Last 6 October Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of the Nonviolent Communication, has fulfilled eighty and who have experienced the benefits of their work we are celebrating.

Marshall B. Rosenberg He was born 6 October 1934 in Canton, Ohio (U.S), and the family moved in 1943 a Detroit, Michigan, shortly before the race riots of that year. Marshall tells how the experience of violence marked him. Also experienced violence at school, to being identified as a Jew by his surname. As he himself, he discovered that there are people who can enjoy harm. And at the same time, He could see how other people were able to move with compassion for extremely tough situations (her grandmother, During the crisis was able to feed people in the street; or his uncle, I was able to feed and heal and elderly grandmother).

Later studied psychology and obtained his doctorate with Carl Rogers 1961, definitely qualifying itself as a clinical psychologist in 1966. However, the focus of clinical psychology did not satisfy him, with the emphasis on labels and diagnoses. He continued researching and forming (It was also formed in Focusing, and made it recommends in its advanced training), and at the end he created the process Nonviolent Communication as we know it.

Since the eighties has worked internationally both for mediation in serious conflicts and to develop conflict resolution skills smaller in our daily lives, conflicts with others and internal conflicts. A few years ago it has retired, after making hundreds of formations in the world and have founded International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication) to spread this process as transformer. You can read more about his life and where he has worked in the Website of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication).

I had the pleasure of formarme with him, with his wife Valentina and other trainers in an Intensive International Training (International Intensive Training) nine days in Switzerland in August 2008, and I could receive warmth and how he encouraged me to try to convey my understanding of Nonviolent Communication to children and people who are in contact with them. Much of my work has since been inspired by what I learned from him, both to create a More Authentic Connection in the lives of all people (including mine), and in the lives of children, and adolescents with whom they come in contact, and people who are around (especially through Spiral Consulting Children, in line Interpersonal communication). In this training we talked Certification, and although the end is a way I have not followed, I feel part of the movement of Nonviolent Communication and continue working with the Association for Nonviolent Communication here in Spain and other groups and learning practices.

At that time we took this photo, coincidences of fate, portrays in Marshall, Valentina and me with two children and no recognizable girl, as symbolizing specially working with children that took place with the inspiration of Marshall and Nonviolent Communication.

From here I send my thanks and tribute. Thank you, Marshall!

With deep gratitude I send my celebrative homage. Thank you, Marshall!

Xavier

From this post I want to celebrate the Nobel Peace Prize 2014 It has been awarded to two people who defend the rights of children, and adolescents from Nonviolence.

For me it was a joy to know that they will receive Kailash Satyarthi, an Indian man defender of the rights of children, especially those working, y Malala Yousafzai, a Pakistani teenager who has fought for the right to education of children and especially girls. From blog Spiral Consulting Children we have made a specific entry where we give more details of the aspects that interest us there: work by children from participation. I invite you to read the entrance, where we give them a lot of data and video you can see both.

Since this blog however I want to discuss how to address both Nonviolence. And how they do it from compassion, but also with great force. They speak not from weakness or from cowardice. And said Gandhi “Between violence and cowardice, I prefer violence”, and then showed he had an even more powerful way that both, Nonviolence. I see this in Kailash and Malala.

Kailash Satyarthi, whom I had the honor of meeting a few years ago at a conference on child rights, It has a close relationship, with interest for what we do other professionals. He considers himself heir to the line of Gandhi Nonviolence, and it has been coordinating multiple events both at home and globally, thanks to his skills of listening and inclusion of all parties involved. And that has not been dusted force to rescue children from exploitative workers, relying on the police forces of India and risking their physical integrity (He has repeatedly suffered injuries and loss of co-rescue).

Malala Yousafzai He became famous for starting a blog to defend the right to education, especially education of girls like her, in an area occupied by Pakistan Taliban. As a result of that the Taliban tried to kill, but fortunately he has survived and is still being formed, but in the UK. Malala continues to lecture, as she says, “education for all children, including of course the sons and daughters of the Taliban”. And he says in the video how at the time, when he was threatened with death, I thought about how to respond, and how he decided he did not want to take the line of attack because then it would become the same one who assaulted him.

So it has filled me with satisfaction the recognition of two people and two ways of being different (the man, woman she; The adult, her teen; the Indian, She Pakistani; The Hindu, she Muslim), which however they are based on a compassionate and strong look to both human realities, and lead to concrete commitments and results, Step by Step. In fact they have already expressed interest in working together, but they were not previously known.

