psychotherapy It has an essential part of training in depth, and at the same time is very enriching to learn new approaches, new techniques, new ways to raise emerging issues. Updating and continuing training are part of the good practice of psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy Networker It is for me a very useful resource to be the day psychotherapy. Apart from other resources (videos, texts, specific numbers…), This organization publishes a journal that appears bimonthly in both paper and electronic format (Free access for two years), and each number has a thread, with articles by professionals who have worked on the topic of the month, and with very interesting references (in fact I have already bought several books after reading some articles, and I am very satisfied).

The website has many resources, and from here I want to recommend some articles and issues that seem particularly novel.

• The November and December 2013, with the theme “Our Habits, Ourselves. Can the Circle Be Broken?” (“our habits, and ourselves. Can you break the circle?”), a number with ideas on how to break the vicious circles in psychotherapy, with an article Ann Weiser Cornell, Psychotherapy specialist orientation Focusing with whom I have formed, “Something New, Here and Now. Breaking Free of Habitual” (“Something new, here and now. Getting rid usual”).
• The May and June 2014, with the theme “Treating Trauma. What Are We Missing?” (“Treating trauma. What we are missing?”), with innovative lines for intervention in trauma as the article Janina Fisher “Putting the Pieces Together. 25 Years of Learning Trauma Treatment” (“Piecing together. Twenty-five years learning to treat trauma”).
• The September and October 2014, with the theme “There and Not There. Growing Up in an Age of Distraction” (“There and not there. How to grow in the age of distraction”), with essential items like “Getting Unhooked. Connecting with Traumatized Kids Who Push Your Buttons” (“Disengaging from the hook. How you connect with children and traumatized girls that make you jump defenses”) the Martha Straus.

I leave you with good reading and I hope you enjoy it.

Xavier

From this post I want to celebrate the Nobel Peace Prize 2014 It has been awarded to two people who defend the rights of children, and adolescents from Nonviolence.

For me it was a joy to know that they will receive Kailash Satyarthi, an Indian man defender of the rights of children, especially those working, y Malala Yousafzai, a Pakistani teenager who has fought for the right to education of children and especially girls. From blog Spiral Consulting Children we have made a specific entry where we give more details of the aspects that interest us there: work by children from participation. I invite you to read the entrance, where we give them a lot of data and video you can see both.

Since this blog however I want to discuss how to address both Nonviolence. And how they do it from compassion, but also with great force. They speak not from weakness or from cowardice. And said Gandhi “Between violence and cowardice, I prefer violence”, and then showed he had an even more powerful way that both, Nonviolence. I see this in Kailash and Malala.

Kailash Satyarthi, whom I had the honor of meeting a few years ago at a conference on child rights, It has a close relationship, with interest for what we do other professionals. He considers himself heir to the line of Gandhi Nonviolence, and it has been coordinating multiple events both at home and globally, thanks to his skills of listening and inclusion of all parties involved. And that has not been dusted force to rescue children from exploitative workers, relying on the police forces of India and risking their physical integrity (He has repeatedly suffered injuries and loss of co-rescue).

Malala Yousafzai He became famous for starting a blog to defend the right to education, especially education of girls like her, in an area occupied by Pakistan Taliban. As a result of that the Taliban tried to kill, but fortunately he has survived and is still being formed, but in the UK. Malala continues to lecture, as she says, “education for all children, including of course the sons and daughters of the Taliban”. And he says in the video how at the time, when he was threatened with death, I thought about how to respond, and how he decided he did not want to take the line of attack because then it would become the same one who assaulted him.

So it has filled me with satisfaction the recognition of two people and two ways of being different (the man, woman she; The adult, her teen; the Indian, She Pakistani; The Hindu, she Muslim), which however they are based on a compassionate and strong look to both human realities, and lead to concrete commitments and results, Step by Step. In fact they have already expressed interest in working together, but they were not previously known.

I leave this post in celebration, and also as inspiration. Really from human beings we can find a path to a more authentic connection, and to take effective steps to solve very real and concrete problems.

I invite you to investigate a little more about Kailash and Malala, and that you enjoy with the mind that can bring us.

Xavier

Note: it is interesting that there is a line of work Focusing from the community in Afghanistan and Pakistan, in areas that have been hardest hit by the Taliban, to restore the social fabric and the connection through local Sufi traditions, with the extra dimension provided by the Focusing. I do not think Malala knows this job, but there is another inspiration more.

A few days ago I commented in a blog post by Spiral Consulting for Children, where I work on interpersonal communication issues for families and professionals who work with children, and adolescents, that sometimes a workshop to improve communication in the family or in the classroom serves to arouse interest, and aside from the insights gained and the tools learned, many people ask for more material to lean on. I like to recommend book Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish (trainers and mothers) with the suggestive title How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk, a classic of communication with boys and girls that appeared in 1980. For years it has become a benchmark of positive parenting: empathetic and validating listening while setting limits and reaching satisfactory agreements for all parties involved.

