died at his home accompanied by his wife Valentina and their children is a minor consolation. We know that and we will see not representing new conflict situations, you will not hear any new songs, not write new books. And that alone is host to compassionate the pain and sorrow that appear.

Only by integrating the full experience we can move on fully, integrating the received Marshall and looking, moment by moment, how to update an enriching way for everyone.

In celebration and mourning,

Xavier

Nonviolent Communication It is a very profound tool, which should be developed by all means and through all possible channels. Those who have done workshops with me have seen the profusion of resources use (visual, space…), among other letters I-crafted, and I use over several years.

I was pleased a lot with the recent appearance of the letters “EASY Konekta”, a resource useful to accompany the processes of people who rely on the visual, especially children. In Simple Cat, a small company that is striving to bring and create teaching materials for training in Nonviolent Communication in Spain, They have chosen to launch these cards own design.

I just received letters “EASY Konekta” and I liked many aspects. On the one hand, the design, with simple drawings that make the cards very affordable, with pink background for the feelings and needs blue background (a code and universalized in the community of Nonviolent Communication by NVC Dance Floors).

On the other hand, the way they caring words: feelings are masculine and feminine, so that everyone can feel included us easily; and needs are often expressed in two complementary ways, so that the person can explore what is the word that fits you best.

Further, add a number of proposed use (Game suggestions), adapted from other sources with your permission, including the famous “Póker CNV”, that I use in deepening workshops.

From here my congratulations to the team Simple Cat this new resource. I'm looking forward to my next workshop try and see what they think those involved. Meanwhile you can explore more on the cards in the página web and you can buy them online if you're interested.

I trust that you are practical and easy to deepen Nonviolent Communication.

Xavier

Last 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of the Nonviolent Communication, has fulfilled eighty and who have experienced the benefits of their work we are celebrating.

Marshall B. Rosenberg He was born 6 October 1934 in Canton, Ohio (U.S), and the family moved in 1943 a Detroit, Michigan, shortly before the race riots of that year. Marshall tells how the experience of violence marked him. Also experienced violence at school, to being identified as a Jew by his surname. As he himself, he discovered that there are people who can enjoy harm. And at the same time, He could see how other people were able to move with compassion for extremely tough situations (her grandmother, During the crisis was able to feed people in the street; or his uncle, I was able to feed and heal and elderly grandmother).

Later studied psychology and obtained his doctorate with Carl Rogers 1961, definitely qualifying itself as a clinical psychologist in 1966. However, the focus of clinical psychology did not satisfy him, with the emphasis on labels and diagnoses. He continued researching and forming (It was also formed in Focusing, and made it recommends in its advanced training), and at the end he created the process Nonviolent Communication as we know it.

Since the eighties has worked internationally both for mediation in serious conflicts and to develop conflict resolution skills smaller in our daily lives, conflicts with others and internal conflicts. A few years ago it has retired, after making hundreds of formations in the world and have founded International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication) to spread this process as transformer. You can read more about his life and where he has worked in the Website of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication).

I had the pleasure of formarme with him, with his wife Valentina and other trainers in an Intensive International Training (International Intensive Training) nine days in Switzerland in August 2008, and I could receive warmth and how he encouraged me to try to convey my understanding of Nonviolent Communication to children and people who are in contact with them. Much of my work has since been inspired by what I learned from him, both to create a More Authentic Connection in the lives of all people (including mine), and in the lives of children, and adolescents with whom they come in contact, and people who are around (especially through Spiral Consulting Children, in line Interpersonal communication). In this training we talked Certification, and although the end is a way I have not followed, I feel part of the movement of Nonviolent Communication and continue working with the Association for Nonviolent Communication here in Spain and other groups and learning practices.

At that time we took this photo, coincidences of fate, portrays in Marshall, Valentina and me with two children and no recognizable girl, as symbolizing specially working with children that took place with the inspiration of Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

From here I send my thanks and tribute. Thank you, Marshall!

