Nonviolent Communication It is a very profound tool, which should be developed by all means and through all possible channels. Those who have done workshops with me have seen the profusion of resources use (visual, space…), among other letters I-crafted, and I use over several years.

I was pleased a lot with the recent appearance of the letters “EASY Konekta”, a resource useful to accompany the processes of people who rely on the visual, especially children. In Simple Cat, a small company that is striving to bring and create teaching materials for training in Nonviolent Communication in Spain, They have chosen to launch these cards own design.

I just received letters “EASY Konekta” and I liked many aspects. On the one hand, the design, with simple drawings that make the cards very affordable, with pink background for the feelings and needs blue background (a code and universalized in the community of Nonviolent Communication by NVC Dance Floors).

On the other hand, the way they caring words: feelings are masculine and feminine, so that everyone can feel included us easily; and needs are often expressed in two complementary ways, so that the person can explore what is the word that fits you best.

Further, add a number of proposed use (Game suggestions), adapted from other sources with your permission, including the famous “Póker CNV”, that I use in deepening workshops.

From here my congratulations to the team Simple Cat this new resource. I'm looking forward to my next workshop try and see what they think those involved. Meanwhile you can explore more on the cards in the página web and you can buy them online if you're interested.

I trust that you are practical and easy to deepen Nonviolent Communication.

Xavier

The NVC Dance Floors have already appeared in the version in Castilian, in which I have worked, and are also available videos subtitled in Spanish.

Bridget Belgrave and Gina Lawrie, Certified trainers for the Center for Nonviolent Communication (Center for NonViolent Communication, CNVC), years they created a great tool to teach and practice Nonviolent Communication (CNV). As they themselves have in submission, the NVC Dance Floors (NVC Dance Floors) They emerged through a series of steps to facilitate the practice of Nonviolent Communication with a spatial maps that allow use body size to work the emotional dimension, the way you see in this video:

In summer 2009 formarme had the pleasure to meet with Gina and Bridget, From there already work resumed translation and adaptation to the Castilian, an effort in which we have helped many people and I have coordinated for a while. So it is a pleasure to spread a simple tool and yet so deep, finally in Spanish, in which we care to include the largest possible number of Spanish version.

My experience is that the NVC Dance Floors the people can practice with just a few initial knowledge of Nonviolent Communication (In fact I sometimes use in introductory workshops). Even people who do not know the process of Nonviolent Communication itself (children, and adolescents, therapy clients) They can easily cross it with help from someone more experienced.

The NVC Dance Floors combine the visual, corporal and language, so that experience occurs through more channels and experience is deeper. And there are nine “dances” different, with names such as “The Dance of the 13 Steps”, “Integration and Dance Connection”, “The Dance of Anger / Rage, Shame and Depression”, “Dance of Yes and No”, The “Transform the pain of unmet needs in the Beauty Needs”.

Further, in 2013 they released some videos that explain three of these dances, in a neat edition that includes Spanish subtitles.

If you want to buy the dance floor CNV in different formats (as a download in PDF, on paper, plasticized version…) and DVDs to learn them at home or in group practice, you can visit its online store, Life Resources.

And if you want to count on me to try the dance floor in one session or in specific workshops, I will be happy to accompany.

I hope you like.

Xavier

I have the honor of teaching together with my Focusing coordinator and friend Isabel Gascón Introductory Focusing Course “Listen to your body” (Nivel I). In this workshop we are going to work experientially on a friendly way of approaching our entire inner world from the bodily dimension.. Attitudes of respect and curiosity about what we find will mark a different way of being in the presence with our inner, and also a more open way of approaching what children experience, and adolescents. Aimed at both fathers and mothers as well as professionals in the help relationship, will experience through experiential exercises a more authentic connection with our intelligence bodily felt.

Date: viernes 20 de junio de 2014, of 17:30 a 21:30 and saturday 21 de junio de 2014 of 10:00 a 14:00 and of 16:00 a 20:00.

Place: Thyme Foundation Open Center
C/ Serrano No. 136
Madrid

More information and registration at the web page of the Open Center of the Tomillo Foundation.

This course is valid for obtaining the Diploma in Focusing from the Focusing Spanish Institute accounting as 12 hours Level I.

[Original entry 2 de junio de 2014, actualizada a 21 de junio de 2014, fecha de finalización del curso.]

A few days ago I commented in a blog post by Spiral Consulting for Children, where I work on interpersonal communication issues for families and professionals who work with children, and adolescents, that sometimes a workshop to improve communication in the family or in the classroom serves to arouse interest, and aside from the insights gained and the tools learned, many people ask for more material to lean on. I like to recommend book Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish (trainers and mothers) with the suggestive title How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk, a classic of communication with boys and girls that appeared in 1980. For years it has become a benchmark of positive parenting: empathetic and validating listening while setting limits and reaching satisfactory agreements for all parties involved.