Inspired by the workshops that both authors carried out, The book is structured around the following contents: Chapter 1. How to help children deal with their feelings. Chapter 2. How to foster collaboration. Chapter 3. Alternatives to punishment. Chapter 4. How to stimulate autonomy. Chapter 5. the praise. Chapter 6. How to escape typecasting. Chapter 7. Recapitulemos. Further, in the latest edition of 2013 of Editorial Medici includes a look back from the authors to learning and experiences over more than thirty years and a touching afterword by Joanna Faber, with her experience as the daughter of the author Adele Faber and her encounter with her own motherhood.

From a positive view of the human being and human relations, the text is based on basic reasoning and many examples, some illustrated with vignettes that are like life itself, and continually offers ideas to be put into practice with the boys and girls around us. Although it is initially geared towards families, It can also be used in the educational and social field (although the authors have other specific books for the subject of studies).

And if your sons and daughters (or the students you work with) they are older, you can also look at the book by the same authors How to talk so teens will listen and how to listen so teens will talk to you, offering some different ideas (appropriate for when they are older) and suggestions always useful, that will probably make you smile.

I wish you a happy reading, and that you enjoy exploring new forms of communication.

Xavier

For its relevance to the development of an empathic attitude toward the capabilities we have everyone, regardless of our age and skills we have developed, copy content here entry I posted on Espirales Consulting Children, because it reflects a very hopeful vision of the human being.

Ever since I read about the theory of multiple intelligences, proposed and developed by psychologist Howard Gardner, He attracted me deeply. This American psychologist proposed in 1983 that intelligence was not unique (measuring the traditional tests are the logical-mathematical language and intelligences), it was multiple (the number has been increasing over the years and research), and also that each of the intelligences may develop. Since then he has combined research with the development of specific teaching materials for a more comprehensive education, and his work has been recognized by many institutions, including the Prince of Asturias Award for Social Sciences in 2011.

Begoña Ibarrola, a psychologist specializing in emotional development during childhood, us about a fun way to different intelligences in his book Cuentos para descubrir inteligencias, published by the grupo SM with endearing illustrations by Anne Decis. The story of a journey of a group of children terrestrial Pegasus, where they meet other children aliens, an excuse to explore the linguistic intelligences (ability with words and language), Mathematical logician (on numbers and logical operations), visuospatial (the ability to manage spatial and visual data, as in the graphic arts and engineering), musical (it has to do with music), bodily-kinesthetic (everything related to the body and movement), intrapersonal (on internal self-awareness capabilities), interpersonal (it has to do with social and group relations), naturalist (sensitivity to nature) and existential (the ability to reflect on the existence and other philosophical topics). Each component of the terrestrial group is paired with another Pegasus and together explore the intelligence that represent different stories of the book.

Oriented children Primary (although it can be used from four years), each story is introduced by a number of guidelines and suggestions for working families and professionals. I think a very valuable resource to explore with children their different capacities and to bring awareness to develop them, at the same time your self-knowledge and self-esteem is encouraged. On the other hand, It is a book that helps assess the evidence diversity everything that brings each of the intelligences (and they can prepare what they bring their friends from the capabilities of each).

Hope you enjoy it as much as the IM.

As I said in the “Welcome to the blog”, The idea is that this blog is intended to serve as a repository of resources, so are all kinds of materials and suggestions for creating a More Authentic Connection with others and with our inner world. As will be plenty of variety, I want to explain here the different labels that I use to categorize the entries.

• CNV: all entries that relate to the Nonviolent Communication, either explicitly that I seem to have that “NVC consciousness”.
• Texts CNV: entries relating to books, specific articles and documents Nonviolent Communication.
• Focusing: all entries that are pertinent to the Focusing or something very similar.
• Focusing en Madrid: they will gather in Madrid formations on Focusing Area (for example, Miraflores de la Sierra, an hour from Madrid).
• Textos Focusing: entries relating to books, specific articles and documents Focusing.
• CI Spirals: no tickets that are closely related to my work in Spiral Consulting Children in matters of affection, protection and interpersonal communication, and I also mention in this blog.
• Other Texts: no books, articles and documents, without being explicitly in any of the proposed disciplines, general have an affinity and a value that leads me to mention them in this blog.
• Webs: web pages, blog and online resources.
• Videos: general videos, combined with other tags that require their content.
• Movies: documentaries and films, both based on fact and fiction, seem relevant to me I want to develop sensitivity to this blog.
• Narrative: novels (and stories and children's literature) that allow us to cultivate a taste of empathy with the Nonviolent Communication and the Focusing.
• Experiences: Sometimes life brings surprises, experiences that make us rethink our priorities and confirm our intuitions, and these events will gather under this heading.
• For boys and girls: resources that can be used directly or indirectly with children.
• For Teens: resources that can be used directly or indirectly with teens.
• Agenda actual and Agenda filed: impart training to most closed groups and organized, but on the rare occasions when I open formations specific to the general public or hang them with these tags, “Agenda actual” until it is completed and “Agenda filed” when it has passed the date of the event, but for the record and can see the parameters of the training provided.

As you can see, many categories are intertwined. The interesting thing is that everyone can find something to investigate and find it useful and interesting. And some other things will be added.

To build on!