With deep gratitude I send my celebrative homage. Thank you, Marshall!

Xavier

The NVC Dance Floors have already appeared in the version in Castilian, in which I have worked, and are also available videos subtitled in Spanish.

Bridget Belgrave and Gina Lawrie, Certified trainers for the Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication, CNVC), years they created a great tool to teach and practice Nonviolent Communication (CNV). As they themselves have in submission, the NVC Dance Floors (NVC Dance Floors) They emerged through a series of steps to facilitate the practice of Nonviolent Communication with a spatial maps that allow use body size to work the emotional dimension, the way you see in this video:

In summer 2009 formarme had the pleasure to meet with Gina and Bridget, From there already work resumed translation and adaptation to the Castilian, an effort in which we have helped many people and I have coordinated for a while. So it is a pleasure to spread a simple tool and yet so deep, finally in Spanish, in which we care to include the largest possible number of Spanish version.

My experience is that the NVC Dance Floors the people can practice with just a few initial knowledge of Nonviolent Communication (In fact I sometimes use in introductory workshops). Even people who do not know the process of Nonviolent Communication itself (children, and adolescents, therapy clients) They can easily cross it with help from someone more experienced.

The NVC Dance Floors combine the visual, corporal and language, so that experience occurs through more channels and experience is deeper. And there are nine “dances” different, with names such as “The Dance of the 13 Steps”, “Integration and Dance Connection”, “The Dance of Anger / Rage, Shame and Depression”, “Dance of Yes and No”, The “Transform the pain of unmet needs in the Beauty Needs”.

Further, in 2013 they released some videos that explain three of these dances, in a neat edition that includes Spanish subtitles.

If you want to buy the dance floor CNV in different formats (as a download in PDF, on paper, plasticized version…) and DVDs to learn them at home or in group practice, you can visit its online store, Life Resources.

And if you want to count on me to try the dance floor in one session or in specific workshops, I will be happy to accompany.

I hope you like.

Xavier

I am happy to share this article that The Focusing Institute has published in The Folio. A Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, its academic journal, in its volume 25 of 2014. My paper “Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication. Reflecting for deeper implications“ appeared at the beginning of 2014 and it has just been published digitally with free access and PDF format in the official website of The Folio.

Download the article in English, “Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication. Reflecting for deeper implications”.

Download the Spanish version of the article, “Combining Focusing and Nonviolent Communication. Reflecting deeper implications for”.

[Update February 9th 2017] Download the Japanese version of the article, “The intersection of the focusing and the non-violent communication - towards the deeper implications tell-back”, and read the story of its translation (in Spanish) by Madoka Kawahara (Kawahara circle) y Mako Hikasa (Mako Hikasa). thank you very much!

I leave here the abstract:

ABSTRACT

Both Focusing and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) are based on the idea that people get insights and their inner processes get carried forward when some of their words are reflected. Reflection enhances connection both with oneself and with the companion. And reflection brings deeper implications, as implied aspects come into existence and become conscious.

However, Focusing and Nonviolent Communication put the stress on reflecting different aspects of the original communication. Focusing follows felt senses in the body as a new way to create new meaning. Nonviolent Communication tries to find the universal needs that are at the core of every human action. Focusing and Nonviolent Communication have been crossed in different ways (a short revision of some crossings is explored in this paper). Focusing can be enriched by introducing a new awareness for needs, especially when Asking. And Nonviolent Communication can be enhanced by a new sensitiveness to the original expressions of the person –not just trying to “translate” everything, but also valuing habitual language as metaphors.

When both processes are combined and the companion/therapist reflects aspects of both levels of awareness, the person achieves relevant results as deep implications emerge.

Keywords: Focusing, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Empathy, Reflect, Crossing.

For Spanish speakers, Go to this post in Spanish.

I hope that you will enjoy it and I will love reading your comments,

Xavier