I leave this post in celebration, and also as inspiration. Really from human beings we can find a path to a more authentic connection, and to take effective steps to solve very real and concrete problems.

I invite you to investigate a little more about Kailash and Malala, and that you enjoy with the mind that can bring us.

Xavier

Note: it is interesting that there is a line of work Focusing from the community in Afghanistan and Pakistan, in areas that have been hardest hit by the Taliban, to restore the social fabric and the connection through local Sufi traditions, with the extra dimension provided by the Focusing. I do not think Malala knows this job, but there is another inspiration more.

A basic resource to know Focusing is the website of the New York Focusing Institute, The Focusing Institute. The Institute is the entity that coordinates at the international level the dissemination of Focusing and the international certification of Focusing professionals. With this intention, the website has abundant resources within the most relevant aspects.

It has a section in español, where several introductory texts about Focusing and some applications appear, including my article “Combining Focusing and Nonviolent Communication: Reflecting deeper implications for”.

the main page, what is in english, has different sections, including:

• How to learn Focusing (Learn Focusing).
• What is being done in the Focusing community (Felt Community), with a newsletter (Newsletter) that appears several times a year and The Folio. A Journal for Focusing and Experiential Therapy, the official academic journal.
• Focusing applications and combinations in different environments and for different audiences (Focusing and…).
• The online store (Focusing Store), where you can see buy from the main books, videos and audios, although most of the texts in Spanish are better found on the website of the Focusing Spanish Institute.

The Eugene Gendlin Online Library is especially interesting (Gendlin Online Library), where you can open access to the original version (in english or german) of hundreds of articles you have published the main author of Focusing, and where you can also read a lot about the more philosophical aspect of this tool, the Philosophy of the Implicit (The Philosophy of the Implicit).

I invite you to investigate and discover resources on this page, dedicating the time it deserves.

I hope you find it as enriching as it is for me.

Xavier

Association for Nonviolent Communication in Spain provides information on training provided in Spain by persons certified by the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), links, Articles and access to the activities of the Association.

It is a good stopping point to know what is being done in Spain for Nonviolent Communication and facilitates contact with formations and groups of practices.

Center for Nonviolent Communication, English “The Center for Nonviolent Communication” (CNVC) is this official site for the dissemination of Nonviolent Communication worldwide. It was founded by Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Nonviolent Communication, currently listed as an adviser, retired from active management based on age.

There is access to many articles (some in Spanish) and several videos.

As I said in the “Welcome to the blog”, The idea is that this blog is intended to serve as a repository of resources, so are all kinds of materials and suggestions for creating a More Authentic Connection with others and with our inner world. As will be plenty of variety, I want to explain here the different labels that I use to categorize the entries.

• CNV: all entries that relate to the Nonviolent Communication, either explicitly that I seem to have that “NVC consciousness”.
• Texts CNV: entries relating to books, specific articles and documents Nonviolent Communication.
• Focusing: all entries that are pertinent to the Focusing or something very similar.
• Focusing en Madrid: they will gather in Madrid formations on Focusing Area (for example, Miraflores de la Sierra, an hour from Madrid).
• Textos Focusing: entries relating to books, specific articles and documents Focusing.
• CI Spirals: no tickets that are closely related to my work in Spiral Consulting Children in matters of affection, protection and interpersonal communication, and I also mention in this blog.
• Other Texts: no books, articles and documents, without being explicitly in any of the proposed disciplines, general have an affinity and a value that leads me to mention them in this blog.
• Webs: web pages, blog and online resources.
• Videos: general videos, combined with other tags that require their content.
• Movies: documentaries and films, both based on fact and fiction, seem relevant to me I want to develop sensitivity to this blog.
• Narrative: novels (and stories and children's literature) that allow us to cultivate a taste of empathy with the Nonviolent Communication and the Focusing.
• Experiences: Sometimes life brings surprises, experiences that make us rethink our priorities and confirm our intuitions, and these events will gather under this heading.
• For boys and girls: resources that can be used directly or indirectly with children.
• For Teens: resources that can be used directly or indirectly with teens.
• Agenda actual and Agenda filed: impart training to most closed groups and organized, but on the rare occasions when I open formations specific to the general public or hang them with these tags, “Agenda actual” until it is completed and “Agenda filed” when it has passed the date of the event, but for the record and can see the parameters of the training provided.

As you can see, many categories are intertwined. The interesting thing is that everyone can find something to investigate and find it useful and interesting. And some other things will be added.

To build on!