Inspired by the workshops that both authors carried out, The book is structured around the following contents: Chapter 1. How to help children deal with their feelings. Chapter 2. How to foster collaboration. Chapter 3. Alternatives to punishment. Chapter 4. How to stimulate autonomy. Chapter 5. the praise. Chapter 6. How to escape typecasting. Chapter 7. Recapitulemos. Further, in the latest edition of 2013 of Editorial Medici includes a look back from the authors to learning and experiences over more than thirty years and a touching afterword by Joanna Faber, with her experience as the daughter of the author Adele Faber and her encounter with her own motherhood.

From a positive view of the human being and human relations, the text is based on basic reasoning and many examples, some illustrated with vignettes that are like life itself, and continually offers ideas to be put into practice with the boys and girls around us. Although it is initially geared towards families, It can also be used in the educational and social field (although the authors have other specific books for the subject of studies).

And if your sons and daughters (or the students you work with) they are older, you can also look at the book by the same authors How to talk so teens will listen and how to listen so teens will talk to you, offering some different ideas (appropriate for when they are older) and suggestions always useful, that will probably make you smile.

I wish you a happy reading, and that you enjoy exploring new forms of communication.

Xavier

As i count in a blog post from Spiral Consulting for Children, of which I am a member, between new year's resolutions, from Spiral Consulting Children we have proposed to publicize prevention and intervention tools in affectivity, protection and interpersonal communication that we are already using with children, girls and adolescents and what we recommend to families and professionals. Sometimes we recommend tools that have very little published in Spanish, or whose reference texts are difficult to obtain. Then we will give clues that we hope are indicative.

It is not the case of Focusing, the process and technique of body focus, which has abundant bibliography in Spanish. Focusing is a technique developed by Eugene Gendlin, experiential philosopher and humanistic psychotherapist, to consciously develop the ability to relate to our emotions in another way. Consists (explained in a few words) in using the references of the bodily sensations to work the emotions and the whole inner world (beliefs, internalized messages, recurring thoughts…). I am aware that explained like this it does not say much, and it is that Focusing is, basically, experiential, and that is why it can only be understood by experiencing it. Yes, once tested, most people recognize it as natural, something that “has happened to them at some point”, and with the Focusing technique we learn to use it when we want, and so it does not depend on our being with a special focus or capacity.

As with other techniques that I know, I approached Focusing on 2009 thinking about the applications it could have in the intervention with children, and yet I was captivated by the capabilities that it helped me discover in myself as a person and as a professional. If you are curious about this line of work, I have prepared two new formations, “Focusing and emotional education in children, and adolescents” and “Focusing and violence prevention in children, and adolescents” (both with recognition for official Focusing training, since I am recognized as Formador Certificado (Certified Trainer) by The Focusing Institute and for him Focusing Spanish Institute).

So to whet your appetite I recommend the magnificent book by Marta Stapert and Erik Verliefde Focusing con niños. The art of communicating with children and adolescents at school and at home, published by the Editorial Desclée in the Amae collection, supervised by the Spanish edition of Isabel Gascón and Lucía Ema, Focusing trainers and good friends of mine. Written by Marta Stapert, a child psychotherapist and Focusing coordinator, y Erik In love, a teacher, the book is a great introduction to Focusing for adults, while offering hands-on exercises and activities for people with children, girls and teenagers around, not only professionals from the therapeutic and educational fields, but also for families. Parents who have read it have found it very useful and practical, although there are some exercises that obviously improve a lot in a therapeutic setting.

Hope you enjoy the (you can take a look at some of the content on the publisher's website).

Xavier

The beginning of the year is a time of good intentions, new projects and renewed hopes. All these early steps will need, perhaps very small steps at first. This video captures the idea of ​​changing the world gesture gesture.

There are times for big moves, for radical changes, Greatest Hits for rudder.

And there are also times for small changes, for modification of detail, for “do the same but in a different way”.

The story of this video is that the Czech organization The intersection of Olomouc reorganizes a series of advertisements Liberty Mutual, an insurance company has made over the years a number of advertising campaigns to enhance public accountability. In this adaptation the little things we can do every day to make the world a little better collect, regardless of ideological positions or any. And we knew that they might not get from the people we help (although reciprocity is critical to the fundamental relations), as in the video, but our actions can inspire others, and will probably never know the fruit.

I wish you happy 2014, with awareness and significant contributions to the world.

Xavier