Umehluko phakathi Ukugxilisa futhi Psychotherapy

Nginikela kakhulu ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe nge-Focusing orientation njengamaseshini we ihambisane ne-Focusing, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukukhomba ukuthi uyini umehluko phakathi kwalokhu okubili.

Emphakathini we-Experiential Psychotherapy and Focusing kuningi okubhaliwe ngakho (kukhona phakathi kokunye isihloko esihle kakhulu Ann Weiser Cornell isiZulu “Uyini Umehluko Phakathi Kwe-Focusing and Therapy”) futhi ngifuna ukuveza amaphuzu ayisisekelo ekusebenzeni kwami.

The ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe nge-Focusing guide namaseshini ka ihambisane ne-Focusing bayafana phakathi:

• The ukujula: umuntu kanye nami (njengomelaphi noma njengomngane Ogxilile) sizohlola isipiliyoni esisodwa noma ngaphezulu zomuntu ngendlela enomusa nangakho konke ukujula akufunayo.
• the isevisi kumuntu: iziphakamiso zinikezwa, kodwa ngumuntu, ukuxhumana nezwe lakho elingaphakathi, ngubani onqumayo ukuthi uzoya kuphi.
• The imfihlo: konke okushiwoyo kuhlala ngaphakathi esimisweni futhi akuphawulwa ngakho, ngaphandle uma kungesicelo somuntu ohamba naye noma ngemvume yakhe.
• le imingcele yokuziphatha evamile: Ngiyahlonipha, ubungcweti, ukuqapha…
• Iqiniso lokuthi kukhona a ukushintshana: ukuphelezela ukuze uthole iholo.

Nokho, le ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe nge-Focusing guide namaseshini ka ihambisane ne-Focusing bayehluka ngo:

• The ubukhulu: ku-psychotherapy esifisa ukuyelapha zonke izingqikithi ezihambisana nempilo yomuntu, nakuba kancane kancane; kumaseshini okuGxila ngawodwana esihambisana nawo kuphela lokho okuphilayo okwamanje.
• the ukuzibophezela: Ku-psychotherapy kukhona ukuzibophezela kwesikhathi esimaphakathi (noma isikhathi eside), ukuyozama nokuxazulula izinkinga ezehlukene kuze kube yilapho umuntu ethola ukuthuthuka empilweni yakhe, okudinga ukuthi sibonane njalo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi; Individual Focusing sessions kungaba ogcina isikhathi, ngesicelo somuntu, ngaphandle kokuzinikela okwengeziwe.
• the okuqukethwe: ku-psychotherapy kuyadingeka ukwazi umuntu ngokujulile, ngezinto eziyisisekelo zempilo yakho kanye nobudlelwano bakho; kumaseshini okuGxila ngawodwana akudingekile ngisho nokwazi ukuthi umuntu uzosebenza kusiphi isihloko (singayibiza “leyo ndaba” phakathi neseshini), ukuthi uphila kanjani kubaluleke kakhulu ezingeni lomzimba.
• The ubuhlobo: ekwelashweni ngokwengqondo sizosebenza kakhulu ebudlelwaneni phakathi komuntu nomelaphi, manje ayikwazi ukuxutshwa nobunye ubudlelwano (izihlobo, lobungane, komakhelwane, ukuguquguquka…) futhi idinga kuphela (Ngeke ngiphelezele abantu abanomunye umelaphi we-psychotherapy, ngaphandle uma kufana ne-co-therapy, ukuba yimi, isibonelo, umelaphi ngamunye womuntu ophinde abe ngababhangqwana noma abahlinzekwe ngokwengqondo komndeni nomunye umelaphi ovela emkhakheni ohlukile); izikhathi zokugxila ngakunye azisho uhlobo olukhethekile lobudlelwano futhi ingahlanganiswa nobunye ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokukhethekile (Ngingaphelezela abangani, abantu abaziwayo, abantu abahlobene, abantu ekuqeqesheni nami… futhi futhi umuntu angaba nabangane abehlukene Ekugxiliseni, futhi kunconywa kakhulu kubantu ekuqeqesheni njengendlela yokuthola izitayela ezahlukene).
• the uhlelo lokusebenza: ku-psychotherapy sizokwazi impilo yomuntu futhi sizomaka abanye imigomo yesikhathi eside eboniswa izinguquko ezingaphandle kokwelashwa; Kumaseshini okuGxila ngawodwana, icebo lethu lomsebenzi lilinganiselwe phelezela futhi ulalele okuphilayo kumuntu phakathi neseshini, azikho izinhloso ngaphandle kweseshini (nakuba ngokuvamile umuntu uphila izinguquko ngaphandle kweseshini).
• Futhi ekugcineni, ngokusobala, le amasu: ku-psychotherapy sizoyisebenzisa zonke izinto ezikhona ukuze inqubo yomuntu iqhubekele kokuthile okunempilo kuye, okushiwo ngokombono wami ukusebenzisa i-Focusing, kunjalo, kodwa futhi Gestalt amathuluzi, Yendlela Yomuntu Egxile, Ithiyori yokunamathisela, njll.; Kumaseshini e-Focusing ngayinye esizowasebenzisa ukugxila kuphela.

Kukho konke lokhu, izikhathi ze-psychotherapy kanye nezikhathi zokugxila zinakho amanani ahlukene futhi izindlela ezahlukene zokusebenza. Ukuze uthole incazelo ungangithinta ngqo.